Any Military Wives??

Kelseycalhoun5 · August 2015

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my husband just left on Friday for Pre-demployment training and won't be back till August 31st.. let me remind you. My due date is September 1st.. has anyone else dealt with their husbands being gone? And how did you handle it?

lilykaete · August 2015

Yes. My husband has been with me for only 4 weeks out of the anticipated 40 weeks of the pregnancy. He is also gone now until I don't know when. He doesn't have a return date so I know it will be whenever I go into labor. It has been really hard. I have done all the planning and buying. He was here last week and set up the room with me but otherwise that is all he has been able to do. Oh and we are pcsing in a few months too. So that adds more stress to everything.

rjackie54 · August 2015

Kelseycalhoun5 said:
I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my husband just left on Friday for Pre-demployment training and won't be back till August 31st.. let me remind you. My due date is September 1st.. has anyone else dealt with their husbands being gone? And how did you handle it?

We are in the same boat! I'm 36 wks pregnant and my husband just left for 3 wks for his annual training with his unit. I'm due September 8th and he'll be back August 28th. And I thought we were cutting it close! Good luck mama! I don't know if you have any family or close friends around you but I find that having a good support system really helps. I'm actually staying with my mom a couple of days during the week; which was a little weird at first but I'm so glad I don't have to worry about coming home to cook or clean or nest uncontrollably lol which is what I would have done had I been left to my own devices. These last few weeks for me are about rest. (I still have to work though

im in the military as well) I'm not sure if you're in a situation to do this but having people around has made it a lot easier for me, especially since I'm so hormonal right now.

rjackie54 · August 2015

@Kelseycalhoun5 how far away is your husband should you go into labor before he gets back??

jwebb0512 · August 2015

My husband missed everything with DS because he was away at BOLC. He graduated and we PCS'd just before DS arrived. I know it's incredibly hard not to stress when you really don't have control over it, but rest assured that if you go into labor while he's gone, you can send a Red Cross message and they'll do everything they can to get him back ASAP! Make sure you know the procedure and have a plan in place, so you are prepared. Like PP said, if you have friends or family close, take advantage of their help and try to stay busy. Military spouses are like none other. You're a strong momma! You can do this!

camaguire21 · August 2015

Me! My hubby has been in training (Ranger School and airborne) since April, but finally will be home in a few days. His unit is due to deploy in a few weeks but they are letting him stay until the end of October to be here for the birth

rachaeldrennen · August 2015

I'm with you! Mine left aug. 6. Coming home the 28th. Due date is the 18 of September but they keep saying I'll be early since I have diabetes and she's ready..... I just hope it's not the whole 2 weeks early. But, I do know if you call the Red Cross if you have a scheduled labor and they can send them home depending on what they are gone for. Some things like annual training and certain classes can be made up. Child birth.... Not so much. Good luck ladies.

krmicmac · August 2015

I had to deal with a deployment while DH and I were planning our wedding...... which was way less stressful than being pregnant in retrospect, but still tough.

Go to Military One Source and find the podcast "These Boots"..... it was made for military wives and has some excellent advice on how to handle. One of the best pieces of advice I got from it was to build your team, and the narrator explains the different types of people you need in a time like this.

Good Luck Mama!

Remember, we have more technology than previous generations of Military Wives did....but that is both a blessing and a curse. Skype is wonderful, but I always missed my DH more after we skyped.

Cuppycakes21 · August 2015

My husband just got back from his four month deployment! I'm due Sept 7th so I'm very happy he's here for my last four weeks of pregnancy. Skype is a life saver! Good luck to you all!

caityrose · August 2015

Me! I think we should keep this thread going when our due dates start arriving! My husband and I were stationed in Germany but they kept threatening him with a DEROS date of Aug 31 and my due date was Sep. 8 so I bought a plane ticket to come home to my parents in NJ. Now his orders still haven't gone through and he's taking leave and trying to get a space-a flight to make it . eek! I just want him to be here for the beginning, even if he misses the birth. It would be nice if he could meet his daughter within the first week or so.

BeachBabe22 · August 2015

My husband was in Afghanistan my entire first pregnancy and made it home two weeks before our daughter was born. We've had one deployment when she was a year old and now we're getting ready for his next one. I will have a newborn and three year old on my own for six+ months and I am not looking forward to it. He's been gone almost this entire pregnancy on training trips so I really feel like i'm doing all of this on my own. It's definitely difficult at times but living this life also makes me appreciate him so much more than if he was home all of the time. We've been together for fourteen years, married for six, and this is our fourth deployment. There have been plenty of times that I wished he had a different career, we lived closer to family, and he was home more often but this is honestly the only life I know.

Hopefully you (and all of the other military wives) have a good support group within your community and they can help you when your husband is gone. My husband has great friends who look out for me when he's gone. It's a tough life but you can make it work. Best of luck!

hkarrol5 · August 2015

I'm 35 weeks and my husband is currently deployed. He left right after we found out we were pregnant. And won't be home till a (fingers crossed) no later then our baby being 2 months old. He loves getting daily pictures and updates on my belly and anything going on with the pregnancy. Even though we don't get to talk much it makes him feel more involved in the pregnancy and just keep him posted on everything you do.

Cnesvig32 · August 2015

With my second, my husband was deployed before and during his birth. He came home about 2 months after our son was born. It was really hard and emotional. Luckily I had family around at the time for support. But it was hard raising an almost two year old and a newborn! I think it only makes is mama stronger tho!! This time around. Our 5th baby is due sept 22 and he will be gone about 3 more weekends for trainings. He'll only be about 8 hours away but hopefully will be around if something happens early.

sweetdovemaddox · August 2015

Omg I feel super lucky that my husband hasn't deployed. I would be so loss and depressed since we are stationed in Germany and I don't have any family or friends close. He did leave for a short 3 month rotation earlier on in the pregnancy but he sent me home so that I would be around family and friends, which was a great move. He has turned down some rotations because they are too close to our September 28th due date. Good luck to all of you and I truly hope your husbands are there with you on the big day!!!

TabulaRasa25 · August 2015

Navy, here, but my husband has been in 14 years and went from AD to reserve last year, so there's slim to no chance of deployment unless we become actively engaged in a conflict again, and all his deployments have been voluntary, so far. He did just do his AT, which was originally supposed to be in Japan, but ended up being stateside, so he was at least in the country for that.

It's pretty likely that our birth will interrupt Chief Season, which he's helping run, but that's no biggie.

excited2bmommy09 · August 2015

I am right there with you. Mine is in the Marines and left the same day as yours did for his pre-deployment training. He will be home for a week at the end of September before he leaves the country for the next 6-9 months. I am due September 13 with our first baby. He will miss the birth and most of the first year of our baby's life. I just thank God every day he will get to meet his son before he leaves! This isn't our first deployment that we have been through together, but it will be the first with a baby. Not gonna lie, I am scared that he won't be there for the birth and scared of learning to be a new parent without him here with me, but it will all work out in its own special way.

I haven't been on this board much in the last few months, but I saw your thread and had to comment. This is such an exciting and emotional time for us and our men being away presents an emotional and physical challenge that not everyone can understand. Feel free to PM me if you ever need anything or just need someone to vent to. Hang in there mama!

smrdaniels · August 2015

My husband is gone for AT til august 29th. I'm due spt 9, but our last came 4 weeks early. I just tell her to stay every day.

hrossi253 · August 2015

My hubby won't miss the birth, but he'll probably be leaving soon after. His new job his deployment schedule is insane, but we knew that going into this job. So ahhh well...hope you ladies get to have your hubby's there for the birth! Fingers crossed for you!

seg6394 · August 2015

My DH just got home from a deployment.. He left when we had just found out at 6 weeks, and got home at 31 weeks. Very thankful to have him home but it was tough having him miss so much of the pregnancy. I know having him miss the birth would be really tough, I just wanted to say I'm thinking about all of you and sending my love and strength to all of your families!

AndieTessie · August 2015

I'm very lucky that my husband will get to be here for the birth, and won't have to deploy until she's about 6 months old. He was suppose to leave this October, but we lucked out and it got pushed back. He's done deployments before, but this will be the first one with a baby so I'm nervous. My best advice is to stay busy and surround yourself with a great support system. Fingers crossed baby stays in there long enough for him to make it!

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