Bed rest depression :(

designer303 · August 2015

anyone else? I'm so tired of being inside, I'm so tired of missing all the fun stuff with our DS and I guess it's really getting to me because I likely have 22 weeks left on bed rest. I have been doing okay, but it's week six of rest and we made a plan today to get me out of the house for a little but of course things did not line up and now I'm just sitting here feeling sad and trying to figure out how to turn my attitude around, any helpful suggestions very welcome.

juliesteve · August 2015

Ugh, I'm with you! I'm missing out on everything too with our DD, my friends, summer vacation plans, etc.
I've had my friends in for coffee/treats last week which helped a lot. And I just try and focus on the fact that as much as bed rest sucks, the alternative of a potential preterm labour or a baby born too little to survive is 100x worse. We lost our son almost 1 year ago when my water broke at 16w4d. We can't go through that again, so bed rest it is! I'm over 21 weeks now.

juliesteve · August 2015

And I've been off work and on rest since June 16th.

designer303 · August 2015

Thanks so much for replying, I appreciate hearing I'm not alone. I know it's much better than the alternative. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope that your rainbow keeps cooking for a good long time.

I was on rest with our son for 7 weeks due to PTL and I pretty much expected it again this time, I guess just not so early. I'm 16 weeks now and was put on rest at 10 weeks. I went out into the backyard and even just that small change is helping some. I wish you all the best and really appreciate you sharing and the support.

juliesteve · August 2015

That helped me a lot too - change of scenery! I don't stay in bed all day. I wake up, eat, and go to the couch. On nice days, I sit on our deck. I read, watch Netflix, hang out on Pinterest, my MIL visits since she's just up the street a little, and I do sedentary things with DD like crafts or snuggle with a movie. I'm not on super strict rest, but I don't do much as I spot very easily. Also, on days that I have appointments, I take a little longer route just for a bit of a drive. Small things, but definitely helpful. Each day with our nugget on the inside, I feel I've done good!

oregontrailmom · August 2015

I'm not currently on bed rest but afraid I might be heading there again soon. I spent 9 weeks on bed rest with my second baby and my first baby spend 21 days in the NICU after he was born at 33 weeks.

During my bed rest two years ago I was still getting over postpartum depression from my first baby. I was already going to counseling every other week and my OB insisted I keep going despite my bed rest because she knew the depression would just get worse.

I also tried to get out and sit in the sun as much as I could. I kept busy with netflix, books, and teaching myself new hobbies like how to crochet. You can learn pretty much anything on youtube so I just watched a bunch of videos and taught myself how to crochet off of them.

Hang in there because the bed rest will end and you will get your baby. I've been through the NICU route too and as tough as it is bed rest is better.

PlainJane8350 · August 2015

I stay in bed in the morning, then move to the couch until I'm tired. I also found researching baby products or planning the nursery good ways to stay busy and positive. I also entered sweepstakes, and won an expensive sleep sack! And found some part-time online work I could do from home. I know it's hard and if I had to hear one more person say that I was lucky to be on bed rest I would have used what little muscle I have left after atrophying in bed to punch them in the throat.

designer303 · August 2015

Thanks so much for the replies ladies, I think I just hit a low and between getting it out and your support I'm already feeling much better. I appreciate all your tips on survival. I tried to learn to crochet when I was on rest with DS and despite what everyone said I could not figure it out, but I talked to my mom last night and she is going to go and pick out the stuff so I can make a stocking (needlepoint- that I can manage) for LO and hopefully that will help pass the time, I know it did last time. Hugs to all of you, keep up the good work. And yes @PlainJane8350 people who think this is a nice break need a serious education.

PlainJane8350 · August 2015

I tried knitting and apparently was so bad that my grandmother went behind my back and asked my mom if she was sure that I wasn't left handed. Shesh! Better luck with needle pointing!

designer303 · August 2015

Oh no but we are in the same boat, my attempt at crocheting was so bad I was told it looked like a booger (green yarn) and that's when I quit.

allisongraw · August 2015

Hi fellow bed rest ladies! First post on this board, I am also on bed rest at 18 weeks, this is my second week. Working from home on the couch is a drag, my lower back hurts! But it keeps my mind occupied.
I lost a baby 2 years ago at 19 weeks due to IC..I got a cerclage put in this time at 14wks. 2 weeks ago my cervix was 2.5cm, yesterday it was only 7mm. Ugh. So I'm being even more militant with the bed rest, hoping he stays in there. Super scared.
Keep having dreams where I have blood everywhere. Not cool brain!
Also really sick of the comment "once you have the baby you'll wish you appreciated bed rest more"

justyh · August 2015

I've been in bed red rest since May due to needing an emergency cerclage put in at 20 weeks. I'm officially at 32 weeks! It was hard and now I am able to do light activities as long as it doesn't involve standing or walking for too long. It does get easier as the weeks go by and I found that keeping ur mind busy helps a lot!

designer303 · August 2015

@allisongraw I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm hoping you can hang in there, if it gives you any hope I made it with our son 3cm dilated for 7 seven weeks on strict bed rest. And yes people who have been on bed rest simply do not understand AT ALL. I'll be thinking of you and praying you make it to full term!

designer303 · August 2015

@justyh yay for 32 weeks!! Hope you are enjoying the slightly increased freedom and that you can make it to 37 weeks!!!

allisongraw · August 2015

Thank you @designer303! Trying to stay hopeful. I will feel better once I pass the 19 weeks point just because it was the time I went into labor last time..
One of the worst parts about bed rest is looking at Instagram at everyone doing fun summer stuff! Netflix helps, books help, splitting the day up with different random things. Also shopping online haha.. Putting stuff on the registry.. Just gotta hang in here.

lolobellrn · September 2015

I'm new to this board, on week 3 of bed rest due to a dynamic cervix and funneling @21 weeks. Now 23 weeks 3 days and the days are long, my hubby works 12hr shifts 7 days a week for the season (he's in ag and this is the busy season) so it has been a huge adjustment! I'm a FTM so kinda disappointed I am not really having the experience I imagined while pregnant, but a healthy baby girl is all I can think of to keep me from crying everyday. I am usually a busy bee and hardly ever stay home and thankfully I don't have any little ones I'm missing out on, but it's still a daily struggle that no one really understands. Family offers to come over and help but honestly I don't even want people over, it just reminds me of how little I can do. Any of you still on bed rest? How are you holding up??

designer303 · September 2015

I'm sorry you have landed on bed rest some days it is much harder than others. So it won't always be awful everyday, I would say try not to shun the visitors something to break up the day was helpful, just to have someone to talk to. I was on bedrest with our son the first time around and I tried to busy myself with shopping online for all things baby (maybe did a bit too much shopping, but hey) and projects. I sucked at knitting but needlepoint was good for me, I made DS his stocking while on bedrest. It was a massive project but I had the time. It helped a lot. Also maybe find a show preferably one a bunch of seasons in and start from the beginning. Also I got a massaging mat to put in bed to help ease the body aches. Amazing how laying down all the time can be so uncomfortable. Major hugs to you!!

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