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April 2016 Moms
Littlemama121
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Positive stories
Littlemama121
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Maybe this is dumb, but I just wanted to see if you ladies would want to start positive stories thread. I will be 5wks tomorrow with my first and all this not knowing and not being out of the safe zone yet is so hard. Every one seems to know someone who miscarried recently and I thought maybe we could use some positive stories about how people haven't experienced that. I know the statistics but when you read these boards, sometimes it can make you feel like miscarriage is more common than the 10-20%. We can't do anything about any potential things that will go wrong so while we wait for more information, maybe we could share good stories?
Example- mother in law got pregnant twice right when she wanted to both times. No miscarriages, all healthy pregnancies and children.
Example- mother in law got pregnant twice right when she wanted to both times. No miscarriages, all healthy pregnancies and children.
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Re: Positive stories
My sister had a miscarriage at 6.5 weeks but continued on to have two healthy pregnancies following. That's a positive story for those who have had a m/c before.
I think what she said is just fine. She didn't say "we should believe", she said "I believe"...no different than any if us stating something that we believe, religiously related or not.
I couldn't be more thrilled that we are all pregnant! But just because some of us talk about our losses, I promise it doesn't mean we're being negative. For many of us it helps us cope, helps us remember our babies, and helps us process the excitement we're feeling about a new pregnancy.
I know it is a real possibility. Especially since a lot of us are so early but sometimes it's good to look at what could go right too.
I just thought we could start a positive thread if ppl wanted to share good news and stories. If anyone is confused and wants to imply that I'm saying that no one is allowed to talk about anything negative, let me be clear: that is absolutely not what I'm saying. I understand it happens and it's heartbreaking. I was just trying to not think about it for 1 second. Who knew that positivity was so controversial?
Snoflakes4eva: I'm praying for you and your baby. GOD BLESS!!!
Nobody is tearing anyone down. The fact of the matter is, pregnancy isn't all fun and games. And by dismissing people needing to discuss their losses, you are adding to the shame that our society already puts on pregnancy loss.
No, I certainly haven't experienced any of that. But I have experienced 3 weeks of extreme anxiety worrying about all of that. And yes, some of the replies certainly did tear BabyMassie and her idea down. If people don't like a thread they should simpley scroll past it. Not rip on the author for sharing their thoughts.
I understand the point of OP's post, but I think it does diminish and minimize what others have gone though. Complications and miscarriages are not negative things, they are a part of life, they happen. They need to be talked about and appreciated.
Are you new to the internet?
And I think it is horrible and insensitive to compare waiting 3 weeks to a miscarriage.
I just don't see the point. What are you hoping to read here, all of the BTDT moms come in an say: "Me, I carried a child successfully and nothing went wrong!" or people to come in here and say: "So-and-so that I know carried a child successfully!" (Though you probably have no clue if something went wrong for them.) IMO, I think the post with the percentages probably is more encouraging than something like this post.
Here, I can post my story, I had DS in October 2011. My pregnancy was relatively normal until the very end. I was put on bed rest due to pre-e. I had horrible swelling, my blood pressure (while on blood pressure meds) skyrocketed to 180/116. We fought to get to the next week, and then the next, finally I had to be induced for my safety and DS's safety. I labored for 26+ hours on Pitocin, so contractions 1.5 minutes long every 45 seconds for HOURS: 30 hours without food, 14 hours without water. At hour 16 I gave in to my pain-med free birth and got an epidural. However, that made me throw up for the next 2 hours so I turned it off and did go pain-med free. In the middle of hard labor, about an hour long, I had to be put on oxygen and I also had to stop pushing - which is almost impossible, but I had to because the cord was wrapped around DSs neck twice. In the end I delivered a healthy boy. My right hip is permanently numb from the epidural though.
Or how about this, my SIL had a normal pregnancy as well but at the end had to have an emergency CS. They gave her all the pain meds, but they never took and they couldn't give her anymore in time as they had to get baby out. She felt every knife cut and was scarred for life. She'll never have another baby after that experience, she's too afraid, but my niece is a happy and healthy 5 year old.
My co-worker delivered 3 healthy girls, but her uterus, vagina, and perineum pretty much exploded after the third. She had to have multiple reconstructive surgeries to repair her body.
We all had successful pregnancies and deliveries, but not without complications. Complications and losses happen. (Also, I am not comparing complications to losses, but just stating that they both can happen and would probably both be considered negatives in this post)
While positive thoughts are all well and good, the realistic side to pregnancy is that it is scary and not without risk.
If you would like to tag me, do it correctly. And what the bump should or should not be is irrelevant. You aren't going to change the tone of this board.
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