Overdue and depressed

cseley321 · August 2015

Big rant, I'm creeping up on 41 weeks pregnant and it's REALLY getting to me. I'm not so much depressed about being this late, but I've had 0 signs of upcoming labor. Cervix is pushed back and is not dilated at all. Only having very mild contractions, never lost my MP, hasn't dropped, just NOTHING.

I was hoping to go into labor naturally but it's looking more and more like I will have to be induced. I know everyone says not to fret and you'll miss being pregnant, but after having multiple miscarriages and never having a successful pregnancy, I just want the baby out safely.

I've been walking a lot every day but after my appointment on Monday I've just been so depressed I don't want to do anything. I was hoping it would blow over by now but I just feel awful.

Hopefully now that I got that off my chest, I will see some progress in the upcoming days...

emmacake08 · August 2015

I know how you feel. I'm 40+2 and have had nada symptom wise going on. I'm still high and not really dilated and every day I'm thinking wtf? I oscillate between no one touch me and let labor come naturally and thinking that going into labor naturally is impossible. I've been pretty mellow and patient this whole pregnancy but now every single day is crawling by. I'm so over it too. I know people say you can go from nothing to full blown labor in no time, but right now it doesn't feel true.

jessandandy09 · August 2015

Hang in there Momma! I can only imagine your frustration as I am not even 39 weeks yet but am so ready to meet my LO. I hope you get a big surprise today and you start laboring!

candicejeff2013 · August 2015

I felt the same way!! I cried multiple times the week leading up to induction. People always told me it's worth the wait. The wait was severe in my case because even induction for me start to finish was 19 hrs!!! But yes it is worth every minute!!! You will have sweet relief soon enough. Hugs.

mgarrett921 · August 2015

I'm right there with you. 40 weeks today. On Mondays appt I'd made no progress over last week - dilated to 2 and 80% eff. The clinic is so full they can't get me in until a week from today. Then we'll talk about induction - which will probably get scheduled days to a week after that. So frustrated and depressed. This could end up being a Sept baby. That's crazy! I can not mentally wait that long.

diesel115 · August 2015

I am there with all of you! I go in for my 40 week appointment tomorrow, but feeling like this baby will never come as I was only 1 cm and 60% at my last two weekly checks. Could very well be a September baby too. Every morning I wake up still pregnant is such a huge bummer, it makes it so hard to get out of bed and go to work. Friday will be my last day at work but I'm not sure that's a good idea anymore - I think I'll go even more insane sitting home all day just waiting for something to happen.

We are all so beyond ready, right? At least we have each other to commiserate with!

cseley321 · August 2015

My induction is setup for just a few days shy of 42 weeks. I'm REALLY hoping I don't go that long

As of the last time they were able to check my cervix it still had not softened up, so I'm hoping my body does some work on its own and if it does not go into labor naturally that at least I will have hopefully made some progress so that the induction isn't horrible.

I do feel a bit better having a definite end date in mind though

Lorienlily · August 2015

I'm in the same boat -- 40w2d and almost no progress towards labor except that DD has dropped (which mostly just makes life more uncomfortable). Really anticipated an early baby since I was a premie, but every baby is different and my little girl seems very content where she is. Scheduled for an induction at nearly 42 weeks, but still praying I'll go into labor spontaneously before then. We'll see... Best of luck to you all!

EastonRhy · August 2015

My body was completely against me from the get go. Up high, barely dropped and was not dilated at all. Out of nowhere last week 8/13 I started losing plug and contractions hit. I had my induction scheduled for 8/17. It'll happen mama. I was the same way with this girl, I didn't think she would ever come out and I had lost all hope of going into labor naturally and having somewhat of the birth I wanted but my girl decided she'd work with me. Can't wait to see your birth announcement! Goodluck.

heidi8992 · August 2015

My original due date was 8/18 then they changed it to 8/12 due to his size... I've been swearing he was coming early. The last three appointments I've had absolutely no signs as well. He looks and feels like he's dropped for me but not in the doctors eyes. I'm really disappointed as well. I just want a safe all natural birth. Being induced scares me! My doctor is going to go back to my original due date of the 18th so technically I'm 40w1d. But I was already this last week!!! I still say 41w. I'm going in again on Friday and he will be hooked up and monitored. I'll have an appointment on Monday and schedule to be induced either Tuesday or Wednesday. Let's hope they come before then!

cseley321 · August 2015

heidi8992 said:

My original due date was 8/18 then they changed it to 8/12 due to his size... I've been swearing he was coming early. The last three appointments I've had absolutely no signs as well. He looks and feels like he's dropped for me but not in the doctors eyes. I'm really disappointed as well. I just want a safe all natural birth. Being induced scares me! My doctor is going to go back to my original due date of the 18th so technically I'm 40w1d. But I was already this last week!!! I still say 41w. I'm going in again on Friday and he will be hooked up and monitored. I'll have an appointment on Monday and schedule to be induced either Tuesday or Wednesday. Let's hope they come before then!

Oh goodness, I'd just die if they started flip flopping my due date lol. Bless your heart!!

SassetteSmurfling · August 2015

I'm sorry you're getting frustrated. In only went into labor on my own with one of my 3 kids. But I will say that prior to actually being in active labor, I had zero labor signs. My body was doing nothing. And then I woke up at 3am with strong contractions 4 minutes apart and was 5cm when I got to the hospital. So it can happen

missmayI · August 2015

I know how you feel!! I got all excited at my 38 week appointment when my doctor told me I was 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced. The next appointment I'm anticipating for more progress because it only makes sense, but no my doctor let me know I may have dilated a 1/2 cm more if that. I've had no contractions, I don't think I have lost my MP, it just feels like this little man is never going to come out!! I try not to think about it too much but my mom is calling me everyday for a progress report and everyday I have to admit nothing has changed it's just depressing.

rasmussanna · August 2015

39+5 here. My doc told me she wouldn't let go past 41 weeks. I was only 1 cm dilated yesterday at appointment so hoping next week I will be further dilated to do membrane stripping. I'm really scared of having to be induced

amk013 · August 2015

I didn't want an induction, either. Everything turned out fine! If that's what your doctor decides to do, trust that the advice is the best thing for your baby. Hang in there, Momma!

hgyp1006 · August 2015

I totally can relate! I'm 39w2d and last week, I was 1.5 cm dilated and my Dr was super excited that baby could literally come any day. Then at my appointment today, there was no change. I'm fine with baby coming at her time...due date for me is 8/24. It's everyone else's anticipation that's getting to me. I wouldn't be surprised if baby decides to come late just because. :-D Here's hoping we all post on the birth announcement thread soon!

Thj417 · August 2015

Hugs momma... Hang in there, the end is near.

I went 41w5 with my first. I know the feeling.

pabeybaby · August 2015

Gaaaah all of this! I cried last night because I'm 40+4 today and I've been 1cm dialated since 37 weeks. Baby was breech up until we had her turned around 38, and my doctor said because of that it could take longer for her to come. She's dropped and I'm 80 effaced but still only 1cm dialated. Contractions are completely random and all over the place (I have no idea at this point if they're contractions or still BH) with no pattern what so ever. My back has been killing me and my hormones are going crazy and hubby hasn't really been much help these last few days. I have an induction date but it's on my dad's birthday and I want her to have her own birthday so badly that that's driving me crazy as well. Eff these hormones!

Jenkayb · August 2015

Super depressed as well. I'm 41+1 and only 1cm. The doctor is also telling me he might be a large baby and she's not sure induction would be successful so now we're looking at a c section which is even more depressing.

Miz_Liz · August 2015

FXFY that labor starts today! I wasn't dilated at all, cervix was super high, etc., then woke up with contractions 3-4 min apart. You just never know, but just remember that not showing signs yet doesn't mean it won't happen! Hang in there Mama!

nininou19 · August 2015

I totally know how you feel I am in the same boat. I guess we just have to hang in there. Let us know

prairiedreams · August 2015

41 +4 and on the call list but being healthy and baby #2 they are not too worried about me. I on the other hand feel like i am failing at this whole labor thing cause my body just wont start.

ckoenig87 · August 2015

40 + 4 and as of today I feel like I just hit a wall. I'm mentally checked out, frustrated and I'm not sure its the right word but kind of mad? Iv only been 1 cm since 37 weeks, cervix is long, unless I'm the most oblivious person ever- no contractions or BH that I can notice, no mucus plug. Nada. And still working. I think constant reminders and comments from other ppl is what's making it so bad honestly...maybe I would be able to keep my sanity if I started maternity leave early even I do end up at home twiddling my thumbs.

itsTifferz · August 2015

I'm feeling the same way! 40 weeks today and my LO has been sitting low, head down since about week 32. My doc told me at 38 weeks that he may come early because of how low he's been sitting. I've lost my mucus plug and have had BH, back pain, neasea and frequent trips to the bathroom for the past week but still no sign of labor. My DH doesn't understand why I'm so down/frustrated. The texts from my whole family every day asking if there are any changes any easier either. It's like having to tell them that there's been no change everyday is a constant reminder that I'm still waiting. I know I'm not overdue at this point really but still feeling down and ready for him to be here already.

Lorienlily · August 2015

prairiedreams said:
I on the other hand feel like i am failing at this whole labor thing cause my body just wont start.

This.

mimigrace12 · August 2015

I feel the same! 40w2d and no labour progression other than baby has dropped. Scheduled for induction on the 27th so I'm on an 8 day count down, hoping to go in to labour naturally before then though. It does feel better having a definite date!

ajilli · August 2015

Same. 40+5 now, still high, 1cm 80%. I can choose to be induced as early as I want or wait the full 42 and I just feel like its not going to happen and induction is inevitable so I might as well not waste any more maternity leave. I was thinking Monday (41+2) but then was told since I'm only 1cm I'd have to come in the night before for cervidal. Was hoping to go no pain meds and a super long induction isn't conducive to that.

It's been nice hearing stories of how things can change so quickly and gives me hope. On the other hand I wish I could know whether to wait on induction. if she would drop of trust that it will happen naturally...

cseley321 · August 2015

ajilli said:

Same. 40+5 now, still high, 1cm 80%. I can choose to be induced as early as I want or wait the full 42 and I just feel like its not going to happen and induction is inevitable so I might as well not waste any more maternity leave. I was thinking Monday (41+2) but then was told since I'm only 1cm I'd have to come in the night before for cervidal. Was hoping to go no pain meds and a super long induction isn't conducive to that. It's been nice hearing stories of how things can change so quickly and gives me hope. On the other hand I wish I could know whether to wait on induction. if she would drop of trust that it will happen naturally...

This is the exact same for me - looks like we had the same due date, maybe it's just unlucky :P They are planning to bring me in and keep me overnight with the Cervidal. I hadn't planned on a med free birth, but I still don't like the idea of any of this and it's a bit worrisome. Here's hoping we eventually go into labor on our own. She has exactly 6 days left to make an appearance

pabeybaby · August 2015

Crystal321 said:

ajilli said:

Same. 40+5 now, still high, 1cm 80%. I can choose to be induced as early as I want or wait the full 42 and I just feel like its not going to happen and induction is inevitable so I might as well not waste any more maternity leave. I was thinking Monday (41+2) but then was told since I'm only 1cm I'd have to come in the night before for cervidal. Was hoping to go no pain meds and a super long induction isn't conducive to that.

It's been nice hearing stories of how things can change so quickly and gives me hope. On the other hand I wish I could know whether to wait on induction. if she would drop of trust that it will happen naturally...

This is the exact same for me - looks like we had the same due date, maybe it's just unlucky :P They are planning to bring me in and keep me overnight with the Cervidal. I hadn't planned on a med free birth, but I still don't like the idea of any of this and it's a bit worrisome. Here's hoping we eventually go into labor on our own. She has exactly 6 days left to make an appearance

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Stupid quote fails

If we're talking the 15 as the due date, then yes it's probably unlucky lol

cseley321 · August 2015

Well misery loves company I guess... I'm rooting for you ladies! I'll be super excited to see those announcements... and super jealous

pabeybaby · August 2015

I'm being induced Saturday, but we're going in tomorrow and I'm getting cervidil I think. So induction is more depending on how the cervidil works out. As I've mentioned in other posts, my dads birthday (as well as a couple other family members) is also Saturday. I want to be thrilled about LO getting here but I'm not happy about the date! Gaaaah.

cseley321 · August 2015

Good luck to you on it! My dad's birthday was august 25th so I'm hoping to dodge that one, but at this point I'm just ready to be done!

ckoenig87 · August 2015

7 days overdue now....anyone else? Induction is scheduled for Tuesday because that's the only availability! :-q I wish I could give baby a little more time to come on his own. Praying that he makes his debut between now and Tues !!!!!!

ajilli · August 2015

Yup, was 41 weeks today. Trying to avoid induction. Will get second sweep Monday. Wednesday I was only 1.5cm so was told I'd have to get to the hospital the night before my induction for cervidal and decided to try to avoid that situation. Hopefully if I'm more dilated Monday, when my (seemingly inevitable) induction happens I won't need the extra night of torture.

louisianabeachbelle · August 2015

Well today (the 22nd) is my due date. It's depressing having it come to a close. Many of you are further along in your development. I'm about 1.5 cm 50% effaced.
I go Monday for an ultrasound and NST to make sure everything looks good. If he isn't here by Thurs, we are talking induction. Like all of you, I share a fear of being induced. I hate waiting, but I'd rather give my son time to come out on his own. If I'm induced or wait for him, we will be team September!

mimigrace12 · August 2015

40w6d here. Come on out now, LO! The wait is killing mommy lol I've got a Dr app on Monday, hoping to have at least a little more labour progression than last time.. Something! Going to ask for another sweep (my third one). Induction app on Thursday but hoping it happens before then!

diesel115 · August 2015

40w2d and I'm suddenly finding myself really struggling with it. I have been (what I consider to be) very emotionally stable this entire pregnancy. No weird mood swings, no abrupt crying bouts, nothing. But as I sit here at 3:14 am in the baby's nursery I can't help but be almost mad about the fact that I'm still pregnant. Everything hurts, my back most of all. My legs are so swollen that I've been wearing compression stockings since 22 weeks and they're at the point of hardly keeping it at bay anymore. I don't sleep, except for a few hours at a time because there is no way to sit stand or lay that is even remotely comfortable. None of my clothes fit, obviously. I've been having BH and uncomfortable cramping for weeks, but it never leads to anything, so it's like I'm in pain for no actual reason. Friday was my last day at work and while I'm sort of glad for that, if this baby doesn't come by Monday I'll be officially wasting my maternity leave. And I think the worst part of all is that since this is my first baby, I know I should really be cherishing these last few days that it will just be me and DH at home. He has been so great and soon our whole dynamic will change and I really should be just soaking in this time that it is just him and I. But I'm so absolutely miserable and frustrated that I can't even do that. Which makes me sad, and the whole spiral begins all over again. I am so so sick of waiting and there is nothing I can do about it.

emmacake08 · August 2015

@diesel115 I pretty much hit the wall emotionally right at 40+1. I was just so over it. Between the exhaustion and the lack of labor symptoms, everyday I was just a little bit edgier and angrier. I had been mellow all pregnancy and then just bam, over it. I'm sorry you're frustrated and still waiting. Since I had to have a CS, once my OB decided it was time (40+4), pregnancy was done. I never did go into labor and I really wonder how long I would have kept going, not going into labor. I'm sorry there isn't anything more I can say besides you are getting so close. I just remember wanting to throat punch anyone that said that when I was in your shoes ~X(

babymcmac · August 2015

I know how you feel... I'm only a couple days past so far but I still feel down...
Everyone wants to be able to go into labor on their own and it makes us feel like we failed if it doesn't..
I just don't want to even do anything at all. I know I should be walking and keeping active but it's so hard.

Wering · August 2015

Every night I try to find something that makes me feel like "I've got this" now that I'm overdue. Last night I read that, when left alone, FTMs average going into labor at 41 weeks 1 day and STMs average 40 weeks 3 days.

Trying to keep those stats handy for my attitude

babyrover · August 2015

I am just so done with being pregnant.

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