Was returning some diapers that LO grew out of (don't get me started on this I may actually start crying he is growing too fast!) and asked the greeter at Wal-Mart for a return sticker. A lady standing there looked and me and asked (seriously) are you "returning the baby?"
I quickly walked away saying "Uhm nope he's staying with me!"
A strange one she was...
Aww meanwhile when we ran to Babies R Us I told DH I was bringing LO back to the baby store... I'm terrible but I thought it was funny.
During the first week we made a run to Babies R Us and a lady who worked there said she couldn't BELIEVE I didn't have a hat on the baby because if the wind blows and a baby is outside they will "catch the colic." )
Every time there has been a breeze this summer someone says it now. LOL
During the first week we made a run to Babies R Us and a lady who worked there said she couldn't BELIEVE I didn't have a hat on the baby because if the wind blows and a baby is outside they will "catch the colic." )
Every time there has been a breeze this summer someone says it now. LOL
Well shit, if I had known that's where colic comes from, LO would have worn a hat every damn day!
When LO was 2 weeks old we had a heat wave and my MIL kept telling my hubby to give the baby a bottle of water. even after I informed her that a. Extra Water can actually harm a baby and b. I'm breastfeeding so he's not taking bottles just yet she just keeps saying "well that's what I used to do" ahh so frustrating
Then one of my coworkers (that one coworker whom everyone dislikes actually) told me "oh what a large forehead he has." If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all lady!
My twins were born relatively small (5lbs 3oz for DD, 5lbs 10oz for DD). They lost more than 10% of their body weight and had to stay in the hospital an extra night. Needless to say, fattening them up has been a goal of ours from the beginning.
DD is somewhere around 9 or 10 lbs now, at 10 weeks. So she's chunking up with some cute little rolls, but she's still in a pretty low %ile for babies her age.
MIL says to her, in her songsong-y baby talk voice "don't gain too much weight girlie, it's too hard to take off once you put it on." And then repeated that like 6 times.
Ok grandma, we'll put her on a diet so she's 10 lbs when she's 30 years old. WTF???
MIL says to her, in her songsong-y baby talk voice "don't gain too much weight girlie, it's too hard to take off once you put it on." And then repeated that like 6 times.
Ok grandma, we'll put her on a diet so she's 10 lbs when she's 30 years old. WTF???
And then people wonder why young girls have body issues! Good grief. Yes, put your infant in a diet ASAP!
I hate the line, "You're going to spoil him" by holding him too much. My mom is constantly saying it to me! And today the neighbor was over and wanted to hold him. He started crying & she said something to the fact that "Oh your mom spoiled you huh? You don't want anyone else to hold you."
@chrissssn I have a friend who remarks on how spoiled my LOs are all the time. So annoying. Maybe it's because our babies are smart enough to know who their mamas are and don't like it when other people try to hold them. Smh.
This older lady in the coffee shop who was probably at least 80 or 85 told me I was spoiling my (at the time) 4 week old baby, because apparently I was too quick to pick her up out of the stroller and didn't let her cry enough. This was after she had already been crying for a few minutes and I tried to soothe her in the stroller. Um, sorry I don't want to sit and listen to my baby cry in public and disrupt other people, lady.
Also I find that a lot of the older generations are so shocked at how early I took my baby out. Yesterday at Harvey's someone asked me how old my baby is, I said "she's six weeks" and this woman looked horrified. She replied with 'oh, I didn't take my kids out in public til they were 3 months old'. I just politely walked away and didn't bother responding back, I didn't know what to say. but it's like some people are appalled that I started taking my baby out when she was 1-2 weeks old.
I actually have a funny - DH and I went to a nearby brewery to fill some growlers (for you non beer nerds a growler is a 64oz glass jug that the brewery will fill from the tap and then you take it home. Useful if the brewery does not distribute in bottles or cans like this one does) and hung out for a pint. We propped LO in his carseat on the seat between us and a guy down the bar asks 'nothing for him?' I laugh and tell him that LO isn't of legal age yet and I didn't want the bartender to get in trouble. Dude nods sagely, and says back 'oh, I see. He's designated driver'.
I've got one I thought was cute and one that was not so cute.
Cute: was working with a nursing home resident at work and was talking about how hot it was. Mentioned we took LO outside in his stroller to cool off yesterday afternoon. She asked, "Have you given him ice cream?" She knows he's only 7 weeks old. And she's had 5 children of her own. Made me laugh.
Not so cute: when I went back to work I ran into the wife of one of the residents I work with, she saw I was using a walker and I explained I'd had a complication with the birth. She said, "yeah, I thought you would, because of how big you were getting." How rude! There may be a grain of truth to it, that my weight gain predisposed me to complications, but what happened to me was really rare, and the doctor said no one could have predicted it. Her comment made me feel like it was all my fault.
@heidiiwa OH MY!!! That's horrible. I'm sorry that happened. Ugh. I was going to say that people need to think and then speak....but the majority of people would still probably say the same stupid stuff.
Lady: it's hot out here, do you have any water for the baby? Me: no, they don't give water to babies anymore Lady: of course they do! I gave them to my daughters Me: yeah, that's not recommended anymore Lady: of course it is. They even have that brand, "nursery" water
My FIL told me last night that something must be wrong with my baby because he always has his fists tensed so tight and he makes fists a lot............. Yep. Probably he's not normal ?!?!
I don't know if this qualifies for this thread, but I have to share.. While having lunch with a gf the other day she was talking about her little boy (he just turned 6 months), she was saying how they give him coke and sweet tea in a straw and they give him food when they go out to eat, she said they will ask for a tortilla shell at a Mexican restaurant and let him "gnaw" on it while they eat...she then goes on to say that since her and the baby's dad eat junk food and don't eat healthy that they aren't going to make him eat healthy because it's "hypocritical" if they don't and he does. That was by far the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Anyways...carry on
I don't know if this qualifies for this thread, but I have to share.. While having lunch with a gf the other day she was talking about her little boy (he just turned 6 months), she was saying how they give him coke and sweet tea in a straw and they give him food when they go out to eat, she said they will ask for a tortilla shell at a Mexican restaurant and let him "gnaw" on it while they eat...she then goes on to say that since her and the baby's dad eat junk food and don't eat healthy that they aren't going to make him eat healthy because it's "hypocritical" if they don't and he does. That was by far the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Anyways...carry on
Edited: Oh the typos. Meh.
This hurts my heart.
There's a woman at my office who gives really backhanded compliments, and loves to hate on me in particular. She's the assistant to an important person, so I can't really say anything. Two of my non-pregnancy/baby related examples:
"Oh, you always look so... comfortable." "Aw, look at you with your little rumpled sweater." (For the record, others regularly comment that I dress up more than most other people at the office. I'm really not a slob!)
When I brought LO to the office to meet people recently, she sighed and said, "Look at you. You're always just toooo skinny, aren't you. Even when you have a baby." No hello, no smile, nothing friendly. Just this weird accusation. She then said deadpan, "He looks like your husband" and walked away.
I don't know if this qualifies for this thread, but I have to share.. While having lunch with a gf the other day she was talking about her little boy (he just turned 6 months), she was saying how they give him coke and sweet tea in a straw and they give him food when they go out to eat, she said they will ask for a tortilla shell at a Mexican restaurant and let him "gnaw" on it while they eat...she then goes on to say that since her and the baby's dad eat junk food and don't eat healthy that they aren't going to make him eat healthy because it's "hypocritical" if they don't and he does. That was by far the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Anyways...carry on
Edited: Oh the typos. Meh.
while i do see the logic behind it.. its still stupid.
people like to tell me how "small" he is. uhm no the 15+ stitches i had to get in my virginia will tell you otherwise. as well as this kid is over 2 feet long now at 5 weeks. and will double his weight soon. edit for spelling
I have too many to say! I'm a twin mama. 1. Are they twins? 2. Are they identical? (They look so different! ) 3. You're seriously breastfeeding twins? How do you do it? 4. You must have your hands full. How do you handle it? (We have a 3 year old ds.) 5. Are they both girls? (Every time I've been asked this, they're both in dresses.) 6. I cannot stand people who think it's ok to touch my children. While shopping at Walmart one of the girls got fussy, so my dh took her out and held her. We were at the checkouts and this lady behind us came up and started prodding at her. She said it was ok because she had twin girls of her own. Then another time we were at this truck show for kids. They had different fire trucks and army vehicles and such there for kids to come sit in. One of the girls was fussy so I was rubbing her head and trying to give her a paci. This lady came up, pushed me out if the way and started touching her. I freaked out on her and walked away. 7. A total stranger came up to me as I was checking out at a store one day and told me I had beautiful girls and she wanted to hold them while I checked out. I told her no and she sat there the entire time I was checking out arguing with me.
In the grocery checkout aisle and the employee looks at baby and says, "Oh the baby!!! He is fussy, he wants mommy's milk!" Then, turns to me and asks, "Do you breastfeed?" To which I quietly replied, "Uh, yea" fully aware of the younger gentleman behind me. She replied "oh good, I did with my children." I wasn't embarrassed by the question but, really? The checkout? I don't need any more attention drawn to the ladies than need be. Also, why not just ask what his name was? LMAO!
A distant family member who's a L&D nurse asked, "Are you weird about people holding him?" It cracked me up because I called her out on it, and she said if she asks that way, she always gets to hold the babies.
(She would have been allowed to anyway. The family calls her the Baby Whisperer - they melt in her hands!)
I got asked today twice if mine was a boy or a girl. He's dressed in a navy romper with sharks all over it. I mean I'm all for gender neutral, and he has some things that could go either way. I could see people asking in those. This is not one of them though....
I got asked today twice if mine was a boy or a girl. He's dressed in a navy romper with sharks all over it. I mean I'm all for gender neutral, and he has some things that could go either way. I could see people asking in those. This is not one of them though....
I got the same! We dress her in lots of gender neutral clothes but today she was in a pink outfit with bows (bows!) and there's a pink owl pacifier holder on her stroller. I'll chalk it up to the lady who asked being older than dirt...
A new one tonight. I took dd to Lowe's. The lady making the paint decided to talk to me about a friend's cousin who had downs. Then proceeded to tell me about how this girl had no cartliage between her knees and didn't notice because she was always in pain. Geez lady that's not a comforting story. I know we are in for some health problems but definitely not something you say to a new mom.
A new one tonight. I took dd to Lowe's. The lady making the paint decided to talk to me about a friend's cousin who had downs. Then proceeded to tell me about how this girl had no cartliage between her knees and didn't notice because she was always in pain. Geez lady that's not a comforting story. I know we are in for some health problems but definitely not something you say to a new mom.
Ugh. People can be so ignorant. I'm so sorry they have to thrust that on you. That's maddening. You have a great attitude, but don't feel like you need to take that crap from people. If you snap at them, that's fair. This goes beyond strangers just wanting to engage.
A new one tonight. I took dd to Lowe's. The lady making the paint decided to talk to me about a friend's cousin who had downs. Then proceeded to tell me about how this girl had no cartliage between her knees and didn't notice because she was always in pain. Geez lady that's not a comforting story. I know we are in for some health problems but definitely not something you say to a new mom.
I can't understand how someone would ever think this is appropriate. Sorry you are dealing with obnoxious folks and comments.
A new one tonight. I took dd to Lowe's. The lady making the paint decided to talk to me about a friend's cousin who had downs. Then proceeded to tell me about how this girl had no cartliage between her knees and didn't notice because she was always in pain. Geez lady that's not a comforting story. I know we are in for some health problems but definitely not something you say to a new mom.
Ugh. Super annoying and I agree that you have the right to snap at them!
I also hope I'm not over stepping but I feel the need to add that I have a cousin with downs...and she's awesome!
Haven't been on this board in a while, but recently this has been happening a lot and it drives me nuts:
Baby starts crying while in the mall or in public somewhere, I pull off to the side to try to soothe her. People go out of their way to come over, see my baby crying and make comments like "oh, someone's not happy" or "what a cranky baby". Like who says you have to stop and make comments? Just keep walking
my 30 year old brother ( he does have Aspergers) tonight was watching the Simpsons and my daughter started crying. He then said "shut the f up you little shit" I'm not sure I have ever exploded as intensely and as quickly as that before. Next time I see him he's dead and I will enjoy the blood that's left on my hands. I have never been so angry.
my 30 year old brother ( he does have Aspergers) tonight was watching the Simpsons and my daughter started crying. He then said "shut the f up you little shit" I'm not sure I have ever exploded as intensely and as quickly as that before. Next time I see him he's dead and I will enjoy the blood that's left on my hands. I have never been so angry.
Today someone asked me how much my adorable baby doll cost. Wait what i don't even really know where to start no just no. I responded with a well he took nine months to grow (yes I am awkward)
I really hate when LO is crying and people offer their opinions on what he needs. Especially strangers, but even family members.
I know it only bothers me because I'm upset that LO is crying (he rarely does it for an unknown reason), and it is displaced frustration... But it makes me want to punch a hole in the wall. Tell me more about how you know better than me what my baby needs!
@virginiaunicorn11 I personally love "have you tried feeding her?" Gee, what a great suggestion! As a mom of 2, I didn't realize you have to FEED them! I just thought they needed water and sunlight. Silly me. *Eye roll*
Re: The things people say when you have a baby...
Every time there has been a breeze this summer someone says it now. LOL
Then one of my coworkers (that one coworker whom everyone dislikes actually) told me "oh what a large forehead he has." If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all lady!
DD is somewhere around 9 or 10 lbs now, at 10 weeks. So she's chunking up with some cute little rolls, but she's still in a pretty low %ile for babies her age.
MIL says to her, in her songsong-y baby talk voice "don't gain too much weight girlie, it's too hard to take off once you put it on." And then repeated that like 6 times.
Ok grandma, we'll put her on a diet so she's 10 lbs when she's 30 years old. WTF???
Also I find that a lot of the older generations are so shocked at how early I took my baby out. Yesterday at Harvey's someone asked me how old my baby is, I said "she's six weeks" and this woman looked horrified. She replied with 'oh, I didn't take my kids out in public til they were 3 months old'. I just politely walked away and didn't bother responding back, I didn't know what to say. but it's like some people are appalled that I started taking my baby out when she was 1-2 weeks old.
Seriously.
Ah... Beerpub humor
Cute: was working with a nursing home resident at work and was talking about how hot it was. Mentioned we took LO outside in his stroller to cool off yesterday afternoon. She asked, "Have you given him ice cream?" She knows he's only 7 weeks old. And she's had 5 children of her own. Made me laugh.
Not so cute: when I went back to work I ran into the wife of one of the residents I work with, she saw I was using a walker and I explained I'd had a complication with the birth. She said, "yeah, I thought you would, because of how big you were getting." How rude! There may be a grain of truth to it, that my weight gain predisposed me to complications, but what happened to me was really rare, and the doctor said no one could have predicted it. Her comment made me feel like it was all my fault.
I was going to say that people need to think and then speak....but the majority of people would still probably say the same stupid stuff.
Lady: it's hot out here, do you have any water for the baby?
Me: no, they don't give water to babies anymore
Lady: of course they do! I gave them to my daughters
Me: yeah, that's not recommended anymore
Lady: of course it is. They even have that brand, "nursery" water
Pretty sure that's for formula, but OKAY.
While having lunch with a gf the other day she was talking about her little boy (he just turned 6 months), she was saying how they give him coke and sweet tea in a straw and they give him food when they go out to eat, she said they will ask for a tortilla shell at a Mexican restaurant and let him "gnaw" on it while they eat...she then goes on to say that since her and the baby's dad eat junk food and don't eat healthy that they aren't going to make him eat healthy because it's "hypocritical" if they don't and he does. That was by far the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Anyways...carry on
Edited: Oh the typos. Meh.
There's a woman at my office who gives really backhanded compliments, and loves to hate on me in particular. She's the assistant to an important person, so I can't really say anything. Two of my non-pregnancy/baby related examples:
"Oh, you always look so... comfortable."
"Aw, look at you with your little rumpled sweater."
(For the record, others regularly comment that I dress up more than most other people at the office. I'm really not a slob!)
When I brought LO to the office to meet people recently, she sighed and said, "Look at you. You're always just toooo skinny, aren't you. Even when you have a baby." No hello, no smile, nothing friendly. Just this weird accusation. She then said deadpan, "He looks like your husband" and walked away.
I find her hilariously bitter.
people like to tell me how "small" he is. uhm no the 15+ stitches i had to get in my virginia will tell you otherwise. as well as this kid is over 2 feet long now at 5 weeks. and will double his weight soon.
edit for spelling
1. Are they twins?
2. Are they identical? (They look so different! )
3. You're seriously breastfeeding twins? How do you do it?
4. You must have your hands full. How do you handle it? (We have a 3 year old ds.)
5. Are they both girls? (Every time I've been asked this, they're both in dresses.)
6. I cannot stand people who think it's ok to touch my children. While shopping at Walmart one of the girls got fussy, so my dh took her out and held her. We were at the checkouts and this lady behind us came up and started prodding at her. She said it was ok because she had twin girls of her own. Then another time we were at this truck show for kids. They had different fire trucks and army vehicles and such there for kids to come sit in. One of the girls was fussy so I was rubbing her head and trying to give her a paci. This lady came up, pushed me out if the way and started touching her. I freaked out on her and walked away.
7. A total stranger came up to me as I was checking out at a store one day and told me I had beautiful girls and she wanted to hold them while I checked out. I told her no and she sat there the entire time I was checking out arguing with me.
**** At least weekly, I get the "are they identical."
I have a boy and a girl.
(She would have been allowed to anyway. The family calls her the Baby Whisperer - they melt in her hands!)
"Aww, how adoreable! How old is she?"
"Omg he's so cute! And looks so very obviously like a boy, you know sometimes its hard to tell, but not with him!"
@-)
When I said he would go to daycare while my husband and I are in school, "You should'nt leave him with a caretaker. He needs his mommy!"
When I said, "He'll be fine. He'll enjoy playing with the other babies," she said "No he won't!"
Sigh. Way to guilt trip me, lady...
You have a great attitude, but don't feel like you need to take that crap from people. If you snap at them, that's fair. This goes beyond strangers just wanting to engage.
I also hope I'm not over stepping but I feel the need to add that I have a cousin with downs...and she's awesome!
Baby starts crying while in the mall or in public somewhere, I pull off to the side to try to soothe her. People go out of their way to come over, see my baby crying and make comments like "oh, someone's not happy" or "what a cranky baby". Like who says you have to stop and make comments? Just keep walking
&& my personal fav is still "you look great for just having a baby". Well thanks for the back handed complement.
I know it only bothers me because I'm upset that LO is crying (he rarely does it for an unknown reason), and it is displaced frustration... But it makes me want to punch a hole in the wall. Tell me more about how you know better than me what my baby needs!