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Ob rant, too late to switch?

marisolnunez87marisolnunez87 member
in October 2015 Moms
I'm 28 weeks and a FTM. I've always been told conceiving would be hard but it happened. I have a few health issues and pregnancy hasn't been easy. Especially since my OB sucks! She sets up appointments with specialist in her network then forgets who she set me up with and why
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Re: Ob rant, too late to switch?

  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
    I say if you aren't happy look for another. This is your health and the health of your baby here. I'm sure it's won't be the easiest thing but they should be able to transfer medical records fairly easily and you can then have a better experience/delivery than what you've been having.
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  • mandy903mandy903 member
    I switched to another ob at 27 weeks. I called the place I wanted to start going to see if they would accept me as a new patient and take my insurance. Told them I had a current provider. .. They caked said yes. So I called my ob I was switching from and they sent me a discharge letter that stated they would provide me with any needed emergency care for 30 days or until I saw new ob. And that was it. My new ob handled requesting chart.
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  • marisolnunez87marisolnunez87 member
    Thank you very much for the helpful advice! I am definitely going to make the switch knowing how easy it'll be
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    I'm in the same boat but I'm too scared to switch since I'm 32 weeks it just feels too late for me....but if I were you I'd switch asap!
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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    nianicho777 said:
    I'm in the same boat but I'm too scared to switch since I'm 32 weeks it just feels too late for me....but if I were you I'd switch asap!

    Just a question - did you just realize you didn't like your ob or did something happen that made you all of a sudden not like them? I ask because when I was pregnant with my son I found an ob and after the first phone call I knew it wouldn't work. This is someone who is supposed to guide and support me thru one of the most important journeys of my life, so it was very important for me to like them from day one. I called and met my current ob and I fell in love and cant imagine being taken care of by anyone else
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    Well a combo I guess. She's always been really short but most drs are. When I was about 12-13 weeks along I started spotting lightly and having some cramping, so I went in to see her and basically said to her "I just wanted to get checked out and when I called the nurse she told me to come in and that she seemed fine (the baby) because I could still feel the little flutters". First she responded by complaining about how this was her 2nd time seeing me in two weeks (the other time was my normal monthly appointment) and then she proceeded to say "why do you keep calling it a she? You don't know it's a she until we tell you it is". Now I responded very nicely for how I felt for that comment and her tone, but I wanted to curse her out!!!! Ever since then I just don't like her at all. When I set up appts I ask them for anyone but her, and if she's on call the night I go into labor, I plan to stall if possible, so that she doesn't have to deliver my son.
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    nianicho777 said:

    Well a combo I guess. She's always been really short but most drs are. When I was about 12-13 weeks along I started spotting lightly and having some cramping, so I went in to see her and basically said to her "I just wanted to get checked out and when I called the nurse she told me to come in and that she seemed fine (the baby) because I could still feel the little flutters". First she responded by complaining about how this was her 2nd time seeing me in two weeks (the other time was my normal monthly appointment) and then she proceeded to say "why do you keep calling it a she? You don't know it's a she until we tell you it is". Now I responded very nicely for how I felt for that comment and her tone, but I wanted to curse her out!!!! Ever since then I just don't like her at all. When I set up appts I ask them for anyone but her, and if she's on call the night I go into labor, I plan to stall if possible, so that she doesn't have to deliver my son.

    Oh and to add to this is elected this Dr before I became pregnant and she was nice and on point but since I've been pregnant she been the "B" word. My mom said she might have been having a bad day but even so you don't treat a patient like that, let alone a scared pregnant one! Also when I was telling my mom the story, she tells me that my Dr sounds like a well known Dr that a lot of women hate and I asked her the drs name and sure enough she was talking about my doctor lmao. I really should have switched then.
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  • twogirlsandagreentwogirlsandagreen member
    I switched practices at 27 weeks and it has been seamless and comforting
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  • marisolnunez87marisolnunez87 member
    I'm sorry yourself having to go through that. My ob is similar. You're just a concerned mom and want to make sure everything is ok with your LO. Mines sends me to the hospital every chance she gets. All the moms have been really helpful so I'm switched tomorrow since there is that 30 day grace period
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    marisolnunez87 said:

    I'm sorry yourself having to go through that. My ob is similar. You're just a concerned mom and want to make sure everything is ok with your LO. Mines sends me to the hospital every chance she gets. All the moms have been really helpful so I'm switched tomorrow since there is that 30 day grace period

    That's great! I wish I would've done that.
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  • plumpousplumpous member
    My provider made many mistakes and my DH was adamant about having me switch but I never did. I just have other things on my mind, plus is feels so awkward to me- it's like breaking up with someone. I think I will just look for another one after I deliver. I have a GYN whom I love but she doesn't do OB. I will go back to her for my regular stuff and maybe she has some connections to refer me to.
    But good for you for taking care of your needs!
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  • marisolnunez87marisolnunez87 member
    Thanks! I felt awkward making the call in the morning but my ob is never available. The front desk is really pleasant
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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    nianicho777 said:
    Well a combo I guess. She's always been really short but most drs are. When I was about 12-13 weeks along I started spotting lightly and having some cramping, so I went in to see her and basically said to her "I just wanted to get checked out and when I called the nurse she told me to come in and that she seemed fine (the baby) because I could still feel the little flutters". First she responded by complaining about how this was her 2nd time seeing me in two weeks (the other time was my normal monthly appointment) and then she proceeded to say "why do you keep calling it a she? You don't know it's a she until we tell you it is". Now I responded very nicely for how I felt for that comment and her tone, but I wanted to curse her out!!!! Ever since then I just don't like her at all. When I set up appts I ask them for anyone but her, and if she's on call the night I go into labor, I plan to stall if possible, so that she doesn't have to deliver my son.

    You're a saint bc I would have walked out of that appointment and found another ob. It really sucks this is happening to you. No one has the right to speak to you that way ESPECIALLY a caregiver, no matter what's going on in their life. It's called professionalism. What if she's having a bad day on birth day? You shouldn't have to deal with moods and feelings that have nothing to do with you. This is my second pregnancy and I call my ob whenever i fart bc this pregnancy is so different. I'm sure some calls are unnecessary and plain silly to her but because it's an issue for me it's an issue for her. I had spotting and cramping like you and I called her in tears. Her nurse talked me off the ledge (it was normal uterus stretching) and even though I assured the nurse I was fine after our chat my dr still called to make sure I was ok. She emailed me info about the next few weeks and what to expect, and on my next visit we spoke at length about my curiosities/concerns going forward. The fact that you may stall going to L&D makes me sad that you don't have a doctor like mine. At the very least try to get a doula for birth day so you could at least have someone medically trained on your day if she tries to pull some foolishness while your in labor.
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    edited August 2015
    maiatene said:


    nianicho777 said:

    Well a combo I guess. She's always been really short but most drs are. When I was about 12-13 weeks along I started spotting lightly and having some cramping, so I went in to see her and basically said to her "I just wanted to get checked out and when I called the nurse she told me to come in and that she seemed fine (the baby) because I could still feel the little flutters". First she responded by complaining about how this was her 2nd time seeing me in two weeks (the other time was my normal monthly appointment) and then she proceeded to say "why do you keep calling it a she? You don't know it's a she until we tell you it is". Now I responded very nicely for how I felt for that comment and her tone, but I wanted to curse her out!!!! Ever since then I just don't like her at all. When I set up appts I ask them for anyone but her, and if she's on call the night I go into labor, I plan to stall if possible, so that she doesn't have to deliver my son.




    You're a saint bc I would have walked out of that appointment and found another ob. It really sucks this is happening to you. No one has the right to speak to you that way ESPECIALLY a caregiver, no matter what's going on in their life. It's called professionalism. What if she's having a bad day on birth day? You shouldn't have to deal with moods and feelings that have nothing to do with you. This is my second pregnancy and I call my ob whenever i fart bc this pregnancy is so different. I'm sure some calls are unnecessary and plain silly to her but because it's an issue for me it's an issue for her. I had spotting and cramping like you and I called her in tears. Her nurse talked me off the ledge (it was normal uterus stretching) and even though I assured the nurse I was fine after our chat my dr still called to make sure I was ok. She emailed me info about the next few weeks and what to expect, and on my next visit we spoke at length about my curiosities/concerns going forward. The fact that you may stall going to L&D makes me sad that you don't have a doctor like mine. At the very least try to get a doula for birth day so you could at least have someone medically trained on your day if she tries to pull some foolishness while your in labor.
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    That's a great idea! I'll have to look into that. I think the main reason I didn't switch was because I felt comfortable at the practice I've been with my whole adult life and I knew that I can ask to see different docs in the practice, and the nurses are so awesome when I call ...but if she has that tude on my delivery day I won't be holding back this time!

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