7/23 Lets Talk About Sex

lola2bee · July 2015

too much? Not enough? Who has time? - lets talk about it!

PSMITH1286 · July 2015

I missed this. Should of put my sex drive discussion here. Sorry

lola2bee · July 2015

PSMITH1286 said:
I missed this. Should of put my sex drive discussion here. Sorry

No worries!

jodi1008 · July 2015

LO sleeps all night so hubby and I do every night and morning lol

lilsunflowermomma · July 2015

Lucky girls... I'm never in the mood. I'm curious, how much help do you receive from your SO with the baby? I get little to none since he's always working. The second my little guy takes a nap or goes to bed, I want some personal time. My SO gives me a hard time for it, but I think I would feel more into it if I had more help from him! Anyone taking the mini pill? Just wondering if that's affecting my drive in some way.

jodi1008 · July 2015

My husband is in the army so it's been a lot of me on my own but when he is home he helps me do everything but breastfeeding so that is a turn on seeing how helpful he is

montanchelsy · July 2015

I have no desire, and haven't even tried yet. Hubby seems to understand since he hasn't bugged me about it.

jc0n15 · July 2015

I have no desire either and with the baby still in our room it's definitely a turn off

jowen0606 · July 2015

Just tried 7 weeks after LO. Don't know if it was the expired date on the KY warming jelly or my rips not being healed but I ended up in the br washing my vagina out.

Kye042 · July 2015

I had an emergency c section with complications - ripped open part of incision at 4 weeks PP and got an infection in my uterus at 5 weeks PP and then again opened another part of the incision at 6 weeks PP! So my recovery has not been ideal. With all of that I'm scared to have sex again due to my incision!!!

Knottie76365376 · July 2015

With a LO attached to my boob all day, I am not interested in being fondled by anyone else! DH feels neglected and depressed about the lack of sex- I feel bad for him, but I'm horrible at faking it. Plus, I've got painful hemorrhoids going on a month now. None during pregnancy, so why now?
DH, don't worry. I'll feel more like a woman and less like a cow some day!

Lynn&Andrew+1 · July 2015

montanchelsy said:

I have no desire, and haven't even tried yet. Hubby seems to understand since he hasn't bugged me about it.

Same boat! Except even though I'm not in the mood, I would love for him to be interested. I thought he would be jumping my bones after I lost my bump, but not even close. Not even with my tatas out all the time for LO. I think the whole childbirth experience ruined my sex appeal for him.

Jenny33 · July 2015

Let's not

harpyogi · July 2015

Almost 12 weeks PP and we've only had sex once. Anyone else have discomfort or slight pain during sex the first time after childbirth? I barely tore needing only one stitch after childbirth but ouch sex hurt more than it was enjoyable and just in general felt different. After that one time I've kind of lost interest, poor hubby.

HeatherC21 · July 2015

I haven't had sex since like October. .. I think I forgot how

lilsunflowermomma · July 2015

I've had sex only once too after birth. It didn't feel great at all, and we needed a lot of lube. Made me feel like an old lady and not sexy at all. It definitely didn't make me excited to want to do it again anytime soon.

chaglund · July 2015

I had a csection and didn't even tear, 11 weeks pp and we've only tried to have sex once. It hurt so badly even with the massive amounts of lube we used that it has been the one and only time. I have no desire and no drive, hubs has a desire but no drive. I know we need to just keep working at it and hopefully it won't hurt so much but I am so uneasy about it lol. He's been so understanding but he doesn't initiate, which makes me feel like I don't want to if I don't have to. I wish that I had my pre-pregnancy drive and desire back. I also wish that I felt sexy, but being covered in bodily fluids all day really has a way of making me feel not in the mood.

justkeeptrying · July 2015

9.5 weeks PP and we've DTD once. DH definitely has the desire but I don't at all. I had a really low sex drive pre-pregnancy and it's definitely worse now. The one time we did it I was constantly worried DS was going to wake up, even though we were in a different room. The time we did it wasn't as bad as I expected it to be. It was painful but not as bad as I imagined. But I'm still not interested. Poor DH keeps trying to get me in the mood but leaky boobs and sore nipples really don't help get me going!

twodreamers · July 2015

During pregnancy, I wanted to have sex all the time but DH was freaked out by it. Now that baby is here, he's whistling a different tune. Unfortunately for him, I'm thinking of 5+ things (other than sex) that I need to do while baby is sleeping. He has all the freedom in the world and I get little windows of opportunity.

That being said, 10.5 weeks PP, we've done it twice and it's horribly painful for me. I had a c-section and am super surprised at how awful sex has been since.

I choose sleep.

rae430 · July 2015

My libido is pretty low (EBF plus being exhausted) but we have done it a handful of times at 10.5 weeks pp. I had a pretty straightforward unmedicated delivery with only two stitches, but it did hurt pretty bad the first few times we did it. We did try agin this week and after about the first thirty seconds, it felt almost normal! Hoping this is a sign of finally feeling like myself again

stark01938209 · July 2015

We finally gave it a go last night. Dull pain and uncomfortable... Then bleeding today

. We took it super slow and used lube. 8 1/2 weeks pp from second c-section.

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