I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
AHH!! I LURKED THAT DRAMA! It was awesome.... (probably not for you, but it was totally popcorn worthy for a lurker like me)
I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
That's BANANAS!
Yea it was crazy! She had a birth story and everything. She even had a labor buddy. She said she had like 4 kids and was gay (which is ok), she also posted pictures of her new baby, the whole nine yards including HDBD pictures. We later found out she was anything but what she said. She had never had kids, yea she was married but to a man, and admitted to stealing pictures of on old friends of her from her fb. She never gave us these aftermath facts, it was the person she actually confessed to. Anyway, another reason why I NEVER post pictures of my kids online.
I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
Man, that is crazy. I'm so glad S13 didn't have any of that crazy. We did have one very beloved member who came on here a few months after our babies were born and told some ladies in another board (I wish I could remember which one...) that one of the S13 regs who was not in our FB group was PMing her really mean, crazy things and bullying her. These two people had never gotten along but the person accused of sending mean messages was kind of an AW and a lot of people got annoyed with her throughout the course of our pregnancies, so everyone went to bat for our very loved, very popular friend. There was basically a huge huge huge thread calling this second girl out for being a jerk, posting really mean GIFs, and defending our friend (this was all allowed back then... now it'd be shut down real quick).
Anyway, girl 2 came on and said she hadn't done that and she had no problem with girl 1, and no one really believed her. Girl 1 was asked to provide screenshots of said messages, and girl 2 gave her permission to post whatever screenshots she had of convos between them. Girl 1 said she wasn't sure how to screenshot on her computer but would work on it. Then a neutral party (a trusted reg from Parenting) offered to look at girl 2's inbox for her, so she PM'd her her password, neutral party logged into her account, then came back and said there were no such messages in girl 2's inbox. Our friend FINALLY posted screenshots, and that worked for awhile, until a few of us in the S13 FB group started looking at them really closely and figured out they were doctored. She literally took a super old message from her and photoshopped it to make it look like this girl was bullying her and she wasn't.
She ended up leaving our FB group really angrily because she couldn't believe we would take a closer look at the SSs and not just trust her, and a core group of her friends peaced out for awhile too, saying they couldn't believe after all this time that we'd question her. But she wouldn't admit, even to her little core group of friends in a PM on FB, that she lied and she refused to answer tough questions and wouldn't let any of them access her account to see the messages and prove she wasn't lying (she kept insisting that girl 2 must have deleted them somehow even though that's not an option on TB). Almost all of them (except girl 1, who wasn't welcome back) ended up coming back to the group and everyone was just so bewildered that someone who was literally almost everyone's favorite person (she was super snarky and funny and kind of the mama of our board the entire nine months) would lie like that for attention. It was crazy.
@AdventureMama I remember that (I was mainly a lurker at that point). That was horrible and a shocker, it just goes to show you never really know who you're talking to/sharing information with.
I try to stay up on being involved but it can be hard working full-time as well as having constant stuff come up. Hopefully I'm not in the "drive by" category. I really try to post and look at stuff as much as possible!
This is dead on. I read through all these posts and forms when I'm at work but I only can get on the app, my phone is really bad for typing and doesn't send notifications when new posts come in. I'd really like to be more involved (I'm into advice from others and really want to be plugged into a community feeling group before baby comes, especially because I'll be a sahm after) and it would be much easier on fb for me than the app. Half the time the app freaks and I can't even get back to the same form for hours!
From the sounds of it I would probably be considered a lurker by most though!
And the concerns about personal info are totally valid. I guess I just don really have that much up to make me worried!
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I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
This is becoming a really big thing now actually. My SIL won't post any pictures of her kids on fb or Instagram without her or their dad in them because a couple of her friends got notifications their kids pics were found on porn sites and fake accounts. Generally they steal the ones without the parents in them.
Feb'16 September Siggy Challenge: Favorite thing about fall
This is becoming a really big thing now actually. My SIL won't post any pictures of her kids on fb or Instagram without her or their dad in them because a couple of her friends got notifications their kids pics were found on porn sites and fake accounts. Generally they steal the ones without the parents in them.
That is really scary! I think I will just keep photos of my kids in an album and to decorate my house.
This is becoming a really big thing now actually. My SIL won't post any pictures of her kids on fb or Instagram without her or their dad in them because a couple of her friends got notifications their kids pics were found on porn sites and fake accounts. Generally they steal the ones without the parents in them.
That is really scary! I think I will just keep photos of my kids in an album and to decorate my house.
I watermark or don't post faces. It's sad how this is happening. And all my stuff is private and locked down.
I was in the July 2014 board. And we had an admin who was really active and seemed pretty cool. Everyone liked her. We stayed around the entire time. Well, we didn't find out she was a catfish until after we all had our babies. Then she was discovered by one of our other regs by piecing together things. This lady was also in our fb group that was created fairly "early" on. She faked EVERYTHING! She had pictures of her "children" which were actually stolen pictures from other people online! Be careful girls...
That is insane! Holy crap, if people have that much time on their hands, they can come clean my house or weed my garden or do something productive with their life. Dang, I barely have time to go to the bathroom, let alone make up and moderate a whole fake life. WTH is wrong with people?
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This is becoming a really big thing now actually. My SIL won't post any pictures of her kids on fb or Instagram without her or their dad in them because a couple of her friends got notifications their kids pics were found on porn sites and fake accounts. Generally they steal the ones without the parents in them.
That is really scary! I think I will just keep photos of my kids in an album and to decorate my house.
I watermark or don't post faces. It's sad how this is happening. And all my stuff is private and locked down.
It really is too bad, I have friends that are far away and I want to be able to share everything with them - FB is how we usually do that, but I will definitly be thinking twice once LO comes before posting pics now.
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@Sillysnick2k16 how do you watermark a photo? I have concerns about posting baby pics online but both my mom and MIL think that I should so they can see them. I'd like to be able to share pics of my LO... just safely.
@Sillysnick2k16 how do you watermark a photo? I have concerns about posting baby pics online but both my mom and MIL think that I should so they can see them. I'd like to be able to share pics of my LO... just safely.
It really is too bad, I have friends that are far away and I want to be able to share everything with them - FB is how we usually do that, but I will definitly be thinking twice once LO comes before posting pics now.
-I share everything and I think my mom would go legit crazy if I didn't! Recently I went through my privacy settings and made everything viewable by friends except acquaintances. Then I made everyone who I didn't want to see everything I post acquaintances. I also went to old albums and changed the setting on those. It was a huge pain in the @$$ but now I have more control over who I want to see stuff and my mom still sees everything. You can also create albums and choose specific people who can see them in case you just want you parents and close relatives to see.
I was on the M15 BMB, but I wasn't OVERLY active…then my son was stillborn at the end of February. I'm really hoping to stay more involved this time around, because I have seen firsthand what an awesome support network these groups can be. That being said, if I could eventually pass as more than "drive by" material (lol), I would love to join a Facebook group…but probably once I'm a bit further along & we've all gotten to know each other a bit more, and perhaps once the drive by-er's have ran out of steam & aren't around as much! Just my opinion.
It really is too bad, I have friends that are far away and I want to be able to share everything with them - FB is how we usually do that, but I will definitly be thinking twice once LO comes before posting pics now.
-I share everything and I think my mom would go legit crazy if I didn't! Recently I went through my privacy settings and made everything viewable by friends except acquaintances. Then I made everyone who I didn't want to see everything I post acquaintances. I also went to old albums and changed the setting on those. It was a huge pain in the @$$ but now I have more control over who I want to see stuff and my mom still sees everything. You can also create albums and choose specific people who can see them in case you just want you parents and close relatives to see.
I did that too. But I later found out that when people like my pictures it shows on their friends feed, unless they have the same private settings. I couldn't figure out a way to make it completely private. So I just deleted everything, and don't allow people to take pictures of the kids. Since my husbands family is a fan of posting everything online, like its a diary.
I haven't posted much because I associated nausea with the bump for a while hah. Also, it got way crazy with sooo many people here I was just too overwhelmed. My N'11 group started off high, was whittled down, and has decreased some over the years to about 98. They're great. But over that time some girls lent money to others and the borrower never paid back. One girl turned another in to CPS for some really ridiculous post. So even in my happy group crazy shit has happened. Definitely be careful. I wouldn't do it different with them, but I'm still waiting it out here. As little as I've posted lately I doubt I'd make the cut right now anyways.
It really is too bad, I have friends that are far away and I want to be able to share everything with them - FB is how we usually do that, but I will definitly be thinking twice once LO comes before posting pics now.
-I share everything and I think my mom would go legit crazy if I didn't! Recently I went through my privacy settings and made everything viewable by friends except acquaintances. Then I made everyone who I didn't want to see everything I post acquaintances. I also went to old albums and changed the setting on those. It was a huge pain in the @$$ but now I have more control over who I want to see stuff and my mom still sees everything. You can also create albums and choose specific people who can see them in case you just want you parents and close relatives to see.
I did that too. But I later found out that when people like my pictures it shows on their friends feed, unless they have the same private settings. I couldn't figure out a way to make it completely private. So I just deleted everything, and don't allow people to take pictures of the kids. Since my husbands family is a fan of posting everything online, like its a diary.
That is so frustrating. I know for a fact all of my in-laws don't have the same privacy settings as me and share every picture they like as well. I'll probably try watermarking then!
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I'm a FTM so I read a lot but I don't have a lot to say because I have no experience. I don't want to be excluded from any future bump groups but I don't know that I like the Facebook idea either.
I'm a FTM so I read a lot but I don't have a lot to say because I have no experience. I don't want to be excluded from any future bump groups but I don't know that I like the Facebook idea either.
If you want to be a reg you have to just... post. There are lots of threads to participate on that aren't requiring STM+ advice. Get in there! Make us remember you and you won't be excluded!
I haven't posted much because I associated nausea with the bump for a while hah. Also, it got way crazy with sooo many people here I was just too overwhelmed. My N'11 group started off high, was whittled down, and has decreased some over the years to about 98. They're great. But over that time some girls lent money to others and the borrower never paid back. One girl turned another in to CPS for some really ridiculous post. So even in my happy group crazy shit has happened. Definitely be careful. I wouldn't do it different with them, but I'm still waiting it out here. As little as I've posted lately I doubt I'd make the cut right now anyways.
Oh man- I was in that July 15 group. I mostly just lurked because I couldn't figure out how to change my user name (I had made it my real name stupidly) but I remember that girl. I can't believe she catfished the Facebook group. I don't know if I was ever apart of that group... What a looney toon.
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Anyway, girl 2 came on and said she hadn't done that and she had no problem with girl 1, and no one really believed her. Girl 1 was asked to provide screenshots of said messages, and girl 2 gave her permission to post whatever screenshots she had of convos between them. Girl 1 said she wasn't sure how to screenshot on her computer but would work on it. Then a neutral party (a trusted reg from Parenting) offered to look at girl 2's inbox for her, so she PM'd her her password, neutral party logged into her account, then came back and said there were no such messages in girl 2's inbox. Our friend FINALLY posted screenshots, and that worked for awhile, until a few of us in the S13 FB group started looking at them really closely and figured out they were doctored. She literally took a super old message from her and photoshopped it to make it look like this girl was bullying her and she wasn't.
She ended up leaving our FB group really angrily because she couldn't believe we would take a closer look at the SSs and not just trust her, and a core group of her friends peaced out for awhile too, saying they couldn't believe after all this time that we'd question her. But she wouldn't admit, even to her little core group of friends in a PM on FB, that she lied and she refused to answer tough questions and wouldn't let any of them access her account to see the messages and prove she wasn't lying (she kept insisting that girl 2 must have deleted them somehow even though that's not an option on TB). Almost all of them (except girl 1, who wasn't welcome back) ended up coming back to the group and everyone was just so bewildered that someone who was literally almost everyone's favorite person (she was super snarky and funny and kind of the mama of our board the entire nine months) would lie like that for attention. It was crazy.
From the sounds of it I would probably be considered a lurker by most though!
And the concerns about personal info are totally valid. I guess I just don really have that much up to make me worried!
This is becoming a really big thing now actually. My SIL won't post any pictures of her kids on fb or Instagram without her or their dad in them because a couple of her friends got notifications their kids pics were found on porn sites and fake accounts. Generally they steal the ones without the parents in them.
I watermark or don't post faces. It's sad how this is happening. And all my stuff is private and locked down.
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K~ 22yo, C~ 20yo, J~ 18yo, N~ 13yo, G~ 11yo, M~ 7, A~5 and baby due 2/12/2016
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We heard a lot about other groups though, especially the one who bought some sort of rocking chair with money that was supposed to be donated.
There are crazy crazy people out there!
I did that too. But I later found out that when people like my pictures it shows on their friends feed, unless they have the same private settings. I couldn't figure out a way to make it completely private. So I just deleted everything, and don't allow people to take pictures of the kids. Since my husbands family is a fan of posting everything online, like its a diary.
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That is so frustrating. I know for a fact all of my in-laws don't have the same privacy settings as me and share every picture they like as well. I'll probably try watermarking then!
*Well okay, if you're crazy maybe... haha
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