October 2015 Moms

Anyone else working full time??

I just need to find another pregnant woman out there who is working 40 plus hours a week, who hates their job and is tired of being pregnant. I am losing my cool and just need to vent to someone. There are days I don't know how I am going to make it to the middle October? I think if I have someone else I know struggling in misery maybe that could help.
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Re: Anyone else working full time??

  • With you girl! I love what I do but my boss is a raging c***!! My mom constantly tells me how I need to stay calm so I don't stress the baby out but it's so hard when on a daily basis my boss does at least one awful thing. I am working until my water breaks so I'm gonna have to deal with her crap until then. Plus I only get to take a few weeks off and then I'm back to the B.S. I will definitely be job hunting shortly after though! I'm sorry you're going through stress! It's never fun! What about you job is getting to you specifically? Has your pregnancy been really rough? Let it out!
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  • Ha yep! I'm a server and work full time. Talk about a living hell! I will also probably only be taking 6 weeks off before I go back...sigh. Try taking a day just for you. Don't let your job stress you out to the point where it's not good for you or baby!
  • I'm with you ladies! I work a desk job but it is high stress environment (I'm in sales) and my boss is the most passive aggressive terrible manager on the planet. I complain about her everyday...among other things at my awful job. Can't wait for maternity leave and then I'm job hunting!
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  • I'm with you. I actually took today off because I was so tired, and knew I needed to rest. I really like my job, but working full time and being in the third trimester is not easy.
  • Right there with ya I work over 40 hours every week (at a vet office) that has 5 drs. So I am constantly up and down running all over the place even though I have already stated how hard it is to be up and down constantly.... I only have 8 weeks left to go so it is not going to get any easier and I am wondering when they are going to actually listen that I can't do what I did before... :-( on the plus side every other week I have 3 days off but working 12 hr days sucks while pregnant!!
  • I don't hate my job, but other than that I'm totally there with you! I'm so over being pregnant and working 40+ hours a week sucks! I've been training a new employee and it's draining what energy I do have :(
  • I work as a receptionist in a doctors office (9 doctors) and I don't know how I'm gonna make it through another day. Today I went off on a hospital employee and told them I'll pick up his slack and so his job if he wants to be lazy and then hung up on him. I'm so ready for maternity leave indefinitely!(well at least until LO is a little older)
  • I also dont hate my job but its wearing me down a lot more than it has before. I work 10-12 hrs monday-saturday and sometimes end up in the office sunday playing catchup.

    I used to come home and work out and clean and then crash for the night. Recently however i find myself nodding off in traffic driving home.
  • bgriestbgriest member
    edited August 2015
    Right there with you! I work a full time Monday - Friday 8:30-5 job as a receptionist at a doctors office (we have 11 providers and 5 NP's...each provider has about 2,000+ patients) and then I work my part time job every Sunday for 8-8.5 hours! I can't say I love my full time job. Not sure I'd use the word hate but it is definitely very trying on my patience getting yelled at all day, every day by people while have a sense of entitlement. Not to say there aren't sweet and kind people because there definitely is. It just gets tiring being berated on a daily basis and told that the receptionist are "incompetent" when really the nurse or doctor just didnt get back to them and it has nothing at all to do with us. I'm just ready to be done being pregnant and have 3 months off from working 6 days a week. I am beyond burnt out and cranky.
  • I am totally right there with you. I work in a hospital and work 6 twelve hour shifts and 1 eight hour shift every 2 weeks. The problem is that I watch a telemetry monitor all day and can only get up and move around if someone qualified relieves me. By the end of the day my feet are super swollen even with wearing compression socks and keeping them elevated. My boss has repeatedly ignored my requests for more breaks to walk around as my doctor suggested so needless to say I will be job hunting while I'm off for maternity leave.
  • I love my job, but I work way over 40 hours a week and I'm at the point that where I think everyone but me is stupid.
    I told a customer last week, "Next time you need a favor, you can go somewhere else and fuck yourself." (Then hung up) ...Not my proudest moment. But he was being an asshole and making my company look bad, when it was his company that sucks. Thankfully, my boss agreed with me and we laughed about it later.
    I'm a manager and things I would normally let roll off my back, I just down people's throats about.
    I'm sure the whole office is ready for me to be on maternity leave!!
    But 6 weeks later, I'll be right back!
  • Yes! All of this.
  • I don't necessarily *hate* my job, but I'm overwhelmed and ready for a break. I've been asked repeatedly if I "really want to take the full 12 weeks". Well, yeah, you are paying me 100% for that period, I'd be stupid not to take it! I'm definitely more snappy and I'm sure everyone else is ready for me to go on leave.

    Lucky! I'd gladly take 12w if I got paid for all of it. I'm getting 100% for whatever short-term disability I get...so 6-8w max. :(
  • I'm so there! Plus we've gotten super busy, and my boss is trying to squeeze in a bunch of family trips before his kids go back to school. It's crazy! So ready for maternity leave!
  • tbasinski said:

    I work three 12 hr night shifts (7pm-7am) as a ER RN. I normally love my job but I am sooooo over dealing with other people's issues. Your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency. You have high blood pressure because you forgot to fill your Meds? Okay??? You have a kid w a fever but never bothered to give them Tylenol or Motrin? Feel free to parent before you clog up the ER. Don't get me wrong, I am totally okay dealing w people with true emergencies or even just "urgencies". But if the first words out of your mouth involve asking me for food, drinks, or more blankets- you have lost any sympathy I may have. RN does not stand for Refreshments & Narcotics


    Sooo much YES to this!!!!

    And where you said "your lack of planning does not constitute as an emergency" is soooooo on point! AT LEAST once a day I get off the phone with someone who was a total asshole on the phone to me about how they're out of medication and it's an emergency. I tell them it's near the end of the day and I can't guarantee it'll get filled until the next day as we have a 24 hour refill policy. Then they scream about how they take this daily and they're out and need it now and I don't understand that it's an emergency.

    Oh no, I understand that you take this pill daily and saw and knew that you were getting low and instead of being responsible and planning ahead and calling a few days ago you waited until you were out.

    I literally get off the phone and say to the nurses "a lack of planning on your part does not constitute as an emergency on my part."
  • Right there with you. Hoping it eases up a bit as I just finished up supervising my last masters program student until I get back from maternity leave. But again, so ready to just be done.
  • Yep. With toddlers. All. Day. Long. By the last hour, I can hardly move. They keep me on my toes though! :)
  • Yap! While I don't necessarily hate my job, there are definitely some days where I just want to be all 'FUCK IT I QUIT!' As far as being pregnant goes, yes. I'm totally ready for him to come out and hang with me.


  • I work at a hospital as a pediatric resident and this month, I have 28 hour shift every 4 day. The rest of the days I work ~12 hours and I get one day off a week... I'm not handling this schedule well at all!
  • yep and it sucks, by Friday I feel like I've been hit by a truck then recover on the weekend then start all over again, so thankful I only have less then 6 weeks of work left because I have to finish 6 weeks before I'm due and I'm counting down the days!
  • I totally get it. I manage a subway and I'm supposed to work 45 hours a week. I recently cut myself down to 40 because I just couldn't do it anymore. I'm trying to no longer put the food order away because it's just too much. I can do it but it takes me longer and completely wipes me out. And I've been so snappy it's crazy!
  • With you! I work in customer service and have definitely had to start taking walks to calm down after a confrontation. Don't yell at me can't you see I'm pregnant!!
  • I teach and coach, so I work 70+ hour weeks starting August 17th. Being on your feet and energetic to keep students engaged and set the stage for the year and then spending the rest of the evening on a school bus and in a hot gym at 8 and 9 months pregnant will be a test for sure! I'm interested to see how my body handles it. I think if I can mentally stay in a good place and power through, I can still enjoy it, but it really isn't easy physically at that point. I feel for all of you ladies! You are working hard and doing a lot. Keep it up! This is all temporary, and you will meet that LO very soon!
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  • @danixbanani24 40+ hours a week in sales here too!!!! I'm working up until I'm in labor since my job only pays 6 weeks @60% of my base salary & since I'm in sales most of my money comes from commissions ( I get none of that while I'm gone). Needless to say it looks like a lot of us will be back within 6-8 weeks!!!! I'm just hoping I have the time/ energy/ and luck to find something while I'm out on leave!!!!!
  • I agree with everyone. 40 hours M-F 9am-5pm is so rough. My hardest part is my commute. I take a bus and the train. The stairs going up and down from the train kill me! Everyone is on a rush downtown. Ugh I hate commuting. My actual job isn't bad. I'm a program coordinator for s masters program at a big university.y office is small and most of the time o can't stand my 4 other co workers. I miss the days when I had a friend at work. We have a couple of post docs who are my age and we get along great but they're only in two days a week. The other 3 are so boring sometimes. I'd rather be home making art and preparing for baby. I'll be taking 7 weeks of maternity leave but my boss wants to work with me to go part time yay!
  • I'm a full time working lady as well. Typically 50 hour work weeks with no lunch break (I will eat at my desk). I do like my job, but we are planning on moving offices to a further location and I am not happy about it. My 30 minute commute is going to turn into an hour commute--I already get home at 7 pm every night. Can't wait for maternity leave!!!!
  • Leabyrd said:
    @danixbanani24 40+ hours a week in sales here too!!!! I'm working up until I'm in labor since my job only pays 6 weeks @60% of my base salary & since I'm in sales most of my money comes from commissions ( I get none of that while I'm gone). Needless to say it looks like a lot of us will be back within 6-8 weeks!!!! I'm just hoping I have the time/ energy/ and luck to find something while I'm out on leave!!!!!
    @leabyrd I'm lucky that my company pays 100% of salary for 8 weeks and then I'm taking 4 weeks unpaid for a full 12 week maternity leave.  I want to be out until the new year!  But I'll be working up until my water breaks in my office too lol I joke with my assistant asking him if he's been keeping up on his midwife classes hahah
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  • @danixbanani24 @Leabyrd me too! I am in sales - I get paid 50% salary and 50% commission and will only make salary when I am out so missing out on half my paycheck - stinks - not to mention I hope my book of business isn't in shambles when I get back
  • 40+ hours a week in higher education. August is always crazy around here, as classes will be starting in a couple weeks, but it seems it is so much worse this year. Lots of deadlines, scheduled meetings, emergency meetings, and a general sense of urgency. On top of the normal chaos, everything is in a state of transition right now (from staffing to daily operations) so it's gone from low-stress to me--the hormonal one--trying to keep everyone calm and smooth ruffled feathers. I really do love my job and my coworkers, but I cannot wait for maternity leave... :-<
  • Yeah have your doctor mandate in your INTERMITTENT FMLA papers(you'll be needing it. My baby is 28 weeks and his head is in my pelvic bone already and his spine is on my spine) that you need to work max 6hrs/work shifts. I am still working full time, but my FMLA will help me out if I need to drop my hours closer to my baby's birth. I hope all goes well for you!!
  • Yes, the suckage is real. I work a desk job as an attorney and I've hated my job for a long time, but this is just sending me over the edge. I'd quit except I need to bring in as much money as possible before baby. But by the end of the work day my feet and ankles are huge and my back is killing me and I'm starting to wonder if it's worth it.
  • @danixbanani24 oh I know! I have the buddy system set up and a fast route to the nearest doctor just in case! I love being busy but sometimes it stinks knowing we HAVE to be here because the company doesn't give us an alternative. We can do it!
  • I work full time and love my job (although it has it's moments, like any other). But I work/live in the city and commuting is not as easy as simply going from car to office. Walking to/from the subway is starting to get harder and harder and I'm moving slower and slower. I'm hoping that closer to delivery I can convince my doc to sign off on early medical leave, a couple weeks before my due date. The way my maternity leave works is that I have quite a lot of "medical" leave. Baby bonding time is different; I have to use vacation days for that.
  • Thank you all so much for sharing. It makes me feel good that I am not alone. I haven't had any time to talk to any pregnant woman so it's nice to hear, in a unfortunate way. Reading all this makes me think what shitty benefits pregnant woman do have. We are expected to carry on the same daily tasks while making another human. Then when we do get a small maternity break of 6-12 weeks and at 60% of your pay and then weeks of no pay? (Depending on what your job provides) What is that? I mean I am a first time mom here, how am I suppose to still pay mortgage get all the baby things and survive off of 60% pay and then a month of nothing? Wish there is some type of bill we could pass in the government giving pregnant woman a little more benefits. Don't we deserve it? Didn't mean to get so diplomatic but it's true. Just think we could all use a break. In the meantime I need to get ready for work...
  • @VioletandRose My Maternity leave is exactly the same! I'm hoping to leave a bit sooner too, although staying until my due date is ideal so I have more time afterwards. I just don't think I can make it. I too have a terrible commute the "L" here in Chicago and a packed bus down Michigan Ave. I've avoided the underground subway because the stairs to go down were way too much. It's totally getting harder and harder, especially when you hobble to the bus and there are no seats. My equilibrium is so off I sway everywhere. No one really offers their seat so I just try to bear with it but man my hips and feet kill me when I get home. 
  • @VioletandRose YES!!! They make it so complicated!! I didn't realize I couldn't use sick days after maternity ends for "bonding time"  and use my vacation days until last week... it's so mean. Wow thats an amazing chuck of sick time you've accrued! Good job. I have about 5 weeks lol but I've only been here a year. 

    Every.single.day I've been taking pictures of the jerks who run and steal a seat from me (there's one woman who does it to me every. single. morning) and I send them to DH followed by a long rant full of the worst words and descriptions I can think of. It's so mean. Women NEVER offer me their seats, unless they are nurses. I'm almost relieved when I see a woman in scrubs and she ALWAYS offers. Younger men offer but not older men. Very rarely has a healthy, non-overweight woman offered their seat to me. UGH the manspreading! Sometimes I'll squeeze next to him and he'll shut them but gosh its awkward, you don't need two seats for your tiny penis and knees.
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