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Keeping the Romance Alive

naarnoldnaarnold member
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Between the shots and the appointments keeping the romance alive during ivf can be hard. Any tips on romancing your way through ivf?
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Re: Keeping the Romance Alive

  • babycrazy8babycrazy8 member
    Such a good question! We are still struggling to find the answer to that - now on our 2ww from our 4th IUI. I'm for sure no expert but we find it nice to get out of the house and just go for a fancy dinner and maybe a movie if there's something good on. Just doing something outside of the house and having a brief moment away from "fertility" speak helps for us. I've been finding it still super hard though!
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  • naarnoldnaarnold member
    I find it especially hard because 1) you are not creating a child the "old fashioned way"-- even though ivf in its own right is a very intimate experience 2) my RE has sex off the table from my transfer to HB, not to mention before the 3-5 days my husband has to abstain before retrieval. Not that sex is the only aspect of romance, We have been having a weekly date night, and I have been trying to do cute fun things like leave notes for him and have breakfast in bed together, but it is really tough.
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  • MKLEWIS2010MKLEWIS2010 member
    It's tough on me too. We try to plan daytime activities because of the shots at night and I'm usually tired and go to sleep right after. We make agreements that on date time we don't talk about IVF treatments.
    Me - 32 
    Husband - 32
    TTC #1 - since 10/16/2012 
    IVF#1 6/2015 BFN 
    FET 7/2015 - BFP


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  • jnissajnissa member
    Eh. Maybe we're not romantics, but we kind of just look at it like a time when the romance won't be alive. It's all told less than a month. I'm crabby anyway. It's not sexy to give somebody a shot. In the scope of our greater lives, a couple months of non-romance doesn't matter. 

    Plus, like, seriously, the romance has never been more dead in my relationship than the latter part of my pregnancy. This is good practice :) 
    Me: 41, DH 38, Diagnosis DOR
    Started TTC 12/2013
    First Trip to RE: 11/2014
    IVF Round 1: 2/2014 - BFP
    DD Born 11/9/2014
    TTC a Sibling Started 5/2015
    First IVF Round 8/15 - BFN
    Taking a break to go on vacation + enjoy the holidays before FET and/or another IVF round in 2016!

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  • wannabeamotherwannabeamother member
    I'm not currently in a cycle as of now but the romance factor was def hard for us as well when we underwent iui's and ivf especially since they basically tell you when and when not to have sex, and for me I just felt so full and everything just hurt. But like pp said just getting out of the house and going on dates or hanging with friends is always helpful and remember it's the little things like hand holding, random kisses and just having a good ol laugh together! Best of luck!
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