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Breastfeeding Bullies

missmarissa711missmarissa711 member
edited August 2015 in July 2015 Moms

https://www.thebump.com/a/how-to-deal-with-breastfeeding-bullies


I was surfing around the feeding part of the bump and came across this and thought it was awesome because I deal with my MIL and her constant nagging about pro breastfeeding. I for one am not producing enough milk for my baby to be strictly fed breastmilk and although I have accepted this, it still kind of sucks. I nurse him as much as I can though the day, and pump every 2-3 hours but I cannot get more than 3 ounces daily  (I have tried all the tips on increasing milk but none have worked) So I go back and fourth from bottle to breast and supplement with formula which is not what I had planned to do but then I think, has anything gone as planned with this baby? Not quite. He is fed, he poops, he pees, he has put on weight, and he is happy so what more could I ask for? Breastfeeding bullies are a real thing. My MIL is one of them and I plan on using some of those comebacks on her ::evil laugh:: . Thought I would share the link in case any of you ladies are dealing with a Breastfeeding bully of your own.

Always hold on to hope ❤
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Re: Breastfeeding Bullies

  • keniialisekeniialise member
    Not at all judging you, but why do you think that amount of milk is not enough? That sounds like more than enough breast milk - granted I don't know how old your baby is, but seeing as you're in this group I'd imagine baby can't be much older than mine and I was told that amount was more than enough as long as baby is having wet and dirty diapers reguraly. ( I wanted to let you know this is my first time solely breastfeeding- but I also exclusively pumped for my first, and exclusively fed formula to my second.. So I support it all!)
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  • missmarissa711missmarissa711 member

    I don't know why I wrote 3 ounces with each pump(could be lack of sleep and my eyes and mind in la la land) , I meant to say 3 ounces with all the pumps together ill edit that. with each pump I get about 20 ml of milk. :(

    Always hold on to hope ❤
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  • randa923randa923 member
    I'm lucky if I get 1-2 ounces with all mypumps throughout the day too. We also breastfeed as much as possible but supplement when we need ( like when he's been on my boob for 3 hours straight). I'm worried about how I will pump enough when I go back to work.
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  • mers90mers90 member
    Bullies suck ... On the other hand, try Brewers yeast from GNC. My mom used to breed dogs and she game them to the ones who were BF and they always produced a lot of milk ... I took them with my first and had A LOT OF MILK and this time I wasn't taking it the first week and she was always hungry because I didn't have enough, the day I started taking them I started leaking every 45 mins! You take 1 or 2 pills each day.

    https://m2.gnc.com/GNC-Brewers-Yeast-500mg/product.jsp?productId=67071186
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    Same thing happened with me. I breastfed and pumped for 3 weeks but my production wasn't keeping up. Luckily my mom couldn't Breast feed because she had an infection and also because we were lactose intolerant, my sister in law couldn't because she didn't produce enough and my mother in law didn't because she planned on going back to work and my husband didn't latch since he was introduced to a bottle by the nurse. They were all very supportive about formula feeding. BUT some other family members feel otherwise :/ I simply just ignore them because they don't make the decisions and also because i know I have my daughter the best part which is the colostrum. She's growing and that's all that matters. :)
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  • qtjo5qtjo5 member
    edited August 2015
    Bullies come on both sides of feeding.

    If it makes you feel better my in laws judge for breast feeding. They think it is somewhat selfish because I am not pumping and they want to be able to feed him and can't. Every time I see them they ask if I have switched to formula and if not then when will I.

    I wish they were more supportive of my decision to EBF but since my MIL EFF her kids, they want me to go that route, too. Also my mom and sister EFF and are not supportive of me breastfeeding. They give me all kinds of reasons to stop and make me feel guilty as well.
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  • beccer123beccer123 member
    @qtjo5 ...sounds like they are the selfish ones. Not you! J/s!!!
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  • irsamirsam member
    Don't feel bad. I was producing up to 15 ounces each pumping session and stopped due to extreme stress not from baby but others. I feel horrible but it's life
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    Why do people think they know what's best for some one else's baby?
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  • qtjo5qtjo5 member
    beccer123 said:

    @qtjo5 ...sounds like they are the selfish ones. Not you! J/s!!!

    Yes i agree!
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  • bethanylynn456bethanylynn456 member
    @qtjo5 I deal with this too! Any time k excuse myself to breastfeed in private I get dirty looks and comments since they "miss out" on time with the baby and never get to feed her. Formula was "good enough" for all their kids so should be for mine too.
    Why can't we all just live and let live!
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  • PurpleBookmarkPurpleBookmark member
    It is so crazy how judgmental people are about feeding babies.  I planned on breastfeeding my first and I got a lot of negative comments about it from my older co-workers who had babies when breastfeeding wasn't really very common.  They didn't understand why the doctors didn't just give you a shot to dry up your milk like they did back in their day.

    When I was unable to breastfeed and ended up formula feeding I felt judgment not directly from people I knew but more from nurses at my OB and pediatrics office.  I also have some high school Facebook friends that post a lot about the evils of formula feeding, so it is hard either way.

    Keep doing what you're doing, you're doing a great job!
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  • hzzzmthzzzmt member
    We're all just doing our best! Remember that and don't let anyone make you feel bad.
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