There's a difference between having a different opinion and acting like you're above people. Read it a few times before you post it. Maybe some self reflection will help.
Take a look at the comment I got in response to simply sharing my pet peeve (one that I've made clear that I thought the majority of adults shared) ... Then maybe you'll be clearer on why I responded the way I did.
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I think (and I may be wrong), it's fine to say that you prefer to split evenly ( I do too, and that is your opinion), but you said not wanting to split evenly makes them cheap (your original post), and then proceeded to imply that people who don't want to split evenly need to "grow up" (your subsequent posts) and that in NYC it is not done. And when posters said restaurants often split bills for them, you stated that it's only done at somewhere "like Applebee's or something", implying that only cheap restaurants do them.
I think you could have stated your dislike/ pet peeves without implying that people who prefer to split are somehow cheap, immature, or only dine at places like Applebees.
I think (and I may be wrong), it's fine to say that you prefer to split evenly ( I do too, and that is your opinion), but you said not wanting to split evenly makes them cheap (your original post), and then proceeded to imply that people who don't want to split evenly need to "grow up" (your subsequent posts) and that in NYC it is not done. And when posters said restaurants often split bills for them, you stated that it's only done at somewhere "like Applebee's or something", implying that only cheap restaurants do them.
I think you could have stated your dislike/ pet peeves without implying that people who prefer to split are somehow cheap, immature, or only dine at places like Applebees.
I originally said it in a strong way because I really thought it was a popular opinion. My posts got stronger because of the subsequent responses. But, you're right. There are plenty of other people reading this who didn't deserve to be offended and I'm sorry.
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I am glad you now see why some were offended. We may all have strong feelings about certain things, but I think how we express them on these forums matter because, it's not like we've all been friends for 5 years and understand what each others mean even if it is conveyed in an offensive manner inadvertently.
1. What's your biggest fear as a FTM/STM/TTM, etc? FTM. Really everything, but I guess my biggest fear would be my potential for postpartum depression. I already struggle with depression and anxiety, have for years. Just worried it could get worse. Lot of financial worries too.
2. What's your H/SO do for a living? EMT.
3. Nursery themes/ideas? Where we'll be living we don't really have room for a nursery. If we do do any sort of theme it'll probably be Doctor Who or something nerdy lol.
4. Where'd you go on your honeymoon? (If you didn't have one or aren't married, where would you love to travel to?) Not married/no honeymoon yet. I'd love to go to somewhere in Europe or possibly Japan.
5. What were you like in high school? (Ex: prep, jock) Kinda gothy. Piercings, weird hair colors, etc. I was pretty much a loner besides my few friends. I did choir, had straight As across the board, loved writing and being creative.
6. How long have you and H/SO been together and married? We dated back in high school and remained friends once we broke up. Got back together a year ago (our anniversary is actually the 28th this month). It's been amazing. We've been engaged for a few months, but haven't planned anything.
7. What annoys you most/biggest pet peeve? I could go on and on probably. Lately its been liars, thieves, backstabbers, cheaters, abusive people, manipulators, etc. The past year or two has at least shown me the true nature of a lot of people around me and I've quickly removed a lot of negativity from my life.
1. Losing the baby 2. He's in sales so a lot of traveling. 3. Our first was Asian and this one I'm leaning towards globes/maps. I just reuse stuff of mine around the house haha. 4. Jamaica. It was such a blast. 5. A floater? I drifted from group to group. 6. Going on 12 years now! 7. Depends on the day, but mostly it is my neighbors yapping dog. Not a fan of dogs for the most part...
1. Fear? Paying for college. 2. Hubs career? Sales for the local NHL and MLB organization. 3. Nursery? Gender neutral. I love to design so it's already in the works. Gender doesn't matter... It's sage, cream, white, and brown 4. Honeymoon? We got married in a destination (Traverse City, MI), so we had a mini-moon there, then went on a few other trips throughout the year rather than one big one (we love adventure). We visited Utah (Zion) and then St. John and Virgin Gorda. We are planning one last hurrah to Iceland or Banff before little Sweet 'P' makes its way out. 5. High school? Who cares! That was 4 years of life. Let's talk about a successful career or a huge accomplishment you've made! 6. Relationship? 4 years together / 11 months and 12 days married 7. Pet peeves? Laziness and liars
1. Fear? Screwing up my kids somehow. 2. Hubs career? Department of Health 3. Nursery? No plans yet... my other kids have vintage themes so this one will probably be similar. 4. Honeymoon? The Swag Mountain Inn.. beautiful.. would love to go back but so expensive (wah) 5. High school? Quiet and a "good girl" but pretty popular. 6. Relationship? We've been together for 15 years and married for 8. 7. Pet peeves? Mean people, rude people, mouth noises.
Mom to Benjamin 6/2011 and Lena 5/2013; baby 3 on the way
1. What's your biggest fear as a FTM/STM/TTM etc? As a first time mom I'm worried that I won't be doing something for my child that I should be doing. For example you hear about tummy time, foods to avoid until a certain age, starting the reading skills early, etc. Babies don't come with a manual. What if you miss something along the way?
2. What's your H/SO do for a living? My husband works in business management for a well known logistics company.
3. Nursery theme/ideas. If we have a boy it will be dinosaurs. If we have a girl I'd love to do the nursery in really feminine, vintage items such as lace and pretty florals. Not sure how it'd come together quite yet, but I've been scoping out Pinterest.
4. Where'd you go on your honeymoon. We bought a groupon and stayed in Jamaica. It was the best trip we've been on.
5. What were you like in high school? I was one of those people that could float between groups. I went to a small high school so everyone hung out with everyone. I was a varsity cheerleader, but I also ran cross country and track. I also spent time participating in clubs such as yearbook, FFA, and newspaper. I'd say I was well-rounded.
6. How long have you and H/SO been together? We've been together for 3 years, married only 8 months. We've been on the fast track ever since we met.
7.What annoys you the most/biggest pet peeve? I hate when people always have to one up you.
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I originally said it in a strong way because I really thought it was a popular opinion. My posts got stronger because of the subsequent responses. But, you're right. There are plenty of other people reading this who didn't deserve to be offended and I'm sorry.
FTM. Really everything, but I guess my biggest fear would be my potential for postpartum depression. I already struggle with depression and anxiety, have for years. Just worried it could get worse. Lot of financial worries too.
2. What's your H/SO do for a living?
EMT.
3. Nursery themes/ideas?
Where we'll be living we don't really have room for a nursery. If we do do any sort of theme it'll probably be Doctor Who or something nerdy lol.
4. Where'd you go on your honeymoon? (If you didn't have one or aren't married, where would you love to travel to?)
Not married/no honeymoon yet. I'd love to go to somewhere in Europe or possibly Japan.
5. What were you like in high school? (Ex: prep, jock)
Kinda gothy. Piercings, weird hair colors, etc. I was pretty much a loner besides my few friends. I did choir, had straight As across the board, loved writing and being creative.
6. How long have you and H/SO been together and married?
We dated back in high school and remained friends once we broke up. Got back together a year ago (our anniversary is actually the 28th this month). It's been amazing. We've been engaged for a few months, but haven't planned anything.
7. What annoys you most/biggest pet peeve?
I could go on and on probably. Lately its been liars, thieves, backstabbers, cheaters, abusive people, manipulators, etc. The past year or two has at least shown me the true nature of a lot of people around me and I've quickly removed a lot of negativity from my life.
2. He's in sales so a lot of traveling.
3. Our first was Asian and this one I'm leaning towards globes/maps. I just reuse stuff of mine around the house haha.
4. Jamaica. It was such a blast.
5. A floater? I drifted from group to group.
6. Going on 12 years now!
7. Depends on the day, but mostly it is my neighbors yapping dog. Not a fan of dogs for the most part...
2. Hubs career? Sales for the local NHL and MLB organization.
3. Nursery? Gender neutral. I love to design so it's already in the works. Gender doesn't matter... It's sage, cream, white, and brown
4. Honeymoon? We got married in a destination (Traverse City, MI), so we had a mini-moon there, then went on a few other trips throughout the year rather than one big one (we love adventure). We visited Utah (Zion) and then St. John and Virgin Gorda. We are planning one last hurrah to Iceland or Banff before little Sweet 'P' makes its way out.
5. High school? Who cares! That was 4 years of life. Let's talk about a successful career or a huge accomplishment you've made!
6. Relationship? 4 years together / 11 months and 12 days married
7. Pet peeves? Laziness and liars
2. Hubs career? Department of Health
3. Nursery? No plans yet... my other kids have vintage themes so this one will probably be similar.
4. Honeymoon? The Swag Mountain Inn.. beautiful.. would love to go back but so expensive (wah)
5. High school? Quiet and a "good girl" but pretty popular.
6. Relationship? We've been together for 15 years and married for 8.
7. Pet peeves? Mean people, rude people, mouth noises.
Mom to Benjamin 6/2011 and Lena 5/2013; baby 3 on the way
As a first time mom I'm worried that I won't be doing something for my child that I should be doing. For example you hear about tummy time, foods to avoid until a certain age, starting the reading skills early, etc. Babies don't come with a manual. What if you miss something along the way?
2. What's your H/SO do for a living? My husband works in business management for a well known logistics company.
3. Nursery theme/ideas.
If we have a boy it will be dinosaurs. If we have a girl I'd love to do the nursery in really feminine, vintage items such as lace and pretty florals. Not sure how it'd come together quite yet, but I've been scoping out Pinterest.
4. Where'd you go on your honeymoon. We bought a groupon and stayed in Jamaica. It was the best trip we've been on.
5. What were you like in high school?
I was one of those people that could float between groups. I went to a small high school so everyone hung out with everyone. I was a varsity cheerleader, but I also ran cross country and track. I also spent time participating in clubs such as yearbook, FFA, and newspaper. I'd say I was well-rounded.
6. How long have you and H/SO been together?
We've been together for 3 years, married only 8 months. We've been on the fast track ever since we met.
7.What annoys you the most/biggest pet peeve?
I hate when people always have to one up you.