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Is it normal to HATE your husband during pregnancy lol ?

Knottie1454847730Knottie1454847730 member
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I'm roughly 11 weeks pregnant with my second baby and lately everything my partner does has been getting on my nerves. He doesn't really help out with the house work even though I've had severe all day (morning) sickness and the other day he watched me hunched over scrubbing the toilet!! he has been doing the cooking so my presence in the kitchen has been limited, however once he goes to work I get up to make my son and I breakfast and he has left everything disgusting and dirty (including a pile of dishes !!) I don't know if I'm over reacting but I'm completely over it and think I may be over him lol help !!!! I feel like his becoming a burden rather than a loving / understating partner.
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  • jenbstevensjenbstevens member
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    It's definitely normal to feel more annoyed than usual with anyone during pregnancy, especially if you don't feel they are being as understanding as you would like them to be. That being said, it seems like your husband could be doing more to support you, so you should talk to him about it. DO NOT do this in the heat of an argument or when you're feeling upset over something he did or didn't do. Hopefully he just doesn't realize how hard he is making things for you and when he does he will try and do better. If not... well then you might not be over reacting.
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  • Knottie1454847730Knottie1454847730 member
    Thank you for your reply ! I definitely agree that a serious talk has to happen not within the context of an already heated argument. Depending on his response and further actions I may not be just 'hormonal' after all
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  • lct11590lct11590 member
    I HATE mine too...I have tried having talks with him abd ge just gets defensive...I have been having siatic pain in my hip (which he suffers with on a daily basis) 6odat he was smiling while I was trying to get comfortable on our booth at a restaurant and I asked him whay was making him smile and he dais he wad happy that I finally feel his pain! Seriously lucky we were in public. Hope we all can make it to the end if our pregnancy with them, good luck to you!
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  • fmragliofmraglio member
    The first tri was a huge strain on DH and I, there were some moments I honestly just didn't think we were going to make it. I finally realized it was hormones and I was blowing things way out of proportion, but he also realized he needed to be a lot more sensitive towards my feelings since I am pregnant. He was great at keeping up with the housework even though he hated doing it and now we're better than ever. I think it's normal to feel like they really push your buttons but hang in there, you married him for a reason and pregnancy can be really tough on couples!!
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  • WL525WL525 member
    edited August 2015
    Yup! Me too!! If I am uncomfortable or have a headache...he is more uncomfortable and his headache is much worse than mine?! Really?! When did this become a pissing match on who hurts more!? Seriously, he is sitting next to me right now reading out loud about his back problems and dr. Googling his symptoms and diagnosis....I want to slap the phone out of his hand and tell him he's a hyperchondriac....ugh!! It's a lot to try to keep up with the chores and cooking and having no real help, I completely feel your pain. He also likes to throw the 'hormones' thing in my face when I get on him for something...which just makes me even more crazy... Wish I had some helpful advice for u, but I'm living it with ya... Hang in there! Xo


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  • mumandbabymumandbaby member
    I've gotten to the point where looking at my SO makes my blood boil, him touching me makes me feel physically sick & generally everything he says or does gets under my skin!
    Been this way through my whole 14 wks of pregnancy so far.
    I'm thinking mine is something more than hormones- like a relationship breakdown! After 9 years together seems so wrong that now i'm pregnant with my first baby it's time to part ways. but can't shift these feelings. Anyone else going through similar? X
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  • SabrinaMFSabrinaMF member
    glad to hear I'm not alone. I'm just so fkng angry. I work all day, travel far to work and by the time I get home I still have more work to do. his mother lives with us, does nothing all day, meanwhile I have 2 other kids at home she's supposed to help with when I'm away. that was his idea and this has all been more bad than good honestly. we constantly fight because he feels she does things but when he works he doesn't see the shit. I'm almost four months pregnant, crying as I type and yet we literally just had another fight over the bs. I didn't sign up to be her maid on top of working full time, having kids with another on the way and running my house. I rather hire an outside person to help with kids. she freaking lives here for free. the least u can do is clean up. sorry for the long rant ladies. so yeah right now, I hate my husband.
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    Hubby deployed about a week or two after we found out. I hated him for leaving me during the hardest part of pregnancy! All alone and sick, not fun. I'm 21 weeks now and sometimes still hate his comments lol. Some days I'm just head over heels in love with him and some days I'm just annoyed. I think it's totally normal. My hormones are so jacked up, poor guy it's not his fault.
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  • ZoeyRaeJamesZoeyRaeJames member
    I haven't had these issues with my hubby
    But I have these issues with a lot of other people! Bad thing on my part, is that I didn't much like these people BEFORE pregnancy, and the crazy hormones make it seem a million times WORSE. @-)
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  • celainevcelainev member
    My DH does get on my nerves sometimes, however I cannot deny that he is extremely supportive about our pregnancy. It makes me so sad to read some of these PP. I just want to gather you all up and hug you. Even though it is extremely tough and it seems like nothing is going right, I pray that all of you can find peace within your lives. ❤️
    Try going out for a date, focusing on the love you have for each other. Remember why you fell in love. This would be an excellent time to go on a baby moon, if you have the means. I noticed anger popping up surrounding my DH and I thought it was worth the money for us both to take six days off and get away. So we are on a bit of a vacation right now. I highly suggest it because keeping you both together is worth it, for yourselves and your LOs. ❤️
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  • dabner911dabner911 member
    Short answer: yes it's normal because men are DUMB.
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