I have been on this BMB since finding out I was pregnant at about 5.5 weeks, which puts me at practically 13 weeks on this board. I've witnessed the drama, the silly blocking of people, the threads being shut down, etc. But for the most part, it's been well maintained.
So my question is...
What is going on right now?? Why are there 2-3 gender fantasy mythbuster posts? Random symptom posts? And all from users I definitely don't recognize. I'm not saying "KEEP OUT" But it's starting to feel a little rude to me... I think most of us on here have tried to ensure this board is fun and well coordinated. But it's starting to suck and not just because certain users got banned.
I dunno what to do....but I liked this board for a long time.
Re: What's Happening to Our BMB????
Many of us got sick of being called bully's, mean, the gestapo, etc for trying to keep it all together.
No one has stepped up to do all of those things and the BMB has become a mess of SSS, drive by's abd AW's. Which is what we all said would happen. There's no organization for the people who want to contribute etc because no one has stepped up to do it.
Also this is the third thread you have started on this topic...if you are bothered step up and do something about it instead of complaining
I never thought anyone was a bully on this board but felt like other people DID have it handled, hence why I didn't feel like I needed to do much or say much. Part of the reasoning for this post was in hopes some of the folks randomly posting will read and see that they aren't following the rules. Perhaps passive aggressive, I'm not sure.
Either way, just wanted to see if other people had any input. But, I guess the answer is clear.
There have been a lot of posts in the last few days on this topic and they all blur together
I just reckon we should ignore repeat posts (and annoying gender-test ones!) and people will hopefully get the message?! If not...oh well?! Maybe my pregnancy hormones are contributing to my state of 'who really cares?' about this?! One day this message board will be a distant memory as hopefully we'll all have little babies to keep us busy instead!
I'm not one to speak up, but in my previous BMB it was awesome, and after my DD was born it was one place that I turned to for advice and support from moms that had babies that were doing the same things as I was.
Tips on baby wearing, teething, CIO, introducing solids, BF etc. Stuff that was really helpful and useful and important.
While some of these topics are fine to browse while trying to pass the time, a million baby naming threads is crazy (esp when there is an entire baby name board) and a random thread is necessary for people to be able to throw thing out there about themselves and really get to know one another.
When DD was 6m there was a TB exodus to TCF/GBCB, we also made a FB group of about 30 pp and I'm very connected to these people across the country and in other parts of the world that I feel are genuinely my "friends" and are there to support and offer advice when needed.
Unfortunately I don't think this BMB will ever get there. People post threads instead of googling things. And people get way to offended when they told how things work.
I'll stick around, but I'm a more meaningful member elsewhere, where people use the boards more thoughtfully.
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
People moved on and answered but it was just tiring to have been harassed first.
I tried....I even look on other boards to see what good threads they have going. And I agree we're getting a lot of repeat posts and drive by posters....it's just unfortunate that it messed up the flow of everything.
This is also a sort of Laggy time for us in the 2nd trimester, we're not huge and having 3rd trimester probs, yet many of us are out of the ickiness of the 1st trimester and have a lot of out questions answered & are more knowledgeable about pregnancy in general.... so this may be partly why the board is so quiet.
All we can do is try to contribute to the liveliness and fun if we want it to pick up again.
I guess I may finally have to suck it up and learn how to gif.....
Edited to add... When having these conversations don't just skip over all of the comments and only post what's relevant to you. That's why you guys are so "bored"
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
If I had to guess, because as a PP mentioned, my opinion does not reflect all of the bmb (although I'm sure at least some will agree), the people who were more frequent users just got tired of being labelled as tyrants for trying to maintain the community - and it certainly didn't help the situation when admin came in swinging the old ban hammer without looking at the situation at all.
So yeah, this is the result. A shambles. But hey, no one's had to be banned in at least a day so that's a positive right?
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
I 100 percent agree with this statement. It wasn't just "direction" being given, it was RUDE and non-constructive critisism that stirred up the pot on a daily basis and I got sick of it too. I can think of five people off of the top of my head who have been banned and the boards seem better now. With fear of being banned (I am guessing), some of the ones who were also pretty snarky have seemed to tame down. I would read some of the comments on here and think there is NO WAY someone would ever say that to my face. I just can't even imagine. A lot of us FTM have concerns, questions about little things and I for one was appreciative of the constructive advice, the out of line and "mean girls" advice was unsolicited and made this board unwelcoming. We all have a common goal here... A happy and healthy nine months. Let's just try to stick with what's important
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
Edit typo
So I guess (I think it was you who asked about this) that if there is a clique here, it's made of people who appreciate the give and take of conversations that were made here, rather than everyone just talking about themselves all the time.
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
What is the "certain" group you are referring to?
Also, if it's any consolation people should stop posting on the 16w one soon, the "end of the month group" is all nearly 17w now.
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
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