November 2015 Moms
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why do your in laws bug the crap out of you?
kwaldy
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It seems to be commonplace that in laws suck. And because I feel like I need to rant right now, I'd like to hear how yours bug you or just suck in general.
I hate visiting my FIL. Currently we are back in DH's hometown, so we're staying with my FIL. He chain smokes and does it in the house. Yuck. He does it in one room, luckily... but 90% of the time he forgets to close the door, so the house still smells like smoke. He is also perpetually late to everything. And if we're running late, he won't kick it into high gear to get moving either. It irks the shit out of me.
On top of that, having a schedule for a kid is nearly impossible. He doesn't eat dinner til like 830 or later... and that's SDs bedtime so we're fighting that all the time. And he doesn't give a single shit about bedtime and would let SD stay up til 1 in the morning or later if she didn't crash on her own. The icing on the cake is that the way he deals with all of the grandkids in the family drives me bonkers. I don't know how to describe that one, but just the way he is annoys me.
... safe to say, I'm counting down the days til the end of this "vacation."
I hate visiting my FIL. Currently we are back in DH's hometown, so we're staying with my FIL. He chain smokes and does it in the house. Yuck. He does it in one room, luckily... but 90% of the time he forgets to close the door, so the house still smells like smoke. He is also perpetually late to everything. And if we're running late, he won't kick it into high gear to get moving either. It irks the shit out of me.
On top of that, having a schedule for a kid is nearly impossible. He doesn't eat dinner til like 830 or later... and that's SDs bedtime so we're fighting that all the time. And he doesn't give a single shit about bedtime and would let SD stay up til 1 in the morning or later if she didn't crash on her own. The icing on the cake is that the way he deals with all of the grandkids in the family drives me bonkers. I don't know how to describe that one, but just the way he is annoys me.
... safe to say, I'm counting down the days til the end of this "vacation."
Re: why do your in laws bug the crap out of you?
They like to "help" while they're here but it's always on their terms and things I don't really want there help with. For example, during their last visit my MIL "helped" by pruning my favorite plum tree almost to death and my FIL took it upon himself to rearrange all of the furniture in the guest bedroom. I really wish they would put that energy toward helping with useful things like dinner, dishes etc instead.
They're coming in 2 weeks and then again a week after my due date. THEN they want to come back 2 weeks after they leave. We told them that wouldn't work because we will likely leave to visit my family at some point during that time. They said that's ok, they'll just stay at our house without us! They don't really have a good understanding of boundaries.
Sorry so long. Thanks for giving me a place to vent (clearly I needed it!). Good luck with the rest of your vacation and wish me luck with my inlaw's upcoming visit!
My in laws scare me! We don't have a good relationship. I've tried but they aren't open people so everything is about their son (my hubby) and I'm just there. Problem I have is FIL is a baligerant alcoholic who smokes cigarettes and pot. My MIL smokes cigarettes. They live in this little apartment with no balcony and they smoke in the apartment. The walls are discolored, it reeks immediately when you walk in and when you leave you smell like smoke. I don't want our baby around that but they won't listen to me and my hubby always supports his parents. They have already started talking to my hubby about an overnight with the baby one day and the baby isn't even here yet! I don't think I could ever trust them especially if they won't communicate with me. Truthfully I don't even want the baby at there house.
She wants me to eat learner beef... I usually get the 93-7 from Walmart.. My husband has realized her little spicy food thing came from Facebook so he doesn't try to talk me out of it anymore lol but my MIL will try everything in her power to get me to not eat it!!! I'm so ready for this baby to be born so she will go back to normal!!!
Anyway, you're not alone!!!
FIL is nuts. It's a fairly benign form of crazy and he doesn't live nearby though so I can tolerate it.
Neither of BF's parents (both retired) understand that most people have schedules and things like work and so can't drop all of their plans to accomodate whatever hairbrained scheme they've come up with on the spot. They also don't understand logistics of things like children being in school and not being able to get up and leave whenever they want. They are also both hoarders. FIL has 5 shipping containers filled to the brim with "antiques" outside of the barely habitable trailer he lives in. MIL has 3 houses across which she spreads her "antiques." Both of their definitions of "antique" includes any piece of crap a dead family member owned.
GAH.
She is currently throwing a fit about not being at the hospital when the baby is born. We want time to relax and bond after baby is born. She has made it clear the she does not respect this decision, so I told her if I can't trust her to respect us, I will just avoid the issue and not tell her I'm in labor until baby is her and we are ready for visitors. Apparently not letting her in the delivery room =not letting her see or be involved in her grandson's life (dramatic much?).
I could go on for days about her BS.
Like right now she's read this Japanese book about de-cluttering her life so what does she do? She sends boxes of crap to our 2BR apartment across the country. Yeah, cuz while I'm pregnant I totes want to deal with where to put your junk, too.
My MIL means well, but she is way too much. She's always smothering me and driving me crazy. She's completely neurotic and it just drives me crazy. Always asking if I'm eating healthy, and if I say "oh I had a cheeseburger for lunch" she completely flips out. Pretty much everything I do she asks if the doctor approved it. Even something as simple as going to a concert or beach trip. Just way too much.
My 2 SIL are just a train wreck. We got married in Vegas, and the 2 of them got into a naked fist fight with each other after the rehearsal dinner. Pretty much sums them up.
My FIL and my husband don't really get along so the fact that he hasn't inquired about baby at all doesn't bother me. It actually suits me fine.
Rant over.
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