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Frustrated

lindsayaltmanlindsayaltman member
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I am new to this community board. I downloaded the bump app because a friend told me it was a good resource to feel supported by other pregnant women. And I am a new mom. Sometimes I feel dumb asking my dr questions. (Maybe I'm alone on this) but sometimes I feel rushed and shuffled through at the drs. Anyway I've been reading some of the comments on here and feel a little disappointed on how some of the women are commenting on some other women's posts. My feeling is that we are all pregnant women and we should be lifting each other up, supporting, giving advice. Yes some of the questions on here may be redundant or obvious, but I think this is why women come here to not be judged by their questions. If you think a question is dumb or annoying I think you should just ignore it, not to make the pregnant women who asked it feel like an idiot. Some of us are first timers and are completely out of our element. If I was a pro at pregnancy or mom-hood I wouldn't have a need for this forum... just knowing how hormonal pregnant women can be, I would have thought that we could all be a little more tolerant and sensitive. Maybe this was not the forum I was thinking it was.
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  • MissyLissia25MissyLissia25 member
    yeah, i just joined the group again after several years of not going on here from previous pregnancies, and was reminded just how jerky and non supportive this group is...its so sad that has not changed over the four years i have been off and on the group. it seems the hormones and general attitude of these groups is horrible...sorry you had the same experience.
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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    I love that your first response was to be totally attacked. The fact is in real life people wouldn't say rude things to your face, but that's the beauty of the Internet - we can hide behind screen names.
    That being said- there are great pieces of info on these boards- I just suggest looking around before asking something. Maybe it's already been answered in someone else's post.
    I'm sorry you haven't had a great experience on this site, I hope you can find what you need elsewhere or figure out how to ignore the less than kind posters. Good luck!
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  • JessicaS0914JessicaS0914 member
    tbasinski said:
    I love that your first response was to be totally attacked. The fact is in real life people wouldn't say rude things to your face, but that's the beauty of the Internet - we can hide behind screen names. That being said- there are great pieces of info on these boards- I just suggest looking around before asking something. Maybe it's already been answered in someone else's post. I'm sorry you haven't had a great experience on this site, I hope you can find what you need elsewhere or figure out how to ignore the less than kind posters. Good luck!

    In real life, she'd just get ignored and talked about behind her back. That's the beauty of this site - I come here to get REAL opinions that my friends and family may not give in fear of hurting my feelings.
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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    @JessicaS0914 you make a good point. I guess there's just a balance people forget. I agree that it's good to get real, honest opinions. But I think people forget that just because you can say something mean, doesn't mean that you should. There are polite ways to say things that still get the point across clearly. I read posts here sometimes and in my head I scream that the person posting is an idiot. I don't come out and say that though. If I respond I find a nicer way to tell them the truth.
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  • cMichelle0423cMichelle0423 member
    Also keep in mind, it's hard to read someone's tone when you're reading their response and not hearing it. Not everyone is trying to come off as mean as you think they are. Like pps said, this isn't a place for sugar coated responses. Yes there are stupid questions (like the lady on one of the tri boards who thought she hurt her baby by bending over to pick something up). People seem to lose common sense around here some times. So of course you're going to get some snarky responses. Then there's the people who post things that go against group rules or etiquette. (Like the girl who posted a pic of her pregnancy test and wanted to know if it looked positive). There's a set time of this group, and you can't just walk on in here expecting things to change for you. If you don't like it, then find another place to post.
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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member
    MissyLissia25 said:
    yeah, i just joined the group again after several years of not going on here from previous pregnancies, and was reminded just how jerky and non supportive this group is...its so sad that has not changed over the four years i have been off and on the group. it seems the hormones and general attitude of these groups is horrible...sorry you had the same experience.

    And yet here you are, calling people names. Who is the jerky one now? Go away if you don't like it.
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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member
    Very original post OP. If you don't like TB there are plenty of other communities for you to join.
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