NO fetal movement yet?!??

mabrams27 · August 2015

I am 16 weeks 2 days and haven't felt my twins fluttering or moving, am I alone in this?

AdventureMama · August 2015

Oy.

No, it's common to have not felt movement yet. Our babies are still teeny!

Here are some helpful discussions:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/87570843#Comment_87570843

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/87569688#Comment_87569688

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/87557870#Comment_87557870

And one from today, just for funsies:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12615693/baby-movement-at-12-weeks#latest

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

@adventuremama this question will haunt you today!

dmap85 · August 2015

I want to apologize in advance...I just posted about baby movement and I am 12 weeks. Do yourself a favor and ask admin to close this post. It's not likely gunna end well:(

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

dmap85 said: I want to apologize in advance...I just posted about baby movement and I am 12 weeks. Do yourself a favor and ask admin to close this post. It's not likely gunna end well:(

Or, you know, look at the other threads as suggested so you know what other women are going through. The thing is when there's 50 of the same thread, people get tired of answering the same question and the board becomes less interactive. We want to get to know each other and that's really hard to do when no one wants to interact on a post just because they didn't start it.

wisco29 · August 2015

But it's "gunna" be an entertaining day.

dmap85 said:
I want to apologize in advance...I just posted about baby movement and I am 12 weeks. Do yourself a favor and ask admin to close this post. It's not likely gunna end well:(

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

dmap85 said:

I want to apologize in advance...I just posted about baby movement and I am 12 weeks. Do yourself a favor and ask admin to close this post. It's not likely gunna end well:(

I'm sorry you are so upset by the responses to your thread, not everyone has the same experience so its not really fair to tell people they will be treated poorly when that very well may not be the case.

Besides this asks in the opposite direction.

@mabrams27 Most people won't feel movement until closer to the 20 week mark - everyone is different and experiences things at different times. Honestly if you get worried about anything it's better to ask your doctor who knows your pregnancy and how things have been going than other people who are completely different than you.

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

I want to apologize in advance...I just posted about baby movement and I am 12 weeks. Do yourself a favor and ask admin to close this post. It's not likely gunna end well:(

It's also highly possible that OP will say, "Oh, thanks guys!" and it'll end just fine. That's a possibility, too.

dmap85 · August 2015

@adventuremama and @zepplin1218 thank you for continuing to harrass me and ruin my first day of posting on the bump.

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

How are you being harassed? They're simply trying to welcome another mother instead of attempting to scare her away like your post intends.

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

@dmap85 If you actually read what I wrote in your thread you would know I haven't harassed you at all! I have not said a single mean thing to you or commented about it being impossible to feel or whatever. I actually was asking about if there was a thread dedicated to feeling movement and not where people were just told they can't be feeling it (Which actually kind of goes towards your cause)

My point is simply that a bad experience for one doesn't mean a bad experience for all and telling people to expect the worst isn't really fair. How is that mean or harassment?

Please don't lash out at me because you are upset.

MrsJG3 · August 2015

Isn't it against the TOU to repost your grievances from a closed thread?

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

@adventuremama and @zepplin1218 thank you for continuing to harrass me and ruin my first day of posting on the bump.

Harassing you? Really? If you comment on a thread, expect to be included in the discussion and replied to. That's how this forum works. You're the only one going to other threads telling people to close their posts.

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

MrsJG3 said:

Isn't it against the TOU to repost your grievances from a closed thread?

Yes it is!

wisco29 · August 2015

Maybe @bumpadmin will see this thread and help @dmap85 figure out the rules of the bump (bump guideline)

FreshBakedBrownies · August 2015

@mabrams27 maybe this would've been a better question for a multiples check-in post, although I haven't noticed one recently.
I was told I might feel things sooner due to my twins, but still 16 weeks seems really early to worry.
If it helps, I'm only 15 weeks with twins, but have felt absolutely nothing.

AdventureMama · August 2015

@mabrams27: I'm 16w2d and haven't felt movement yet. I'm not worried! It'll happen in due time.

Pretty soon we'll all be like, "Gah, he kicked me in the ribs again! It hurts!" and "I swear I should just live in the bathroom because she loves to dance on my bladder!" and we'll think back fondly to when they were so small and couldn't inflict pain on our insides, haha.

dmap85 · August 2015

wisco29 said:
Maybe @bumpadmin will see this thread and help @dmap85 figure out the rules of the bump (bump guideline)

I was not the first to bring up my post from earlier today...@adventuremama decided to post the link to that closed thread for "funsies". Once again, trying to be demeaning. Everyone wanted to jump on me for not using the search feature or look up of there were other similar posts. I'm not really sure what I've done to any of yall, but I haven't cried this much in my whole entire pregnancy as I have today over reading stupid Internet comments. I literally am shocked at how rude women can be to each other.

mabrams27 · August 2015

Not everyone has the time to flip through or search for tons of board posts that change constantly. We are all here to answer questions to help other mothers out. If you see a repeat question just ignore it if it bothers you so much, then those whom it doesn't bother will answer and help. NEVER should a expecting mother feel unwelcomed or blasted for a "repeat" question she didn't know existed. Peace and love mothers to be!!!

dmap85 · August 2015

Zepplin1218 said:
@dmap85 If you actually read what I wrote in your thread you would know I haven't harassed you at all! I have not said a single mean thing to you or commented about it being impossible to feel or whatever. I actually was asking about if there was a thread dedicated to feeling movement and not where people were just told they can't be feeling it (Which actually kind of goes towards your cause)

My point is simply that a bad experience for one doesn't mean a bad experience for all and telling people to expect the worst isn't really fair. How is that mean or harassment?

Please don't lash out at me because you are upset.

I wasn't lashing out at you. I don't feel this thread is any different from other "fetal movement" threads. I was simply looking out for the op because I know how hormonal all us pregnant ladies are and I did not want her to be put through the ringer as I was.

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

Maybe @bumpadmin will see this thread and help @dmap85 figure out the rules of the bump (bump guideline)
I was not the first to bring up my post from earlier today...@adventuremama decided to post the link to that closed thread for "funsies". Once again, trying to be demeaning. Everyone wanted to jump on me for not using the search feature or look up of there were other similar posts. I'm not really sure what I've done to any of yall, but I haven't cried this much in my whole entire pregnancy as I have today over reading stupid Internet comments. I literally am shocked at how rude women can be to each other.

Nope. I linked to several older posts to show OP that this discussion has happened several times and she can read other answers in those places (in addition to on her own thread). My intent was NOT to demean you and I'm sorry you feel that way.

AdventureMama · August 2015

mabrams27 said:

Not everyone has the time to flip through or search for tons of board posts that change constantly. We are all here to answer questions to help other mothers out. If you see a repeat question just ignore it if it bothers you so much, then those whom it doesn't bother will answer and help. NEVER should a expecting mother feel unwelcomed or blasted for a "repeat" question she didn't know existed. Peace and love mothers to be!!!

You'll notice that people are answering your question quite politely. My intent in posting the older threads was for you to get more answers, since (as has been explained), people don't always want to keep answering the same questions over and over again.

Jellybelly119 · August 2015

mabrams27 said:
Not everyone has the time to flip through or search for tons of board posts that change constantly. We are all here to answer questions to help other mothers out. If you see a repeat question just ignore it if it bothers you so much, then those whom it doesn't bother will answer and help. NEVER should a expecting mother feel unwelcomed or blasted for a "repeat" question she didn't know existed. Peace and love mothers to be!!!

You don't have time to type "movement" into the search bar? You must be really busy. And you also expect other people to take the time to read your post and provide you answers when you wouldn't return the courtesy? Interesting.

wisco29 · August 2015

mabrams27 said:
Not everyone has the time to flip through or search for tons of board posts that change constantly. We are all here to answer questions to help other mothers out. If you see a repeat question just ignore it if it bothers you so much, then those whom it doesn't bother will answer and help. NEVER should a expecting mother feel unwelcomed or blasted for a "repeat" question she didn't know existed. Peace and love mothers to be!!!

Doesn't bother us (most of the time) I just know many many are here often and tire from repeatedly answering the same exact things so when I use the search function to look for threads related to the same topic I am simply helping you or whoever posted see these threads.
There are so many that have very insightful replies and they will help the op to find the answers they need.

You're welcome in advance darling.

taylorort · August 2015

@dmap85, I really think you should reflect on it again. Literally no one said anything demeaning, it wasn't even sarcastic. If it's your first day...is it that crazy to scroll on the front page? Or shoot, to google it first? Congrats on the twins!

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

@dmap85 If you actually read what I wrote in your thread you would know I haven't harassed you at all! I have not said a single mean thing to you or commented about it being impossible to feel or whatever. I actually was asking about if there was a thread dedicated to feeling movement and not where people were just told they can't be feeling it (Which actually kind of goes towards your cause)

My point is simply that a bad experience for one doesn't mean a bad experience for all and telling people to expect the worst isn't really fair. How is that mean or harassment?

Please don't lash out at me because you are upset.
I wasn't lashing out at you. I don't feel this thread is any different from other "fetal movement" threads. I was simply looking out for the op because I know how hormonal all us pregnant ladies are and I did not want her to be put through the ringer as I was.

If you truly feel you were "put through the ringer" and you're crying harder than you've done so far this pregnancy, why are you still here? I'm not being snarky, just genuinely curious. As I explained in your other thread, while I hope you stick around, maybe another board would fit your personality better. No one is being nasty. Honesty does not equal bullying.

By the way, what I say in these threads- I say because they're my honest opinion. Not because I'm hormonal.

dmap85 · August 2015

But you are being snarky. There are more rude and hurtful comments here than there are helpful ones. I just clearly don't understand why everyone has to be rude to each other. It's just pointless.

dragonfly321 · August 2015

Copied and pasted from TB GUIDELINES::

Got a question? Type it into the Search Box first. It’s likely that your question has been answered before.

This means everyone. There are rules for a reason.

MrsJG3 · August 2015

If someone suggesting you to use the search function makes you cry more than anything your whole pregnancy so far, you have bigger problems. Just saying.

Edit punctuation

AdventureMama · August 2015

dmap85 said:

But you are being snarky. There are more rude and hurtful comments here than there are helpful ones. I just clearly don't understand why everyone has to be rude to each other. It's just pointless.

You've decided to read my comments as snarky. When you're reading comments instead of talking in person, it's really difficult to interpret tones and intents. Which is why, when someone says, "I'm not being snarky", you should take it at face value. Because I'm truly not.

mabrams27 · August 2015

Wow...and I thought this board was a informative peaceful place to ask questions. Some of you need to calm down its not that serious!! I hope my post gets deleted because some of you take this board to another level and not in a welcoming way. It was a simple question meant for those who were 16 weeks experiencing what I was experiencing(or not so much).

AdventureMama · August 2015

mabrams27 said:

Wow...and I thought this board was a informative peaceful place to ask questions. Some of you need to calm down its not that serious!! I hope my post gets deleted because some of you take this board to another level and not in a welcoming way. It was a simple question meant for those who were 16 weeks experiencing what I was experiencing(or not so much).

Sorry, did you miss all of the replies where we answered your question? I'd happily quote them for you. Here's mine. What else were you looking for?

AdventureMama said:

@mabrams27: I'm 16w2d and haven't felt movement yet. I'm not worried! It'll happen in due time. Pretty soon we'll all be like, "Gah, he kicked me in the ribs again! It hurts!" and "I swear I should just live in the bathroom because she loves to dance on my bladder!" and we'll think back fondly to when they were so small and couldn't inflict pain on our insides, haha.

AdventureMama · August 2015

I bet @bumpadmin and @bumptara are getting real tired of coming here to babysit us. (:|

DrillSergeantCat · August 2015

mabrams27 said:
Wow...and I thought this board was a informative peaceful place to ask questions. Some of you need to calm down its not that serious!! I hope my post gets deleted because some of you take this board to another level and not in a welcoming way. It was a simple question meant for those who were 16 weeks experiencing what I was experiencing(or not so much).

You read the guidelines right? What am I saying? Of course you didn't. If you had, you'd have seen where it's in the guidelines to search before posting. You don't care about anyone's time but your own.

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

dmap85 said:

@dmap85 If you actually read what I wrote in your thread you would know I haven't harassed you at all! I have not said a single mean thing to you or commented about it being impossible to feel or whatever. I actually was asking about if there was a thread dedicated to feeling movement and not where people were just told they can't be feeling it (Which actually kind of goes towards your cause)

My point is simply that a bad experience for one doesn't mean a bad experience for all and telling people to expect the worst isn't really fair. How is that mean or harassment?

Please don't lash out at me because you are upset.
I wasn't lashing out at you. I don't feel this thread is any different from other "fetal movement" threads. I was simply looking out for the op because I know how hormonal all us pregnant ladies are and I did not want her to be put through the ringer as I was.

Saying I harassed you seems like lashing out, to me that is an accusation and not casual conversation.

I get wanting to warn someone but not everyone who answers has the same reaction. With so many of these threads started there is clearly a group of people on here who agree with you on being able to feel your LO. The suggestion was made that some of the other groups have positive responses to the topic, why not direct someone to those rather than tell them people will be mean to them?

MamaFroFro · August 2015

Oh yay!

brushesnbrunch · August 2015

dmap85 said:

@adventuremama and @zepplin1218 thank you for continuing to harrass me and ruin my first day of posting on the bump.

You're being harassed?! Wow, that's a serious accusation! Might want to look up the word to get better acquainted with it, just sayin'...

Zepplin1218 · August 2015

mabrams27 said:

Wow...and I thought this board was a informative peaceful place to ask questions. Some of you need to calm down its not that serious!! I hope my post gets deleted because some of you take this board to another level and not in a welcoming way. It was a simple question meant for those who were 16 weeks experiencing what I was experiencing(or not so much).

Unfortunately your thread has been derailed in the sense that the previous one that got closed came up and that was made the focus. There are some genuine replies to you on here (like mine about asking a doctor being better because everyone is different) or adventuremamas about not feeling her LO yet either.

I don't think people are upset by your thread, more so the other topic. Sorry it seems to have been derailed! I know that can be frustrating!

dmap85 · August 2015

Because @zepplin1218 all I've seen so far today is people being rude to each other. So instead of me saying here is a post like yours...I decided to let her know that she isn't going to get a nice response...and so far she hasnt.

mabrams27 · August 2015

Wozier let me find the search bar before I cause more people to lose their minds with something so trivial!! Next time you see a comment that looks "familiar" please skip it. I wouldn't want someone else feeling as unwelcomed with some of your responses as I have.

hlmdeck · August 2015

Just caught up reading this thread.. Looks like everything has been said. I'm out!

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