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Oh It's Another Girl...well you can try again

NYCMom1NYCMom1 member
in October 2015 Moms
Ugh, ok people stop telling my husband and I we can try again for a boy...if we want three children then we will certainly try again but not because we want a certain gender. When we first found out we would be having DD2 we had a moment of "we won't have a son" as my hubs and I are pretty set on just 2 loves, but now we are super excited about another girl!!!   I think I would be sad now if it turned out to be a boy in the delivery room, we are attached to our new little girl now :)

We constantly get the sad eyes with oh it's another girl, or third times a charm, you'll get that boy or you guys have to have another one, you need a boy for your husband. I want to shout at these people, we don't need a boy to be happy!!!!!  Do these people enjoy making me feel like I am failing by not having a boy.

Sorry for the rant, it's just I get this at least 2 times a day :(  it's just really getting to me!
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  • cbolton19cbolton19 member
    I don't get people's need to say things like that (aside from a running joke in the family or something fun)! Why does it matter?! Seriously, people (not even the parents!) are far too concerned about the sex of other's children. I'm so thankful that the only person who is sad we are having a girl is my 8 yo nephew (he has a sister and only girl cousins), and he is 8!

    Congrats on the healthy baby girl!!
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  • bbiutmcphbbiutmcph member
    Yep we heard that all the time when we had our second boy.  I simply replied.  "Sorry you have such ignorant feelings about that. We are beyond blessed and thrilled to have two healthy boys"  They usually shut up.  Personally the bond between my boys is one of the best things to watch.


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  • elmann1elmann1 member
    I've always wanted a sister! Sisters are a beautiful thing so they can shut their face about not having a boy. My two brothers are awesome too, but they are closer to each other than they are to me. Gosh that must be frustrating to hear all the time I' m sorry. 
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  • baconladybaconlady member
    Congratulations!  I have two sisters and I love them to pieces!  Comments like those really bother me.  We were getting similar comments from my husbands family before we knew what we were having  .  We have a little girl already .  I would always respond," well if it's another girl will you not love her or what's the deal " ?  A healthy baby is the biggest blessing people need to just shut it sometimes. 
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  • LLynde5LLynde5 member
    This is our first and we have not shared the gender. She's a girl and what my husband had his heart set on! However, the world thinks because my husband was a fantastic football player that this baby needs to be a boy. I just laugh it off but really people, smh.
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  • amberrmariee20amberrmariee20 member
    I have a son from a previous relationship, and me and my boyfriend are having a son together, my grandmother told me the other day "I needed to try again for a girl" well ... We always had plans for a third child before I got pregnant regardless if we would of had all boys or all girls... People don't seem to understand lol
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I'm one of 3 girls, and while I always wanted a brother, I never thought there was anything wrong with my all-girl (except my dad) family. My dad would say he was triple-blessed because he had 3 daughters.

    Now that I'm expecting my second of what DH and I plan to be 2 kids, om thrilled to be having a girl. I always wanted 1 of each, a boy and a girl. But you know what? If I had abother boy, I'd be thrilled, too! Brothers (or sisters) can have a special bond with each other, in a way opposite-sex kids don't. Before finding out we were having a girl, I was mentally bracing myself for the "I may never have a little girl" disappointment, since DH and I had decided we were probably done after this baby no matter what. But in the end, two happy, healthy kids is what we'll have and that's what matters.

    I think it's so bizarre that people have so many opinions on what sex your kids "should" be. Or even how many you have. Especially in the 21st century when we're all about families that come in all varieties (one parent, two moms, two dads, blended families, etc). OP, sorry you're having to deal with this every day.

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  • kindlycrystalkindlycrystal member
    I'm sorry you have to deal with that so often. I really get annoyed about my family getting worked up over the gender. Yes, we are having a boy, but would have been just as happy with a girl. Before we knew, FIL said he wanted a grandson, but didn't seem enthused about the possibility of girl -- almost like he'd be let down by it. My mom was hoping for a girl (she has 3 other grandsons, no granddaughters), so I really couldn't win. I almost swore DH to secrecy about the baby's sex, but he calmed me down. Does it really matter that much, people?! It's not that big of a deal to us, we'll love our child just the same. 

    @batmom05,  I'm more of a 'boy mom,' too. I know more about comic books, dinosaurs and video games than pink, princesses and tea parties. :-B If we have a second after DS, I would like a girl, but I would be just as happy with a second son. 




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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    I have 2 girls from a previous marriage and am having another girl. When I tell people I always follow with "i only make girls". I have always hated the idea that you have to have one of each. I was team green for my first two because my crazy ex mil only cared about grandsons and I didn't feel like going through a pregnancy being berated for having a girl, even though I had no control over the sex of the baby!
    I have had a couple people hint at having a boy next and I shut them down with "if I had another one I would want another girl because my daughters are so amazing- why wouldn't I want another one?"
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this! People can be really annoying.

    I've been hearing similar comments due to the fact that I'm having a girl...and this is my first child! I just never imagined I would have to face such disappointment from family members over the sex of my first child. It's to the point that the things that my grandma bought for the baby, she bought in blue/green with monsters, etc. So that "if you finally get to have a boy next time you can save this stuff for him." I mean, I don't need everything to be pink but I also don't need you to buy things to put up and save for a boy I may never have. And DH'S family hasn't even mentioned the baby anymore to me since finding out its a girl.
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  • gabrielafrnqyepezgabrielafrnqyepez member
    i have a son and im having another boy i HATE getting the oooo so you are going to try for the girl next......i say well no im the queen in my castle and i love the love my boys give me, and so ppl proceed to say oo so you dont want a girl, and i say well if its meant for me to have a girl then i will ryte but for now im great with my boys! 





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  • NYCMom1NYCMom1 member
    I think you may have something here lol
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  • bashley3bashley3 member
    I'm having boy/girl twins... and the first thing people say is 'Perfect! You're done!'

    I would have been done after this pregnancy regardless of boy, girl, or singleton.
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  • loveleighmamiloveleighmami member
    This is my third girl and I couldn't be more thrilled! We do want one more baby, but I would be just fine with another girl, at this point what do I do with a boy? Lol That's what I tell people when they ask.
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  • 102215duryee102215duryee member
    I get the same comments all the time. Our first is a girl and this one is a girl as well. I'm so excited for my daughter to have a sister! I have two older brothers which is great but it would have been pretty cool to have had that sister bond. We agreed to only have two so we could better support them as they grow. With all the negative comments of "I guess you have to have another to get a boy!" Its now making my husband want another, which is fine but I know its because of all the comments, not because he feels he needs a son. Ugh. Anyway my mom has 5 sisters because my grandpa wanted a boy, well 6 girls later they realized its probably not going to happen. Any child is a blessing. No need for a certain gender.
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  • twogirlsandagreentwogirlsandagreen member
    I got that too with my second DD. my girls are so close and play so incredibly well together. This third baby was a surprise pregnancy and I was hoping for another girl because of how special their bond is. We are having a boy and are both excited, but I get sooooo annoyed when people act relieved it's a boy and say things like, "you FINALLY got your boy." Ummmmmm what?! Then there are those who act like I'm crazy to have a third on the way until they learn it's a boy, and then they get all giddy and excited. It is so odd. People are strange, strange creatures.
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  • intheversaintheversa member
    I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. People are so ignorant! When they found out that we were having a girl and my DH is the only one to carry on his family name we got hit with that comment a lot. I just told them that, "Well Henry VIII couldn't get a son to carry on his name either, but honestly who's fault is that?" That usually shuts them up. 

    I'm glad that you're happy about having a girl, because that's all that matters.
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  • tate62610tate62610 member
    "But you have a boy and a girl. Why do you need more?"
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  • violetginvioletgin member
    Yeah, people can be annoyingly opinionated and, while a certain amount of it can be written off to human nature, twice a day would get to me. I don't think it matters what you're having though, it seems to often elicit a response that is unwanted regardless. We have a 19 mo. old DS with a DD on the way. I didn't care what we had this time, but I get this a LOT: "oh, that's just perfect, now you can stop!"  Uh, NO. On the one hand, I know they probably don't realize how obnoxious their statements come off. On the other though, it would be nice if they would just say, "that's great, aren't you excited?" or "congratulations!" and leave it at that. One of each doesn't make a jack shit of difference as far as perfection goes. We are stopping with two either way, and I would have been just as thrilled to have another boy - and that's exactly what I tell people.

    Two little ladies is going to be good times! Congratulations, mama!
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