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skruhmin · July 2015

skruhmin · July 2015

I'm not feeling guilty that DH and I are leaving our two sick kids to go on a much needed overnight to a hotel and nice dinner for our anniversary. Mama needs a break!

SparkE82 · July 2015

While I adore the cute artsy baby reveals that I see everyone doing on Facebook recently.....I really HATE that my DH wants me to do stuff like that. I have no problem doing something small and fun for the family reaveals, but I refuse to spend that much time on a "public announcement". I am not an artsy type of person....I am very analytical, logical, functional type of person....probably why I am an engineer.

skruhmin · July 2015

SparkE82 said:

While I adore the cute artsy baby reveals that I see everyone doing on Facebook recently.....I really HATE that my DH wants me to do stuff like that. I have no problem doing something small and fun for the family reaveals, but I refuse to spend that much time on a "public announcement". I am not an artsy type of person....I am very analytical, logical, functional type of person....probably why I am an engineer.

What kind of engineer?? Software over here and very analytical/logical

SparkE82 · July 2015

skruhmin said:

SparkE82 said:

While I adore the cute artsy baby reveals that I see everyone doing on Facebook recently.....I really HATE that my DH wants me to do stuff like that. I have no problem doing something small and fun for the family reaveals, but I refuse to spend that much time on a "public announcement". I am not an artsy type of person....I am very analytical, logical, functional type of person....probably why I am an engineer.

What kind of engineer?? Software over here and very analytical/logical

I am an electrical engineer.

Smom901316 · July 2015

I am prepared for the flame on this one even though it is FFFC ... I don't get drinking alcohol while pregnant.. To each her own though

Kristin712 · July 2015

samanthafavorite said:
I am prepared for the flame on this one even though it is FFFC ... I don't get drinking alcohol while pregnant.. To each her own though

Agreed. I am staunchly opposed to drinking any amount at any point in pregnancy. I think it's selfish.

Mrsbearmomma · July 2015

@samanthafavorite @Kristin712, a girl I work with is pregnant with twins and she's told me multiple times that she craves beer sometimes, so she gives in and has a few sips. I had to really bite my tongue when she was telling me this!

TheRealVeronicaSawyer · July 2015

I don't understand moms drinking while they are knowingly pregnant either. I love a glass of Pinot Grigio and know that small amounts probably won't hurt, but I would never want to take a chance. My mom did tell me she had a drink or two when she was pregnant with me so... Something that gets to me is people saying they are "finally" pregnant after only 2-3 months of trying. I don't think a few months is really that long to be trying to conceive...especially when you have a 1 in 5 chance of getting pregnant each month. It's just I'm a little sensitive because it took my DH and I almost two years to conceive.

momo525 · July 2015

KellyLe1gh said:

Something that gets to me is people saying they are "finally" pregnant after only 2-3 months of trying. I don't think a few months is really that long to be trying to conceive...especially when you have a 1 in 5 chance of getting pregnant each month. It's just I'm a little sensitive because it took my DH and I almost two years to conceive.

Ditto. And then when they try to give you advice, as if you haven't read/tried everything after 2 years of trying.

fwtx5815 · July 2015

I'm sick of the people that complain when there's any sort of disagreement or that complain about "negativity" on relatively conflict-free threads.

Show me ANY corner of the internet where there isn't disagreement of some sort (spoiler: it doesn't exist). Like now that we're pregnant, we're supposed to shit butterflies and not have opinions about things. Puh-lease.

skruhmin · July 2015

fwtx5815 said:

I'm sick of the people that complain when there's any sort of disagreement or that complain about "negativity" on relatively conflict-free threads. Show me ANY corner of the internet where there isn't disagreement of some sort (spoiler: it doesn't exist). Like now that we're pregnant, we're supposed to shit butterflies and not have opinions about things. Puh-lease.

Especially raving hormonal pregosauruses - or would that be pregosaurii (and totally saying that as a president and member of that club

)

Lina1011 · July 2015

All I want to do is eat sweets and fattening food. Yuummmm....

Lina1011 · July 2015

And why isn't my siggy working? That's annoying and I feel really dumb.

skruhmin · July 2015

Lina1011 said:

And why isn't my siggy working? That's annoying and I feel really dumb.

Try the HTML code

(believe me we've all been there because TheBump isn't user friendly at all)

Lina1011 · July 2015

Thank you! I have tried that though and it still looks weird.

skruhmin · July 2015

momo525 said:

KellyLe1gh said:

Something that gets to me is people saying they are "finally" pregnant after only 2-3 months of trying. I don't think a few months is really that long to be trying to conceive...especially when you have a 1 in 5 chance of getting pregnant each month. It's just I'm a little sensitive because it took my DH and I almost two years to conceive.

Ditto. And then when they try to give you advice, as if you haven't read/tried everything after 2 years of trying.

With you there with my first two taking 25 months combined to conceive...baby making sex is STRESSFUL and not fun!!

Lina1011 · July 2015

skruhmin said:

momo525 said:

KellyLe1gh said:

Something that gets to me is people saying they are "finally" pregnant after only 2-3 months of trying. I don't think a few months is really that long to be trying to conceive...especially when you have a 1 in 5 chance of getting pregnant each month. It's just I'm a little sensitive because it took my DH and I almost two years to conceive.

Ditto. And then when they try to give you advice, as if you haven't read/tried everything after 2 years of trying.

With you there with my first two taking 25 months combined to conceive...baby making sex is STRESSFUL and not fun!!

I am totally with you. DH and I tried from 2008-2011 and then took break. And here we are FINALLY, 6 years later expecting.

Hullabaloo2016 · July 2015

I'm already tired of all the "You all are rude, bitches, judgemental, etc" posts. OPINIONS ARE NOT RUDE! If it sparks an open debate in which there is a back and forth commentary, it is NOT RUDE. If you can't handle internet honesty and just want a bunch of women to hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear, perhaps this is not the place for you. Enough with all the "We should be here to support and encourage one another in this joyous time." BS. Hand holding =/= supporting. I don't want to sit around holding hands singing koombya. I just don't get how you can call some of these women rude, yes there is the occasional snarky comment but for the most part this has been a very tame group when it comes to the snark. Please remember that with the written/typed word there is no voice inflection, facial expression or body expression, sometimes things can come off as rude.

Lina1011 · July 2015

Very good point!

fwtx5815 · July 2015

@Hullabaloo2016 I'm convinced those people are trying to sniff out inexistent drama so they can swoop in and wag their finger at people. They apparently skip over the threads where posters are concerned about symptoms or announce losses, where support really is given (because that's when it is needed).

skruhmin · July 2015

Hullabaloo2016 said:

I'm already tired of all the "You all are rude, bitches, judgemental, etc" posts. OPINIONS ARE NOT RUDE! If it sparks an open debate in which there is a back and forth commentary, it is NOT RUDE. If you can't handle internet honesty and just want a bunch of women to hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear, perhaps this is not the place for you. Enough with all the "We should be here to support and encourage one another in this joyous time." BS. Hand holding =/= supporting. I don't want to sit around holding hands singing koombya. I just don't get how you can call some of these women rude, yes there is the occasional snarky comment but for the most part this has been a very tame group when it comes to the snark. Please remember that with the written/typed word there is no voice inflection, facial expression or body expression, sometimes things can come off as rude.

And thus is the nature of a public board and the internet. If people can't handle it, they might want to go elsewhere. Not trying to be mean, just realistic.

Stormiewinter · July 2015

Ugh I have eaten terribly this week! Like ice cream and French fries every day! Everything else makes me nauseous, but now I'm starting to panic because I feel like I've gained weight and I see my OB on Tuesday. I really don't want to gain too much weight, I only just lost all the weight from my first pregnancy (2.5 years later) but we have been on vacation so I have justified it. Monday I turn over a new leaf!

OneRainDrop · July 2015

My husband doesn't know I am on The Bump. He hates TB. He hated it when I was on my last BMB two years ago, and he would HATE to know I am on it again...

edit: GIF

Rabbitheart15 · July 2015

SparkE82 said:

While I adore the cute artsy baby reveals that I see everyone doing on Facebook recently.....I really HATE that my DH wants me to do stuff like that. I have no problem doing something small and fun for the family reaveals, but I refuse to spend that much time on a "public announcement". I am not an artsy type of person....I am very analytical, logical, functional type of person....probably why I am an engineer.

I don't get it, if your DH wants this so badly, why doesn't he do it? I'm the pseudo-creative one in our relationship, but I don't really want to do an announcement.

SparkE82 · July 2015

Rabbitheart15 said:

SparkE82 said:

While I adore the cute artsy baby reveals that I see everyone doing on Facebook recently.....I really HATE that my DH wants me to do stuff like that. I have no problem doing something small and fun for the family reaveals, but I refuse to spend that much time on a "public announcement". I am not an artsy type of person....I am very analytical, logical, functional type of person....probably why I am an engineer.

I don't get it, if your DH wants this so badly, why doesn't he do it? I'm the pseudo-creative one in our relationship, but I really want to do an announcement.

DH isn't artistically gifted.....lol....love him but my 5 year old nephew does better arts and crafts than DH.....lol

adorebel · July 2015

I think some of the comments here about judging women who take a sip of someone else's beer or wine are pretty over the top. Obviously, drinking during pregnancy is dangerous for the baby and it is selfish to put your baby's health at risk for your own eating/drinking pleasure. I would even understand if you said you feel uncomfortable watching a pregnant woman drink a whole glass of wine in a sitting - even though all indications suggest that doing that once a week or so in the later months of pregnancy is probably ok, I can understand that reaction.

But saying you'll judge the shit out of someone who sips a beer or samples someone else's wine? That is just bizarre to me. The absolutely miniscule amount of alcohol in a single ounce of beer or wine is not going to hurt the baby. Judging other women for that is bananas to me.

Alyeena · July 2015

adorebel said:

I think some of the comments here about judging women who take a sip of someone else's beer or wine are pretty over the top. Obviously, drinking during pregnancy is dangerous for the baby and it is selfish to put your baby's health at risk for your own eating/drinking pleasure. I would even understand if you said you feel uncomfortable watching a pregnant woman drink a whole glass of wine in a sitting - even though all indications suggest that doing that once a week or so in the later months of pregnancy is probably ok, I can understand that reaction.

But saying you'll judge the shit out of someone who sips a beer or samples someone else's wine? That is just bizarre to me. The absolutely miniscule amount of alcohol in a single ounce of beer or wine is not going to hurt the baby. Judging other women for that is bananas to me.

I don't think most people judge for one sip... but then again why would you only want one sip? Might as well have none.

It took me so long to get pregnant, and cost me so much money that I not about to complain about a single thing, and frankly I don't even care about not drinking wine or beer or any alcohol. The reason I side eye women who drink (a few glasses here and there or more sometimes) is because I feel like "Really? You are that addicted to alcohol you cannot go without it?" It's just alcohol... it is in no way essential...

Maybe it is just because of the infertility that it makes it worse... I would look at them and be like "I would give anything for what you have and here you are drinking" I know there are no conclusive stories drinking one or two glasses per week is harmful, but then again, no proof that it is not either so I won't take that chance. There is no know safe amount.

Smom901316 · July 2015

adorebel said:
I think some of the comments here about judging women who take a sip of someone else's beer or wine are pretty over the top. Obviously, drinking during pregnancy is dangerous for the baby and it is selfish to put your baby's health at risk for your own eating/drinking pleasure. I would even understand if you said you feel uncomfortable watching a pregnant woman drink a whole glass of wine in a sitting - even though all indications suggest that doing that once a week or so in the later months of pregnancy is probably ok, I can understand that reaction.

But saying you'll judge the shit out of someone who sips a beer or samples someone else's wine? That is just bizarre to me. The absolutely miniscule amount of alcohol in a single ounce of beer or wine is not going to hurt the baby. Judging other women for that is bananas to me.

I am not judging personally , I just don't get it, I am in the same camp as @Alyeena ... Why do it ? It's not the sips that are the big issue for me, it is the glasses or cups that I really have a hard time understanding . But like I said , to each her own.

parenthood4 · July 2015

I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

mdr619 · July 2015

adorebel said:

I think some of the comments here about judging women who take a sip of someone else's beer or wine are pretty over the top. Obviously, drinking during pregnancy is dangerous for the baby and it is selfish to put your baby's health at risk for your own eating/drinking pleasure. I would even understand if you said you feel uncomfortable watching a pregnant woman drink a whole glass of wine in a sitting - even though all indications suggest that doing that once a week or so in the later months of pregnancy is probably ok, I can understand that reaction.

But saying you'll judge the shit out of someone who sips a beer or samples someone else's wine? That is just bizarre to me. The absolutely miniscule amount of alcohol in a single ounce of beer or wine is not going to hurt the baby. Judging other women for that is bananas to me.

THIS!

mommygrams0730 · July 2015

kh1824 said:
I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

I kind of like that DH and I have a little secret just between the 2 of us. I've had 2 losses and my mom was able to support me after finding out with both of them.

Now after having 2 losses (the last one at 14 weeks) part of me doesn't want her to worry or stress while I'm pregnant. I really don't know when we'll share we're pregnant again.

parenthood4 · July 2015

mommygrams0730 said:

kh1824 said:
I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

I kind of like that DH and I have a little secret just between the 2 of us. I've had 2 losses and my mom was able to support me after finding out with both of them.

Now after having 2 losses (the last one at 14 weeks) part of me doesn't want her to worry or stress while I'm pregnant. I really don't know when we'll share we're pregnant again.

Oh I can understand it way more if you've had losses. I guess I'm just bad at keeping it in.

fwtx5815 · July 2015

kh1824 said:
I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

For us it was a bit of a surprise, so we're still processing it. I'm not ready to be bombarded with questions and opinions until we really let it sink in. We've been married for two months, bought a house at the end of June, and my grandmother passed away two days before I got a positive HPT. I think it's perfectly normal for us to want things to settle before sharing the news.

If something went wrong, I could still tell them afterward and get support.

katekat8721 · July 2015

kh1824 said:
I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

Could also be that family members have big mouths and would tell the world before you'd prefer to share...

bheatz22 · July 2015

kh1824 said:

I don't understand people not telling family members that they are pregnant until after the first trimester. It doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't you want family support if something went wrong? It seems so weird to hang out with them and not feel well and not say anything.

For me it's that I don't want a lot of people to be disappointing if something happens. Also, I don't want people judging me or making me feel bad, even unintentionally. My in laws are very dramatic and I would end up having to comfort them, instead of focusing on getting better. I would feel horrible enough I don't need to deal with other people's emotions.

parenthood4 · July 2015

Didn't mean to offend anyone! Purely my personal opinion. Thought that was the point of the thread. Sorry!

momo525 · July 2015

kh1824 said:

Didn't mean to offend anyone! Purely my personal opinion. Thought that was the point of the thread. Sorry!

You would be correct! The point of FFFC (Flame Free Friday Confessions) is to make a comment that is embarrassing or controversial. It was always my understanding that the opinions didn't need to be - and maybe aren't supposed to be - argued or defended. Just a place to state a feeling and get it off your chest so that you don't explode (in our crazy hormonal states) in other threads.

SuperTrooper2 · July 2015

It's saturday but I have one : sick of hearing arguments over gender vs sex. Hoping our month club can avoid it.

katekat8721 · July 2015

momo525 said:
kh1824 said:

Didn't mean to offend anyone! Purely my personal opinion. Thought that was the point of the thread. Sorry!

You would be correct! The point of FFFC (Flame Free Friday Confessions) is to make a comment that is embarrassing or controversial. It was always my understanding that the opinions didn't need to be - and maybe aren't supposed to be - argued or defended. Just a place to state a feeling and get it off your chest so that you don't explode (in our crazy hormonal states) in other threads.

Also, it's rarely flame free.

adorebel · July 2015

Kristin712 said:

I am prepared for the flame on this one even though it is FFFC ... I don't get drinking alcohol while pregnant.. To each her own though
Agreed. I am staunchly opposed to drinking any amount at any point in pregnancy. I think it's selfish.

Mrsbearmomma said:

@samanthafavorite @Kristin712, a girl I work with is pregnant with twins and she's told me multiple times that she craves beer sometimes, so she gives in and has a few sips. I had to really bite my tongue when she was telling me this!

@Alyeena and @samanthafavorite, I'm quoting two of the three posts, which specified absolutely any amount, even sips, as too much and as selfish. That seems extreme, given that 1-2 oz of beer or wine, which have 5-10% ABV to begin with, are not going to harm your baby. Obviously no one here wants to endanger their babies with exposure to alcohol, which is a serious risk. But there is an awful lot of hysteria surrounding eating and drinking during pregnancy, and "biting one's tongue" over another woman having a few sips of beer seems overreactive to me. That's all.

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