NO fetal movement yet?!??

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

Because @zepplin1218 all I've seen so far today is people being rude to each other. So instead of me saying here is a post like yours...I decided to let her know that she isn't going to get a nice response...and so far she hasnt.

She's gotten many nice, relevant responses. Your comment is actually what derailed the thread.

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

It's not trivial. But thank you for using the search bar

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

dmap85 said:

Because @zepplin1218 all I've seen so far today is people being rude to each other. So instead of me saying here is a post like yours...I decided to let her know that she isn't going to get a nice response...and so far she hasnt.

The responses to her question generally have not been mean to her, some with the way writing comes across I can totally see how it can be read that way - but there were some genuine responses including my own. And again I get wanting to warn someone but there is a more supportive and caring way to do so. Posting that everyone will be mean clumps all of us into a group from an experience you have had with a few that you didn't like. even a PM, but bringing something like that up is just asking for old grievances to be brought back again - which is exactly what happened - rather than allowing the opportunity for something different to take place.

My point to you was more so that in no way have I harassed you and I don't appreciate you accusing me of something like that when in actuality I have been nothing but kind and respectful to you in my responses.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

Look at it this way...

We're not online, but actually meeting in a room somewhere. We're all talking about things that are going on with our pregnancy. You (general you) were zoned out not paying attention and decide to pop up and ask a question that's already been discussed ad nauseum. Would you not get irritated?

It's the same thing here. This question, and many others, have been discussed ad nauseum which is why when the question gets asked again tomorrow, the answers will be "Hey, you might want to search the forum because this has been covered."

graceinchaos · August 2015

mabrams27 said:
Not everyone has the time to flip through or search for tons of board posts that change constantly. We are all here to answer questions to help other mothers out. If you see a repeat question just ignore it if it bothers you so much, then those whom it doesn't bother will answer and help. NEVER should a expecting mother feel unwelcomed or blasted for a "repeat" question she didn't know existed. Peace and love mothers to be!!!

I'm not reading all of the responses, so sorry if someone already said this...but...

1) you don't have to read through ALL of the posts.

2) there is a search bar. It works like this. Type in your desired topic, see what comes up. If there's already a thread open regarding your topic post there.

3) no one is attempting to make anyone feel unwelcome. There's a pinned post at the top of this board with TOU, guidelines, etc. In several places, newcomers are strongly encouraged to take a look around before posting. It's not a mean or harassing request. It's actually fair, and for those who post regularly, it makes sense.

OP - I'm about 15 1/2 weeks along. I haven't felt any movement yet. I am very excited for when that happens, but I'm aware that it'll probably be in the next couple weeks. (I felt distinct movement with my first during week 17). Just some food for thought. Lol enjoy now when you can't feel so much. I'm fairly short, and my son actually fractured one of my ribs with his incessant kicking. (Plus the poor guy just didn't have enough room in there lol.)

mabrams27 · August 2015

KittyCat You didn't have to click on my comment and respond. If it bothered you soooo much To see a "repeat" question then you could have ignored it. It would have been better that way. I will use the search bar as I have NOW been informed is the best but this whole situation is crazy.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

mabrams27 said:

KittyCat You didn't have to click on my comment and respond. If it bothered you soooo much you could have ignored it. It would have been better that way.

You're right, but you could have followed the rules and searched this topic instead of creating your own AW/SS one.

ETA (since you edited yours after I responded) - had you read the pinned posts at the top of the board during your 3 day waiting period, you'd know you were already informed before this post. That's the reason for the waiting period.

hlmdeck · August 2015

I changed my mind to explain that multiple, repeat posts push important things down farther and they get lost.. Such as loss, abnormal genetic screening, etc. Those important posts that need attention, love and support get lost in a sea of repeat posts, so it really is important.

dmap85 · August 2015

@zepplin1218 let me apologize to you personally then. I was generally speaking. But my general welcome here...has been anything but welcoming.

mabrams27 · August 2015

KittyCat. Well next time I need a lesson in rules and regulations I will be sure to chime you in to make sure everything is in order before starting a new thread. Lord forbid the volcano erupt again for something for simple.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

mabrams27 said:

KittyCat. Well next time I need a lesson in rules and regulations I will be sure to chime you in to make sure everything is in order before starting a new thread. Lord forbid the volcano erupt again for something for simple.

Again, had you read the rules, THIS wouldn't be happening.

RRC216 · August 2015

Why does something so minute have to get this way out of hand? This is why I don't like posting, or coming on this site as much.The last few threads I have read is arguing.... Tired of everyone bitching about stupid stuff. So unfortunate. Ruins it for so many people....

AdventureMama · August 2015

mabrams27 · August 2015

KittyCat. Roger that Drill Sergeant

cbou · August 2015

@mabrams27 - I know if feels unreasonable now, but if you hang out for a while like most of us have been doing for months then you too will realize why repeat posters are re-directed. Please read the new here thread and lurk a little bit and get a feel for the board and the great group of ladies here before passing judgement. We look forward to your future participation!

Btw - I'm in the back of the pack with a Feb 27 due date so I definitely haven't felt any movement. From reading the several other threads on this topic I have learned that it typically happens closer to 20 weeks for FTMs.

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

Just a general question: If you don't respect forum etiquette, why should the regular posters not get irritated for not following said etiquette??

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

dmap85 said:

@zepplin1218 let me apologize to you personally then. I was generally speaking. But my general welcome here...has been anything but welcoming.

I completely get that. Before I ever started posting I lurked foreverrrrr and watched a lot of people who share the same feelings as you go through it - the only reason I actually knew about the feelings about re-posted topics! I sincerely apologize it hasn't been good for you, I hope you can have a better experience if you choose to stay or elsewhere if you choose not to. Community and support for us women is really important and everyone should be able to feel like they are being treated respectfully and supported.

MrsJG3 · August 2015

CicchettiFamily said:
Why does something so minute have to get this way out of hand? This is why I don't like posting, or coming on this site as much.The last few threads I have read is arguing.... Tired of everyone bitching about stupid stuff. So unfortunate. Ruins it for so many people....

Then you haven't read much.

mabrams27 · August 2015

Cbou thank you for your kind response. As I am new to the board I had not read the rules because I did not see them when I downloaded the app to my phone. Feeling as though I was unwelcomed due to "others" past repeat wasn't a great welcome to the group. Thank you again

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

Hey guise!!! I can drive a 100 in a 45 if I want to because I didn't see the speed limit sign. Cool huh?

crysfraser · August 2015

MrsJG3 #firstworldproblems

mabrams27 · August 2015

If a tree falls in the Forrest and no one is around to hear it fall, does it still make a sound???

dmap85 · August 2015

@kittycatKcco continued and uncalled for rudeness

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

I can't deal with this thread anymore, so look at the cute kitty!

mabrams27 · August 2015

Glitter and unicorns ladies!!! Smiles, waves and forgiveness...moving along

bumptara · August 2015

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