Hi, I usually lurk but I had to get in on this. The other day I was returning some awful maternity clothes my mom bought me (it was sweet of her). When a woman behind me in line kept saying "tut tut tut". I was with my husband who had his arm around me, and I turned around and looked at her and she just shook her head and looked from him to me. It took me a second to realize, but it was because he's black and I'm white. So I whispered in my husbands ear, "this bitch doesn't like interracial relationships". And we started to make out. In line. She actually walked away!!!
People are crazy!
People are so ridiculous. You'd think that people don't get pregnant all the damn time! I haven't been asked those kinds of rude questions, but so often I get asked (from the very beginning at like 8 weeks!) If I know whether it's a boy or a girl. I'm like holy shit people, have you never known a pregnant woman before? Much later!
Annoying questions I can handle. Annoying strangers I can handle. But those so called "friends" being rude I can't handle. I have this "friend" that as soon as she found out we were pregnant stopped associating with me or allowing my kids to have play dates with her kids. Like pregnancy is freaking contagious or something! And whenever we run into one another she only says "I can't believe you are having another one", shakes her head and walks away. Bitch, please. I should be thanking God her vagina is out of commission.
I was really surprised by the number of people who asked if it was planned. DH and I have been married 4 years and we always planned to have a baby when we both felt ready so I answer yes it was planned.
Well at least people are consistent around the country - seems like no matter where we're all from we get the odd and rude questions. I too have been asked if this one was planned since we found out before our DD turned 1.
My funniest question came from a friend who is trying to get pregnant. They know now that they have a couple medical issues to work through but before that she actually asked me which positions we had sex since I've been able to get pregnant twice in 2 years. Um....LOL no.
I ran into the store really quick to buy prenatals around 14 weeks and the cashier asked, "What, did you get knocked up last night?" Ummm, excuse me? I just chuckled and tried to get out of there really fast.
I cannot believe how many people have asked if this pregnancy was planned. Yes, DH and I both have our Master's, good jobs, and a new house. I think we got our ducks in a line for this little one!
I had an EMT drop off a patient at my job and when I was getting report, he pulled me aside, and I thought he was going to say something about the patient ("They're aggressive/ fall risk/ get bouts of dementia at night/ etc etc") but instead he asked me if he could have my number so we could "spend some time together". I laughed, held up my left hand and went, "Nope. Married and pregnant." His response was, "really? sorry. When is your baby due?" When I told him, he had the balls to say, "Oh, January sucks, did you do that on purpose?" "You can leave now." I wanted to give him a 14-gauge IV right through his stupid eyeballs.
I was really surprised by the number of people who asked if it was planned. DH and I have been married 4 years and we always planned to have a baby when we both felt ready so I answer yes it was planned.
I was just asked this, this week. I never thought that it would be offensive to me, but I wanted to badly to say, "were you?" But I smiled and politely said, "yes". She then followed up with; "My mom tells me all the time that I was the "oops baby." So she answered my snarky question that I wanted to ask and I still was irritated.
I think sometimes the rude questions are from jerks, sometimes innocent people who don't know better, and sometimes people who might be trying themselves or thinking about trying and are going about getting advice in a roundabout fashion.
A FB friend of my husband's: "That was fast... was it an accident?"
I've been married for almost two years now, and while I'm on the young side, DH certainly isn't getting any younger. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! I commented back "wish it was faster lol!" but really it made me angry.
To get in and out of my job, we have to go through security where we are wanded down. Yesterday was hot so I had a tank top on and a cut up t shirt over it. They guard wanted me down and then had the guts to say, "mam I need you to pull out whatever your hiding near your stomach area." Let's just say I went off. I said, " I'm not hiding anything, I'm pregnant j@ck@$$. " thank god I had a friend behind me cool me down real quick
OMG I'm loving this post it's brilliant!!!! People are so offensive - the prejudice ones are the best (no offence meant to those posting) it's just "what the fuck is wrong with people".
We are on no.4 & not planned (well not yet as little one was only 11 months when it happened) but we get "oh dear - are you happy then?" "Was it planned" etc - nothing you all haven't heard before but then ...... "So if it's not planned how did that happen? Did you just not use birth control, did a condom break etc" wtf - I didn't grace that question with an answer!!!!
When I went to get my pregnancy test it was the day of my missed period so I figured just in case, I'd grab some tampons.
I walked up to the pharmacy section because I also needed to pick up my next months birth control because if we weren't pregnant I was going to get back on it for a few months (my sister is getting married in Oct and I'm the MoH)
So I put the pregnancy test and the tampons on the counter and told the lady I needed to get my birth control and she chuckled! So I asked what was funny and she said, "well this is an odd arrangement of items." I didn't say anything and when she came back with my birth control she pointed at the pregnancy test and said, "if you need that I think you're doing something wrong with these (BC)" and chuckled again! Like she was the funniest person in the world.
Some of these comments are just brutal! I was out with a group of girls last night and my cousin, who knows we had NIPT, turns to me in front of about 10 girls as says "you had the testing - so no genetic disorders?"
I couldn't believe it! Is it me or was that incredibly insensitive? First of all, the NIPT does not test for all conditions, and the last thing I want to think about is the possibility of anything being less than perfect with the baby, secondly, what if I had tested positive for something? It didn't seem like the appropriate time, place or company to discuss such a sensitive topic... I figured I'd vent about it here because if I talk to my DH he'd probably just get pissed and confront her about it...
We had been trying for a year and a half so this last time I was a day late and thought what the hell I'll just take a test. Ran into Walmart and got the test and a case of beer, the lady gave me a terrible look and asked something inappropriate so I responded with "gotta check before I get hammer tonight". That wasn't what was happening actually but the look was priceless.
I overly enjoy buying things that make people give me that crazy look and make them uncomfortable. Like or prenatals and beer (for the DH of course). Im not much on caring what people think so I just get a kick out of it.
All of these stories make me pretty angry. Especially the airport story. I think I've lost my tolerance for ignorance this pregnancy. Just wait till someone has something to say to me.
I feel like i would be just confused if someone asked me this. But I did have my male physical therapist ask me if my pregnancy was planned. Yes it was but really that's none of your business. Then he went on about how he's not ready for kids but is older than me. I'm 25 and don't need your opinions.
As a lesbian mom I get alllll the inappropriate questions. "How did you do it?" "Who is the dad?" "Is your wife going to breastfeed too?" "How much did it cost?" It's so bad we've just started flipping out on people. No rando person, you don't get to hear about my entire medical history etc.
"Is your wife going to breastfeed too?" Seriously? Forget rude. That's just plain stupid.
I'm so sorry to all of you. People are ridiculous. I'm not showing yet and bought the ovulation kits and stuff on Amazon so I haven't had any of this. Yet. The worst I've gotten is people saying how much my life is going to suck come January and I put the kabosh on that. People just do not think before they speak.
@TinyDancer51510 I have no patience for people talking about how our life will suck once baby is here or how we'll change our mind about wanting 4-5 kids. Mind your own business! If your life sucks now that you have kids, that's your own fault, not theirs! Learn how to find a balance and include your children in the activities you love!
I am a Zumba instructor and constantly have 1 or 2 older women in my class asking me when I'm going to stop or if I'm slowing down. I'm starting to lose my patience!
I also love the "was this planned?" Ummm personal! People are rediculous!
When we kind of start the conversation by saying kids are going to ruin our lives, people end up being very encouraging saying that it's totally worth it.
One friend, who has twins, said that she is "elbows deep in poop, pee, and vomit and never has on clean clothes and it's amazing and wouldn't have it any other way!"
Re: craziest thing I've ever been asked by a total stranger...
I cannot believe how many people have asked if this pregnancy was planned. Yes, DH and I both have our Master's, good jobs, and a new house. I think we got our ducks in a line for this little one!
"You can leave now." I wanted to give him a 14-gauge IV right through his stupid eyeballs.
Make a pregnancy ticker
People are so offensive - the prejudice ones are the best (no offence meant to those posting) it's just "what the fuck is wrong with people".
We are on no.4 & not planned (well not yet as little one was only 11 months when it happened) but we get "oh dear - are you happy then?" "Was it planned" etc - nothing you all haven't heard before but then ...... "So if it's not planned how did that happen? Did you just not use birth control, did a condom break etc" wtf - I didn't grace that question with an answer!!!!
I walked up to the pharmacy section because I also needed to pick up my next months birth control because if we weren't pregnant I was going to get back on it for a few months (my sister is getting married in Oct and I'm the MoH)
So I put the pregnancy test and the tampons on the counter and told the lady I needed to get my birth control and she chuckled! So I asked what was funny and she said, "well this is an odd arrangement of items." I didn't say anything and when she came back with my birth control she pointed at the pregnancy test and said, "if you need that I think you're doing something wrong with these (BC)" and chuckled again! Like she was the funniest person in the world.
Um what?!
I couldn't believe it! Is it me or was that incredibly insensitive? First of all, the NIPT does not test for all conditions, and the last thing I want to think about is the possibility of anything being less than perfect with the baby, secondly, what if I had tested positive for something? It didn't seem like the appropriate time, place or company to discuss such a sensitive topic... I figured I'd vent about it here because if I talk to my DH he'd probably just get pissed and confront her about it...
I overly enjoy buying things that make people give me that crazy look and make them uncomfortable. Like or prenatals and beer (for the DH of course). Im not much on caring what people think so I just get a kick out of it.
I'm so sorry to all of you. People are ridiculous. I'm not showing yet and bought the ovulation kits and stuff on Amazon so I haven't had any of this. Yet. The worst I've gotten is people saying how much my life is going to suck come January and I put the kabosh on that. People just do not think before they speak.
I also love the "was this planned?" Ummm personal! People are rediculous!
One friend, who has twins, said that she is "elbows deep in poop, pee, and vomit and never has on clean clothes and it's amazing and wouldn't have it any other way!"