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Arrangements for other kids while hospitalized?

Tls244Tls244 member
in October 2015 Moms
I am frantically trying to come up with a plan for my 18 month old son when I go into labor. His regular babysitter is unavailable due to other work commitments and the only nearby family member is my dad, who is a big, loud (and from the point of view of my son, scary) guy. My dad has offered to help, but every time we see him(monthly), my son just starts crying and wants me to comfort him. I am mostly concerned about the time when I am in labor and he is not permitted in the hospital. When I gave birth to him, I was in labor for 24 hours at the hospital. I really feel like I need my husbands support during labor and the first day or so, but I also don't want my son to be in distress because he is left with someone he barely knows. Any ideas?
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Re: Arrangements for other kids while hospitalized?

  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    Do you have any friends who he adores?
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  • bbiutmcphbbiutmcph member
    Could you spend more time with your dad for the next month or so? Maybe get your son more comfortable with him, especially since he has offered to help?  We are having my parents take the boys out for breakfast the day of my repeat and then to the hospital to meet their sister. DH will then take them and keep them for the time I'm in the hospital, with daily short visits.  I would think if you could get your DS comfortable with your dad and then after the delivery have your DH step in it would be best.  After the labor, the nurses are great to help you if needed and it sounds like your son would benefit with having your husband with him vs your husband with you and it keeps him more on schedule with what is normal.  


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  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
    Either of pp's suggestions would be mine as well. My parents will be with dd1 (I'm hoping at our house as we also have two dogs to deal with but it will depend on when I go into labor) and we plan on having them bring her to the hospital for a short visit (depending on when I deliver will determine if it's the same day or the next) and I'm hoping I'll only be there 24 hours again like I was with dd1.
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  • wildbutterfli2001wildbutterfli2001 member
    I've never left our ds with anyone.I'm very nervous about this, but we are making sure mil spends more time with him) so it's a little easier on all of us
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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    If you spend more time with dad and it still doesn't feel right, you might consider finding a nanny or SAHM in the area who would be willing to be on call around your due date. It would involve paying them rather than just having a family member involved, but finding a person around whom your son feels comfortable might make you feel more at ease when you near your EDD, too. I have several neighbors around me who are totally game to take DD in the middle of the night if need be. I might start checking your other connections to see what could work! Have a plan A, B, and maybe C, too :)
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  • ChariZaeChariZae member
    Planning on having my mom stay with the girls and bring them by after their brother makes his arrival.
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  • mamawolf23mamawolf23 member
    I am in the exact same boat as you. My daughter is gonna be 3 and my son 18 months by the time baby arrives and since the DAY THEY WERE BORN I never spent one day without them. The most time away is a doctors appointment and the separation kills me. When my son was born my daughter stayed with my SIL but I was on facetime every 30 minutes since she was the ONLY PERSON I TRUSTED and I was still very much paranoid. We recently had a falling out so my husband and 2 kiddos will be staying at the hotel right across the street from the hospital just in case I need them. Im having a re-repeat cesarean so I will be in for 2 and a half days. I hate knowing they will be in a hotel but its reassuring knowing they will be in the only hands I trust more than my own.


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  • nbpa3027nbpa3027 member
    If all goes according to plan, my mother in law is going to stay at our house with my kiddos so they can keep their schedule with school and everything. If it just happens to be over a weekend, they will probably go and stay at her house, whatever is easiest for her.

    The first time my son was ever away from us was when my daughter was born and it all worked out fine--he stayed one night with my in laws and one night with my parents. I am sure it wasn't perfect, but he got through it just fine and did not harbor any ill will towards us for leaving him! (He was 23 months at the time)
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    Do you have a friend you trust? I also vote for you all spending more time with your dad to make him more familiar with him.

    My 2.5 yo DS has never spent a night away from me, so I understand. I know I'll need DH's support during labor and the beginning, but I'm also prepared to forfeit time with him so he can be with DS while I'm away. Our in laws will be flying in to help with care, but I know not everything goes as planned and I'll need to be flexible.
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