I feel like I'm having twins... and carrying one in each thigh. I've accepted the stomach blump (well, except on weekends when I'm trying to pick a swim suit for the lake) but this thigh-rub is driving me nuts! Good thing corduroy pants aren't in style now! Lol
I'm having a hard time with outside pressures from friends and family. I know I'm being over sensitive but when all of them say, "Oh you'll be so cute and tiny!" it really bothers me. What if I'm not?! Is that not okay? One of my guys friends told me today he wishes I'd get fat because he has never seen me that way... He didn't mean it as harsh as it sounded but regardless...
I'm trying to enjoy my body as is because that's the way I beat my eating disorder but all the comments from the peanut gallery is making the task a little more difficult...
I haven't even gained weight, I've lost a few due to ms, and I still feel gross lol.
I am SO bloated, and starting to stick out, but this is that stage where we all look like we just ate too much cake lol. I'm trying to embrace it, yet I am excited for a more obvious preggo belly as opposed to my "I drank a whole keg to myself" belly.
So many changes in our bodies it's bound to rock even the most confident chicks sometimes! I've never had many issues with body image, and feel I'm embracing it pretty well.....but I FEEL gross lol.
I understand that previously struggling with weight would be harder, for some, than those who didn't struggle before but it's all about perspective. I've gone up and down a few sizes through college and after but bounced back and forth consistently and now that I'm expecting I couldn't care less about the the # on the scale at appointments, and I'm just trying to dress myself so I don't look like a slob, because I'm not used to dressing my Blump ; ) but my honest opinion is that I tried for almost a year for this baby. Many women try much longer than that. And many women try and never conceive. For us pregnant ladies to struggle with the unavoidable weight gain is unnecessary stress and there are so many women that would trade us places in an instant that I can't bring myself to be ashamed or complain of much. I'm more thankful for this opportunity and baby than anything else, and that keeps me positive and excited, I can't waste these 9 short months thinking any other way.
I'm a FTM but I always said this stage is the worst. The part of pregnancy where you just look like you're gaining weight or getting fat to everyone else and not yet pregnant looking. I haven't gained any weight (12w5d) but I have a bump that everyone is noticing and my pants /skirts are tighter. I tell them it's just poop and gas because the baby is too small to have a bump! I even had a dream last night that everyone was in a bikini and there I was with the flabbiest stomach with huge love handles. Lol. Hang in there. We will soon all be obviously pregnant looking.
I understand that previously struggling with weight would be harder, for some, than those who didn't struggle before but it's all about perspective. I've gone up and down a few sizes through college and after but bounced back and forth consistently and now that I'm expecting I couldn't care less about the the # on the scale at appointments, and I'm just trying to dress myself so I don't look like a slob, because I'm not used to dressing my Blump ; ) but my honest opinion is that I tried for almost a year for this baby. Many women try much longer than that. And many women try and never conceive. For us pregnant ladies to struggle with the unavoidable weight gain is unnecessary stress and there are so many women that would trade us places in an instant that I can't bring myself to be ashamed or complain of much. I'm more thankful for this opportunity and baby than anything else, and that keeps me positive and excited, I can't waste these 9 short months thinking any other way.
This is what I focus on Daily! I was told I wouldn't conceive without intervention. I feel amazed everyday we didn't have to do what was anticipated. I think overcoming an eating disorder like Soamy have mentioned is very difficult and it's hard not to feel ashamed and those thoughts stay with you no matter what. No one should feel bad about how they honestly feel. Some feelings are uncomfortable.
Thank you to everyone again. I hope hearing others brought you some peace of mind, too! I bought some maternity items and it does make a huge difference.
Im glad im not the only one that feels yuky! Ive been 134lbs for a good year now that im pregnant only 13w4d ive gained 10lbs. I know its cause i just eat whatever i want whenever i want. Now that my schedule is better and ill have time on the mornong before work i plan to join to local rec center that has a full gym in it. I also an to start eating healthier, planning my meals. Not trying to lose weight but i definatly want to get in shape and tone up.
I understand that previously struggling with weight would be harder, for some, than those who didn't struggle before but it's all about perspective. I've gone up and down a few sizes through college and after but bounced back and forth consistently and now that I'm expecting I couldn't care less about the the # on the scale at appointments, and I'm just trying to dress myself so I don't look like a slob, because I'm not used to dressing my Blump ; ) but my honest opinion is that I tried for almost a year for this baby. Many women try much longer than that. And many women try and never conceive. For us pregnant ladies to struggle with the unavoidable weight gain is unnecessary stress and there are so many women that would trade us places in an instant that I can't bring myself to be ashamed or complain of much. I'm more thankful for this opportunity and baby than anything else, and that keeps me positive and excited, I can't waste these 9 short months thinking any other way.
I've had multiple losses and still feel this way. I'm incredibly grateful that all is well with this LO so far, but I still feel gross. It's not as if PGAL women are frolicking around shooting rainbows out of our eyes. We experience the negative things about pregnancy, too, and it's just as valid for us to feel miserable (nausea, weight gain, the major discomfort at the end, etc.) Sorry, I get a little bristly when people bring up PGAL or infertility struggles as a reason to not commiserate with each other. For those of us who have struggled with eating disorders, it's hard at times. I don't think anyone who hasn't struggled will fully understand the mental mind f* it can be, even when your logical brain is happy to have a healthy baby growing.
I understand that previously struggling with weight would be harder, for some, than those who didn't struggle before but it's all about perspective. I've gone up and down a few sizes through college and after but bounced back and forth consistently and now that I'm expecting I couldn't care less about the the # on the scale at appointments, and I'm just trying to dress myself so I don't look like a slob, because I'm not used to dressing my Blump ; ) but my honest opinion is that I tried for almost a year for this baby. Many women try much longer than that. And many women try and never conceive. For us pregnant ladies to struggle with the unavoidable weight gain is unnecessary stress and there are so many women that would trade us places in an instant that I can't bring myself to be ashamed or complain of much. I'm more thankful for this opportunity and baby than anything else, and that keeps me positive and excited, I can't waste these 9 short months thinking any other way.
I've had multiple losses and still feel this way. I'm incredibly grateful that all is well with this LO so far, but I still feel gross. It's not as if PGAL women are frolicking around shooting rainbows out of our eyes. We experience the negative things about pregnancy, too, and it's just as valid for us to feel miserable (nausea, weight gain, the major discomfort at the end, etc.) Sorry, I get a little bristly when people bring up PGAL or infertility struggles as a reason to not commiserate with each other. For those of us who have struggled with eating disorders, it's hard at times. I don't think anyone who hasn't struggled will fully understand the mental mind f* it can be, even when your logical brain is happy to have a healthy baby growing.
Agree. Though I've never had eating disorders and during pregnancy (more later pregnancy) I usually love how I look and love being pregnant, but i still stand by this stage of early pregnancy sucks. I'm am able to simultaneously feel grateful for this baby and miserable being nauseous or feeling gross or hating my acne. Just like you will have moments after your child gets here that you will both love your baby more than anything and bitch about him/her not sleeping. It doesn't have to be one or the other.
I'm all for positive thinking and looking for the brighter side and if that works for you, great, but discounting body image feelings (or any negative pregnancy/motherhood feelings) by saying "just be thankful" isn't fair to those who are struggling. It just makes for more guilty/hurt feelings.
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I am literally laying in bed feeling like absolute CRAP and thought to myself "I'm going to see if there is a discussion about being insecure, feeling gross and hating the way we currently feel and look." I'm so glad I found this! Ladies, reading what you all are writing makes me feel so much better about myself. My clothes are all getting tighter, yet it just looks like I ate 15 donuts for breakfast. No bump. I know it'll all come with time, but man do I just feel so gross right now.
Thanks for being honest everyone! It makes me feel so much better. We can do this
I just wanted to throw this out there: I look like and feel like human garbage.
Tummy's all blown-up but not looking pregnant yet (I'm 15+5), I'm always a little sweaty somehow, and out of desperation with heat and having long hair, I cut off about 13 inches. Which would normally be a wonderful and beautiful idea, except my hair is naturally wavy and poofy so straightening it in constant humidity doesn't make sense. And now that there's so much less of it, it's much more weightless and poofs up even more. What the hell did I do?
Thank you thank you thank you for this post. I'm 15 weeks and I've definitely been feeling just gross and it's been messing with my self image a lot. I was recently talking to a friend who has children and she was talking about how "all women just feel beautiful when they're pregnant". My hormones wanted to smack her. I haven't felt beautiful at all this first trimester - just fat and pimply. It really helps to know I'm not the only one feeling this way. I look forward to the day when I feel cute.
Omg, I feel like a whale! I have always been active, but for the past two years I haven't been as much. Between full time job and going back to school full time, I felt like I never had the time. And it doesn't help that my boyfriend always wanted me to go to the gym. So needless to say I gained 15lbs in the last year. And then I find out im expecting. So since I found out, I have probably gained 10lbs and I'm only 16 weeks. Even my mom asked me "are you sure your only 4 months?" Which makes me feel horrible, like am I that fat? (
It's hard enough to get use to being pregnant, more less worry about your weight.
I'm a FTM, and I'm starting to realize that EVERYONE must be different! I am a former gymnast, and currently a PE teacher. I have always been physically active, muscular & had a healthy diet. Pre-pregnancy I was 5ft 3in & weighed 113lbs. I have continued my fitness routine & eating habits so far throughout my pregnancy. Now at 16 weeks, I've STILL gained about 10 pounds already, despite my healthy habits! I keep track of my calories through the MyFitnessPal app & honestly have not been increasing my calorie intake by much, since now I snack more frequently througout the day (healthy snacks) and am not super hungry once meal time comes. I am definitely by no means depriving myself, but also do not want to force feed myself.... And i've still managed to gain 10 pounds in 16 weeks!!! My jeans still fit (not sure how) but are not comfortable. As someone who has been fit for their entire life, this body image thing is trulyyyy tough. Just trying to think positive & realize that having a healthy baby is my #1 concern when all is said and done. Just not sure why I seem to be gaining more than others at this point in my pregnancy. Hoping my active lifestyle will help speed up the process of bouncing back once the baby arrives!
So much of the weight gain is just your body retaining fluids. Pregnancy is another time when I think most people would be better off keeping track with measurements. Obviously your bust, waist, and hips are going to increase because of baby but if you keep track of arm measurements and thighs I think it would give you a good idea if you're actually putting on fat or not. I know everyone gains in different areas but in general that's a good way to know if you really have to worry about the weight or not. When I was working out heavily and really trying to change my body I relied much more on measurements than actual weight.
^^ Very true. The only place my clothes have gotten snugger is the waistline. You can generally tell if it's baby weight or YOU weight by looking at your face, arms, and legs (although some women carry in their faces and hips/thighs as a part of pregnancy). I think I should probably just stay off of the scale for the next 6 months.
I honestly can't even tell if I'm forming a bump or if this is just some bread bump from all the carbs I eat to stave off the nausea. I'm also very much consitpated and uncomfortable so that adds to it. I don't have PCOS or any medical issue that's caused my body to retain weight over the years, but over the span of I'd say 5 years, I've been able to cleanly drop about 25 lbs. So knowing that I'm gaining at least that 25 lbs back (already up at least 6-7 at only 14w3d) is hard to mentally handle sometimes. I know PP said "don't be hard on yourself" but it's more about looking in the mirror and seeing something I haven't seen in forever. It feels really weird. I find myself wearing baggy clothes and scarves to hid whatever it is my stomach is currently doing. I know in a few weeks it'll be more obvious but I even purchased maternity pants and they don't even fit right lol. They like, fall off my butt because they cut them so low and I have a decently bootylicious booty. So it's like, wtf! aaaaaah
I'm not quite sure yet but I've been jinxed a few times on the twin topic. That really scared me. Oan my stomach doesn't look big at all, my hips hurt like hell and sleep is a no no. When I think of moments of twins
Yes, I was pushing 160 lbs before I got pregnant, and beginning to grow out of my clothes as it was. Now I'm 14 weeks, have gained 7 lbs, and I look like a whale! I already have stretch marks on my boobs! I had to buy new bras and so many maternity clothes already.
i know exactly what you mean. i've also gained no weight but it sure looks like it. we're officially at that stage where we can still hide it with regular clothes...but if you're just going to look like you're hiding chub, what's the point?! I'd rather have a blimp follow me arrow with an arrow that says PREGNANT.
I didn't feel too gross with my first pregnancy but with this second one I was so bloated at first none of my pants fit and I felt horrible (looks wise.) It really did help to switch to maternity clothes or flowing dresses and skirts. Once clothes "fit" again I was able to kind of ignore the gross feeling. I'm only 13 weeks but my blump is starting to take more of a bump shape. When I'm out in public I tend to rub my stomach and push it out further so people know I'm pregnant
I'm a FTM, and I'm starting to realize that EVERYONE must be different! I am a former gymnast, and currently a PE teacher. I have always been physically active, muscular & had a healthy diet. Pre-pregnancy I was 5ft 3in & weighed 113lbs. I have continued my fitness routine & eating habits so far throughout my pregnancy. Now at 16 weeks, I've STILL gained about 10 pounds already, despite my healthy habits! I keep track of my calories through the MyFitnessPal app & honestly have not been increasing my calorie intake by much, since now I snack more frequently througout the day (healthy snacks) and am not super hungry once meal time comes. I am definitely by no means depriving myself, but also do not want to force feed myself.... And i've still managed to gain 10 pounds in 16 weeks!!! My jeans still fit (not sure how) but are not comfortable. As someone who has been fit for their entire life, this body image thing is trulyyyy tough. Just trying to think positive & realize that having a healthy baby is my #1 concern when all is said and done. Just not sure why I seem to be gaining more than others at this point in my pregnancy. Hoping my active lifestyle will help speed up the process of bouncing back once the baby arrives!
It is nice to know there is someone else out there who uses myfitnesspal! I've been using it since before my pregnancy as well. I've gained 10 lbs and I'm 14w 5d. The body changes are difficult because I'm used to being fit but like you in not depriving myself. I still work out 4 to 5 times a week just not as intense. I was wondering if we should be consuming more calories per day. I'm expecting twins so I'm sure it's more than singletons but how many calories per day should we be increasing? Does anyone know?
@keshakdavis I read yesterday in What to Expect that it's 300 extra for each baby, so twins would be 600 extra. But I would check with your doctor to make sure!
Re: Body Image........ =(
I'm trying to enjoy my body as is because that's the way I beat my eating disorder but all the comments from the peanut gallery is making the task a little more difficult...
I am SO bloated, and starting to stick out, but this is that stage where we all look like we just ate too much cake lol. I'm trying to embrace it, yet I am excited for a more obvious preggo belly as opposed to my "I drank a whole keg to myself" belly.
So many changes in our bodies it's bound to rock even the most confident chicks sometimes! I've never had many issues with body image, and feel I'm embracing it pretty well.....but I FEEL gross lol.
Thank you to everyone again. I hope hearing others brought you some peace of mind, too! I bought some maternity items and it does make a huge difference.
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
Agree. Though I've never had eating disorders and during pregnancy (more later pregnancy) I usually love how I look and love being pregnant, but i still stand by this stage of early pregnancy sucks.
I'm am able to simultaneously feel grateful for this baby and miserable being nauseous or feeling gross or hating my acne.
Just like you will have moments after your child gets here that you will both love your baby more than anything and bitch about him/her not sleeping. It doesn't have to be one or the other.
I'm all for positive thinking and looking for the brighter side and if that works for you, great, but discounting body image feelings (or any negative pregnancy/motherhood feelings) by saying "just be thankful" isn't fair to those who are struggling. It just makes for more guilty/hurt feelings.
Thanks for being honest everyone! It makes me feel so much better. We can do this
Tummy's all blown-up but not looking pregnant yet (I'm 15+5), I'm always a little sweaty somehow, and out of desperation with heat and having long hair, I cut off about 13 inches. Which would normally be a wonderful and beautiful idea, except my hair is naturally wavy and poofy so straightening it in constant humidity doesn't make sense. And now that there's so much less of it, it's much more weightless and poofs up even more. What the hell did I do?
It's hard enough to get use to being pregnant, more less worry about your weight.
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015