My butt hurts. I got a prenatal massage and she worked some trigger points in my ass like she was tenderizing meat. (She needed to, don't get me wrong, but OWIE!)
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How was the massage? I want to get one this weekend for my bday because today is my first day working from home and I hate it. I feel lonely and miss my co-workers so I need to relax big time!!
It was good. Just be open communicating if you need more pillows or what pressure you need. Normally I like an insanely hard deep massage but with the edema in my legs she could barely touch my calfs without me crying. But it wasn't a big deal, I just told her as she was massaging "lighter please, deeper please" and she adjusted and it was good I did struggle a bit with needing a different arrangement of pillows but again, just let the therapist know if something is uncomfortable.
Do it! I got one last week and if I could go every week until this baby comes I would! My therapist did great things to my hips/butt area. Even though my hips are still pretty painful when I get up in the morning (or middle of the night) I found that I'm not in so much pain at the end of the day as I was before. I'm definitely getting at least one more massage before this baby comes!
Will do! One of my friends bought me a prenatal massage gift card for the baby shower so I need to use it soon.
I'm still sick. I've pulled a muscle in my side and hurt my back from all my coughing. I literally cannot sleep. I'm a miserable cow. And I have to go buy more pads because I keep peeing through them. Fuck it all.
This was going to be my exact moan. My ribs hurt so bad from coughing and I'm so tired of peeing my pants.
My mom just moved her colonoscopy to 8 which means I can sleep in till 6, which is better than 5:30.
I seriously feel like this kid has been kicking me in the vagina all day.
DH is on my last nerve. It was storming last night. While our brown recluse problem seems to almost be under control finally, they tend to come in when it storms. I had a living room full of shower gifts and that's where we generally find the spiders. Since they like to hide in clutter I was running around like a mad woman trying to put all the shower stuff away or at least get it out of the bags so that I don't get bit trying to put it away later. DH was busy playing computer games and kept saying, "Take a break babe." Seriously why don't you take a break from your video games and help me! Finally at midnight he's like I'm going to bed, you should finish this tomorrow. He doesn't have a clue. We have an L&D class at 6:30, he gets home at 5:30 and said he'd prefer not to eat out and if could get a cooked meal ready that would be great. Sure, I'm running on no sleep, running errands, buying groceries, etc. while I can't walk without it hurting. I still need to shower and have dinner ready by 5:30 but sure let me get that hot meal on the table for you.
Sorry grateful to be staying home finally because we both worked so much that nothing ever got done, but some days I wish he could help out a bit more. And he does help, but only when I ask him to.
@intheversa Ask more. Don't be subtle. Don't hint. Don't wait for him to notice. You'll be old and gray long before he notices on his own. You are preganant and really do need a little more help these days and that's ok! Men in general do not think the same way we do. I am sassy as all get out with my husband and I would have literally said in response to "take a break" - "Babe, how about you take a break from playing video games and come help your pregnant wife put these things away so that she doesn't get bitten by a poisonous spider while she is pregnant and has limited medical options available to her should she get bitten." And if he says something like - don't be paranoid or your are over reacting, "Ok. Fine. How about you please take a minute to come help me just because I asked you to? I could really use some help."
My husband rarely thinks to do things you and I would on his own but will help when I ask. Like the other day I was literally cursing and groaning and clutching my back while trying finish dinner and he looks over and says, "I'm sorry." I didn't yell at him but I point blank said something along the lines of, "That's nice, but sorry doesn't help. Please get up and come over here and physically help me when you see I am in pain."
Its not that they don't care its just that some of this stuff really doesn't occur to them or takes awhile to sink in. I try to find that middle ground of still being polite but being very direct and clear about what I need from him.
So I go for my monthly check up baby is doing great and so am I. I have to set up my non stress test for now on till delivery. I was told by the nurse that I might not be able to get them done at the dr office bc my BMI is over 35,( it's a 36) that I have to go to the hospital if they can't get a good read... Ugh so I find out on thurs if I can get them at the doc office or if I have to drive to the hospital... Oh and more blood work... Ugh
@BrooklynBroussard, I read about that earlier, because a friend had posted an article on FB. I honestly don't get the backlash. Seriously it's not like you won't be able to find the dolls or the plastic food, or the cars and Legos. They just want have pink or blue walls behind them. And the Frozen and Thomas and Friends decor will still be right where it always was, it just won't have gender-specific marketing . . .
People are acting like Target has decided to stop selling toys or bedding at all, or that, God forbid, they decided not to label the kids' itching departments! I love this because if my son decides he wants a doll or my daughter wants a truck, they'll just go to the appropriate aisle and select it, no gender expectations staring them in the face. Crayons and books aren't gender-specific, so why should the toys be? And they put the bright pink pools right next to the blue and green ones . . .
Now, if my daughter asks for Thomas bedding, I might have to veto, but that's a whole different story that has nothing to do with her sex/gender.
Sick of hearing dh complain of backaches, stuffy nose, sore hips, and trouble sleeping. Also he thinks it is against the law, punishable by firing squad for him to pick up ANYTHING after himself.
Sick of hearing dh complain of backaches, stuffy nose, sore hips, and trouble sleeping. Also he thinks it is against the law, punishable by firing squad for him to pick up ANYTHING after himself.
I feel the same way when my DH complains. Yes, his job is physically demanding, he has legit aches and pains and he suffers from insomnia. But he gets to have these things called a day off . . . I forgot what that was like! And also, as hard as he works to support our family, I'm growing a human over here.
Starting to realize I took on way too much this month. Feeling very overwhelmed by all the work I need to do on top of all the baby prepping I need to get done. If I seem to be less active this month, that's probably why. I need a vacation... or a sedative.
I think I'm starting to get sick my house feels like a wreck cause I don't feel like doing anything. My DH works and I am a stay at home mom and I feel so bad when the house is in disarray but I just can't today.
@mamaowl15@J1D The bump logo is in blue, not pink.... how am I supposed to know if I'm in the right place? This is so confusing. I need more specific instructions.
After reading the postpartum supplies thread I hopped on Amazon to look for bed pads and I saw the Chux someone suggested but they were blue....am I allowed to use them? Or do I have to find pink ones? I'm so confused!!!!!! (
I am a milk tester for dairy cows. My job is very physically demanding. Lots of carrying heavy stuff, on my feet the whole time, climbing up and down stairs or ladders kinda work. Plus I have really crazy hours and long commutes. A typical day might be leaving my house at 3am for an hour drive to a farm to see 1500 cows for ten hours then an hour drive back. It's starting to take its tole on me.
I explained to my husband tonight that since my schedule is set by me and flexible, I am not going to feel bad about having a built in day off every once in a while. I have one this coming Thursday in fact. He seemed kinda skeptical as to why I would need that and basically said he would be working if he was me.
This comes at a really bad time because I was just taken off my salary and put on commission on Friday. This is due to my two year work anniversary coming up and it's mandatory to go off salary at that point. So now I get paid per farm instead of having a base pay and my commission being added on top. It shouldn't mess with my pay too much but it's still frightening and something to get used to.
I'm just feeling like I can't keep working so hard and need a little break. I don't see anything wrong with a built in day off every few weeks for the next 11 weeks. Hubby just made me feel guilty.
I think I'm starting to get sick my house feels like a wreck cause I don't feel like doing anything. My DH works and I am a stay at home mom and I feel so bad when the house is in disarray but I just can't today.
Being a sahm isn't a 9 to 5, its a 24/7 with no one to call to fill in so you can take a sick day which makes it the fullest time job one can have and its not the easy way out! No guilt over a messy home!
3 people called into work today so I had to switch my patients around which isn't as easy as it sounds. My husband came home from work complaining of feeling sick so now I'm putting together a book shelf and probably burning the dinner that's on the stove but I don't care bc I feel much better after venting lol
Today was the first day of school (I'm an elementary school counselor). I had 3 screaming/crying kinders, a 3rd grader who spit on another student and then flipped her desk in class, and a 6th grade girl fight in the bathroom.
This past Saturday my inlaws hosted a party for their employees at their house. My husband and brother in law work for their dad's company. I was helping host most of the day and am 28 weeks along. The women there that are mothers kept telling me to sit and take it easy. My sister in law, hungover from the the night before slips off and takes a 3 hour nap instead of spending time with her husband's employees.
That night, bitch of a mother in law asks why I'm so tired at 10pm. I reply "because I'm pregnant." She lights a cigarette next to me and says that I should be at the height of my pregnancy energy and shouldn't be tired until the 9th month. I'm thinking wow... I shouldn't be tired from creating a human but it's cool for my sister in law to rudely nap during a party due to drinking too much. Said sister in law comes outside and lights a cigarette next to me as well. When I ask them to smoke elsewhere, she says she smoked while pregnant and that it's okay. Brother in law comes outside, lights up, when I say again please smoke away from me he questions if I think second hand smoke will harm the baby. I gave up and went to bed. These are wealthy, highly educated people... Lol. Ugh they made me so mad!
My husband is sitting right next to me eating ice cream - delicious pumpkin ice cream that tastes like pumpkin pie and ice cream had a baby - right out of the carton. I had two bites (which I figured was safe), but oh it's not fair! :-) to DH's credit, he washed the dishes earlier and let me take a nap this afternoon since he was home from work early. So does deserve ice cream.
My husband is sitting right next to me eating ice cream - delicious pumpkin ice cream that tastes like pumpkin pie and ice cream had a baby - right out of the carton. I had two bites (which I figured was safe), but oh it's not fair! :-) to DH's credit, he washed the dishes earlier and let me take a nap this afternoon since he was home from work early. So does deserve ice cream.
Is pumpkin ice cream not okay to eat? I am looking forward to pumpkin everything in the coming months!
Give me all the cake/pie/ice cream/desserts. I can't even with all the ridiculousness I've experienced today, and the last thing I needed was the cherry on top of my night. Our neighbors all bring their kids over and hang out to chat in the evenings sometimes (NBD). One of the neighbors who had been there with her two little ones all evening mentioned casually at the end of the conversation that she had just returned from the clinic with her daughter who was diagnosed with strep. OH. COME. ON. So you mean my toddler who has her hands in her mouth constantly is playing happily with your highly contagious daughter and you don't have any concerns about sharing that with our household?! That's what I need. I want to spend my last week at home with DD before heading back to coach/teach dealing with strep. I know if she gets it, I get it, so that compounds my insane frustration. She could have just brought her kids home and stayed in for the last half an hour of the night instead of bringing them over to play with all of the kids. COME ON.
Give me all the cake/pie/ice cream/desserts. I can't even with all the ridiculousness I've experienced today, and the last thing I needed was the cherry on top of my night. Our neighbors all bring their kids over and hang out to chat in the evenings sometimes (NBD). One of the neighbors who had been there with her two little ones all evening mentioned casually at the end of the conversation that she had just returned from the clinic with her daughter who was diagnosed with strep. OH. COME. ON. So you mean my toddler who has her hands in her mouth constantly is playing happily with your highly contagious daughter and you don't have any concerns about sharing that with our household?! That's what I need. I want to spend my last week at home with DD before heading back to coach/teach dealing with strep. I know if she gets it, I get it, so that compounds my insane frustration. She could have just brought her kids home and stayed in for the last half an hour of the night instead of bringing them over to play with all of the kids. COME ON.
She really should know better... How friggin' frustrating!!
Give me all the cake/pie/ice cream/desserts. I can't even with all the ridiculousness I've experienced today, and the last thing I needed was the cherry on top of my night. Our neighbors all bring their kids over and hang out to chat in the evenings sometimes (NBD). One of the neighbors who had been there with her two little ones all evening mentioned casually at the end of the conversation that she had just returned from the clinic with her daughter who was diagnosed with strep. OH. COME. ON. So you mean my toddler who has her hands in her mouth constantly is playing happily with your highly contagious daughter and you don't have any concerns about sharing that with our household?! That's what I need. I want to spend my last week at home with DD before heading back to coach/teach dealing with strep. I know if she gets it, I get it, so that compounds my insane frustration. She could have just brought her kids home and stayed in for the last half an hour of the night instead of bringing them over to play with all of the kids. COME ON.
She really should know better... How friggin' frustrating!!
I would have gone postal. I got strep on my honeymoon and it was the WORST. I have never felt so miserable.
One last Monday moan for me. I got the call at 6:00 from my nurse to tell me I failed the 3 hour glucose tolerance test. I officially have GD. I know I'm not alone and that it's manageable and everything but I still couldn't help but have a meltdown.
Today I drove 50km to get new tires on my vehicle (had to drive 80km/h to get there cuz I had a stupid doughnut on), dropped my vehicle off, walked to my friends workplace in blistering heat. Just as I got settled in at my friends work, I got a call from the tire place and they only had 3 tires for my vehicle instead of 4!!! I waddled myself back to the tire place, sat there for another 30 minutes and waited for them put my old tires back on my vehicle. Anyhoo, I have to go back on Friday to get my 4 tires put on...and I better get a discount or my hormones may kick in!!! I also am getting to the uncomfortable stage of pregnancy. I am glad that baby is active and growing, but good heavens child - please give my organs a rest!! (Especially my bladder)
Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. Please send all the positive energy and prayers you can out for a close friend of mine. Her husband found out that the cancer they thought was getting under control has spread into multiple lesions on his spine. They have four kids and are seriously the most amazing people. I wouldn't normally put other people's business out there but they can use all of the good vibes they can get. Fuck cancer.
Everything hurts! My back, my tail bone, my stomach, my shoulders...I've been pretty good this whole pregnancy (no morning sickness) but all of a sudden as of yesterday I just feel like crap. I actually took the day today to be lazy but I still feel bad tonight and I have to go to work tomorrow.
My baby shower dress came today and it's terrible I ordered a large cause pre pregnacy I was a medium/large. Yeah... In this dress I'd need at least a XXL and maybe a 3xl. Way to make me feel really bad about myself stupid ugly maternity dress! I hate you! I'd burn you out of spite of you weren't so damn expensive and I really needed to return you so I can try and find something else.
My moan..I seriously hate working in a professional environment these days. My business attire is getting smaller and smaller as my stomach gets bigger and bigger, I'm sweating ALL day and these damn blazers don't help, my feet are too fat to fit in my heels so I resemble an Oompa Loompa, I'm out of breath walking down the hall to use the restroom, and watching me bend over to pick up anything or file is straight comedy. Can I find a job that is ok with yoga pants, no make-up and messy hair for the next 6 weeks please!
Oh and lastly my kids started school today and I forgot to take pictures. All day long I've been seeing people post pictures of their kids with these cute 1st day of kinder, etc. signs so now I feel like a crappy mom.
I have gathered at least 20 bags of clothes to give to charity and can't wait to have more room in my closets, but I'm really sad about seeing them all leave. So many memories. So much history. So many tiny shirts and jeans that these boobs/hips will NEVER fit into again. I have come to terms with my mom bod (thanks babies) and keep telling myself that I'll celebrate by buying new, fabulous clothes one day if I ever get back down to that teeny tiny size again.
@J1D Thanks. We actually had a big fight because he came home depressed about work because he's bored with it and I just lost it. I've been in so much pain with my back and pelvis and I was in a terrible mood. He was making plans for next week with his friends and groaning because I had scheduled days for us to get projects done. Then he was willing to give them up, but it's that look he gives me that makes me feel so guilty. He doesn't mean to, but I've known him long enough to know it. We had to go to a L&D class right after and it was so awkward between us. I feel terrible but I let him have it how he needs to take responsibility for all the projects on the house that aren't done and how he's had 2 years to do them. This entire spring and summer was packed with events with his friends so he was never around to work on the house. It doesn't help that his mom told me I need to learn to just hire someone and not ask him to help me in any way because he works all day and should be able to play all he wants when he gets home and she doesn't want to hear about him doing any work. We can't afford that. He doesn't agree with her and is trying to help, but he just needs the motivation. And I need to learn to watch my tone with him, because apparently I come off as sarcastic a lot.
I was already in a bad mood when he got home. Our neighbors have an electric fence and leave their dogs out all day. One keeps getting out and she's gone all the time so I can't reach her to tell her. The dog ran into my yard while I was taking my two out. My boxer lab mix broke his collar to run after her dog. I spent 30 minutes trying to catch him and my next door neighbors finally heard me and helped. We were supposed to have an electric fence, or a real fence, or a better chain up system set up by now. But he never got around to it. So that started another fight. We're looking at options for a better fence solution for our dogs and he's going to take them out until our neighbors dog is contained. I need to get a hold of her and tell her that her dog is loose but I honestly think she's out of town which is SO IRRESPONSIBLE if she left those dogs outside for days on a electric fence. I hate to get the humane society involved, but if she doesn't do something about the fence I will.
My MM, acne. With the third trimester I have adult acne, and backne. And everywhere it else it seems like! Ugh I feel greasy and gross and just wanna be done already
My late moan is that yesterday while I was downright exhausted one of my employees calls and tells me she doesn't have a sitter for her shift this morning. She wanted me to close the store at 10pm to turn around and come back in to open it at 630! I know I'm the manager and all but find freaking coverage! You do the damn leg work. Maybe find a reliable sitter and stop whining saying "oh I don't have help from anyone I don't know what to do." Grow up stop drinking all the time and stop with your ghetto attitude you've suddenly developed over the last year and be an adult already. It isn't everyone else's fault it's your own. I gave her and idea where she split her shift and she comes back with "well I'm just going to be exhausted because I work Wednesday." That's cool and all but so do I!! The person you're wanting to cover your shift barely got any sleep, is closing the store, is supposed to be off Tuesday and you want her almost 29 week pregnant self to come in because you don't have a sitter. I also open on Wednesday so I'm not going to sleep Tuesday night very well either. Ugh. She eventually found someone to work her shift because I was very blunt with her that I was not and could not work her shift. She came in to tell me she found coverage and when I tell her how I slept she says "and when you're pregnant you need sleep to have energy" well no sh*t. rant over. Sorry for the book lol
Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. Please send all the positive energy and prayers you can out for a close friend of mine. Her husband found out that the cancer they thought was getting under control has spread into multiple lesions on his spine. They have four kids and are seriously the most amazing people. I wouldn't normally put other people's business out there but they can use all of the good vibes they can get. Fuck cancer.
I agree. Fuck cancer. I'm sending all my good vibes their way.
My husband is sitting right next to me eating ice cream - delicious pumpkin ice cream that tastes like pumpkin pie and ice cream had a baby - right out of the carton. I had two bites (which I figured was safe), but oh it's not fair! :-) to DH's credit, he washed the dishes earlier and let me take a nap this afternoon since he was home from work early. So does deserve ice cream.
Is pumpkin ice cream not okay to eat? I am looking forward to pumpkin everything in the coming months!
As long as you don't have GD, you can eat all the pumpkin things. I will be enjoying some of said pumpkin ice cream come October for sure.
I have gathered at least 20 bags of clothes to give to charity and can't wait to have more room in my closets, but I'm really sad about seeing them all leave. So many memories. So much history. So many tiny shirts and jeans that these boobs/hips will NEVER fit into again. I have come to terms with my mom bod (thanks babies) and keep telling myself that I'll celebrate by buying new, fabulous clothes one day if I ever get back down to that teeny tiny size again.
Last year I got rid of a bunch of clothes that I'd been holding on to "just in case" I finally lost the weight I gained with my son. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that, even if I get down to my previous weight/size, the shape of my body has changed. Oh well, we can celebrate by buying new fabulous clothes for our fabulous mom bodies!
Re: Monday Moans
People are acting like Target has decided to stop selling toys or bedding at all, or that, God forbid, they decided not to label the kids' itching departments!
I love this because if my son decides he wants a doll or my daughter wants a truck, they'll just go to the appropriate aisle and select it, no gender expectations staring them in the face. Crayons and books aren't gender-specific, so why should the toys be? And they put the bright pink pools right next to the blue and green ones . . .
Now, if my daughter asks for Thomas bedding, I might have to veto, but that's a whole different story that has nothing to do with her sex/gender.
Also, I love that chart.
I explained to my husband tonight that since my schedule is set by me and flexible, I am not going to feel bad about having a built in day off every once in a while. I have one this coming Thursday in fact. He seemed kinda skeptical as to why I would need that and basically said he would be working if he was me.
This comes at a really bad time because I was just taken off my salary and put on commission on Friday. This is due to my two year work anniversary coming up and it's mandatory to go off salary at that point. So now I get paid per farm instead of having a base pay and my commission being added on top. It shouldn't mess with my pay too much but it's still frightening and something to get used to.
I'm just feeling like I can't keep working so hard and need a little break. I don't see anything wrong with a built in day off every few weeks for the next 11 weeks. Hubby just made me feel guilty.
This past Saturday my inlaws hosted a party for their employees at their house. My husband and brother in law work for their dad's company. I was helping host most of the day and am 28 weeks along. The women there that are mothers kept telling me to sit and take it easy. My sister in law, hungover from the the night before slips off and takes a 3 hour nap instead of spending time with her husband's employees.
That night, bitch of a mother in law asks why I'm so tired at 10pm. I reply "because I'm pregnant." She lights a cigarette next to me and says that I should be at the height of my pregnancy energy and shouldn't be tired until the 9th month. I'm thinking wow... I shouldn't be tired from creating a human but it's cool for my sister in law to rudely nap during a party due to drinking too much. Said sister in law comes outside and lights a cigarette next to me as well. When I ask them to smoke elsewhere, she says she smoked while pregnant and that it's okay. Brother in law comes outside, lights up, when I say again please smoke away from me he questions if I think second hand smoke will harm the baby. I gave up and went to bed. These are wealthy, highly educated people... Lol. Ugh they made me so mad!
:-) to DH's credit, he washed the dishes earlier and let me take a nap this afternoon since he was home from work early. So does deserve ice cream.
I also am getting to the uncomfortable stage of pregnancy. I am glad that baby is active and growing, but good heavens child - please give my organs a rest!! (Especially my bladder)
Oh and lastly my kids started school today and I forgot to take pictures. All day long I've been seeing people post pictures of their kids with these cute 1st day of kinder, etc. signs so now I feel like a crappy mom.
rant over. Sorry for the book lol
I agree. Fuck cancer. I'm sending all my good vibes their way.