Patience :(

Re: Patience :(

• bbiutmcph member

  August 2015

  babykitcat said:

  So DH has a daughter (my stepdaughter) who is 5. She is extremely hyper these days....screaming in the house, chasing the cat, making so much noise it's wearing on my patience. I have disciplined her more in the past week then I ever have and I feel so guilty!! DH has too but I feel my patience are a lot shorter then his are. He also suggested keeping her home from daycare a few days and she could stay with me while he is at work....she loves being home. But the thought scares me that it will stress me out or she will be too hyper to handle. DH is a sensitive guy too so I feel bad I have said no and sent her to daycare. It's not like a sit around and do nothing all day...the house is spotless, laundry done and all that stuff. DH and I have talked about it. I explained my ribs are constantly being jabbed by a foot and my mobility and patience aren't as good as I wish they were. I said I just can't keep up to DD like I used to and I can't keep up. I think he understands but as I said he is a bit sensitive....should I feel bad ladies?!?! I love them both but for sanity I also need my time.

  
  

  
  

  5 is a tough age.  She is hyper because she is a 5 year old full of energy.  THey do well with structure in my experience.  It's only going to get more stressful once the baby is here and dealing with two kids.  Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with her going to daycare but I probably would have probably let her stay home a few days if she wanted to and tried to do some things with her she enjoys before she is thrown into another whole change of being a big sister.  My kids are most loud and crazy when bored.  I try to find things for them to do when we are stuck indoors or else I will be pulling my hair out.  Sure it sucks when pregnant but such is parenting and it's not going to get easier once the baby is here.  There isn't anything wrong with also wanting alone time but I would probably balance the two and let her continue her daycare schedule most days but also have some get to stay home days.  

  
  

  
  
  

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• wildbutterfli2001 member

  August 2015

  I have a 22 month old son who is in full swing of terrible twos and I'm a sahm. It is incredibly difficult for me to keep up with him and my patience is also a bit weary at times. It makes me feel like a bad mom and a failure sometimes. I know that one baby brother is here and I'm not pregnant and uncomfortable all the time things will go back to normal and that this is just temporary. My DH has been putting in a ton of ot lately, which we need but that means I'm on my own alot more so it's harder on all of us. Just keep your chin up and tell yourself you're almost there! I totally understand how you feel and why. Is not that you don't love her, just that your exhausted, in the most difficult stage of pregnancy and it's hard to keep a bored child entertained all day long!

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• MrsN092714 member

  August 2015

  An evening walk to the park where you can sit down while she plays and burns off some of the excess energy might make a world of difference. A little fresh air and some good running around might be exactly what you both need. I feel you on the patience, I am pregnant with my first but have two dogs whom I love but find myself yelling at more than ever and then feel bad about it. Thankfully our pregnancies are on the home stretch! Good luck, I'm sure your doing a great job with her.

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• babykitcat member

  August 2015

  It's so hot here anything is an inside activity during the day. DH was coming home for lunch so I had him bring her home too. She has been very good! She will be home tomorrow too then when DH is off work (early day for him) we are going to go to the lake.

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