2 weeks?!??! Are you freakin' kidding me?!?!

stephz44 · August 2015

So, we had our NT scan yesterday! Everything looked good and perfect! Normal thickness in the neck! So, no worries there. However, the tech gave us her best guess about the gender of baby (she said she would bet on it). She said that it looks like a boy. Now, I'm trying not to get to excited, but there are only girls in the next generation on both sides of my family. A boy would be a breath of fresh air. We also did blood work, but have to wait 2 WHOLE FREAKING WEEKS to confirm the tech's guess. WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO FOR TWO WEEKS!!!!!!! This is killing me and it's only been one day!!! Any thoughts or ideas??

wisco29 · August 2015

Some people are team green and the majority of people don't find out until their anatomy scans which aren't for a few weeks... Or up to 8 or more.

Glad to hear that your baby looks healthy

VitaLuna · August 2015

Like many people here, I won't be finding out for 7-8 more weeks... So...

minivanmafia · August 2015

Im sorry, this just made me do this. But hey, congrats on your healthy baby!!

acuteangles · August 2015

At least you don't have to wait two whole weeks to find out if your baby has a serious disease or abnormality?

Achae · August 2015

First world woes.

minivanmafia · August 2015

Achae said:

First world woes.

Hey, we need to start doing first world problem threads!

@AdventureMama @Wisco29 @MamaFroFro @MrsJG3 and anyone else I forgot to tag.

Aussiechicka · August 2015

I spent that two weeks worrying that I had passed on the genetic disease I was a carrier of, not what that sex of my baby was.

stephz44 · August 2015

oh. wow....I'm so sorry that I forgot to worry about everyone else's problems. Forgive me for trying to find some ways to past the time. p.s. don't judge me for a simple post that I made concerning the fact of waiting. You have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. Thanks though.

minivanmafia · August 2015

@stephz44 Understood, but how are we suppose to know when you made the biggest deal about how are you suppose to go on for the next 2 weeks not knowing the sex of your baby? I get your excited, everyone loves to find out the sex but you post this in a group that you are not active in and expect a different result? Im sorry your feelings were hurt that you didn't get the response you were after. Im still happy for you that your baby is healthy, thats all I want at my Anatomy scan in 7 weeks.

strlitemiss · August 2015

stephz44 said:
oh. wow....I'm so sorry that I forgot to worry about everyone else's problems. Forgive me for trying to find some ways to past the time. p.s. don't judge me for a simple post that I made concerning the fact of waiting. You have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. Thanks though.

Conceiving this baby was nothing short of a miracle for us but 1) again it's a guess I'm not really sure what you were looking for 2) we're not psychics 3) 2 weeks is a flash of time some people have to wait much longer.

cantobean · August 2015

I mean....I'm sorry you had trouble getting pregnant? Or something? But seriously, most people on here don't know the sex of their baby and won't for a while so....it's just hard for us to care about this. No offense. The health of your baby is much more significant and you can celebrate that for two weeks!

4N6s · August 2015

I have almost 6 weeks!! Ughhh

baby0708 · August 2015

Having a healthy baby is the most important. I do understand the anticipation of having to wait to be told such exciting news can be annoying. Also, since this is a miracle baby for you the anxiety of the unknown can be difficult to deal with- not everyone is going to know what you have gone through to get to this point so for now just enjoy that your baby is healthy! Sometimes the test doesn't even take two weeks so you might find out the awesome news sooner. Every milestone is important so celebrate that the baby is happy and healthy!

VitaLuna · August 2015

stephz44 said:
oh. wow....I'm so sorry that I forgot to worry about everyone else's problems. Forgive me for trying to find some ways to past the time. p.s. don't judge me for a simple post that I made concerning the fact of waiting. You have no idea what I've gone through to get pregnant. Thanks though.

Let me help fix that for you:

"Yeah, you know, I didn't really think of it in the grand scheme of things. I went through a lot TTC, so I guess this is just a small wait after all. Hoping the 2 weeks fly by!"

A lot of people have gone through a lot already, and many more don't know yet the challenges they'll endure this pregnancy. It doesn't negate yours or anyone's feelings, but you can see why many replies are encouraging you to look at things in perspective and suggesting that maybe this isn't the ZOMG thread you feel like it is.

ETA: we'd love to hear what you're having when you find out in a couple weeks. There's an announce the sex post pinned at the top

AdventureMama · August 2015

TheBeggsBunch said:

Achae said:

First world woes.

Hey, we need to start doing first world problem threads!
@AdventureMama @Wisco29 @MamaFroFro @MrsJG3 and anyone else I forgot to tag.

Done. We used to do this in my old BMB and it was so fun. Good idea!
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12613437/first-world-problems?new=1

AdventureMama · August 2015

@vitaluna Well said and also YGPM

kira91499 · August 2015

Congrats @stephz44 ! We had our test on the 5th and the wait is killing us too. I stalk my phone all day checking for the call! They told us 10-12 days but said it could be sooner. Good luck!

courteli · August 2015

**Removed for TOU Violation**

minivanmafia · August 2015

Well than maybe you should post more and help with the positivity then huh?

courteli · August 2015

Who would want to when everything gets picked apart? It's pretty pathetic!

minivanmafia · August 2015

Then whyy….? are you here.

courteli · August 2015

To see all the positive women get excited about their pregnancy, get info I can't get anywhere else, get advice.. why are you? To tell other women what they can and can't do? The bump police? Lol sillyness. Have a good night!

AdventureMama · August 2015

minivanmafia · August 2015

I don't think I have told anyone what they can and can not do. No one on this post has.Most have said something positive to the OP about her healthy baby. I even explained that it is exciting finding out the sex of the baby but gave a few pointers about the board. Im sorry that sounded rude to you but like its been posted on here several time, if thats not your cup of tea, Im sorry. Seems your experience around here has been above par or else you wouldn't still be lurking around. You have a good night also, guess Ill "see" ya tomorrow.

Jwrig104 · August 2015

You can really tell that this is a community of pregnant women.

cantobean · August 2015

courteli said:
It's hard to even look at these posts now... so many hormonal rude women on here judging others. She's allowed to be anxious on her results. So many stipulations on what everyone should and shouldn't post it's ridiculous.... give her a break! Sheesh!

Oh, you're allowed to post whatever you want!

What is NOT reasonable is expecting that every post gets a happy reaction from everyone all the time. Of course anybody's feelings are valid, but why would you expect a group of strangers to immediately empathize with no context or regard for other people's situations? It's just a little odd.

So post away, but when you call a group of women "rude" and "hormonal", for example, it's reasonable to assume those people will not react super positively. Sorry it's hard for you to look at the posts. Must be tough.

Jellybelly119 · August 2015

courteli said:
Who would want to when everything gets picked apart? It's pretty pathetic!

There are AT LEAST 6 other threads on the first few pages about NT scans...plenty of people had posted about it previously. OP could have jumped in on one of those no problem (although a few were about more substantial concerns.) There's also a thread about the sex of your baby, where lots of ladies have said they're jealous about everyone finding out early because they're excited- no one has "picked them apart" on that thread.
Everyone's excited; we just don't all need to create our own special threads all day long...and we certainly don't need to disregard other people's more pressing issues by blowing our trials and tribulations out of proportion.

JScamelipardalis · August 2015

@stephz44 hope the two weeks fly by for you! You should start a little project for the baby (like a DIY if you're crafty) to make the time go faster.

Monkeybutt80 · August 2015

It's unrealistic to expect all positive bubbly responses from a large group of people on a forum.
You can post whatever you want, but I get on here, read a thread about moms with NT results that weren't good, waiting for their cvs results on their baby, crossing their fingers, and my heart breaks. Then I go to the next thread and someone who I don't even recognize is screaming in all caps about how they can't wait 2 weeks to confirm the sex of their healthy baby? I can't help but roll my eyes at it.

AdventureMama · August 2015

Jwrig104 said:

You can really tell that this is a community of pregnant women.

Haha what does that even mean?

Oh, let me guess, we're all just acting sooo hormonal, right? It couldn't be the fact that we're real women who don't react well to being called judgmental, could it? Oh, and, you know, we couldn't possibly have our own opinions about things and aren't afraid to share them. That's not it, right?

courteli · August 2015

Anyways, enjoy your pregnancies!

I'm going to keep "lurking" around in hopes of some good info that will help me along with my pregnancy ups and downs. Hahaha! ♡♡

MamaFroFro · August 2015

stephz44 said:
So, we had our NT scan yesterday! Everything looked good and perfect! Normal thickness in the neck! So, no worries there. However, the tech gave us her best guess about the gender of baby (she said she would bet on it). She said that it looks like a boy. Now, I'm trying not to get to excited, but there are only girls in the next generation on both sides of my family. A boy would be a breath of fresh air. We also did blood work, but have to wait 2 WHOLE FREAKING WEEKS to confirm the tech's guess. WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO FOR TWO WEEKS!!!!!!! This is killing me and it's only been one day!!! Any thoughts or ideas??

QFP

MrsJG3 · August 2015

courteli said:
Anyways, enjoy your pregnancies! I'm going to keep "lurking" around in hopes of some good info that will help me along with my pregnancy ups and downs. Hahaha! ♡♡

Oh so you just want to use us to get "good info" but contribute nothing. Got it.

oxfordlanding · August 2015

I thought it was a funny post and took it in the tongue in cheek manner that it was clearly meant.
Some people clearly have zero sense of humour.

MrsJ2522 · August 2015

I didn't find this post funny. I also have a great sense of humor. When random people, (Stephz44, Oxfordlanding, courteli), posts on a board that they have never contributed to before, posting about how she can't wait to know the sex of a healthy baby, and then get upset when people actually tell her that waiting to find the sex out isn't as bad as she makes it out to seem, then she and all you white knights are going to have a hard time. For someone who went through many fertility issues before getting pregnant, I don't find it funny at all when some random person makes a thread like this to get attention. It's not funny to those who have to suffer waiting two weeks to see if there will even be a heart beat on their next visit. So no, there was nothing funny or humorous about this post and I hope you get some great info about posting to this board next time before you dare talk to the women on this board who have helped and contributed way more than you all have.

SarahS06 · August 2015

tboslet said:
I didn't find this post funny. I also have a great sense of humor. When random people, (Stephz44, Oxfordlanding, courteli), posts on a board that they have never contributed to before, posting about how she can't wait to know the sex of a healthy baby, and then get upset when people actually tell her that waiting to find the sex out isn't as bad as she makes it out to seem, then she and all you white knights are going to have a hard time. For someone who went through many fertility issues before getting pregnant, I don't find it funny at all when some random person makes a thread like this to get attention. It's not funny to those who have to suffer waiting two weeks to see if there will even be a heart beat on their next visit. So no, there was nothing funny or humorous about this post and I hope you get some great info about posting to this board next time before you dare talk to the women on this board who have helped and contributed way more than you all have.

This. I wasn't going to chime in but against my better judgement, here I go.

I'm so happy that you found out you have a healthy baby! At the same time, please consider that some of us have gone through very difficult two week waits. Like what? How about waiting two weeks to find out that you have to have a d&c instead of miscarrying naturally? Or to find out your baby has no heartbeat? Or if you might have to make one of the most difficult decisions of your life regarding your pregnancy when having a baby is all you've wanted? Or what about the women who struggle(d) with infertility and waited two weeks every month?

Like pps said - we can't wait to share in your excitement. And, you can't expect others to be sensitive to the things you've gone through when you can't see that others may have shared in difficult times too.

kbedfox · August 2015

tboslet said:
I didn't find this post funny. I also have a great sense of humor. When random people, (Stephz44, Oxfordlanding, courteli), posts on a board that they have never contributed to before, posting about how she can't wait to know the sex of a healthy baby, and then get upset when people actually tell her that waiting to find the sex out isn't as bad as she makes it out to seem, then she and all you white knights are going to have a hard time. For someone who went through many fertility issues before getting pregnant, I don't find it funny at all when some random person makes a thread like this to get attention. It's not funny to those who have to suffer waiting two weeks to see if there will even be a heart beat on their next visit. So no, there was nothing funny or humorous about this post and I hope you get some great info about posting to this board next time before you dare talk to the women on this board who have helped and contributed way more than you all have.

Preach. I went through 2 years of fertility treatments, who knows how many TWWs for just a positive pregnancy test, and I'm sure many women here have gone through much more. The anxiety between getting a HPT+ and seeing a heartbeat is overwhelming, and every wait between appointments, just wondering if our babies are still healthy and growing, is the same. I think you'll survive 2 weeks to find out the sex of your healthy baby.