UO, I believe in spanking. Now there is a fine line to walk and it doesn't need to happen all the time, but occasionally, some children need a little swat on the butt to correct their behavior if verbal and other forms of discipline are not working. Not a hard swat, obviously...
Also, I'm in the "limit screen time" camp. My SD has a tablet, but it's only for use during long car rides, pretty much. It's a Nabi jr, so she's extremely limited on what she can access. And this summer, she's probably only watched 12 hrs of TV total. We like to keep her active and outdoors and using her imagination. As for cell phones, I understand we live in a world where it's almost impossible not to have one. But I believe in limits. You better believe my 5th grader will not be having a text/data plan and a smart phone (when it gets to that point).
I was spanked as a child and so was my brother after me.. and we knew not to do things later on because we would get in trouble.. Sometimes talking to a kid is just not enough.. My step dad was against spanking and my youngest brother is the biggest brat on the planet because he wasn't really disaplined like me or my other brother.. He got away with murder and if my brother and I did half of the things this boy did.. We wouldn't have been able to sit down for years.. There is a line that can be crossed when it comes to spanking though.. My mom gave us a swat for our age plus one.. So if the kid is 3 you do it 4 times.. That way it's not over the top and they learn their lesson..
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
UO, I like my younique lashes . I also don't cake them on though. I believe it's an art to apply them correctly.
On the grad thing I loved preschool grad, our was more like just a program, they sang and received a bible at the end. But I done throw them a party where I grew up they didn't do a kindergarten grad but they did do an 8th grade graduation. It was mainly tradition because years ago this was the grade most people stopped going to school so it was there only graduation. Where I live now they do a kindergarten grad but not an 8th grad.
I am also for spankins, against cell phones for kids unless absolutely necessary, I won't be buying my kid a car but will probably have one they can use and when the graduate and get a job they can get their own. My kids will NOT have video games, I hated seeing my older SS's play for hours and refused to play outside.
My UO to add to the thread is that I will make my boys play sports while they're young, I probably won't once they are in middle school or high school but I think it's good for them to be involved on a team. It will be their choice when their a bit older but if they don't chose sports they will be involved in something else, band, FFA, 4H, whatever group they want.
I just got younique lashes cause I was out of mascara and though "why not" it really isn't that "spidery" only if you want it to be. But I don't believe in applying 45 coats of mascara. I think it works just as well as my $20 mally mascara from ulta.
My super UO of the day will be this:
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
100% this. Our child is super active and is doing more than fine intellectually. When we get back from the park or from an adventure, he will usually ask me for a show. I turn on the television and he will often continue playing with his toys or read his books, but sometimes he just wants to sit after being active for a long amount of time.
If you're going to participate in HDBD please put some clothes on. Unless I know you IRL or am close to you on tb I don't need to see you in your bra and panties or a bikini (here's looking at you rocky). Stranger danger guise! And some people just should just cover up a little more.
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
100% this. Our child is super active and is doing more than fine intellectually. When we get back from the park or from an adventure, he will usually ask me for a show. I turn on the television and he will often continue playing with his toys or read his books, but sometimes he just wants to sit after being active for a long amount of time.
I'm going to be a FTM but I have to agree with this. Also, I'll add on that leaving the TV on as background noise during activities will likely prepare a child to be able to concentrate in school/on various tasks in a noisy environment (something I wish I was capable of doing in school).
^^ this is my other UO about buying presents for the kid when it isn't their birthday!!! My mom told me she was getting my 20 month old daughter a present when this baby is born and I got pretty upset with her. I put My foot down and said no! She is not getting presents because someone else gets presents. I told her that's not happening because I'm not having a child grow up thinking that every birthday party they go to they are entitled to a gift of their own! She also wants to get her a present at my baby shower (my family never got to throw me a shower with my daughter as we are on opposite ends of the country), I also said no to that.
While I am totally anti giving gifts to all the kids when it's one of their birthdays, I am okay with the giving of a gift to an older child when gifting for a new baby. And I guess I'm guilty of that myself, because we bought some little things for my sister in law and brother in law for their little girl on the way and also threw in an outfit for their son in the package. But I think if you're going to do it, it should be something little. Not a bunch of gifts or anything extravagant, but I guess I just don't see much harm in just a little something. But definitely not for birthdays. That's your sibling's special day, it's not about you. You get to have some cake and enjoy the festivities, that's all the present you need for a sibling's birthday.
I am all about giving something small to my girls when their baby brother is born! My oldest got a "big sister" gift when her sister was born and now they will for sure get a welcome to big sisterhood present again!!!! It's exciting and will make them feel special when all the attention is on baby.
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
This is the same for us. She never actually sits and watches. She goes and plays and comes back when she hears music. She also spends hours a day outside. I am or one to worry about "screen time" and I actually hate the term.
My super UO of the day will be this:
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
Yep! DD learns a crazy amount from TV. When we went for her 2 year well visit at the beginning of this year, I told pedi she knew alphabet and counting to 15, and he was impressed. I admitted that it was a long winter and had to give the credit to "Super Why". He shrugged and said, hey, my kids learned it from Sesame Street. I actually saw a story recently about kids who watch Sesame being more prepared for school.
However, she does now think she's a princess because she watches too much Sofia the First (and looks like her).
To all the send your children outside people, I would love to and usually do. This summer the heat has been been between 95F - 108F with humidity between 80 and 100%. I would not leave a dog outside for hours in that kind of weather, let alone my kids. Even well hydrated, you run the risk of heat stroke at these temperatures.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
To all the send your children outside people, I would love to and usually do. This summer the heat has been been between 95F - 108F with humidity between 80 and 100%. I would not leave a dog outside for hours in that kind of weather, let alone my kids. Even well hydrated, you run the risk of heat stroke at these temperatures.
Exactly! Not to mention I have to be out there with her. I
UO - I think smartphones are silly in general. I do not own one (and I'm 26). We do have a tablet at home that I think would be okay to let kiddo use, but not excessively. An emergency cellphone would be alright once they're going places, I got my first cell at 16 when I started driving and it only made phone calls. As far as first cars, my parents gave me $1000 and then I had to use the money in my bank account (that they put in there since I was younger) to get my car. It was a $2500 junker
To all the send your children outside people, I would love to and usually do. This summer the heat has been been between 95F - 108F with humidity between 80 and 100%. I would not leave a dog outside for hours in that kind of weather, let alone my kids. Even well hydrated, you run the risk of heat stroke at these temperatures.
So by "all the send you children outside people", I assume you mean me because I think I'm the only one who mentioned it in a PP (perhaps I missed someone else chime in though). My statements were unique to my situation when providing context around my UO. I'm from the New England area so our summers are quite mild compared to your and other areas. We probably get a handful of days that hot here, but when we do most (read: sane) people stay inside. When I was growing up we either stayed inside or played outside in the water (pools, sprinklers, etc). That said, if my kid wanted to play in the water outside in those temps, I'm certain he/she would think me the "mean mommy" who put a time limit on outdoor time as heat stroke is no joke and can really sneak up on you (especially a little kid preoccupied with his/her water toys). There are plenty of fun indoor activities I would encourage instead (books, board games, TV/movie, other toys, etc). Our bigger problem here (regarding outdoor play) is the winter. Temps can get rather low and frostbite can become a problem. Snowstorms can be nasty as well. Same rules apply... play inside as there is plenty to do.
So by "all the send you children outside people", I assume you mean me because I think I'm the only one who mentioned it in a PP (perhaps I missed someone else chime in though). My statements were unique to my situation when providing context around my UO. I'm from the New England area so our summers are quite mild compared to your and other areas. We probably get a handful of days that hot here, but when we do most (read: sane) people stay inside. When I was growing up we either stayed inside or played outside in the water (pools, sprinklers, etc). That said, if my kid wanted to play in the water outside in those temps, I'm certain he/she would think me the "mean mommy" who put a time limit on outdoor time as heat stroke is no joke and can really sneak up on you (especially a little kid preoccupied with his/her water toys). There are plenty of fun indoor activities I would encourage instead (books, board games, TV/movie, other toys, etc). Our bigger problem here (regarding outdoor play) is the winter. Temps can get rather low and frostbite can become a problem. Snowstorms can be nasty as well. Same rules apply... play inside as there is plenty to do.
I wasn't really referencing you. I thought a few people had mentioned sending the kids outside to play instead of playing with tech indoors. It's also something I've heard people in other places go on about. I grew up mostly in the south, but spent a few weeks each summer and winter in MA. Snowstorms can get brutal and I remember always being upset that I couldn't play all day in the snow since it was such a novelty to me.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
I'm just going to throw this out there, along with the insane heat here in the south, is the fact that I'm a stay at home mom. I love my toddler, so much so that I decided I needed another one. BUT, I can't entertain him all day or constantly watch him. As a full time student and the person in charge of cooking, cleaning, and shopping; sometimes shit just needs to get done and DS needs to sit his ass down and watch some paw patrol. )
So by "all the send you children outside people", I assume you mean me because I think I'm the only one who mentioned it in a PP (perhaps I missed someone else chime in though). My statements were unique to my situation when providing context around my UO. I'm from the New England area so our summers are quite mild compared to your and other areas. We probably get a handful of days that hot here, but when we do most (read: sane) people stay inside. When I was growing up we either stayed inside or played outside in the water (pools, sprinklers, etc). That said, if my kid wanted to play in the water outside in those temps, I'm certain he/she would think me the "mean mommy" who put a time limit on outdoor time as heat stroke is no joke and can really sneak up on you (especially a little kid preoccupied with his/her water toys). There are plenty of fun indoor activities I would encourage instead (books, board games, TV/movie, other toys, etc). Our bigger problem here (regarding outdoor play) is the winter. Temps can get rather low and frostbite can become a problem. Snowstorms can be nasty as well. Same rules apply... play inside as there is plenty to do.
I wasn't really referencing you. I thought a few people had mentioned sending the kids outside to play instead of playing with tech indoors. It's also something I've heard people in other places go on about. I grew up mostly in the south, but spent a few weeks each summer and winter in MA. Snowstorms can get brutal and I remember always being upset that I couldn't play all day in the snow since it was such a novelty to me.
Ahhh gotcha. I always LOVED playing outside in the snow as a kid when conditions were deemed "safe enough" by my folks. As a New Englander I think it is easy for us to take the seasons for granted a bit - especially the snow. Admittedly, the record breaking winter in my area this year was even a bit much for me. We're pretty lucky here as the 4 seasons give us a nice break and we don't often see real extremes like other areas (be it heat, cold,, drought, storm systems, etc)
Ahhh gotcha. I always LOVED playing outside in the snow as a kid when conditions were deemed "safe enough" by my folks. As a New Englander I think it is easy for us to take the seasons for granted a bit - especially the snow. Admittedly, the record breaking winter in my area this year was even a bit much for me. We're pretty lucky here as the 4 seasons give us a nice break and we don't often see real extremes like other areas (be it heat, cold,, drought, storm systems, etc)
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I want very badly to live somewhere with real seasons. Here about 75% of the year is summer. We have a month or so of spring which is usually spent in a haze of azalea pollen that looks like radioactive dust coating everything, about a month or two of autumn and about 2 weeks of winter weather. I really resent those 2 weeks of winter and having to buy winter coats during that time just for the kids to outgrow by next year.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
I'm just going to throw this out there, along with the insane heat here in the south, is the fact that I'm a stay at home mom. I love my toddler, so much so that I decided I needed another one. BUT, I can't entertain him all day or constantly watch him. As a full time student and the person in charge of cooking, cleaning, and shopping; sometimes shit just needs to get done and DS needs to sit his ass down and watch some paw patrol. )
Ahhh gotcha. I always LOVED playing outside in the snow as a kid when conditions were deemed "safe enough" by my folks. As a New Englander I think it is easy for us to take the seasons for granted a bit - especially the snow. Admittedly, the record breaking winter in my area this year was even a bit much for me. We're pretty lucky here as the 4 seasons give us a nice break and we don't often see real extremes like other areas (be it heat, cold,, drought, storm systems, etc)
Edit: I can't type today
I want very badly to live somewhere with real seasons. Here about 75% of the year is summer. We have a month or so of spring which is usually spent in a haze of azalea pollen that looks like radioactive dust coating everything, about a month or two of autumn and about 2 weeks of winter weather. I really resent those 2 weeks of winter and having to buy winter coats during that time just for the kids to outgrow by next year.
See we are opposite here. Our winter starts in October and goes till April sometimes may. It's an entire summer wardrobe we have to get each summer that the kids have outgrown! Lol. And since winters get down to -40 Celsius here I spend good money on a snow suit so it is rated for extreme cold. But usually we stay inside on those days.
My UO is that while I'm loving being on vacation, I just want to get back to my memory foam king size mattress and air conditioning. I want sleep so bad!!
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I was spanked as a child and so was my brother after me.. and we knew not to do things later on because we would get in trouble.. Sometimes talking to a kid is just not enough.. My step dad was against spanking and my youngest brother is the biggest brat on the planet because he wasn't really disaplined like me or my other brother.. He got away with murder and if my brother and I did half of the things this boy did.. We wouldn't have been able to sit down for years.. There is a line that can be crossed when it comes to spanking though.. My mom gave us a swat for our age plus one.. So if the kid is 3 you do it 4 times.. That way it's not over the top and they learn their lesson..
I don't think "screen" time limits your kids creative or active abilities. DS1 loves Disney Jr, PBS, etc. I don't limit his TV time at all. He's far more likely to sit down in his room and play if his TV is on than not. Personally, I like having the tv on all day for background noise and I think he prefers it too. He's still a very active two year old that loves the playground, swimming, Legos and dinosaurs.
Plus the kid knows his ABCs, shapes, colors and he can count to 15. Clearly his TV shows aren't hindering his ability to learn. :P
Baby Boy born on 1/14/13
Unless I know you IRL or am close to you on tb I don't need to see you in your bra and panties or a bikini (here's looking at you rocky).
Stranger danger guise! And some people just should just cover up a little more.
I'm going to be a FTM but I have to agree with this. Also, I'll add on that leaving the TV on as background noise during activities will likely prepare a child to be able to concentrate in school/on various tasks in a noisy environment (something I wish I was capable of doing in school).
^^ this is my other UO about buying presents for the kid when it isn't their birthday!!! My mom told me she was getting my 20 month old daughter a present when this baby is born and I got pretty upset with her. I put My foot down and said no! She is not getting presents because someone else gets presents. I told her that's not happening because I'm not having a child grow up thinking that every birthday party they go to they are entitled to a gift of their own! She also wants to get her a present at my baby shower (my family never got to throw me a shower with my daughter as we are on opposite ends of the country), I also said no to that.
While I am totally anti giving gifts to all the kids when it's one of their birthdays, I am okay with the giving of a gift to an older child when gifting for a new baby. And I guess I'm guilty of that myself, because we bought some little things for my sister in law and brother in law for their little girl on the way and also threw in an outfit for their son in the package. But I think if you're going to do it, it should be something little. Not a bunch of gifts or anything extravagant, but I guess I just don't see much harm in just a little something. But definitely not for birthdays. That's your sibling's special day, it's not about you. You get to have some cake and enjoy the festivities, that's all the present you need for a sibling's birthday.
I am all about giving something small to my girls when their baby brother is born! My oldest got a "big sister" gift when her sister was born and now they will for sure get a welcome to big sisterhood present again!!!! It's exciting and will make them feel special when all the attention is on baby.
This is the same for us. She never actually sits and watches. She goes and plays and comes back when she hears music.
She also spends hours a day outside.
I am or one to worry about "screen time" and I actually hate the term.
Yep! DD learns a crazy amount from TV. When we went for her 2 year well visit at the beginning of this year, I told pedi she knew alphabet and counting to 15, and he was impressed. I admitted that it was a long winter and had to give the credit to "Super Why". He shrugged and said, hey, my kids learned it from Sesame Street. I actually saw a story recently about kids who watch Sesame being more prepared for school.
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See we are opposite here. Our winter starts in October and goes till April sometimes may. It's an entire summer wardrobe we have to get each summer that the kids have outgrown! Lol. And since winters get down to -40 Celsius here I spend good money on a snow suit so it is rated for extreme cold. But usually we stay inside on those days.