Poor grammar really gets me because I usually see it from people I went to school with. I've even come to terms with the to/too/two and your/you're mistakes. What grinds my gears are the ones that I didn't even realize were a thing until recently like, whether/weather/RATHER (I don't know rather or not to go to the party later :-/). Or phrases people just butcher like, "intensive purposes" instead of intents and purposes. Arrrrrgh!! I see so many everyday and I just can't wrap my head around it. WE HAD THE SAME EDUCATION!!! What were you doing during class? (
I am guilty of poor typing grammar. Horrible with punctuation. There is no excuse I had a great education and still seem to slack online. I'm working on it lol. <--- period inserted. But in conversation I cringe when people say "axe" instead of ask. Or "you is" instead of "you are". I can go on and on with that.
-if you pull your money out of your bra to give it to me. Seriously pull it out before you get in line. It looks terrible! -if you're kid is acting horribly and you give them the preferential treatment over your well behaved child. I know there are conditions to this so I'm not judging all just the routine customers I see and know that kid is just a brat. Stop giving them everything they want. Reward the good one! -if you set your money on the counter instead of handing it to the cashier. It's just rude and most of us will just put your change on the counter for you to pick up. -if you see someone with multiple children and immediately assume they don't know what birth control is. -if you don't use your manners. Even worse if your child is using his/her manners incredibly well and you don't use them at all. Worse that than is when that chi doesn't say please after saying just one thing and you get on their case for not saying it. Seriously let them be, your manners need work not theirs. -if you yell at me in a different language because I don't understand you. I only know English and a few things in Spanish, let's work together and we can get through this. Don't be a douchebag.
Sorry for the mini rant but working in customer service I see these all daily and it drives me crazy
Just wanted to point out that I saw on a news program (please someone correct me if I'm wrong) but men who are devout old religion Jews won't or aren't allowed to touch women and often exchange money by setting it on the counter and expect their change to be given back in the same manner. So it very well could either be that or a cultural thing and I wouldn't let that one irk you.
• I get annoyed when I get my dollar bills back before coins and then some manage to fall...
• I also can't take people seriously when they type 20$ instead of $20.
That would make sense with some men but I find its so much worse with older women and teens of all groups. Usually they are just impatient because as I'm telling them their totally I'm putting their food in a bag in or a tray so they just set it down. So if you can't wait three seconds for me to nicely handle your food I'm not handing you your money back. You can tell when they expect you to hand it back (they put their hand out and I pass it and set the money down or they huff).
I'm guilty of the bills before change. My reasoning is when I say the change I give it in the same order as I say it. For example if the change is $5.25 I say that and hand them the five and set the change in their hand. But I try hard to not let the money fall (let's be honest I don't want to bend and pick it up lol)
If all of your stories start with "one time I was so fucked up...."
When you get all your "news" from the trending feed on Facebook
When you call Obama a terrible president because he saluted while holding a latte. I'm not a fan of Obama at all but get a real argument under your belt, not a meme from Facebook.
If you wear your bedroom slippers in the grocery store (or out in public in general)
Or, if you come to pick up your child from school in pajamas. I mean, I don't want to see your pj's when you drop them off either, but if you're still in them at 3:00 when you pick them up from school....
I'm with everyone else on the grammar issues! @CaitLewis15 beat me to the "I seen" ecard. That one really gets to me! Also, when people don't use the correct form of be. I cringe every time I hear "it bes". No, stop it! I automatically think uneducated.
ETA: Especially when the pajamas have cartoon characters on them. I cannot hold a serious conversation with you about your child's grades when I am distracted by Hello Kitty!
Ooo I just thought of another one because me and baby daddy (for lack of a better term) were just venting about how LinkedIn is starting to turn into another Facebook:
I'm sorry (not sorry) but I can't take you seriously if you're using LinkedIn - a site intended for professional business connections/hiring resources - and your picture is a damn selfie you took with your phone. That is the very first thing a potential employer/employee/business connection will see when they check your profile and it makes you look unprofessional and immature.
-Say exspecially -all of the spelling/grammar errors pointed out before -get a tattoo of your boyfriend or girlfriend's name (really seems like a bad idea) - have an excuse for everything
Don't judge a book by its cover on dental hygiene. I brush my teeth twice a day, my teeth are still severely damaged from a car accident in February and I look like a crack addict at the moment seeing I cant get them fixed til after baby.
Vincent Julian born on March 27th, 2013 DX with Down Syndrome
Also, using "sense" when you mean "since" makes me rage.
Aaaaaaah!!!!
And people who confuse past/pass/passed and loss/lost. When did these become things???! Sorry for your lost?!!!
I won't add anymore, because then this post will be nothing but grammar gripes, but I'm really shocked at how commonplace these mistakes have become. Do people really not know the difference? Some of these I really don't understand. Gah!
Ooo I just thought of another one because me and baby daddy (for lack of a better term) were just venting about how LinkedIn is starting to turn into another Facebook:
I'm sorry (not sorry) but I can't take you seriously if you're using LinkedIn - a site intended for professional business connections/hiring resources - and your picture is a damn selfie you took with your phone. That is the very first thing a potential employer/employee/business connection will see when they check your profile and it makes you look unprofessional and immature.
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Uh-oh! I'm pretty sure my LinkedIn profile picture is a selfie I took on my phone. It would be me in a suit looking serious, but . . . I don't have any better pictures of myself.
I can't stand it when people say " throw shade" I had never heard of it untill two weeks ago. I guess I am getting too old to think the new lingo is cool.
Poor grammar really gets me because I usually see it from people I went to school with. I've even come to terms with the to/too/two and your/you're mistakes. What grinds my gears are the ones that I didn't even realize were a thing until recently like, whether/weather/RATHER (I don't know rather or not to go to the party later :-/). Or phrases people just butcher like, "intensive purposes" instead of intents and purposes. Arrrrrgh!! I see so many everyday and I just can't wrap my head around it. WE HAD THE SAME EDUCATION!!! What were you doing during class? (
My husband just learned it's "intents and purposes." It brought me so much joy to tell him he was wrong!
You mentioning school reminded me of something else. I know so many elementary ed. majors who have zero concept of grammar. It's sad that they will be learning right along side their very young students. Ah well...guess it's just job security for me. However, I'm teaching Spanish starting in August and I have no doubt in my mind I'll have to teach English grammar, as well.
Ok, now I'm done and I'm leaving because I get very worked up about this topic. Haha!
Ooo I just thought of another one because me and baby daddy (for lack of a better term) were just venting about how LinkedIn is starting to turn into another Facebook:
I'm sorry (not sorry) but I can't take you seriously if you're using LinkedIn - a site intended for professional business connections/hiring resources - and your picture is a damn selfie you took with your phone. That is the very first thing a potential employer/employee/business connection will see when they check your profile and it makes you look unprofessional and immature.
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Uh-oh! I'm pretty sure my LinkedIn profile picture is a selfie I took on my phone. It would be me in a suit looking serious, but . . . I don't have any better pictures of myself.
Oooo called out! Haha, just kidding! I'm honestly picturing the girls on there who I swear picked the "look how sexy I am," boobs-galore variations. (I can't stop w/ the gifs lol).
@kassyfry, Watch out! According to my high schoolers, fanny packs are coming back. (:|
They are unfortunately! People, young and old, have them on daily. I am slightly weirded out by them and watching them dig around for change in them lol
All of these grammar posts have me going "Yes!!" at my desk and reminded me of this awesome poster from The Oatmeal:
Edit: the image is blurry but I highly recommend you check it out on their site
Oh man. I love The Oatmeal. I enjoy all their grammar posts:
-if you talk about how wasted you got last night as if it's something to be proud of
-if you say "gararge" instead of "garage"
-if you say "it's really all about visualizing what you want and then you'll get it" when you're rich
-if you say anything racist or bigoted
-if you think Obama is not a US citizen or that the Newtown shootings were a conspiracy
-if you argue that the fact that there's still monkeys disproves the theory of evolution by natural selection
One of the moms from my July 05 birth group had a third grader who went to Newton i almost lost my job when somebody pulled that conspiracy shit out. I'll never forget watching that on the news and thinking her baby was dead.
Here's my thoughts on grammar. ..some of the best people i know aren't necessarily the most educated so i try to take that into account. It's easy to think it's simple when there are so many reasons why that could be. I'm also a slang talking fool.
Poor grammar really gets me because I usually see it from people I went to school with. I've even come to terms with the to/too/two and your/you're mistakes. What grinds my gears are the ones that I didn't even realize were a thing until recently like, whether/weather/RATHER (I don't know rather or not to go to the party later :-/). Or phrases people just butcher like, "intensive purposes" instead of intents and purposes. Arrrrrgh!! I see so many everyday and I just can't wrap my head around it. WE HAD THE SAME EDUCATION!!! What were you doing during class? (
You mentioning school reminded me of something else. I know so many elementary ed. majors who have zero concept of grammar. It's sad that they will be learning right along side their very young students. Ah well...guess it's just job security for me. However, I'm teaching Spanish starting in August and I have no doubt in my mind I'll have to teach English grammar, as well.
Ok, now I'm done and I'm leaving because I get very worked up about this topic. Haha!
^^This is the context in which grammar and syntax errors grind my gears. I actually have a pretty high tolerance for regionalisms and linguistic variations. Especially those that have evolved along side Standard American English and that are technically just as valid but have negative connotations attached because of race or ethnicity (https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2013/12/03/248515217/why-chaucer-said-ax-instead-of-ask-and-why-some-still-do). The two types of people who do make me livid when it comes to speech and grammar are:
-Those who use or accept "white" or "European" regionalisms, consider them quaint and cultural, and then trash talk people who speak African American Vernacular English. I will just immediately label you as ignorant, a repressed racist, or both.
-Those whose job it actually is to teach or use Standard American English, such as teachers. There were so many education/history majors that I had classes with whose basic comprehension of language, grammar, history, and critical thinking was so poor, it made me want to home-school when I had kids because I knew if these were their teachers, my husband and I would end up using our combined knowledge to simply re-teach it all anyway. I have studied a few other languages (which I swear makes phonics more difficult. Sound and sometimes even grammar rules in other languages make so much more sense!) and I am always appalled at how difficult grammar is for other students simply because they haven't even been taught English grammar, or even how to think about grammar in general as a framework for communication. So I get way more mad about our education system than other people's errors (unless it is obviously due to pure indifference and laziness). I certainly know I'm not perfect.
The other thing that will make me completely disregard someone is if they talk about current events and/or have incredibly strong political opinions, but don't know the Declaration of Independence or Constitution beyond a "We the People" bumper sticker, can't source where they're getting their information, or if they do, it is via one televised "news" source or a biased online publication. I'm not just ragging on Fox and The Blaze (although those are easy targets). They're all pretty reductive, and quality information is easily accessible if you're willing to read and fact check a bit.
Also, please don't judge teeth. For many people, dental care (brushing and flossing doesn't fix genetics) is a luxury that isn't covered by their insurance, and wasn't covered by their parents' insurance when they were kids either. I guarantee you they are way more upset about it than you are, so unless you're prepared to foot the often astronomical bill, just be glad they still smile.
@komorebi I think a lot of people feel like society doesn't value proper grammar anymore, and it just hurts our hearts.
I get that. And it's fair. I'm quick to judge if it's a business situation or formal correspondence. And i don't like text style abbreviations for this kind of posting.
I deleted 2 extended family from my Facebook for insisting Newtown was a conspiracy. That was a nightmare. Quite literally my worst nightmare when it comes to my children.
I deleted 2 extended family from my Facebook for insisting Newtown was a conspiracy. That was a nightmare. Quite literally my worst nightmare when it comes to my children.
I haven't been on Facebook for a few years so excuse my ignorance, but people actually thought this? WTF???????
We were debating this in one of my Facebook groups the other day based off this article. "For one thing, the idea that there is only one right way of doing English – and everyone else is doing it wrong – is inherently flawed. And by “flawed” I mean illogical, elitist and even oppressive. Judgements about what counts as “right”, “good” and “correct” in writing and grammar always – ALWAYS – align with characteristics of the dialects spoken by privileged, mostly wealthy, mostly white people. We make these judgements based on learned biases, as well as a certain emotional attachment to our own way of doing things. But when people study dialects in an objective, scientific way (which is what cunning linguists actually do), they find that low-prestige dialects, such as African-American Vernacular English or Cockney English, have fully-formed grammar rules of their own that make just as much sense as any others. They are perfectly valid and functional forms of communication used by millions of people. The only difference is that they don’t have people running around telling everyone else to do it their way."
"I ask them to estimate, in a developed country like Canada or the U.S., what percentage of the population has literacy skills below the very basic level needed to function well in our society. People usually guess ten percent, fifteen percent, maybe as much as twenty-five. Then I pull out the sad, stunning facts: nearly half of all North American adults cannot cope with complex written material of the sort that the other half of us take completely for granted. HALF, you guys. This should be considered a national crisis. Not fodder for sport." https://paintingthegreyarea.wordpress.com/2012/11/26/literacy-privilege/
I deleted 2 extended family from my Facebook for insisting Newtown was a conspiracy. That was a nightmare. Quite literally my worst nightmare when it comes to my children.
Holy crap. That's a real thing? Jesus. People are freaking idiots.
Re: I'm sorry, I can't take you seriously if...
I'm guilty of the bills before change. My reasoning is when I say the change I give it in the same order as I say it. For example if the change is $5.25 I say that and hand them the five and set the change in their hand. But I try hard to not let the money fall (let's be honest I don't want to bend and pick it up lol)
I agree with so many of you!
That just gave me an ideal.
When you get all your "news" from the trending feed on Facebook
When you call Obama a terrible president because he saluted while holding a latte. I'm not a fan of Obama at all but get a real argument under your belt, not a meme from Facebook.
Or, if you come to pick up your child from school in pajamas. I mean, I don't want to see your pj's when you drop them off either, but if you're still in them at 3:00 when you pick them up from school....
I'm with everyone else on the grammar issues! @CaitLewis15 beat me to the "I seen" ecard. That one really gets to me! Also, when people don't use the correct form of be. I cringe every time I hear "it bes". No, stop it! I automatically think uneducated.
ETA: Especially when the pajamas have cartoon characters on them. I cannot hold a serious conversation with you about your child's grades when I am distracted by Hello Kitty!
I'm sorry (not sorry) but I can't take you seriously if you're using LinkedIn - a site intended for professional business connections/hiring resources - and your picture is a damn selfie you took with your phone. That is the very first thing a potential employer/employee/business connection will see when they check your profile and it makes you look unprofessional and immature.
-all of the spelling/grammar errors pointed out before
-get a tattoo of your boyfriend or girlfriend's name (really seems like a bad idea)
- have an excuse for everything
And people who confuse past/pass/passed and loss/lost. When did these become things???! Sorry for your lost?!!!
I won't add anymore, because then this post will be nothing but grammar gripes, but I'm really shocked at how commonplace these mistakes have become. Do people really not know the difference? Some of these I really don't understand. Gah!
You mentioning school reminded me of something else. I know so many elementary ed. majors who have zero concept of grammar. It's sad that they will be learning right along side their very young students. Ah well...guess it's just job security for me. However, I'm teaching Spanish starting in August and I have no doubt in my mind I'll have to teach English grammar, as well.
Ok, now I'm done and I'm leaving because I get very worked up about this topic. Haha!
Edit: the image is blurry but I highly recommend you check it out on their site
Our weather girl once claimed it was "literally" raining cats and dogs. No Julie Durda, it is not raining cats and dogs.
"One hunned" or "10 cent instead of 10 cents"
"For one thing, the idea that there is only one right way of doing English – and everyone else is doing it wrong – is inherently flawed. And by “flawed” I mean illogical, elitist and even oppressive. Judgements about what counts as “right”, “good” and “correct” in writing and grammar always – ALWAYS – align with characteristics of the dialects spoken by privileged, mostly wealthy, mostly white people. We make these judgements based on learned biases, as well as a certain emotional attachment to our own way of doing things. But when people study dialects in an objective, scientific way (which is what cunning linguists actually do), they find that low-prestige dialects, such as African-American Vernacular English or Cockney English, have fully-formed grammar rules of their own that make just as much sense as any others. They are perfectly valid and functional forms of communication used by millions of people. The only difference is that they don’t have people running around telling everyone else to do it their way."
"I ask them to estimate, in a developed country like Canada or the U.S., what percentage of the population has literacy skills below the very basic level needed to function well in our society. People usually guess ten percent, fifteen percent, maybe as much as twenty-five. Then I pull out the sad, stunning facts: nearly half of all North American adults cannot cope with complex written material of the sort that the other half of us take completely for granted. HALF, you guys. This should be considered a national crisis. Not fodder for sport."
https://paintingthegreyarea.wordpress.com/2012/11/26/literacy-privilege/
To my new neighbors.. Welcome to the neighborhood ass holes. Everyone hates you please move now.