Whether or not this is a new recommendation, I'm kind of surprised your doctors haven't mentioned it. I'd be slightly concerned that they haven't brought it up...
Okay...did I miss something? I have NEVER heard of getting the tdap shot or no access to a baby should happen??? I got it in fall of 2013 when I went back to college. But I know for a fact it's been over a decade since my DH had it.....and who only know how many centuries it's been since our parents have had it????? Why do I not know this??
Ask your doctor about it. I had been planning to ask mine at my last appointment but she beat me to it and gave me mine at the visit and told DH and I to schedule one for him soon with his primary. I wouldn't wait to long to ask if they haven't brought it up its def not something you want to take care of and talk to any friends or family that will be around baby a significant amount of time.
Me & hubby are getting ours and I have to double check my 2 teen boys since I can't remember their last 1. Hubby will be caretaker during the day since he works night shift and is hypersensitive about anyone keeping our little Princess.
I would call bs on your MIL in regards to having a weakened immune system... Ask who her immunities dr is that told her not to get them. My husband had only 4 of the 21 natural immunities we are meant to have and we have worked extensively with his infectious diseases/immunities Dr. The FIRST thing they will tell you if your immune system is weak is that you and EVRYONE around you must get vaccinated to protect yourself! My husband went through vaccination therapy (getting new series of ALL childhood shots) to rebuild his immune system and we as his family also had to redo some of our shots. It was so important to my husband's health that our shots were covered by insurance as a part of his care. Protect you baby mama, you are definitely making the right choice! Stand your ground!
So she still won't get the damn shot!! Her doctor in town old her to just get it. So she went to a new alternative medicine specialist in Indy who has been giving her "ozone treatments" to help increase her immune system and supposedly he told her not to get it because it could cause her spleen to rupture a a she could die. REALLY?? I am so beyond pissed off and hurt and disappointed. And FIL won't get the shot because he thinks he will get the virus and give it to her somehow. I am shocked by their ignorance. And she's a complete effing martyr about the whole thing. Complaining that we are keeping her grandson from her and how she can't believe we are making it such a big deal.
So now we have to get a sitter, but bigger than that, what kind of contact do these two even get to have with my son? If they can't make his health a priority now, what else will they do, or not do?? Do they get to babysit at all? Have any over night visits? Frankly, I don't even care to tell them when we are in labor. They can find out when I come home.
My mom is in nursing care already (I'm 33, she's only 60) and my dad is out of the picture, as well as I'm an only child so his family was going to be our rock. They had promised for years to be there for us and now I just feel like we are all alone on this. My child won't have awesome grandparents like I did and I'm so resentful for that.
So she still won't get the damn shot!! Her doctor in town old her to just get it. So she went to a new alternative medicine specialist in Indy who has been giving her "ozone treatments" to help increase her immune system and supposedly he told her not to get it because it could cause her spleen to rupture a a she could die. REALLY?? I am so beyond pissed off and hurt and disappointed. And FIL won't get the shot because he thinks he will get the virus and give it to her somehow. I am shocked by their ignorance. And she's a complete effing martyr about the whole thing. Complaining that we are keeping her grandson from her and how she can't believe we are making it such a big deal.
So now we have to get a sitter, but bigger than that, what kind of contact do these two even get to have with my son? If they can't make his health a priority now, what else will they do, or not do?? Do they get to babysit at all? Have any over night visits? Frankly, I don't even care to tell them when we are in labor. They can find out when I come home.
My mom is in nursing care already (I'm 33, she's only 60) and my dad is out of the picture, as well as I'm an only child so his family was going to be our rock. They had promised for years to be there for us and now I just feel like we are all alone on this. My child won't have awesome grandparents like I did and I'm so resentful for that.
I'm really sorry to hear that. How does your significant other feel about all of this?
Honestly, I wouldn't let them have much interaction with your baby until he's had his shots and the pediatrician clears it. For me, it would partially be about standing my ground because otherwise I fear that they'll think they can disrespect your parenting choices without consequence. Obviously, I would also being doing it to protect the health of my child. If your mother-in-law is ill and going to see doctors like the one described above, I would be fearful of what illnesses she may be picking up in the waiting rooms of these doctors- I suspect a lot of people who go there are skeptical of modern medicine/vaccines. Your number one job is protecting your baby, so her feelings must come second. She's making this choice and must deal with the ramifications of her decision.
The whole thing sucks and I'm really sorry you're going through it. Good luck!
@dmbfan46835, I am so sorry that you are still dealing with this. I'm sure that you've tried showing her articles and stories about the recent whooping cough outbreaks that have been happening around the country. If not, or if anyone else wants to read some, here are a couple from this year...
**For those that absolutely CANNOT be convinced of just how important this is, the best articles to read, sadly, are the ones that involve loss or near losses. The following link is to an older story in which a couple lost their new baby boy after he contracted the illness from his mother. It clearly states that ANY caregiver for a child should be vaccinated to prevent such a terrible thing from happening. https://www.ksl.com/?sid=15463472
It's so sad that there is still such a vast abyss between Eastern and Western medicine. There are too many benefits to both practices to keep them completely separate. Why stand on one foot when you could stand more firmly on two? Merge the two and reap the benefits. That's my take on it, anyhow. Wishing you the best of luck with your in-laws, and to anyone else out there going through a similar struggle! Do what you need to do to keep your babies safe and healthy. That's all that matters.
Okay...did I miss something? I have NEVER heard of getting the tdap shot or no access to a baby should happen??? I got it in fall of 2013 when I went back to college. But I know for a fact it's been over a decade since my DH had it.....and who only know how many centuries it's been since our parents have had it????? Why do I not know this??
I'm a bit lost myself. I'm 34 weeks no doctor has spoke any thing of this! Now I ask my family to make sure they're up to date? I'm sure they are were on top of all of our shots but this I have not heard about yet and it's kind of freaking me out.
My OB didn't bring it up until the day of my appt when I had to get it....though I'm also 34 weeks and that was a few weeks ago. You should definitely ask. We also double checked that our older kids are up to date, DH has his and anyone else coming for more than a short visit must have theirs as well.
Okay...did I miss something? I have NEVER heard of getting the tdap shot or no access to a baby should happen??? I got it in fall of 2013 when I went back to college. But I know for a fact it's been over a decade since my DH had it.....and who only know how many centuries it's been since our parents have had it????? Why do I not know this??
I'm a bit lost myself. I'm 34 weeks no doctor has spoke any thing of this! Now I ask my family to make sure they're up to date? I'm sure they are were on top of all of our shots but this I have not heard about yet and it's kind of freaking me out.
SAME!! I feel like it might be a regional thing?? Since this isn't an issue in my area, it's not being brought up?! No idea.
The first time I heard about needing the TDap was in December when I needed to get one for myself (but was only going through IF treatments). The nurse mentioned I'd have to get it again when I became pregnant. Then my OB mentioned it during our first appointment (week 12) and there are signs all over her office. It concerns me that some doctors aren't aware of the newer CDC (for those in the US) recommendations and communicating these to their patients. People travel outside their 'regions'. I expect and require my doctor to stay on top of their information. My IF struggle lasted a year longer than it should have thanks to a doctor who was prescribing me drugs that had terrible side effects and were no longer recommended as treatment options. Now I'm much more leery.
As for the OP, it's sad but your mother has made her choice. Personally, I wouldn't allow contact until the baby has received their vaccine.
Re: MIL refusing to get the pertussis shot- update
So now we have to get a sitter, but bigger than that, what kind of contact do these two even get to have with my son? If they can't make his health a priority now, what else will they do, or not do?? Do they get to babysit at all? Have any over night visits? Frankly, I don't even care to tell them when we are in labor. They can find out when I come home.
My mom is in nursing care already (I'm 33, she's only 60) and my dad is out of the picture, as well as I'm an only child so his family was going to be our rock. They had promised for years to be there for us and now I just feel like we are all alone on this. My child won't have awesome grandparents like I did and I'm so resentful for that.
Honestly, I wouldn't let them have much interaction with your baby until he's had his shots and the pediatrician clears it. For me, it would partially be about standing my ground because otherwise I fear that they'll think they can disrespect your parenting choices without consequence. Obviously, I would also being doing it to protect the health of my child. If your mother-in-law is ill and going to see doctors like the one described above, I would be fearful of what illnesses she may be picking up in the waiting rooms of these doctors- I suspect a lot of people who go there are skeptical of modern medicine/vaccines. Your number one job is protecting your baby, so her feelings must come second. She's making this choice and must deal with the ramifications of her decision.
The whole thing sucks and I'm really sorry you're going through it. Good luck!
This first one is from the New York Times and is entitled "Symptom-Free Carriers May Be Spreading Whooping Cough."
https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/06/29/symptom-free-carriers-may-be-spreading-whooping-cough/?_r=0
The second is a first-hand account, written by a mother of seven who chose not to vaccinate her children, all of whom have contracted the illness from a relative who had what looked to be the common cold.
https://thescientificparent.org/learning-the-hard-way-my-journey-from-antivaxx-to-science/
https://www.ksl.com/?sid=15463472
**And this link will take you to the story of two mothers who very nearly lost their babies to whooping cough.
https://www.parentmap.com/article/two-local-mothers-whose-babies-nearly-died-of-whooping-cough-share-their-stories
And of course, there is always WebMD, but I doubt that your mother-in-law will buy into anything written by the "bad guys" of Western medicine.
https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/features/protect-baby-whooping-cough
It's so sad that there is still such a vast abyss between Eastern and Western medicine. There are too many benefits to both practices to keep them completely separate. Why stand on one foot when you could stand more firmly on two? Merge the two and reap the benefits. That's my take on it, anyhow. Wishing you the best of luck with your in-laws, and to anyone else out there going through a similar struggle! Do what you need to do to keep your babies safe and healthy. That's all that matters.
I'm a bit lost myself. I'm 34 weeks no doctor has spoke any thing of this! Now I ask my family to make sure they're up to date? I'm sure they are were on top of all of our shots but this I have not heard about yet and it's kind of freaking me out.
SAME!! I feel like it might be a regional thing?? Since this isn't an issue in my area, it's not being brought up?! No idea.
https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/pregnant/
As for the OP, it's sad but your mother has made her choice. Personally, I wouldn't allow contact until the baby has received their vaccine.