I know some of you have posted about your MIL/SIL/BIL so I'm hoping some of you ladies could give me some advice...
A little back story; my brother and her have been together for a little over 4 years, she is 30 y/o and has 2 little girls. Here's the catch; she is STILL married to her ex husband, and she walked out on those two girls 5 years ago and hasn't seen except for maybe 3 or 4 times since. She is a compulsive liar and tries to start drama within the family what seems on a weekly basis... anyways, it's gotten to the point to where I can't even look at her anymore and I have ZERO respect for her as a person because of what little attempt she has made to see her daughters. (She packed her stuff from MD and moved out here to CO without letting any of her family know)
Anyways, my brother called me tonight and asked if I would be alright with he and his girlfriend coming to visit in the hospital (beind induced monday night d/t small frame/big baby at 39.5 weeks) and I told him that I have no problem with him, but I will not allow his girlfriend to come see LO. Got a call about an hour later from my own mother telling me I needed to "play nice" and realize SIL is here to stay and I need to drop whatever issues I have with her. I feel like I am not in the wrong for not wanting her to come see us, as I do not let me 3 year old around her as is.
I guess my question is, does anyone have any advice how to balance it all?! I know right now it's supposed to be about me and LO but with such a close family, it's hard not to put others needs first.. Just want to call SIL out on all her sh!t! Pregnancy and hormones... ya'll know.