1 or 2 times a week. Not much more before that due to our separate shifts. We can't as often as we would like at the moment because my vagina is like the Sahara desert. It's painful the first few hours after for me and I get the occasional spotting, which is harmless but it freaks him out lol. Let me just say it's rough with all the second trimester hormones raging against the fear of the after pain haha. Sometimes I just decide to deal with it. Recently we have discovered using olive oil decreases the after pain significantly, so it might pick up for us.
Lube!! Have you tried using lubricant? Girl I would never have sex if I don't use lubricant!
We've tried all kinds lol. I had reactions to all of them that worked well for us, which made things more miserable. Even the organic, chemical free stuff. Olive oil was a last minute decision and worked so awesome for me.
Try the one suggested above? It's worth a try! Were the ones you tried water based?
Oh and there's really no odor during since there's not much being used, and I always shower after so thats never an issue. It's a small sacrifice to make to have a somewhat normal sex life. Plus, it's all natural and chemical free. I'm all about that.
That makes total sense! I would use olive oil too if it worked!! Anything is better than nothing! I can't imagine using nothing lol. I used to be naturally wet all the time back in the day lol! I actually don't mind being dryer now. Swamp cooch isn't fun either!
I remember the first time after getting pregnant that we tried it with nothing. I swear I suffered for days, it was awful lol. I'm all too happy to use olive oil to avoid that situation from ever happening again.
Nothing like when we were dating and newlyweds. It was multiple times a day every day. Awesome! Then it went down to a few times a week. With this pregnancy, it's all he can think about. I'm just like hold up! We are still doing 3-4 times a weeks or more since weekends we get crazy ;-) It's an adventure to get any around this household since we have three snooping kiddos.
It realllyy depends. Lately, we have been doing it about once every other day. First tri, I was sooooo tired and had no interest in sex most of the time but I would still do it for him every few days. Right before I got pregnant, we were geographically separated for 9 months soooo hardly ever. He was in Colorado and I was in Texas. We were going to different schools...a little more to it than that by it's a long story. Before he went to Colorado maybe every other day on average I am guessing. When he was active duty military, we pretty much only did it on weekends because he was usually too tired during the week.
It's funny the stereotypes you hear about pregnant women. I always heard about pregnant women being really horny so when my libido was low first tri, I just didn't know what was wrong with me lol.
I think you guys are all amazing, where ever do you find the time, i have an almost 18yo, a 7yo and am 8 mos pregnant, we're too exhausted for daily romps let alone multiples. we're good at a couple times a week!
Damn ladies! I had a rough time getting my DH to have sex every day during ovulation week! Haha! Poor guy, I'd wear him out. When we first started dating it was 5-6 days a week. We've been together for 10 years and pre-pregnancy it was usually once a week... I have a much higher sex drive than DH, especially right now. I could do it every day, but it's usually 2 times a week now and the other days I take care of myself, if ya know what I mean, LOL!!! ">
We are and have always been daily, if one of us doesn't feel good or is too tired we may take a day or so off - but typically everyday and sometimes multiple times a day.
He's 32 and I'm 34 almost 35.
And it's pretty much always good - we just got really lucky in that department with each other because we've both had previous relationships where it just wasn't like that at all
Pre pregnancy, every other day during ovulation, otherwise once a week. Now about once a week, maybe a little less. I wish we actually would do it more prepregnancy, right now I'm fine with once a week.
pre-Pregnancy... we averaged at like 4-5 times a week. Sometimes on the weekends we can rack up extra points ;-) Now its more like 3-4 times when we cuddle up in the morning and I feel that morning wood against my back. hahahaha My drive hasn't really fluctuated that much, but it does take a little more foreplay to get me going. Not that SO minds. Tender time with my nether regions is one of his favorite pass-times.
Well I'm impressed!!! The hubs and I have had sex 3 times in the 20 weeks I have been pregnant. We work opposite shifts and I have been battling horrible "all day" sickness and haven't been in the mood. But recently I have been wanting to but he is scared that it will cause me to go into labor and I am OK that he is concerned and understand his fears but I miss our intimate times. We are half way there I hope I survive ... Lol
Well I'm impressed!!! The hubs and I have had sex 3 times in the 20 weeks I have been pregnant. We work opposite shifts and I have been battling horrible "all day" sickness and haven't been in the mood. But recently I have been wanting to but he is scared that it will cause me to go into labor and I am OK that he is concerned and understand his fears but I miss our intimate times. We are half way there I hope I survive ... Lol
We are on opposite shifts too and it's hard with the hormones lol. He was terrified of hurting the baby or putting me into early labor, as well. The fact that I spot after and have dryness issues didn't help matters even though its from my cervix and not the uterus. But sometimes I just need it so he deals As long as your OB has ok'd sex don't worry too much about it. It doesn't hurt baby and doesn't cause early labor. If you spot after just talk to your OB.
Again I feel like he's the pregnant one not me.... We were very newly together when we got pregnant so we were in the every day mode, but it was calming down and the week I got pregnant it was only once, but that was because we were going to try not to conceive but than decided to try once, and if it didn't work I was going on birth control the next month. Well she wanted to be here. I have wanted a baby since I was 15, and was told no way, 1 in a million shot, tried with my ex fiancé for 2+ years. After I got pregnant I was less interested for a little while which was great for him, horrible for me. Finally I got so fed up with once a month if not less, I asked him wtf is the problem. I have 90% of the sex drive. Come to find out his asma has been acting up since its summer, got him an inhaler, and things have been heating up in the bedroom a bit. Not as much as I'd like which is daily if not 2-3 times a day, but I'm going easy on him because he hasn't been feeling good. As I said he acts more pregnant than I do, I just have the big ole belly to prove I'm pregnant. Than again I have always been the one to push it to the limits. I definitely think I'm mostly wired like a guy... Probably comes from 7 uncles.
We are 32 and 36, the first or two we would often do it up to 12 times a day but he wasnt working and i worked from home. Since and now pregnant its between 3-1 times a day and very few days we might not have it. But i am pretty sexual i have always wanted it daily even with my ex who i was with for 14 years even when i was pregnant with my two previously. We where back in action within two weeks with my last two after birth also.
12 TIMES A DAY!! WHERE THEY DO THAT AT? WHAT'S IN THE WATER OVER THERE? seriously tho how you do that?
We are 32 and 36, the first or two we would often do it up to 12 times a day but he wasnt working and i worked from home. Since and now pregnant its between 3-1 times a day and very few days we might not have it. But i am pretty sexual i have always wanted it daily even with my ex who i was with for 14 years even when i was pregnant with my two previously. We where back in action within two weeks with my last two after birth also.
12 TIMES A DAY!! WHERE THEY DO THAT AT? WHAT'S IN THE WATER OVER THERE? seriously tho how you do that?
Lol.. The most me and my SO have done it was 5times in a day and I thought that was a lot. I could NOT do 12times!! :-O
We are 32 and 36, the first one or two months we would often do it up to 12 times a day but he wasnt working and i worked from home. Since and now pregnant its between 3-1 times a day and very few days we might not have it. But i am pretty sexual i have always wanted it daily even with my ex who i was with for 14 years even when i was pregnant with my two previously. We where back in action within two weeks with my last two after birth also.
12 TIMES A DAY!! WHERE THEY DO THAT AT? WHAT'S IN THE WATER OVER THERE? seriously tho how you do that?
Lol.. The most me and my SO have done it was 5times in a day and I thought that was a lot. I could NOT do 12times!! :-O
Haha well we are in Texas, i came all the way from Europe for this action with my amazing husband We were basically going at it on and off all day at night some short sessions some longer. I did start to get sore after a few weeks! But it was fun and i love what we still have now.
I'm 21 and he's going to be 30 in October this year and it we haven't really changed the frequency of how many times we do it now and before i was pregnant. Usually we do it at least once every night sometimes more strong the day. Some times we can go a couple days without so I'm gonna average every other day
I feel like a horrible wife now. Food and sleep are on top of my list. We were daily, sometimes more than once a day. Over time it dwindled to 3 times a week. While ttc it picked up to like every other day for the 2 weeks around O but we definitely needed a week break or so after that. Since I got pregnant, once a week if we're lucky. I'm too exhausted by the time I go to bed. I need a vacation. Ha!
Yea.... so before pregnancy we were ttc for about 2 years. We had sex ALOT around ovulation, and about 2-3 times otherwise. Now that I'm pregnant, I can count on one hand the number of times we have had sex in the past 4 months. It's not that I don't want to, because believe me I REALLY WANT TO. It just hurts so bad - there is so much pressure down there. It is actually painful when we try. I don't know what to do to make it any better. Anyone else going through this? Any ideas on how to make it better?
Yea.... so before pregnancy we were ttc for about 2 years. We had sex ALOT around ovulation, and about 2-3 times otherwise. Now that I'm pregnant, I can count on one hand the number of times we have had sex in the past 4 months. It's not that I don't want to, because believe me I REALLY WANT TO. It just hurts so bad - there is so much pressure down there. It is actually painful when we try. I don't know what to do to make it any better. Anyone else going through this? Any ideas on how to make it better?
Have you tried different lubes? Finding what worked for us helped tremendously. I had some pressure feeling but it was dry more than anything, which made it worse.
@sarahgn We have tried different lubes, there is just so much pressure that it hurts. After we are done it feels like I'm on fire! I don't know what to do. At least DH understands I guess.
Geez louise. Hub and I were lucky to do it once a week pre pregnancy. We have done it 4 times since we found.out due to morning sickness, ect. I couldn't imagine doing it regularly 3.times a day. But more power to.you!
Re: How many times a day/week/month?
It's an adventure to get any around this household since we have three snooping kiddos.
It's funny the stereotypes you hear about pregnant women. I always heard about pregnant women being really horny so when my libido was low first tri, I just didn't know what was wrong with me lol.
He's 32 and I'm 34 almost 35.
And it's pretty much always good - we just got really lucky in that department with each other because we've both had previous relationships where it just wasn't like that at all
As long as your OB has ok'd sex don't worry too much about it. It doesn't hurt baby and doesn't cause early labor. If you spot after just talk to your OB.
We were basically going at it on and off all day at night some short sessions some longer. I did start to get sore after a few weeks! But it was fun and i love what we still have now.