Boy or girl?? 12 week NT scan!!

Kimberlybritt · August 2015

Ok so I didn't want to know the guess of the sex from the ultrasound, but after looking at this picture I'm curious to see what others see! What do you think boy or girl!?

wisco29 · August 2015

Did you lose a bet.... We saw that j16 was betting someone to come ask this question.

Either way my guess is it's a BABY!!! Congrats on your healthy baby!

VitaLuna · August 2015

Oh yay, my favorite. Here, check out this picture of my kid's genitals and tell me what you think. Squeee!1!

Kimberlybritt · August 2015

Yes we are extremely excited about this rainbow baby of ours! We lost our first son at 5 months old while waiting for a heart transplant! He had a rare heart defect that just could not be fixed. We later had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Now that I'm finally in my second trimester and we got a good report at the NT scan I feel like I can finally talk about this baby and be excited!! Health is always first and foremost but knowing the sex is just a fun way to prepare

g8trkim · August 2015

:backs away slowly:

RRC216 · August 2015

Excited for you but this post will not go over well with the other ladies..... Good luck....

wisco29 · August 2015

CicchettiFamily said:
Excited for you but this post will not go over well with the other ladies..... Good luck....

It will go over fine... Just give your best guess. Everyone who is a reg is going to say it's a baby... Or some other hilarious animal or object.

RRC216 · August 2015

A girl? I've never had a baby so I have no idea how to read these!

Lola2o1 · August 2015

@Kimberlybritt boy?! How exciting can't wait for mine! Congrats on a healthy baby:) ignore the snark comments!

Kimberlybritt · August 2015

Wow didn't know I would get attacked on my first post! Sorry I don't know there was proper bump etiquette on what I could or couldn't ask! Way to make a girl feel excepted especially after everything I have been through! For all the positive comments, thank you! God bless

sonoshark88 · August 2015

Try reading the post that says bump guidelines..best of luck!

Edit to add- also the new here read me first.

Ju111310 · August 2015

Guessing the sex is not a popular topic on the bump...lurk around a bit to get a feel for the boards.

But I'll play along. Did the tech give you a guess? Just for fun, I'll say boy! Either way, looks like a sweet baby! And so sorry for your losses, I can't imagine the pain of losing a child like that.

pettycrocker · August 2015

I am guessing boy. Congratulations

RRC216 · August 2015

So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you and your husband went through! This is indeed a special rainbow baby!! Wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy!!! Btw I sent you a message. Its in your inbox!

cutright1 · August 2015

Ignore the women who have nothing better to do than make others feel put down about their excitement.

I'm going to guess a boy!

Either way congratulations on your rainbow baby! I suffer from pcos and just conceiving was a miracle for us so I completely understand the excitement! I hope everythi,g goes well with the pregnancy and baby stays nice and healthy can't wait till you know the sex for sure!

Edit for typo

strlitemiss · August 2015

1) Nobody attacked you 2)It's gender 3) sexual organs are near identical at 12 weeks so I'm going to say it looks like a healthy baby.

VitaLuna · August 2015

strlitemiss said:
1) Nobody attacked you 2)It's gender 3) sexual organs are near identical at 12 weeks so I'm going to say it looks like a healthy baby.

Nope, it's still sex.

My problem with these things isn't sharing your excitement for a healthy LO (yes, healthy scans are exciting!), it's that I find it completely tasteless to post crotch shots of your baby (and ask people what they see). This one isn't as bad as the many that I'm sure we'll see after people start having their anatomy scans. I feel the same about people posting "it's a boy/girl!" with the crotch shot on FB, etc.

RRC216 · August 2015

Maybe the unnecessary sarcasm from some members made her feel attacked @strlitemiss. I can understand that!

RRC216 · August 2015

None of it offends me. Its just a baby. Not a born child or adult. People are just excited is all!

strlitemiss · August 2015

VitaLuna said:

strlitemiss said:
1) Nobody attacked you 2)It's gender 3) sexual organs are near identical at 12 weeks so I'm going to say it looks like a healthy baby.
Nope, it's still sex.

My problem with these things isn't sharing your excitement for a healthy LO (yes, healthy scans are exciting!), it's that I find it completely tasteless to post crotch shots of your baby (and ask people what they see). This one isn't as bad as the many that I'm sure we'll see after people start having their anatomy scans. I feel the same about people posting "it's a boy/girl!" with the crotch shot on FB, etc.

Hahaha I'm so tired! Yes it is sex and I'm now taking a nap!

MamaFroFro · August 2015

Kimberlybritt said:
Yes we are extremely excited about this rainbow baby of ours! We lost our first son at 5 months old while waiting for a heart transplant! He had a rare heart defect that just could not be fixed. We later had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Now that I'm finally in my second trimester and we got a good report at the NT scan I feel like I can finally talk about this baby and be excited!! Health is always first and foremost but knowing the sex is just a fun way to prepare

If this were your original post you would have received nothing but support. This group has been very amazing and supportive to many who have experienced loss or losses. Also, I am sorry for what you have gone through. It sounds heartbreaking.

However, these posts are not well accepted in this BMB or any others I have lurked on here at TB for that matter. Don't take it personally. Spend some time lurking and you will get a feel for what this community is like.

Congrats on your healthy baby!

Edited grammar

kira91499 · August 2015

I vote "boy"! Best of luck for a continued healthy pregnancy!

g8trkim · August 2015

I understand your excitement, and I'm not bothered by the picture or question. I just find it kind of odd to want people to randomly guess. We're not trained to read ultrasounds, so why ask our opinions? But plenty of ladies make posts to share their ultrasounds and excitement, and I think that's awesome.

Jcblackb · August 2015

**Removed for TOU violation**

g8trkim · August 2015

Jcblackb said:
Just as easily as she could have decided not to post this thread, you ladies could have chosen NOT to take the time to click on her post and leave nasty backhanded comments. We are a team of women from around the country who are bringing CHILDREN into this world around the very same time. That is special. We should really try and lose the attitudes and just be supportive of one another. We are (God willing) all going to be (or already are) MOTHERS - and I for one hope to be a mother who practices what she plans to preach to her child - i.e., if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. I'm as sarcastic and dry as the next person, but that doesn't mean you have to be hateful simply because someone posted something you find moderately annoying. I'm so tired of reading bitchy comments. Problem solved: don't read the threads!

So you called posters names? That's not supportive either.

And I don't even think anyone was mean to OP. Comments were relatively tame.

VitaLuna · August 2015

Jcblackb said:
Just as easily as she could have decided not to post this thread, you ladies could have chosen NOT to take the time to click on her post and leave nasty backhanded comments. We are a team of women from around the country who are bringing CHILDREN into this world around the very same time. That is special. We should really try and lose the attitudes and just be supportive of one another. We are (God willing) all going to be (or already are) MOTHERS - and I for one hope to be a mother who practices what she plans to preach to her child - i.e., if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. I'm as sarcastic and dry as the next person, but that doesn't mean you have to be hateful simply because someone posted something you find moderately annoying. I'm so tired of reading bitchy comments. Problem solved: don't read the threads!

I'm bothered that you are accusing me or anyone else in this thread of being hateful. A difference in opinion on the appropriateness of asking for a penis/vagina photo assessment is not hateful, as you so claim.

The ladies on here are awesome. Even the ones I don't agree with on some things. I'm sure if she sticks around, OP will be awesome, too. It's ok to not agree on things. It's part of life. I have seen some hateful things on this board (women wishing a m/c on others, etc). Don't EVER group the rest of is into such a heinous category.

ETA: fix quote tree

g8trkim · August 2015

@VitaLuna was your above response to Jcblackb's thread. The way the thread cut looks like a response to mine. Just want to make sure.

Edit grammar fail

minivanmafia · August 2015

First of all.. Congrats on your healthy baby!

Second of all, I understand that you are excited and have been through a lot (MOST of us have too).

However, what I don't understand is why everyone flips out when you get side-eyed or an answer that you were not expecting when you jump on a board that you aren't familiar with and post something like this. Imagine walking up to a group of woman that you don't know and taking them your ultrasound, handing it over and asking them the same exact question. They would all look at you like your nuts. Same here… we aren't mean or trying to make anyone feel bad. This is a community full of support and love… with the occasional snark but we are still a bunch of woman that don't know each other though we are in the midst of making friends and learning about each other. We don't know if your spotting is normal but we will give you virtual hugs and send up prayers that it is normal. We don't know your having a boy or a girl, most of us aren't trained to read ultrasounds but we will be excited with/for you once you find out and especially if that baby girl/boy is a healthy one and God forbid it's not, we will give you all the love and support that we can. This is what this community is for. Just my two cents... I also have to say that the hateful comments about the hateful comments... Well... I'll just leave it at that. Good day

Jcblackb · August 2015

Mmmkay clearly my point was lost on some you. For starters, didn't name call so that is off-base. Secondly, to reiterate - I simply think it's easier and more mature not to leave snarky comments at all, than to go out of your way on an anonymous forum and leave them on an excited mom's thread. This will be my only response, hope some people decide to keep the negativity to themselves instead of playing mean girls on a pregnancy app. ✌

minivanmafia · August 2015

Jcblackb said:
Mmmkay clearly my point was lost on some you. For starters, didn't name call so that is off-base. Secondly, to reiterate - I simply think it's easier and more mature not to leave snarky comments at all, than to go out of your way on an anonymous forum and leave them on an excited mom's thread. This will be my only response, hope some people decide to keep the negativity to themselves instead of playing mean girls on a pregnancy app. ✌

Peace out yo.

g8trkim · August 2015

Jcblackb said:

Mmmkay clearly my point was lost on some you. For starters, didn't name call so that is off-base. Secondly, to reiterate - I simply think it's easier and more mature not to leave snarky comments at all, than to go out of your way on an anonymous forum and leave them on an excited mom's thread. This will be my only response, hope some people decide to keep the negativity to themselves instead of playing mean girls on a pregnancy app. ✌

It really doesn't matter to me, but I have to disagree on the name calling comment. Your exact words: I'm as sarcastic and dry as the next person, but that doesn't mean you have to be hateful simply because someone posted something you find moderately annoying. I'm so tired of reading bitchy comments.

VitaLuna · August 2015

g8trkim said:
@VitaLuna was your above response to Jcblackb's thread. The way the thread cut looks like a response to mine. Just want to make sure.

Edit grammar fail

Yes! That was @Jcblackb. I quoted yours because you had her original (that was removed for TOU violation). I'll try to go adjust it.

g8trkim · August 2015

VitaLuna said:

g8trkim said:
@VitaLuna was your above response to Jcblackb's thread. The way the thread cut looks like a response to mine. Just want to make sure.

Edit grammar fail
Yes! That was @Jcblackb. I quoted yours because you had her original (that was removed for TOU violation). I'll try to go adjust it.

No worries. Don't worry about adjusting.

Lola2o1 · August 2015

I'm confussed… why isnt this type of post "tolerated well"? Whats so wrong with it?

Erinka · August 2015

Because it's a slippery slope. There would be no end to these type of posts otherwise.

Lola2o1 said:
I'm confussed… why isnt this type of post "tolerated well"? Whats so wrong with it?

DizzyMom1 · August 2015

Even though I have no idea about this kind of thing I'll go ahead and guess girl

Congrats either way!!

BabySeaTurtles · August 2015

Interesting how the "mean girls" are not the ones who got a TOU violation.
Just saying.
OP - I'm glad you have a healthy baby but I have no clue on whether you are having a boy or girl. Congratulations!

mamaek · August 2015

Congrats on your healthy baby OP!

AdventureMama · August 2015

Lola2o1 said:

I'm confussed… why isnt this type of post "tolerated well"? Whats so wrong with it?

Because
1. How would any of us know the sex of your baby? We aren't trained u/s techs
2. Imagine if even half of the ladies here posted their own special snowflake ultrasound crotch shot threads. We'd never see anything else.
3. A lot of people think it's distasteful to plaster photos of your child's (unformed) genitals on the internet.
4. Waltzing into a group of people you have never interacted with before and posting something like this is against board etiquette. Lurk awhile, participate in other threads, chat in the daily check-ins, get to know us a bit. It's frustrating to build community with people just to have random strangers waltz in and demand that we arbitrarily guess something we have no clue about before we even know them.

Lola2o1 · August 2015

So people can't be excited? And I find it funny you called it a crotch shot..theres nothing but a nub there yet! You make the board sound like a mean girl sorority with all these rules. Just saying..

wisco29 · August 2015

Lola2o1 said:
So people can't be excited? And I find it funny you called it a crotch shot..theres nothing but a nub there yet! You make the board sound like a mean girl sorority with all these rules. Just saying..

Not rules just standard etiquette. Not any different than walking up to a group up women out to lunch and showing them your us pics asking their opinion. Lurk a little, get to know The group a little, post the pic and the impossible to answer question in the ultrasound pic thread...?

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