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csears15 · July 2015

So I'm just having a moment lol but I've been going through this pregnancy alone since I found out at 3 weeks. It's really hard to be 9 months pregnant, alone, working full time, and having zero emotional support. Anybody else having a hard time being completely alone through pregnancy?

SassetteSmurfling · July 2015

You may not have LOs father or a SO in your life, but do you have friends or family to be your support person?? I can't say I've been where you are, but my best friend has and I always tried to be there when she needed anything. Good luck!

mimigrace12 · July 2015

I'm not but I'm sorry you have to go through this! I think of how emotional I am and I can't imagine how hard it must be without support. Do you have any friends or family that could be there to support you? I also have a public health nurse who calls me every so often (more so the closer I get to labour) just to check up on me and see how I'm doing, does your community provide any services like that?

csears15 · July 2015

I have family, but they're not really supportive. They just want to be there when the baby is born and not now. I'm not sure about a nurse like that I might have to check into it. Being emotional sucks, but it would also be nice to have somebody to share the excitement with. I'm so happy and excited for my son to be here and I feel like I'm the only one.

hclzmm14 · July 2015

I'm sorry you're going through this alone. You're obviously a strong person and you'll make a great mother! I hope you can find some support from your friends and family, and if not you always have us.

toccoaparker · July 2015

Sorry you are having to go through everything solo; pp offered some pretty good advice and remember the bump ladies are always here also! I hope things start looking better for you, family can be a great support system if that is an option?

laylababe3 · July 2015

I'm sorry you have to go through this alone, I hope your family can give you the support you need once that LO arrives.. We're always here if you need support and we're all excited for everyone's LO's to arrive!

amk013 · July 2015

Thinking of you! I have zero advice, but my heart goes out to you.

kettlekitten · July 2015

Single mothers are some of the strongest people I know. It really annoys me when people talk about single mums in a negative way, I just think being a mother is the hardest job in the world and to do it on your own is amazing.

If any friends or family offer you support, take it without hesitation! Also, once you have settled in with be new baby, another suggestion is to look up mothers groups in your area. My mothers group was an invaluable source of support and friendship. There may also be other groups eg mother and baby walking groups, fitness classes, baby massage classes, story/song time at your local library etc etc etc where you can meet like minded mothers. Even if you don't have someone to help you with the day to day baby chores, the emotional support these networks can provide are equally important.

Miz_Liz · July 2015

You aren't alone mama - you have your beautiful baby boy growing inside of you and he is with you each and every step of the way! That is one of my favorite things about being pregnant, is that you are never alone, even when things seem like they are at their worst. I am sorry that your family isn't being a good support system right now, obviously I do not know you or your situation other than what you have revealed in your post, but at the end of the day that little boy is all that matters. Some day he will understand how much his mother did for him and he will be so grateful! That baby already loves you, free of judgement. I would recommend that you try to find some local groups in your area to meet others that are in the same situation as you. One great site you can do that on that I always recommend to people is meetup.com, it will allow you to search for any interest/group in your direct area - they probably have single mom groups, young mom groups (if that applies), mom and baby groups, play groups, as well as groups for any hobbies you may have. Also check with your pediatrician's office, they very often have resources available that you may not even know exist. It is a hard and emotional time, but you just have to keep reminding yourself that you are not alone (even if it feels like you are) and that little baby boy needs you and that is all that matters - you have him and he has you. You can do this.

Boslove · July 2015

@csears15 im in a similar situation, although I do have support from both my family and My Ex's family, its still hard not having the father be present. My Dr got me connected with a social worker at my hospital. Try looking into that, most hospitals have them. They can also connect you with local mother groups for once baby is born.

mom2kth · July 2015

I know exactly how you feel. Although,k I have support from my friends and family. It just isn't the same as having the father around. I haven't spoke to him since 4 days after I found out. I was 5 weeks along. I have ran into him a couple times and we just walk by like we don't even know each other.

My family has been amazing through out this whole pregnancy though. More so then my other two. My girls have been so supportive. And at 11 and 8 I don't know how much they understand about whats going on but I know they have no idea how much their support has helped me through this.

Just remember as hard as it seems that LO will always make up for it. All the firsts that you get to experience and he will miss out on. You will get all the hugs, kisses and I love yous.

In wish you all the luck!

drummondst · July 2015

I don't have a lot to add to what the other posters have. But did want to say that my sister did it alone. We all pitch in and her and her son have such an incredibly strong bond. You'll be an amazing mama!

Miz_Liz · July 2015

I will add that I hope you ladies in these tough situations are doing what you need to legally to get some financial support from the "fathers" (and I use the term loosely if they don't plan to be in your babies' lives). They don't deserve to get off scott-free!

clempka23 · July 2015

With my first baby I was in your shoes-- FOB left right when we found out, parents weren't very supportive since I was 19, and didn't have anyone to share the excitement with. What I found most comforting was knowing the bond I was creating with my LO. It's nice bring able to share the excitement with someone, but it's also nice to have these moments to yourself, because you can truly tell them when they're older how precious the pregnancy journey was just the one on one experience. When the baby comes, I'm sure the support system will be strong! Everyone loves a new baby, a new life. Going through this alone is extremely difficult, but you've made it this far, momma! Only a few more weeks and you'll have that LO always by your side and you'll never feel alone! I've always said that being a single parent doesn't mean someone left you to do it alone, it means you are strong enough to do it alone!!

CarelessDiva89 · July 2015

The previous pp's have given you great advice & support. You are one strong mama & your precious son loves you so much & will be so thankful to have someone like you in his life. You will be a great example for your LO. T&p's that you find the comfort and support that you need.

raelynch87 · July 2015

I'm sorry you're going through this alone. Like PP have said you're obviously very strong and your LO is so lucky to have you as their mama. There are lots of groups for moms with new borns like music group or workout classes. It's more about making connections with other moms than about music or working out. Check out what your city has to offer.

SashaDenn25 · July 2015

No advice as I think other posters have dont this well, but we are all here for you too! We are all so excited about all these LOs being born right around the same time together!! Good luck momma, I know youll have such a strong bond with LO as acting mommy and daddy!!

lesnchristina · July 2015

With my second one, I was in your boat... But with a 10 month old as well. It is easier to raise children without someone who can't pull their head out if thier ass long enough to care about about anyone but themselves. You can do this!

irohspupil · July 2015

I have no way of ever understanding what it takes to be a single parent, but I just wanted to let you know that I think you're very brave. I hope everything works out

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