Labor meds (Trigger warning: birth story)

Katieofcourse · August 2015

hello all!
My friend gave birth yesterday at 12:44 am to a beautiful 9.25 ounce baby girl! She labored naturally for 23 hours and by then she asked for something to take the edge off. (She started to transition and began to shake a lot which made her feel like she was going crazy) so the birthing center nurses recommended her an intrathecal shot and less then 3 hours later her baby calmly entered into the world.
I'm TTC and before watching her give birth I was determined to have a nucb but now I'm more open to the possibilities of me changing my mind during labor. I want to be educated on the different drugs they offer and pros and cons of them. What did you use to take the edge off of the pain and how far into labor did you wait to get something? Thank you all!

xyzabqsmvb53 · August 2015

This is definitely not the right board for this question. Take this on over to parenting or birth stories or something. Please don't delete but please don't continue to post labor stories here. The women here are trying to get pregnant and this post is pretty hurtful to read.

WinchestertoPittsburgh · August 2015

The name of this forum is 'Trying to Get Pregnant.'

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Crowqueen03 · August 2015

Katieofcourse said:

hello all! My friend gave birth yesterday at 12:44 am to a beautiful 9.25 ounce baby girl! She labored naturally for 23 hours and by then she asked for something to take the edge off. (She started to transition and began to shake a lot which made her feel like she was going crazy) so the birthing center nurses recommended her an intrathecal shot and less then 3 hours later her baby calmly entered into the world. I'm TTC and before watching her give birth I was determined to have a nucb but now I'm more open to the possibilities of me changing my mind during labor. I want to be educated on the different drugs they offer and pros and cons of them. What did you use to take the edge off of the pain and how far into labor did you wait to get something? Thank you all!

QFP

twomommiestobe · August 2015

Katieofcourse said:
hello all!
My friend gave birth yesterday at 12:44 am to a beautiful 9.25 ounce baby girl! She labored naturally for 23 hours and by then she asked for something to take the edge off. (She started to transition and began to shake a lot which made her feel like she was going crazy) so the birthing center nurses recommended her an intrathecal shot and less then 3 hours later her baby calmly entered into the world.
I'm TTC and before watching her give birth I was determined to have a nucb but now I'm more open to the possibilities of me changing my mind during labor. I want to be educated on the different drugs they offer and pros and cons of them. What did you use to take the edge off of the pain and how far into labor did you wait to get something? Thank you all!

Qfp
As pp said, most of us have never been pregnant. Some of us are having a really hard time getting pregnant, so not only are we the WORST people to answer your question, it is hurtful to read about this from someone we do not know.

If you would like to join our community, lurk and read the rules. Thanks.

lalala2004 · August 2015

It's a bit of putting the cart before the horse, too. I intend to actually be pregnant before making a birth plan....

MamaBish · August 2015

I got an epidural when the second phase of labor hit. The contractions hurt like hell and that shot felt glorious.

Once you get pg is a good time to research your options. Just remember that the end goal is a healthy baby and a healthy mom regardless of how it happens.

cjt121413 · August 2015

You'll find a ridiculous number of posts on this topic in other boards on TB.

FWIW, I tried to deliver DS without any pain meds. I labored for 12-15 hours before I had to have a c-section. The best laid plans....

lest12 · August 2015

You should do some research and talk to your doctor. It is great to arm yourself with knowledge, but the dr is the one who is ultimately going to help you make those decisions.

Lulucooks · August 2015

Not to mention, as with fertility and pregnancy, my experiences have no baring on yours. This would be best discussed with your doctor, once you are pregnant.

patriciahomol · August 2015

A birthing class helped me a lot with this, because I could see it up close and decide from there. Although I had a natural labor I liked that I knew what I would chose if needed.

Plans change, things happen. I didnt even have a chance to think about my birth plan when it actually happened.

cattlebride · August 2015

Agreed with pp that probably 50% of the people here are ftm and can't answer your question.

Previos child mentionex. Fwiw though I had an intrathecal. DD was born in Jan 2014. I had a 5 hour labor. I had stalled at 8 cm for a little over am hour. The intrathecal was suggested during the transitional stage for me. After getting it I was able to relax and progressed to a 10 in about 20 mins. I was still able to squat on the bed and feel everything, it just took the edge off and allowed me to progress a little quicker. Try not to buy the cart before the horse and be ready to be flexible.

ArtlessIbex · August 2015

PP are right. You'll have more luck on another board. I would try the Birth Stories board.

However, FWIW, by the time I got to the hospital, I was in transition (fully dialated) and didn't get to choose. I had a med-free birth, and it was fine.

RiverSong15 · August 2015

I've never been pregnant and this is the TRYING to get pregnant board.... So I'd recommend trying the birth stories board, parenting, babies 0-3 months, or even one of the BMBs where people have given birth recently. There are quite a few boards where this Q will be more appropriate.

KristieA · August 2015

Do you think you could give us a warning if you are going to talk about someone having a child. I mean it's bad enough when its on my own facebook feed and it's a friend of mine. I don't come onto the TTGP board and expect to read random posts about other people's friends successfully procreating. Thanks for reminding me that I don't have one of my own.

Also I wouldn't be able to help you as I have never been in labour.

Everycol0r · August 2015

Let's all get a positive HPT before we start stressing about labor meds

skiingstark · August 2015

I wish I could tell you but I have never been pregnant

As others have said try a different board.

sorarose · August 2015

The epidural was my friend. I never considered natural, and I never would. Do your research, and figure out what's best for you. And then be open to throwing your plans out the window.

KyCat · August 2015

...ok I just had to check. This is still the Trying to get pregnant board. Yes, there are some women on here who have been pregnant/been through labor, many of us have not, and don't really enjoy reading a stranger's birth story. As PPs have said, there are several other boards on the bump where this question is more appropriate, and also, if you wait til you get a BFP you will still have plenty of time to create a birth plan.

PrimRoseMama · August 2015

Katieofcourse said:
hello all!
My friend gave birth yesterday at 12:44 am to a beautiful 9.25 ounce baby girl! She labored naturally for 23 hours and by then she asked for something to take the edge off. (She started to transition and began to shake a lot which made her feel like she was going crazy) so the birthing center nurses recommended her an intrathecal shot and less then 3 hours later her baby calmly entered into the world.
I'm TTC and before watching her give birth I was determined to have a nucb but now I'm more open to the possibilities of me changing my mind during labor. I want to be educated on the different drugs they offer and pros and cons of them. What did you use to take the edge off of the pain and how far into labor did you wait to get something? Thank you all!

A) Not everyone here has been through labor.

I've had an unmedicated birth & a birth with an epidural. For #3 I'm probably going to get the dope.

DD was a 4-hour labor start to finish: I had no time to get the dope & didn't want it anyway. Shit was real, yo.

With DS: I waited until 9cm but the reason it ended up getting it was to allow my son to finish descending into my vagina. At the time my contractions were back to back. Yes, the pain relief was nice but the main goal was something else entirely.

C) My only other experience was twilight sedation + epideral to give birth at 20 weeks. It was my second pregnancy & second miscarriage. Baby was born sleeping. I told them to give me all the drugs.

D) Cart way before the horse! You'll get tons of info in third trimester and your doctor can give you tons of hard copies.

lest12 · August 2015

KristieA said:

Do you think you could give us a warning if you are going to talk about someone having a child. I mean it's bad enough when its on my own facebook feed and it's a friend of mine. I don't come onto the TTGP board and expect to read random posts about other people's friends successfully procreating. Thanks for reminding me that I don't have one of my own.

Also I wouldn't be able to help you as I have never been in labour.

I'm sorry, but I think it's a little naïve to come to a TTC board and NOT expect to hear people talking about pregnancy, kids, success stories.

WinchestertoPittsburgh · August 2015

@lest12, when it comes from other board members who have been constant participants? Heck yes. We are very happy to hear about their new pregnancies and success stories.

But stories about complete strangers? No. We don't want to see it. Facebook does that for me on a daily basis, this board is meant to do the opposite. Help and support in the struggles.

lest12 · August 2015

I've been there. I just think it's a little unrealistic to censor the board in this manner.

KristieA · August 2015

lest12 said:

KristieA said:

Do you think you could give us a warning if you are going to talk about someone having a child. I mean it's bad enough when its on my own facebook feed and it's a friend of mine. I don't come onto the TTGP board and expect to read random posts about other people's friends successfully procreating. Thanks for reminding me that I don't have one of my own.

Also I wouldn't be able to help you as I have never been in labour.

I'm sorry, but I think it's a little naïve to come to a TTC board and NOT expect to hear people talking about pregnancy, kids, success stories.

Excuse me? I am not saying don't put these stories up, I was asking for a trigger warning. I recently lost a pregnancy and it is hard enough when you get "Am I pregnant posts" all the time. Having something like this without warning is really uncalled for. I only go on a few boards on this site because frankly, pregnancy stories right now are still a little raw for me. I don't think it is too much to ask that if you are going to post about someone having a baby and their birth story, you a) don't do it on the TTGP board (we are all still TRYING or we would be on a different board) and b) if you really have to put it here, give a girl some warning.

Daybird11Six · August 2015

lest12 said:

KristieA said:

Do you think you could give us a warning if you are going to talk about someone having a child. I mean it's bad enough when its on my own facebook feed and it's a friend of mine. I don't come onto the TTGP board and expect to read random posts about other people's friends successfully procreating. Thanks for reminding me that I don't have one of my own.

Also I wouldn't be able to help you as I have never been in labour.

I'm sorry, but I think it's a little naïve to come to a TTC board and NOT expect to hear people talking about pregnancy, kids, success stories.

Quote box fail-----------------------

Not naive. It's a part of this board's culture along with just good, old-fashioned compassion to put a warning before a post like that. You're the one who is out of line here, not her.

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

lest12 said:

I've been there. I just think it's a little unrealistic to censor the board in this manner.

Whoaaaa. Hold on @lest12. No one is "censoring" anybody. Please don't get self-righteous about censorship right now. It's one of those words like "bullying" that gets used incorrectly and thrown around entirely too often. All @KristieA (a valued and respected member of this community) is asking for is a little bit of a heads up. A smidgen of courtesy. A modicum of "knowing your audience." Something along the lines of "Birth mentioned" or "trigger warning" in the subject. Cripes, that's all any of us are asking for with this kind of thing, and it's not like it would have been hard to do. OP could even go back and edit it now, right this second with like three seconds of effort, just in the interest of being a woman who is sensitive to the feelings of other women.

I, for example, have been trying for two years. Let that sink in. This is officially cycle 24, month 25. Do I get all the warm fuzzies about birth stories of people I know and love? Absolutely all the time. Do I need to be smacked in the face with a stranger's first thing on a Wednesday morning before I've even finished my coffee? No thanks. It would have been delightful if there was a *trigger warning* in the subject of this post so I could have skipped it entirely.

This is NOT a censorship issue. Trust me, the women here at TTGP love a good debate. This just isn't one worth having.

Lulucooks · August 2015

I would like to chime in that I also have no interest in reading birth stories here. If, for some crazy bizarre reason I want to torture myself, I can find those easily.

YouHadMeAtMeatTornado · August 2015

Lulucooks said:

I would like to chime in that I also have no interest in reading birth stories here. If, for some crazy bizarre reason I want to torture myself, I can find those easily.

I laughed.

Everycol0r · August 2015

I also didn't take pleasure reading the birth story. I thought this thread was just about labor meds.

lest12 · August 2015

I'm not getting self-righteous, I just wonder what you're expecting to read about when you're on a TTC board that is open to the entire internet?

ETA: I also don't understand the whole "we are trying to get pregnant, please don't ask us about being pregnant, if we were pregnant or had birth stories then we would be on another board" thing... Are we not supposed to post here if we're TFAS?

CharmBombExplosion · August 2015

lest12 said:
I'm not getting self-righteous, I just wonder what you're expecting to read about when you're on a TTC board that is open to the entire internet?

It's common courtesy and proper board ettiquette to put a trigger warning on posts like this. I don't think that's too much to ask.

MamaBish · August 2015

lest12 said:

I'm not getting self-righteous, I just wonder what you're expecting to read about when you're on a TTC board that is open to the entire internet?

ETA: I also don't understand the whole "we are trying to get pregnant, please don't ask us about being pregnant, if we were pregnant or had birth stories then we would be on another board" thing... Are we not supposed to post here if we're TFAS?

It's just a request. Some people are more sensitive than others and they would prefer a trigger warning. That's all. No harm in simply asking for a warning next time.

Lulucooks · August 2015

lest12 said:
I'm not getting self-righteous, I just wonder what you're expecting to read about when you're on a TTC board that is open to the entire internet?

ETA: I also don't understand the whole "we are trying to get pregnant, please don't ask us about being pregnant, if we were pregnant or had birth stories then we would be on another board" thing... Are we not supposed to post here if we're TFAS?

I'm actually TFAS. I don't see the point, in this setting, to share birth stories. It doesn't help in TTC. It is completely anecdotal. My first conception was as far from this journey as possible. If my own two are so different, I don't see how reading about anothers birth will help me conceive. I don't mind if there's a thread that has them, I would appreciate the warning so I could skip.

There are lots and lots and lots of places that welcome this. The ladies here don't. That's ok, we are allowed our feelings as you are yours. There's no place else for us to go, you however have hundreds of options. We want a trigger warning. That's not much to ask.

Katieofcourse · August 2015

Oh dear lord.
My apologies to everyone I personally offended.
I'm going to stick to babycenter forums I think they are a little more open minded/friendlier to newbies.
Have fun and good luck to all.

Lulucooks · August 2015

Katieofcourse said:
Oh dear lord.
My apologies to everyone I personally offended.
I'm going to stick to babycenter forums I think they are a little more open minded/friendlier to newbies.
Have fun and good luck to all.

Yes that's a place that welcomes this.

katekat8721 · August 2015

What? Since when does TTGP need trigger warnings? This isn't the infertility board or loss board. It's for women of all ages and backgrounds trying to get pregnant. This isn't a board for only FTMs. It's not a board for butthurtedness.

The OP is not being hurtful or out of line to do research before pregnant. I think it's pretty normal to start thinking of these things and asking experienced mamas how they gave birth isn't out of line on a TTGP board.

CharmBombExplosion · August 2015

Katieofcourse said:
Oh dear lord.
My apologies to everyone I personally offended.
I'm going to stick to babycenter forums I think they are a little more open minded/friendlier to newbies.
Have fun and good luck to all.

No one was unfriendly, we just asked for you to put a trigger warning in the title since you're talking about something that may be a trigger for someone.

katekat8721 · August 2015

Not trying to be snarky now, but if you're truly that affected by strangers on TB and FB mentioning pregnancy, then it may be time for a social media break.

This is coming from someone who tried 3 years to get pregnant, did all the fertility things including IVF and FET. You need to take care of yourself emotionally and if you're finding yourself being hurt by posts on TB then it's not a healthy thing.

letyourheartbeyourguide · August 2015

katekat8721 said:
What? Since when does TTGP need trigger warnings? This isn't the infertility board or loss board. It's for women of all ages and backgrounds trying to get pregnant. This isn't a board for only FTMs. It's not a board for butthurtedness.

The OP is not being hurtful or out of line to do research before pregnant. I think it's pretty normal to start thinking of these things and asking experienced mamas how they gave birth isn't out of line on a TTGP board.

This is a TRYING to get pregnant board. It's irrelevant if people here have been pregnant before. There is a Birth Stories board. There are 1st/2nd/3rd Tri boards. There are Birth Month Boards. It is completely reasonable to ask people to use the correct board for their question/topic. And all the women here were asking for was a heads up. There's no reason to be rude and call them butthurt for expressing that.

lest12 · August 2015

katekat8721 said:

What? Since when does TTGP need trigger warnings? This isn't the infertility board or loss board. It's for women of all ages and backgrounds trying to get pregnant. This isn't a board for only FTMs. It's not a board for butthurtedness. The OP is not being hurtful or out of line to do research before pregnant. I think it's pretty normal to start thinking of these things and asking experienced mamas how they gave birth isn't out of line on a TTGP board.

Word.

Lulucooks · August 2015

katekat8721 said:
What? Since when does TTGP need trigger warnings? This isn't the infertility board or loss board. It's for women of all ages and backgrounds trying to get pregnant. This isn't a board for only FTMs. It's not a board for butthurtedness.

The OP is not being hurtful or out of line to do research before pregnant. I think it's pretty normal to start thinking of these things and asking experienced mamas how they gave birth isn't out of line on a TTGP board.

Because people here have experienced loss. Because it is not a big deal to be polite to others. Knowing how I gave birth helps you conceive how? If telling my story will help everyone get KTFU I will shout it from the rooftops. If you want to do research there are soooo many other, better, places to go for stories. Even knowing how I conceived doesn't help *you* at all. It doesn't even help me and it's my story.

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