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3rd Trimester Sex Positions

pkfinnertypkfinnerty member
in October 2015 Moms
Give it up. What are yall doing?!
My husband and I just had sex for the second time this week and it's just not comfortable. I can't feel sexy because I have this big belly between us and I can't get comfortable. He was on top, then I was on top. Finally I just turned over for doggie style to let him finish because I knew it wasn't going to happen for me... and I was getting out of breath (also not sexy!)
Any ideas? I was thinking reverse cowgirl next time...??
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  • kaylerjeankaylerjean member
    Ugh, I'm having the same issue, just can't find something comfortable! :-<
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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    MariahOBrien said:

    Face down, a$$ up.">

    ^^this! Also try laying on your side, bending over standing up, or you on your back w legs off the bed and he's standing in front of you. Let him do the work lol!
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  • abbythebigdiehlabbythebigdiehl member
    @maiatene I agree with what you said. Also we've been doing more shower sex and more oral. I prefer intercourse to oral but it's still fun. Lots of doggie style though. It's the most comfortable for me.
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  • midge519midge519 member
    Doggie is great as is reverse cowgirl. We also found that me on my back with my legs sideways and him on his knees so it's like half doggie half not works really well too.
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  • batmom05batmom05 member
    We tried from the edge of the bed (me on my back with my butt at the edge and him standing) but I get terrible hip cramps.

    At this point, we do it until he can finish because there is no way I'm getting there! Just way too uncomfortable. We are also down from 2-3 times a week to once every 2 or 3 weeks.
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  • johnsernajohnserna member
    O
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  • johnsernajohnserna member
    Is anybody else fat around here and still no outside belly baby kicks already at 28weeks 5days
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  • johnsernajohnserna member
    Can anyone explain of this reverse cowgirl thing .I know I been doing the wrong things lol :D
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    Doggie style or spooning. When either of us is on top, my belly gets in the way and makes me too uncomfortable.

    For doggie style, put some pillows under your torso to rest on. This way you don't have to hold yourself up on your hands and knees, but you're not flat on your belly.

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  • MariahOBrienMariahOBrien member
    edited July 2015
    @johnserna um here, have this Wikipedia article: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reverse_cowgirl_(sex_position)#Reverse_cowgirl_position

    ETA: words.
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  • midge519midge519 member
    MamaOwl15 said:

    Doggie style or spooning. When either of us is on top, my belly gets in the way and makes me too uncomfortable.

    For doggie style, put some pillows under your torso to rest on. This way you don't have to hold yourself up on your hands and knees, but you're not flat on your belly.

    To the on top belly in the way thing, try making like an "L" position. We do my on my back him on his knees and my legs kind of wherever they end up lol. Some angles with my legs make breathing difficult so we change it and it's better
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  • ElleMF728ElleMF728 member
    Doggie style with a pillow under me for support works pretty well, but my go to is T-Square.  Its super comfortable for late pregnancy and allows me to have a little more control on the angle and speed.  I was fine with it up until I gave birth last time at 39 weeks and so far so good at 36.  
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  • lilmagic00lilmagic00 member
    After several sexless weeks I finally got my groove back....been trying out new positions I researched and adult toys make the SEX even better....O yeahhhhhhhhh!!!! :D
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  • amberrmariee20amberrmariee20 member
    We are still having sex 2-3 times a day, everyday. I'm on top 99.9% of the time.
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  • carlymarie021carlymarie021 member
    edited July 2015
    babyynumbertwo2015 said:

    Even if we could find a comfortable position, this baby moves non stop and I just can't even kind of sort of get in the mood when he's dancing around in there. Come on October I miss my hubby!

    I feel the same. Just a little sacrifice I have to make and I don't mind. I miss it though!!
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  • FrozenMommyFrozenMommy member
    @anorthro, same here. All about my comfort!!!
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  • SarahAnne1101SarahAnne1101 member
    Only in our dreams.... = / Been on total pelvic rest since the day the dr confirmed viability of the pregnancy... Waaah. 

    For my previous pregnancy, spooning worked out for us, Or as awkward as it sounds, in the recliner, then I could lay on my back without being flat and I didn't get weird cramps anywhere. Just make sure to either push the side table under the foot rest or put it towards a corner. Takes a little practice to figure out how to not tilt the recliner, since that's more weight than usual in it. 

    Careful with face down,@$$ up. if you have heartburn or reflux... puking in the middle is so not sexy. Been there....
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  • SballerinaSballerina member
    edited July 2015
    Does anyone know of a website with tasteful sketch drawings on how to do the spooning position? I don't know where we should put our legs or how,to make the angles work... I feel like to make the angle work I would have to be lying down perpendicular to hubby...
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  • anorthroanorthro member
    Sballerina said:

    Does anyone know of a website with tasteful sketch drawings on how to do the spooning position? I don't know where we should put our legs or how,to make the angles work... I feel like to make the angle work I would have to be lying down perpendicular to hubby...

    I kind of lay more perpendicular to my husband. At least my upper body. It gives the best angle. It also works well if I have the leg on top bent and the knees pointing straight up with my foot behind hubby's legs. Does that make sense? So I'm not totally on my side but not totally on my back either.
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  • gabrielafrnqyepezgabrielafrnqyepez member
    amberrmariee20 said:
    @amberrmariee20, what's the matter with you?!?! LOL. I want nothing to do with sex, that's what got me into this mess. 
    I can't seem to stay off it. image

    i dont know about 2-3 times a day every day,  but we do it at least every day.....except when he has pissed me off and that's how he knows im mad .....idk what is going to happen when i give birth i guess alternate activities will have to happen till it all heals. Then the other hurdle is i really dont want to get on BC it ruins my life !!!! 

    Girl on top and doggy or standing are what's working for us, him on top gets kinda tricky i have to have pillows on my back or else i cant breath, but i have noticed that it makes me get there a lot faster !





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  • Capri8Capri8 member
    What is this sex thing you all keep talking about? I couldn't get my DH to do that even if I had NFL season tickets!
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  • cc47033cc47033 member
    Thank you so much for this thread! I just got taken "off the bench" after 2 months by my Dr. DH and I will certainly be employing some of these tonight!!
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  • midge519midge519 member
    gabrielafrnqyepez said:
    amberrmariee20 said:
    @amberrmariee20, what's the matter with you?!?! LOL. I want nothing to do with sex, that's what got me into this mess. 
    I can't seem to stay off it. image

    i dont know about 2-3 times a day every day,  but we do it at least every day.....except when he has pissed me off and that's how he knows im mad .....idk what is going to happen when i give birth i guess alternate activities will have to happen till it all heals. Then the other hurdle is i really dont want to get on BC it ruins my life !!!! 

    Girl on top and doggy or standing are what's working for us, him on top gets kinda tricky i have to have pillows on my back or else i cant breath, but i have noticed that it makes me get there a lot faster !


    Ours is typically daily. We've never gone more than 2-3 days without it since we started having sex. I told him my past pregnancies I didn't have any sort of drive whatsoever so I did it to please my ex but I didn't enjoy it most of the time. This time its so different (Its amazing what a man that makes you feel awesome does for your sex drive lol) so if its been 2-3 days he asks if I'm hitting that point of my pregnancy lol. He's so sweet, he expects it to stop so he's enjoying it while he can.
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  • brenderbenderbrenderbender member
    I second the toys!  None of my go to positions work anymore.  But we found if we get in a doggie style or spooning spot and add my bullet to the mix, everyone is happy!  I'm not giving up my orgasms yet!
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  • gabrielafrnqyepezgabrielafrnqyepez member
    midge519 said:
    gabrielafrnqyepez said:
    amberrmariee20 said:
    @amberrmariee20, what's the matter with you?!?! LOL. I want nothing to do with sex, that's what got me into this mess. 
    I can't seem to stay off it. image

    i dont know about 2-3 times a day every day,  but we do it at least every day.....except when he has pissed me off and that's how he knows im mad .....idk what is going to happen when i give birth i guess alternate activities will have to happen till it all heals. Then the other hurdle is i really dont want to get on BC it ruins my life !!!! 

    Girl on top and doggy or standing are what's working for us, him on top gets kinda tricky i have to have pillows on my back or else i cant breath, but i have noticed that it makes me get there a lot faster !


    Ours is typically daily. We've never gone more than 2-3 days without it since we started having sex. I told him my past pregnancies I didn't have any sort of drive whatsoever so I did it to please my ex but I didn't enjoy it most of the time. This time its so different (Its amazing what a man that makes you feel awesome does for your sex drive lol) so if its been 2-3 days he asks if I'm hitting that point of my pregnancy lol. He's so sweet, he expects it to stop so he's enjoying it while he can.
    i totally agree DH has made my body seem so sexy idk what he sees but hey as long a he keeps making me reach the big O in the way he does, more power to him! DH figures ill let him know when iv'e hit that point but he does know how to ensure i'll be in the mood its the pre game either with things he says of hell touch me a certain way...it's all so stimulating lolzz





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  • komorebikomorebi member
    This reminds me i probably need to have sex soon. Lol. I totally have the drive, but it's been nearly impossible lately with the girls suddenly never sleeping at the same time. Poor dude, it's been a minute.
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  • tulegrl14tulegrl14 member
    My hubby is scared of sex due to me having an irritable cervix so I always will bleed. So it freaks him out due to pervious miscarriages so mainly oral which he is fine with. Plus it's uncomfortable everything feels swollen down there lol
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  • KristyhanaKristyhana member
    I can't even remember what sex feels like :(. I've been on pelvic rest since 7 weeks. I think we did it one time while pregnant. Even the vaginal ultrasound wand is uncomfortable these days. I think pretty soon I'll be a virgin again lol. I start to feel bad for DH but then I remember that at least he can masturbate and I get over it.
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  • ehebaeheba member
    Lucky to you women who can finish during sex! I just can't seem to get there. Oral on the other hand is our go to! When we have sex anything with him on top or standing up. I can never get comfortable!
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  • intheversaintheversa member
    OK I'm just going to confess. We haven't had sex in probably a month and I think we're done until after the baby gets here  :((

    He would kill me for admitting this, but he just can't do it because he can't get over the fact that there is a live person inside of me and he's terrified to hurt her. He won't even touch my boobs because he's afraid that milk will come out. Now he knows that he can't hurt her and that milk is not going to start coming out of my boobs, but he can't get it out of his head.

    So enjoy your sex ladies, it's going to be a long 16 weeks for me 
    :-S

    And I just want to have sex. 
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  • KLHauck12KLHauck12 member
    We usually end up in the camel ride position (or some call it the pretzel). Its a rear entry position but without facing away from him or balancing on my hands & knees. I am laying on my back but hips turned so my belly is resting on the bed. He is sitting up straddling my right leg. My other leg is either up or wrapped around him.
    It's easy on me and my belly but he still really enjoys it.
    For the person who asked for tastefulnskwtches of positions....try men's health or Cosmo online.
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  • midge519midge519 member
    gabrielafrnqyepez said:
    midge519 said:
    gabrielafrnqyepez said:
    amberrmariee20 said:
    @amberrmariee20, what's the matter with you?!?! LOL. I want nothing to do with sex, that's what got me into this mess. 
    I can't seem to stay off it. image

    i dont know about 2-3 times a day every day,  but we do it at least every day.....except when he has pissed me off and that's how he knows im mad .....idk what is going to happen when i give birth i guess alternate activities will have to happen till it all heals. Then the other hurdle is i really dont want to get on BC it ruins my life !!!! 

    Girl on top and doggy or standing are what's working for us, him on top gets kinda tricky i have to have pillows on my back or else i cant breath, but i have noticed that it makes me get there a lot faster !


    Ours is typically daily. We've never gone more than 2-3 days without it since we started having sex. I told him my past pregnancies I didn't have any sort of drive whatsoever so I did it to please my ex but I didn't enjoy it most of the time. This time its so different (Its amazing what a man that makes you feel awesome does for your sex drive lol) so if its been 2-3 days he asks if I'm hitting that point of my pregnancy lol. He's so sweet, he expects it to stop so he's enjoying it while he can.
    i totally agree DH has made my body seem so sexy idk what he sees but hey as long a he keeps making me reach the big O in the way he does, more power to him! DH figures ill let him know when iv'e hit that point but he does know how to ensure i'll be in the mood its the pre game either with things he says of hell touch me a certain way...it's all so stimulating lolzz
    Yes exactly! Like I won't be in the mood but he'll just kiss me the right way and I melt lol. I love it!! I hope this lasts till little man is here.
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  • heytallmamaheytallmama member
    Have you gals listened to The Longest Shortest Time podcast? (It's awesome. Totally recommend.) They had a whole 4-part series on being new parents and sex, including discussing positions and how one defines "sex."

    One concept I really liked was that they included oral sex and masturbation under the term "sex," and so once you redefine it, you naturally have more because your definition is broader. They talked about how lots of people view oral sex as the consolation prize, when it can really be the main show just as much- totally true!
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