January 2016 Moms

Names?

I'm currently 18 weeks and we were lucky enough to find out what we were having at 13 weeks. We are having a boy and already have his name picked out but we're waiting until the baby shower to tell people. Is anybody else waiting to tell your little ones name?
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  • With my other 2 children we basically told everyone the name once we settled which was about 25-30 weeks pregnant. This will be the first time we are team green so now we need 2 names! IF we can agree on names this go around we will tell people as soon as it is settled.

     

     

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  • We waited until birth. My SIL went with an unusual choice for her DD (Persephone) and got a lot of negative comments. Our pick (Eliza) was more mainstream but everyone has an opinion and when you're pregnant, there's a stamp across your forehead alerting others to share theirs with you. I just didn't want to deal with that.
  • I'm waiting to announce name until birth. People can't not put in their 2 cents.
  • I'm thinking about waiting until the baby is born.  I personally couldn't give a rats ass about anyone's opinion - and if I shared ahead of time and they gave me a negative opinion I'd tell them just how unwelcome said opinion is.  But - I like the idea of having it to announce when the baby is born.

    My husband wanted to name our baby Eliza.  But I have one cousin with a daughter Elizabeth and another with a daughter Lila - both of whom we see regularly.  So I think its too close.
  • I agree @RepeatPostPolice and oddly enough, not many will dare say a bad word about the name after the baby is born!

    I think because at that point it's too late to change your mind by saying something rude about it. 8-}
  • I'm waiting until my baby shower to tell people what we're having, but we're thinking about keeping the name quiet until the baby is born. We talked about names a little bit with both of our families and it was just annoying...my mom is pushing for me to use my maiden name as the baby's middle name (even though I hyphenated so it's not like I don't still use that name).  Meanwhile my MIL is insisting if it's a boy we name him the name she was saving for if she had a second son so she can finally "have her Nicholas".

    People likely won't say anything obnoxious once the baby is already here and the name is set in stone!
  • edited August 2015

    We aren't sharing our LO's name until after birth. I don't care for anyone's opinion on it, and for some reason that is one of the parenting decisions other people feel entitled to be the RUDEST about if they don't like your choice.

    This is my thought exactly! My mom is dying to know the name... No way. Once LO arrives then she can find out ;). Might tell best friend, but that's it ;).

  • We are team green but also keep the name a secret until after baby is born. Partly because we usually don't decide (agree) until then. DD wasn't named until about 12 hours until after she was born.

    Agree with others, I don't want to hear your opinion. We choose normal names but people still feel like they can give opinions when's there's not a baby staring at them.
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  • We've already told family and friends our Anne choices. If they don't like the name, too bad. It's my kid, not theirs. (But FTR, they like both of our choices)

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  • With DS we didn't tell anyone the name until he was born. We didn't really care about getting opinions if we shared earlier, but since we already told everyone we were having a boy it was fun to have something to keep as a surprise for once he was born. Also, it was great torturing friends and family as they tried to guess before the birth :) We plan on keeping the name a secret this time around as well.
  • We have our a/s in 2 weeks and have names picked out. My sister owns a monogramming business and we want her to do personalized things for the baby, so we plan to just share the initials and then announce the name when baby is born. That way everyone can guess but no one will know.
  • We kept the names a secret. We are team green again and won't share until we announce the baby's birth. My sister had lots of comments and opinions from my parents and I didn't want the hassle.

    I also think calling the baby by its name before it is born is a little strange. I have seen shower cakes that say "welcome 'name' " which I thought was weird. I really don't know why I think that, but to each his own.
  • I'm 18 weeks and 2 days and we came up with our names. Not sharing until we find out the gender in a few weeks
  • We won't be sharing til birth. Heck, most people don't even know I'm pregnant yet and won't until I can't play it off as a big lunch anymore. As a third timer, I know the unsolicited comments and advice all too well. Hate it!

    DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015


  • We're team green but still won't announce our names until birth. When my SILs want to talk about it I don't even mention any of my favorite choices. I've never told them that. But last time around they had such negative things to say about some of my early favorites I told DH to stop talking about it. When my son was born everyone was shocked by the name because they had never heard us mention it before. We had it narrowed down to 2 girl and 2 boy options. We told people it just came to us. Really or came to us months earlier, we just failed to mention it.
  • We aren't sharing our LO's name until after birth. I don't care for anyone's opinion on it, and for some reason that is one of the parenting decisions other people feel entitled to be the RUDEST about if they don't like your choice.

    Hmm....I wasn't going to keep it a secret but that is a good point. I don't want to hear people's unsolicited opinions.

  • Honestly after the freaking mess it caused when we thought we were going to pick "Jackson" I'm done spilling. We have picked our names but eff.. I had two people telling me (both not knocked up) that they wanted to name their children of that one day and they called "dibs". My darling mother in law had more than her fair share of opinions so, my advice would be a strong keep that ish to yourself! Never again will I share.
  • babybluubabybluu member
    edited August 2015
    Like pp, we aren't sharing the name with anyone we know because previously I have shared another name we were thinking of for our daughter and got nothing but negative feedback, and it made me sad, and it was a classic girl name. I know I shouldn't care what others think, but honestly I kind of do. I'd rather be in the dark about their opinions, and I doubt anyone would say anything after she's born lol. I did share our name choices on the baby name board to get some feedback
  • We are finding out what we are having at 20 weeks. We won't tell anyone the name until we're in the hospital and the baby is born.
    I'm a FTM but I don't want anyone's opinion on our name. I don't want to hear anyone say they want to name their kid that name when they're preggo.
    And honestly whether we pick a name at 20 weeks and 2 days or it takes up until we're going to the hospital... I just plan to tell everyone we haven't agreed on a name yet either way.
  • My distant cousin in England, who I do keep in touch with, just had a baby, and named it the same name we are going to name a boy, if we have one. We are not changing our mind, and we will keep it a secret until birth. Worst case scenario, two little boys on the opposite side of the ocean have a cousin with the same name!
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    DD - January 2016
  • zg49zg49 member
    We already know the name if we're having a boy and have told family already as well. We'd name him after my and my DH's grandfathers that have passed away. If we have another girl we have no ideas! We will probably share with family once we decide.





  • Like many pp, we won't tell until baby is born. We did this with DD and were happy we did. Part of our thinking too is that we find out gender and tell that part but we do like having the name still be a surprise.
  • We didn't finalize with DS until after he was born but we didn't share our choices with anyone. We plan to do the same thing this time. Any time people are annoying about asking about names I just throw random crap out there (these annoying people are mostly my sisters lol)
  • People IRL will not know our name choices or final decisions for all the reasons listed above. I don't mind sharing them on the boards though. With DD it was so easy because we had the name picked out forever. This LO has a boy name but no definite girl name. The boy will be Matthew James after my grandfather and DH. The girl name, ugh, so difficult. I think we have narrowed it down to Penelope or Marielle. We were all set on Penelope (even though people have been telling me it's getting popular? I don't know a single Penelope IRL) but then I saw the name Marielle and now we are all confused. So it will be probably be a wait and see sort of thing. Either way I won't even tell my mother the name choices bc I like for my family and friends to be surprised instead of "oh little Matthew is here!" But that's just me.
  • ashhsaashhsa member
    edited August 2015
    I'm not telling anyone till after the baby is born either... I wish I could not tell my husband the name choices too!! Lmao! He is the worst! Shoots down EVERY suggestion, and has come up with not even one of his own!! I think I'm just going to have to chose something and he is just going to have to deal with it!
  • We've shared with people.  I haven't had anyone put their 2 cents in and at least to our faces, most people have said that they think the names we've chosen are nice, haha.  My mother made a little "hmmph" noise after I shared the first and middle names with her, and neither our girl choice or boy choice had any affiliation with her side of the family. The middle name for a girl is after DH's grandmother and happens to be his sisters middle name too.  The middle name for a boy is my dad's middle name (my mom and dad are now divorced) and DH's grandfathers first name. Even if we did do that on purpose, which we didn't, I was slightly turned off by her making the gesture and then changing the subject to something else. 
  • The middle name for a boy is my dad's middle name (my mom and dad are now divorced) and DH's grandfathers first name. Even if we did do that on purpose, which we didn't, I was slightly turned off by her making the gesture and then changing the subject to something else.

    This is the exact reason I will not be telling anybody the name until after birth. We already have a name picked since we found out the sex early, and the middle name is my dad's middle name. I've already gotten comments from my grandmother about using my maiden name as a middle name for him. If anyone has anything to say I'm just going to smile and nod and think about my perfect name I already picked out :)
  • Yall are so strong!! I just can't wait!! Haha
  • CaraBoonieCaraBoonie member
    edited August 2015
    We announced our pregnancy with her name included, haha. I was open to opinions from my family and close friends when we were still deciding on names, but once we had both a boy and girl name picked out, and then found out she's a girl, we immediately started referring to her by name and making it known this IS her name, and nobody has dared to say anything but great things about our choice (and it was a name nobody had anything negative to say about during the choosing process). I know people say they get unnecessary comments and advice during pregnancy, but so far nobody in my life has been anything but positive and helpful and I can't imagine anybody I know saying anything negative about a baby name once they knew it was set in stone. I make sure when people ask if we have a name yet to say "Yes, her name IS" instead of "we're thinking about" so nobody has given input.

    Edit, Added: I also personally like my approach because everybody in my life is already referring to her by name and thinking of her as a real person, so by the time she is born it will be natural for everybody to call her by name as well. Just my personal preference and opinion, but hearing a friend say they bought something for "Name" instead of "the baby" makes me feel good inside each time :)

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  • I can't keep my mouth shut...I want to keep names a secret but they just fall out. I am an art teacher and I already told the kids at work my girl name. (Josephine) hubby and I can't decide on a boy name though. It's easier to keep the secret when I don't know the answer...
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  • I tell our chosen names as soon as we know them. My kids have pretty traditional names and no one ever said anything bad about them. Most people would tell me they were great, I had a few people tell me they were "boring" but that didn't bother me, I guess I like boring! The thing I got the most was unique spelling suggestions for DDs name, I thought that was kind of funny and would just smile and nod!

    I actually like to see peoples response to a name before I give it to my child. If 90% of people react negatively to a name that might be a bad sign. People might not say anything when your kid is born but they will still be thinking it, and then your kid has to deal with it their whole life! You might say "I don't care what other people think", but your kid might care and they are the ones that have to live with the name.
  • I'm a waiter. I like to reveal after birth. I know a ton of pregnant mommas on my FB feed and if someone stole my name, I might cut somebody.
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  • leap_frog said:
    I'm a waiter. I like to reveal after birth. I know a ton of pregnant mommas on my FB feed and if someone stole my name, I might cut somebody.

    Oooo I was going to post the name I had chosen on FB but this made me just possibly change my mind.. but for now I don't tell people the names we have considered because I don't really care what they think we should name it. I just tell them "we aren't discussing it until we know if it's a boy or girl"
  • We have decided 90% on Miles Jonathan. There is a small chance he will be Carson Jonathan. But we aren't telling people til baby is born. I just tell people I wont be able to decide until I meet my baby.
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  • I always found it really obnoxious when people refused to share name choices. If it interests your family and friends then why not just share. For that reason I just tell people when they ask. I don't really care what anyone else thinks anyway.
  • @AmeliaKris Our boy name is Miles, too! We find out next week, but I've had this gut instinct it's a boy. We'll see, I guess.

    We had names picked out before we ever got pregnant and they're solid. We've told people, and have had no negative feedback. Maybe pp was right, if it's set in stone, people won't say anything against it.
  • We have a couple we are thinking about but nobody will know until he is born. We don't want to hear whether people like it or not.
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