Worried about miscarriage before my first ultrasound

alars26 · July 2015

Okay first time being pregnant so I know the percentage is about 15-20%. I am 7w1d my appointment isn't until August 25th that would make me 11w2ds. I wasn't worried until
I read a post where most women had a m/c at 9 weeks. I'm not experiencing any m/s. Just sore nipples, exhausted, a little cramping in the abdominal area and lower back cramping. No sign of blood. I just want to be able to hear the baby's heart beat so bad.

skruhmin · July 2015

Just keep going back to the "Chances of Not having a Miscarriage" post for reassurance. And try to breathe.

ALapolla · July 2015

I feel the same! 6W3days here and I'm worrying constantly until my Aug 5th doctors appt next week! I get SO down after hearing all these MC stories that I almost don't even want to come on here to be honest. We're in this together!

Parker16772 · July 2015

I am right there with you and it's my 3rd time being PG. (one MC and I have a 3 1/2 year old DS) I worry everyday and probably will until I am out of the first trimester. Right now I am just trying to take it one day at a time. Just wondering where you read most women miscarry at 9 weeks? From what I have read it usually happens earlier. My doctor told me your chances of miscarrying drastically drop around that time.

Hullabaloo2016 · July 2015

Actually at 7 weeks you chances of miscarriage are much lower than 15-25%, more like 3.5%. For me, there will always be something to worry about. I've already had 1 ultrasound, but now I fear a missed miscarriage before my next. LO measured very very small last time, what if there is no growth. Then into 2nd tri I will worry about an incompetent cervix. The worry continues on into 3rd tri with preterm labor, placenta previa and a host of other potential problems. Acknowledge your fears, then push them to the side and think to yourself, Today I'm pregnant. I'm not going to let the fear of what could happen ruin the joy of what IS happening. Plan for baby, talk to the little one, dream of being a mama and holding that baby. That's what I do.

mrsmtothek · July 2015

You are absolutely not alone, I'm definitely right there with you worrying my butt off about it. I have PCOS and apparently I have an even greater risk than most women to miscarry. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do to prevent it other than maintaining a healthy lifestyle, so just try to relax (easier said than done though, I know!). Stay positive!!

alars26 · July 2015

Thanks girls! I'm just going to forget about it an be excited about my pregnancy! You girls know how to change the mood!! 3.5% doesn't sound scary ☺️

bntfroggie · July 2015

Yeah I'm in the same boat worry worry worry. A lot of girls like to say to themselves "Today, I am pregnant" so that's what I keep telling myself.

FutureMrsCaesar · July 2015

I think what you are feeling is totally normal. You want your baby and love it already so it's natural to worry about losing it. This is my 4th pregnancy and each time it has been nervewracking in the beginning. My Drs don't do u/s until 20 weeks unless there's a problem (or you opt for NT scan) but we've usually been able to hear the heartbeat with doppler at 9-10 weeks which is always a huge relief. But even after that it's hard to wait until the next appointment when you get to hear it again. Until the baby starts moving there is a lot of uncertainty.

skruhmin · July 2015

Hullabaloo2016 said:

Actually at 7 weeks you chances of miscarriage are much lower than 15-25%, more like 3.5%. For me, there will always be something to worry about. I've already had 1 ultrasound, but now I fear a missed miscarriage before my next. LO measured very very small last time, what if there is no growth. Then into 2nd tri I will worry about an incompetent cervix. The worry continues on into 3rd tri with preterm labor, placenta previa and a host of other potential problems. Acknowledge your fears, then push them to the side and think to yourself, Today I'm pregnant. I'm not going to let the fear of what could happen ruin the joy of what IS happening. Plan for baby, talk to the little one, dream of being a mama and holding that baby. That's what I do.

I want to say she meant 15-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage(??) but I could be wrong.

alars26 · July 2015

Yes! I read it's like 15-20% pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first trimester

skruhmin · July 2015

alars26 said:

Yes! I read it's like 15-20% pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first trimester

And you know what? Most of those are chemical pregnancies and most women don't even know they're pregnant. You're in week 7, you still have symptoms, you aren't bleeding, cramping is totally normal. So try to breathe

amorcito27 · July 2015

The worrying will never stop. Now it's waiting to hear your first heart beat, then you will worry until you have the NT scan (if you have it), then you will worry about coming too early, then you will worry about SIDS, and other things. Being a mommy is a full-time job!

missfoxyleide · July 2015

I right there with you...I am a FTM and got pregnant via Clomid + IUI on our 3rd try...my first ultrasound is this Thursday and I am so anxious. It is helpful to think about it in terms of the chance of a MC not happening. Let's try to stay positive!

Starbuck77 · July 2015

I'm right there with you, I'm really scared of a MC too. I think everyone is. I've been told this is great practice for being a mom, we will always worry, and there will always be another "hurdle" to get past, probably for the rest of the baby's life TBH.

It's also a good practice in letting go of needing control, because at this point all we can do is take care of ourselves, we don't have any control over how things go with the baby developing (unfortunately, because if I had my way I'd control every second of being pregnant...maybe thats just me though).

mrsmtothek · July 2015

Starbuck77 said:

I'm right there with you, I'm really scared of a MC too. I think everyone is. I've been told this is great practice for being a mom, we will always worry, and there will always be another "hurdle" to get past, probably for the rest of the baby's life TBH.

It's also a good practice in letting go of needing control, because at this point all we can do is take care of ourselves, we don't have any control over how things go with the baby developing (unfortunately, because if I had my way I'd control every second of being pregnant...maybe thats just me though).

All of this.

TeamMagik · July 2015

@skruhmin: I. Love. You. Thank you so much for posting the link to that table, it made my 7w 4d self feel so much better!

jlcarlson1992 · August 2015

I was worried too. But I just had an ultrasound and it came back healthy and even saw the little peanut move. I was 10 weeks 0 days.

birdmadgirl · August 2015

How do you know if you do miscarry? I'm 8 1/2 weeks. Had my first OB appointment a few days ago. They didn't do fetal heartbeat, just a pap/pelvic. I don't have any nausea or vomiting..breasts are t really sore anymore. How do they know everything is still ok????

bntfroggie · August 2015

8.5 weeks is a little too early for them to find a heartbeat with a doppler. At your next appointment they will check for it

kynbar5 · August 2015

My best advice would be to always remember that every pregnancy for every woman is different. Try not to read or focus on what could or might go wrong. Some women never experience any ms (or any of the negative 1st trimester things) and have great pregnancies with healthy babies. You just have to keep your head up and stay positive!

LoA · August 2015

It's always scary when things are outside of our control... As a mom of two, I gotta add that worrying is pretty much part of being a mom. Just try to embrace it and stay positive

kimiko637 · August 2015

As of my LMP I am 10 weeks and 5 days. I found out that I was pregnant at 6 weeks. My first real prenatal visit since then isn't until Tuesday the 18th which is just one more day! I have been waiting over 4 weeks for this coming appointment... The waiting is what drives me crazy.. Not knowing if baby is okay or not. I know it's easy to say relax and don't worry about MC... But it's just so scary. This is my second pregnancy after 11 years. I am so anxious to see my doctor soon just so I can see baby and hear heart beat. I feel like I haven't been having any of my earlier symptoms such as nausea or sore breasts. Only occasional cramping in abdomen and lower back when sitting too long or lying down on back. Best wishes to all the moms here!

ecwk · August 2015

I saw the HB at 6+3 but even still I am terrified of going back and being told the worst. You just can't overwhelm yourself and focus on your fear. Easier said than done, I know, but there will unfortunately always be something to worry about and it's important to try to be positive and focus on the fact that today, you are indeed pregnant!

ReeIsPg · August 2015

ecwk said:
I saw the HB at 6+3 but even still I am terrified of going back and being told the worst. You just can't overwhelm yourself and focus on your fear. Easier said than done, I know, but there will unfortunately always be something to worry about and it's important to try to be positive and focus on the fact that today, you are indeed pregnant!

I saw a flickering heart beat at 7 wks. Now I'm at 9 wks and I have an appt tomorrow with my doc. I've managed to make myself a nervous wreck that I'll be told the worst. Ugh, the negative thoughts are difficult to fight at times, but I'm here, pregnant, and trying my best.

Just had to vent--whew, feels good.

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