I really don't have a strong opinion on this topic either way, but this tread is honestly kind of disturbing - it's so judgmental! Reading all the other threads, it's like "we're here for you, you can come here for support, etc". As a STM, I am well aware of mommy judgment that comes at us in all directions on nearly everything we do, when we really should be supporting and respecting each others' opinions and differences, and having interesting but respectful discussions. That is my hope for this group, I don't want to have to be afraid to say what I think or ask a question and then worry what people will respond with. Just food for thought... thanks.
I really don't have a strong opinion on this topic either way, but this tread is honestly kind of disturbing - it's so judgmental! Reading all the other threads, it's like "we're here for you, you can come here for support, etc". As a STM, I am well aware of mommy judgment that comes at us in all directions on nearly everything we do, when we really should be supporting and respecting each others' opinions and differences, and having interesting but respectful discussions. That is my hope for this group, I don't want to have to be afraid to say what I think or ask a question and then worry what people will respond with. Just food for thought... thanks.
I think etiquette is on a totally different plane than most aspects of parenting (i.e., decisions about how to deliver, whether to circumcise, or bottle feed, should all be judgment-free decisions and should be met with support).
The difference with etiquette is that when rude behavior is met with approval, it affects people's social circles. It potentially puts people in uncomfortable situations and can even end friendships. People with tacky plans don't need "support," they need a copy of Emily Post's Etiquette. Internet strangers will tell you the things your friends and family are afraid to say.
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@JACountryman OP wanted to know what the popular opinion was, I don't understand how stating an opinion is judgemental when she asked for it. She wanted to get a feel on the topic from a national and international cross section of pregnant women. We all don't know each other very well yet, and yes there are those on these boards that will enjoy being snarky but they are also probably the world's most awesome smart a$$es IRL, take it with a grain of salt. For the most part this is one of the tamest threads I have seen when opinions are so different. Like @fwtx5815 said internet strangers are more likely to give it to you straight.
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I have to say, I'm very disappointed in the users on this forum. For every question being posed 90% of the comments are so rude and disrespectful. I thought we were here to uplift, encourage and "kindly" advise. But all I've noticed is bitch, bitchy and bitchy-er. It's really sad that during a time that should be wonderful and enjoyable, all people seem to be doing is ripping others apart and trying to make them feel small. How about we get over ourselves and leave a nice remark for once! Happy pregnancy everyone! And in terms of whether or not to have a shower - do whatever the hell you want because people obviously will talk/comment regardless of the choice you make! Cheers
I have to say, I'm very disappointed in the users on this forum. For every question being posed 90% of the comments are so rude and disrespectful. I thought we were here to uplift, encourage and "kindly" advise. But all I've noticed is bitch, bitchy and bitchy-er. It's really sad that during a time that should be wonderful and enjoyable, all people seem to be doing is ripping others apart and trying to make them feel small. How about we get over ourselves and leave a nice remark for once! Happy pregnancy everyone! And in terms of whether or not to have a shower - do whatever the hell you want because people obviously will talk/comment regardless of the choice you make! Cheers
This was a tame thread, and the quoted is so damn dramatic. Opinion threads are going to get opinions.
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I think it is perfectly acceptable to have a second shower if the babes are far apart, especially if they have different fathers. A lot of people are forgetting that the woman can have an existing child from a previous relationship and then have another later on with someone else. Showers aren't just about getting gifts, but also done for the families. Similarly, I see nothing wrong with someone throwing their own co-ed shower. I think the tradition of women-only at these things is dying out because many men want to be involved; this isn't the 1950s anymore. Finally, not everyone has people who can take on the burden of throwing them a shower. For example, my in-laws live on the other side of the country and both of my parents are dead. I have been mostly a lurker on here but decided to speak up because of how incredibly judgmental this thread is.
I agree. And speaking for myself... I am expecting #2 but my DD is almost 12 years old! We got rid of baby stuff a really long time ago when we had trouble conceiving and truly wasn't expecting another. I also agree that it's not about the gifts although we could definitely use the help! My opinion is that even if it is a 2nd baby close together and same sex, there's nothing wrong with a shower. People invited DO NOT have to attend if they are not for it.
We are expecting #2 after TTC for 3 years and then 3 years break! DD is turning 12 years old on 8/9/15!
I think in most cases, they're tacky. However, if there's a huge age difference between the children (like 10+ years) or it's the 1st baby for the father, I can understand them.
Any other reason, I think a small sprinkle or sip & see are appropriate. Anything else is just gift grabby. I also dislike gender revels, name revel and huge I'm pregnant parties (all of which a co-worker of mine had a few months ago).
I have a coworker who wants to throw me a shower and this is our second. I always thought after the first you didn't, but she's so excited and she wants to host it at her house and it gives her a chance to show all our team her new house. I'm much more laid back with everything this time, if it happens great, if it doesn't great, I just want a happy healthy baby.
I have noticed lately the trend seems to be that having a second shower is considered the norm. I don't know when this happened but it seems like a lot of people are doing it.
I got invited to a second shower and diaper party for a second baby. Both girls and only 2 years apart. I felt like I had to go, and buy something off the registry. It was frustrating to me. But, if someone really wants to throw you one, it would be hard to say, "No, sorry, that would be poor etiquette!" without being rude yourself!
@AgentLDub , I have noticed the same thing. I have seen so much rudeness in this birth group that, frankly, I don't care to be a part of it anymore. I came to get advice and to see what everyone else is going through. Alot of people believe that they have license to be nasty on the internet because no one can see them. I was raised to be polite and respectful, so as of now, I'm out.
I'm on my 3rd (and last) baby. I had 2 showers thrown for me for my first 2 DDs. I do not want another shower, as I think it's beyond tacky and I would be embarrassed.
I have had several work friends tell me they plan to throw me a shower. I'm wondering how I should handle it? Or just let them have at it and be grateful?
Most people I know have a second baby shower unless their kids are super close together but I don't plan on having one. I am sure I will get gifts from a few close people and maybe my work (since it's a different job than my first pregnancy) but I don't want anyone to throw me a baby shower and I don't expect anything from anyone. We kept everything from DS since we knew we wanted more kids so there are only a few things we will need. I am going to create a registry for those things but only to get the 10% off you when you buy things off your own registry.
Every baby should be celebrated I had one for each of my boys because my family wanted to throw them. Also my husband's job threw us one for each of the boys. I always believe every baby deserves a celebration if you don't need as much baby stuff your friends or family could throw you a sprinkle a scaled down version of a baby shower. Also it's been five years since my last baby I no longer have any baby stuff in my house.
I swore by Emily Post when I was planning our wedding a few years ago so I would generally follow her lead on things like this. If OP is asking what is "correct" in the form of proper etiquette, then the answer would be no second shower.
I am not yet a parent, but I went through all of this etiquette stuff when my (very gift grabby in general) SIL had a registry (like who needs a second bath for a baby?) for her second kid that was less than 2 years after her first one. She had a FULL ON registry and I just thought that was tacky. She also has a habit of only inviting our side of the family to gift-giving events though so I might have felt a little too strongly on the matter because of this.
I feel like if someone insists on throwing a shower after you already have child, that's fine but I don't see the need to go balls to the walls and make a registry (yes, even if people ask you if you have one/are you going to make one, etc.).
However, I will say that I tend to agree with the major spacing between kids/partner's first child and having a second shower thing. I'd treat these as a traditional shower.
No one I know has had a baby shower for a second baby. I think there are situations where it would not be poor etiquette to have one. But, I had three showers for DS, picked gender neutral baby gear, and do not want a shower for this baby. There are other ways to celebrate a baby's arrival than by having a baby shower. A sip and see is great. We hosted a reception after DS's baptism and will do the same with this baby.
Side note - I'm pregnant with number two and I can only think of Maybe four things that would be helpful to have as a gift. If someone offers to throw me a shower I plan to politely decline but let them know I can give a couple ideas if they know of anyone looking to gift us.
Every baby should be celebrated I had one for each of my boys because my family wanted to throw them. Also my husband's job threw us one for each of the boys. I always believe every baby deserves a celebration if you don't need as much baby stuff your friends or family could throw you a sprinkle a scaled down version of a baby shower. Also it's been five years since my last baby I no longer have any baby stuff in my house.
Edit: Bump cut off half of what I typed.
Baby showers honor/celebrate the mother and welcome her into motherhood for the first time. You can't really throw a party in honor of someone who isn't in attendance (the baby). If the celebration is truly about the baby and not about getting stuff, then a party after the birth would make more sense so people can actually meet the baby.
Also, if you got rid of your baby stuff, that doesn't mean the burden of buying everything again shifts to your friends and family. It's still on the parents to figure that out. Your friends and family may have the desire to buy you gifts, but the purpose of the shower is to give gifts to a person who is doing something for the first time* and needs all the accoutrements to get started (this is the reason bridal showers are common as well).
*I think most are in agreement that even if only one of the new parents is having their first baby, a shower is probably okay.
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In my opinion there are only two reasons you could have a 2nd baby shower, 1. A different father and it is that father's first child and his family wants the baby shower or 2. A huge age gap (10+). If you want to celebrate your baby then you wouldn't be making a list of things for people to buy you. My SIL just submitted her registry for my Nephew's 5th birthday party, umm no thanks, just for that I'm getting you the biggest loudest toy I can find.
Anyway I totally agree with PP, if you didn't want opinions don't ask and the OP was fine with the answers and actually agreed with them. Don't get all butt hurt or this will be a long 9 months.
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In my opinion there are only two reasons you could have a 2nd baby shower, 1. A different father and it is that father's first child and his family wants the baby shower or 2. A huge age gap (10+). If you want to celebrate your baby then you wouldn't be making a list of things for people to buy you. My SIL just submitted her registry for my Nephew's 5th birthday party, umm no thanks, just for that I'm getting you the biggest loudest toy I can find.
Anyway I totally agree with PP, if you didn't want opinions don't ask and the OP was fine with the answers and actually agreed with them. Don't get all butt hurt or this will be a long 9 months.
WHAT IN THE ACTUAL WHAT. A registry for a birthday party? What is the world coming to?
In my opinion there are only two reasons you could have a 2nd baby shower, 1. A different father and it is that father's first child and his family wants the baby shower or 2. A huge age gap (10+). If you want to celebrate your baby then you wouldn't be making a list of things for people to buy you. My SIL just submitted her registry for my Nephew's 5th birthday party, umm no thanks, just for that I'm getting you the biggest loudest toy I can find.
Anyway I totally agree with PP, if you didn't want opinions don't ask and the OP was fine with the answers and actually agreed with them. Don't get all butt hurt or this will be a long 9 months.
WHAT IN THE ACTUAL WHAT. A registry for a birthday party? What is the world coming to?
She's a special kind of person. )
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@bntfroggie She sounds like what mine is going to turn into lol. We don't hear from my SIL (DH's bro's wife) literally EVER unless it is to invite us to a gift giving event. Seriously - birthdays, their christenings, xmas, etc). It was an actual running joke for like the 3 months between my niece's and nephew's birthday. Radio silent, then all of a sudden "Oh hey! Don't forget Aiden's birthday party is XYZ - he really likes XYZ." Then radio silence again until the next gift-giving opportunity.
I'm in the same camp as the people who said have whatever showers you want, as long as other people host them. I had two for my first, hosted by my former step-mom and an aunt (different geographical areas, no real guest overlap except my mom). If someone wants to host me one for this baby I'll accept. I'm considering having a gender reveal party (no gifts expected) for this baby.
Also: to the poster who pointed out that mom hosting a shower was the same as her in terms of gift grubbing... Traditionally showers were only thrown by aunts, cousins, friends, ladies at church, etc. It was quite gauche for a mom/sister of the honoree to host the shower.
Every baby should be celebrated I had one for each of my boys because my family wanted to throw them. Also my husband's job threw us one for each of the boys. I always believe every baby deserves a celebration if you don't need as much baby stuff your friends or family could throw you a sprinkle a scaled down version of a baby shower. Also it's been five years since my last baby I no longer have any baby stuff in my house.
Edit: Bump cut off half of what I typed.
Baby showers honor/celebrate the mother and welcome her into motherhood for the first time. You can't really throw a party in honor of someone who isn't in attendance (the baby). If the celebration is truly about the baby and not about getting stuff, then a party after the birth would make more sense so people can actually meet the baby.
Also, if you got rid of your baby stuff, that doesn't mean the burden of buying everything again shifts to your friends and family. It's still on the parents to figure that out. Your friends and family may have the desire to buy you gifts, but the purpose of the shower is to give gifts to a person who is doing something for the first time* and needs all the accoutrements to get started (this is the reason bridal showers are common as well).
*I think most are in agreement that even if only one of the new parents is having their first baby, a shower is probably okay.
I didn't say that I expect gifts but I'm not going to be rude to my family or friends when they want to throw a shower. In my culture there is always a party for the parents before the baby is born it's not centered on gifts to tell you the truth only my American friends felt they needed to gift is anything we asked that they not bring anything it's more of a celebration of the baby that is coming into the family. Not every culture in this world uses the same etiquette. If people aren't comfortable with it they can decline attendance it shouldn't be a big deal. Also I should point out showers in my culture include both sexes my husband is always there and my son was included in the shower for his brother all children ( nieces nephews friends kids) are there are no restrictions as I've seen in many showers that are women only.
My general feeling is if everyone involved is ok with it than great! Do what you want. But if you invite someone who is not ok with it then don't be upset about them not showing up. Also, if you are invited to something you don't feel comfortable with then don't go. The way I see it is I have never dropped a friend because of a "perceived slight" or a breach in etiquette. If someone dropped me than they were probably looking for a reason and probably a bit too high maintenance of a friend for me anyway. If you are actually upset by something, then just talk to them!
Cause really... It's just a party!
Side note: my opinions are colored by the fact that I'm not really social and only interested in having close friends who I have already been through a lot with. I'm not really in the market for superficial friends. I have enough to think about without over analyzing if my sister-in-law should or should have had a sprinkle. It was just a fun party.
I used to be super against second baby showers or sprinkles until my first was born 6 weeks early--a few days before his shower was supposed to be. Now I'm conflicted. I still feel like they go against etiquette, but I'm also kind of jealous that I never got one.
One of my friends had her baby almost 2 months early. So, we all got to meet him at the rescheduled shower! It was fantastic. I think it made the party even more fun!
I did not have a baby shower for my 1st child and now Im on my 2nd and my friends want to throw me one. I rather not have one at all especially since I just had a baby last year
I think baby showers are for the baby. That's why they're called "baby" showers. I dunno about you guys, but I got a couple binkies at my shower, and I never used them, but my kids did. It's. Way to share in the excitement of the coming baby, but also to shower mom with gifts to help her out.
I had a "second" shower for #4. (Not #2 or #3 though.) #4 was 10 years after #3, and it was my H's first. It was small, family and a few close friends. We had budgeted for all our needs, but the few gifts we got (especially the handmade blanket!) we sweet, and we were grateful. It was a really nice day.
This pregnancy, we will not be having a shower, a gender reveal, a name reveal (is this really a thing???) or a meet-the-baby party. I will be doing a registry though. Because double strollers and car seats are spendy, and I want the completion discount. Once Encore is here, we'll plan the reception for his baptism. Gifts are not expected.
@LilLump2 showers celebrate the mother, because you can't really throw a party for a person who isn't even in attendance. All the gifts that are given make the parents' life easier. All a baby really needs is a boob, diapers, and somewhere to sleep. The baby monitors, bouncy chairs, etc are to make things easier for mom and dad. Showers are also for welcoming new parents into parenthood. That only happens once.
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Second showers are pretty common where I live. My sister-in-law and I threw our other sister-in-law a shower for her 2nd daughter, only 3 years younger than the 1st. Families like getting together and it's exciting buying baby stuff so I think it's perfectly acceptable to have another shower if someone wants to host it.
And if you want to throw your own shower, go for it. People don't have to come if they don't want to. And if they come and just make snide comments, that just reflects poorly on them.
Second showers are pretty common where I live. My sister-in-law and I threw our other sister-in-law a shower for her 2nd daughter, only 3 years younger than the 1st. Families like getting together and it's exciting buying baby stuff so I think it's perfectly acceptable to have another shower if someone wants to host it.
And if you want to throw your own shower, go for it. People don't have to come if they don't want to. And if they come and just make snide comments, that just reflects poorly on them.
Just no.
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Second showers are pretty common where I live. My sister-in-law and I threw our other sister-in-law a shower for her 2nd daughter, only 3 years younger than the 1st. Families like getting together and it's exciting buying baby stuff so I think it's perfectly acceptable to have another shower if someone wants to host it.
And if you want to throw your own shower, go for it. People don't have to come if they don't want to. And if they come and just make snide comments, that just reflects poorly on them.
Just no.
But don't you think it's rude to decline if someone wants to give you a shower?
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I really don't have a strong opinion on this topic either way, but this tread is honestly kind of disturbing - it's so judgmental! Reading all the other threads, it's like "we're here for you, you can come here for support, etc". As a STM, I am well aware of mommy judgment that comes at us in all directions on nearly everything we do, when we really should be supporting and respecting each others' opinions and differences, and having interesting but respectful discussions. That is my hope for this group, I don't want to have to be afraid to say what I think or ask a question and then worry what people will respond with. Just food for thought... thanks.
The difference with etiquette is that when rude behavior is met with approval, it affects people's social circles. It potentially puts people in uncomfortable situations and can even end friendships. People with tacky plans don't need "support," they need a copy of Emily Post's Etiquette. Internet strangers will tell you the things your friends and family are afraid to say.
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I do not want another shower, as I think it's beyond tacky and I would be embarrassed.
I have had several work friends tell me they plan to throw me a shower.
I'm wondering how I should handle it? Or just let them have at it and be grateful?
Edit: Bump cut off half of what I typed.
I swore by Emily Post when I was planning our wedding a few years ago so I would generally follow her lead on things like this. If OP is asking what is "correct" in the form of proper etiquette, then the answer would be no second shower.
I am not yet a parent, but I went through all of this etiquette stuff when my (very gift grabby in general) SIL had a registry (like who needs a second bath for a baby?) for her second kid that was less than 2 years after her first one. She had a FULL ON registry and I just thought that was tacky. She also has a habit of only inviting our side of the family to gift-giving events though so I might have felt a little too strongly on the matter because of this.
I feel like if someone insists on throwing a shower after you already have child, that's fine but I don't see the need to go balls to the walls and make a registry (yes, even if people ask you if you have one/are you going to make one, etc.).
However, I will say that I tend to agree with the major spacing between kids/partner's first child and having a second shower thing. I'd treat these as a traditional shower.
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Also, if you got rid of your baby stuff, that doesn't mean the burden of buying everything again shifts to your friends and family. It's still on the parents to figure that out. Your friends and family may have the desire to buy you gifts, but the purpose of the shower is to give gifts to a person who is doing something for the first time* and needs all the accoutrements to get started (this is the reason bridal showers are common as well).
*I think most are in agreement that even if only one of the new parents is having their first baby, a shower is probably okay.
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Anyway I totally agree with PP, if you didn't want opinions don't ask and the OP was fine with the answers and actually agreed with them. Don't get all butt hurt or this will be a long 9 months.
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WHAT IN THE ACTUAL WHAT. A registry for a birthday party? What is the world coming to?
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Also: to the poster who pointed out that mom hosting a shower was the same as her in terms of gift grubbing... Traditionally showers were only thrown by aunts, cousins, friends, ladies at church, etc. It was quite gauche for a mom/sister of the honoree to host the shower.
I had a "second" shower for #4. (Not #2 or #3 though.) #4 was 10 years after #3, and it was my H's first. It was small, family and a few close friends. We had budgeted for all our needs, but the few gifts we got (especially the handmade blanket!) we sweet, and we were grateful. It was a really nice day.
This pregnancy, we will not be having a shower, a gender reveal, a name reveal (is this really a thing???) or a meet-the-baby party. I will be doing a registry though. Because double strollers and car seats are spendy, and I want the completion discount.
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And if you want to throw your own shower, go for it. People don't have to come if they don't want to. And if they come and just make snide comments, that just reflects poorly on them.
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