Dumb things people say to pregnant women

sarinal0l · July 2015

Whats the most obnoxious thing someone has said to you during your pregnancy and what was your response?

Beccas387 · July 2015

My MIL told me I was an angry pregnant woman because I won't let her touch my belly!

midge519 · July 2015

The only dumb thing I get is "so they still haven't found the girl?" Or "just wait she'll show up when you are in labor" I respond with "no just one baby. Little man just really likes his room so he makes my belly stick out a lot"

Krysta6 · July 2015

Someone told me I was enormous. I just looked at her and said really enormous?!? Then she realized that wasn't an appropriate word

millereliz13 · July 2015

When I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, I mentioned to a friend that I needed to get more exercise. She said "you can chase the ice cream truck." Yep, cuz someone who had to give up sweets would definitely do that.

missey981 · July 2015

I hear "when are you due? Omg your huge!" Only 100 times a day. Seriously people stop being so rude to us preggers.

ROrtiz07 · July 2015

I'm sure I'll get a little backlash for this one but if anyone else out there is going through a completely unplanned & very physically taxing pregnancy, you might understand that being told by a guy, "you should be happy you're pregnant", isn't exactly the thing I want to hear right now lol. Laughing was the only acceptable reaction I had.
*please note*
I'm very excited to meet my little man & I love him beyond words. But as a FTM, this whole experience has been very overwhelming as I'm sure it is for any FTM.

batmom05 · July 2015

When people ask me when I'm do and I say October 13th it's always met with a glance at my belly and a "that's a looong way to go."

While I appreciate that you think so, it's really not that much time since we have literally 1000 things happening between there...

Just as unappreciated as that is "it feels like you've been pregnant forever!"

mrsdhouse89 · July 2015

I'm guilty of telling friends it feels like they've been pregnant forever. I usually only say this when I'm super excited to meet their baby.

I hate hearing oh just wait and see on anything. I have a son, so I know what I'm getting into. I have a great son so no I'm not scared of having two.

mmcknight · July 2015

My mother-in-law keeps telling me I'm fat or chubby. I lost 15 lbs in the beginning so I'm only up 10 lbs. It's not fat, it's baby.

AGMeeks · July 2015

How about this one - "When are you due?" "October." "This October?" "Uhhhh...that's how it works."

mak1020 · July 2015

I always get " I feel like you have been pregnant for forever!!!", followed by " your only 7 months?!?!" I mean we went thru fertility treatments so we have known since my positive 2 week blood preg test... And yes to me it feels like forever but there's no need for a reminder lol... At this point I just laugh it off

kathyxoxo · July 2015

i think the most common one is "youre huge for 7 months" i mean ok lol , every woman carrys different , the baby is always measuring more so at least i know is the baby or just the way i carry , but who cares i love looking huge because is all for my son

basdenjn6 · July 2015

I have a relative who came to visit and gave me a daily update on my "showing status". "You don't even look pregnant today! Wow, you're really showing today! Your pants look tight today!" Um... Thanks for the headlines- I finally told her I'd make her a dial to turn to pregnant or not pregnant so she didn't have to say it all the time!

kfry22 · July 2015

Yesterday's conversation with a stranger:
Her "boy?"
Me "yes"
Her "is this your first"
Me "yea"
Her "you have like a month left right"
Me "no more like three, due end of October"
Her "there's no way! Your so big and so far to go! Sure there is just one in there"

Wtf

millereliz13 · July 2015

@CassidyWalles no need to apologize, people suck sometimes. I haven't shared the baby's name because people comment. My favorite suggestion was we name it after a family member that I do not like, a rude, horrible woman, for the record we are having a boy.

mal1114 · July 2015

The other day someone said, "you look like you're carrying wide." Really? She said she meant it as a compliment When is the word wide, when used to describe someones body, ever a compliment?!?

I also got, "ooh, you put on make up today. That must help make you feel normal." One, I wear makeup, the same amount, to work everyday. And I feel pretty good considering my ridiculous work schedule right now so I didn't realize I wasn't looking "normal."

babymazzei · July 2015

My SO and I are engaged and are in no rush to get married until we're settled and comfortable with our little one. I can't believe the number of people who have the audacity to say "Oh, so that's why your getting married".

Another one that almost had me sent to jail was when I was in the middle of planning a surprise birthday party for my fiance. (On his 29th I threw his 30th). I explained to his friends that he was hard to surprise so this way he never saw it coming. One reaction was "well you managed to get yourself pregnant without him knowing. You clearly have experience in pulling a fast one on him." EXCUSE ME. Yeah, I made sure to have the party when that guy was away on shift work.

carlymarie021 · July 2015

My uncle who is a stroke victim and can't chose his words to well literally said .. Your getting fat. lol I wanted to punch his slouchy face. I'm sorry for being blunt and rude to poor people who had a stroke but I literally was upset ! Lol I'm bad I know

MamaOwl15 · July 2015

I was told I look like I'm having twins. Nope, only 1 baby in there, and I've gained roughly 20 lbs in almost 29 weeks, so it's not like I'm really that huge . . .

Ljonas87 · July 2015

I work in a pharmacy with an old fashion soda fountain which really just gathers old folks for their free cup of coffee while we full their prescriptions. I hear lots of odd comments:

"Oh look she can't hide the waddle now"

"You look about ready to pop sweetie"

"Does the baby even have a father? " (umm, how do you think babies are made? How did you make them back in the good ole days?)

Follow up question from stern old man. "Well are ya married to the dad?" (Yes, 3 years but just because my husband isn't here at my place of work because he is at work must mean I'm a soon to be single mom? Crazy old people)

"You look so tired" (and that's on the days I'm feeling really good though

)

"Heartburn means lots of hair deary"

"Due in October? By the looks of you that baby will be here sooner than that." (Hello, I'm still wearing skinny jeans granny, they may be maternity skinny jeans but I'm rocking them so na na na na boo boo)

"Oh I went to a funeral for a baby the other day." (Now how does this even come up, just because I'm pregnant I should hear about all things good or bad that have to do with babies?!?) Crazy old folks.

These are just a few, I'll jot the rest down as they come up. It's never ending I tell ya. Lol

michellelynn6 · July 2015

I had someone ask me if my baby was planned or an accident the other day. Granted, she's been my friend since high school (back when we used to joke about accidentally getting pregnant), but I was like... seriously??

Also, all these "you're so huge!" comments make me sad because it must be awful to hear that at such a sensitive time... but I don't get that. More often than not, people assume I've just really let myself go, especially if they haven't seen me for a while. I have a very long torso (despite being short) so my bump is not super big. Also, I come from a family where we don't show very much. One of my coworkers asked me, "But where is the baby??" Trust me, it's inside me.

While I was shopping in maternity at Target, a woman next to me was like, "Isn't it awful that we have to get maternity clothes because there aren't enough plus size options??" To which I replied, "I am pregnant." She looked so embarrassed, but just walked away. Good to know I just look big, not pregnant or anything!!

babybumb1229 · July 2015

My husband's aunt I feel she has it out for me not only does she mention I'm huge in English but in Spanish as well then will laugh it off lIke its okay i just gI've a half smile or when people tell me getting bigger and she will come out of no where and make a face and say yeah bigger... I don't comment and walk away. Then when we are at church I get the comments when are you due wow you are gonna have a big baby or are you sure it's not two babies. Or what are you having I say boy and they say oh I knew it because of the dark bags under your eyes .........

LiveNLove44 · July 2015

DH and I were shopping for a new dryer since ours decided to quit for good. DH and I were debating between the drop down door and side swing door style, and I mentioned that as a pregnant person, I prefer the side swing so I can get closer to the dryer without running into the door. I then said, "But I won't be pregnant forever!" The young sales guy responded, "Oh that's not true! You could be! You could have tons of kids!" Ahem. No. No sir, I will not be. I don't care how many episodes of 19 Kids and Counting you've seen, I will not stand corrected on that point. I will not be pregnant forever.

elmann1 · July 2015

"You definitely look more pregnant, your face is fat. It's bigger." --Overweight coworker while she was eating a donut covered in butter (literal butter)

Whenever I tell my in laws we're having a girl, based off our 24 week ultrasound, they keep rubbing in my face how it could still be a boy. Ok? Then its a boy. Whats the big deal. STFU.

naka92 · July 2015

My so called friends keep telling me "its like youve been pregnant forever!" and "Haven't you had your baby yet?!". One gem even told me that shes tired of me being pregnant already. Like what? I never bring it up unless she does yet she feels it greatly inconveniences her? Get out.
I told you guys 20 weeks ago that im due in October. Has it been October yet? Dont think so. So please stop wishing a preterm birth onto me and my daughter.

rm0nique · July 2015

"Congratulations! It is a congratulations right"? Smh.... [-(

pinkj4182 · July 2015

Me: ( reaching up high into ice maker )

Mom: you know, your belly looks like a beer belly not really a baby belly.

Me: uhhhh is that a compliment?

Mom: no. Just saying it looks like you drank a 12 pack, not like your making a baby.

Me: oooook? I'm slightly offended

Mom: you shouldn't be, it's not a bad thing....

Still not sure what to think about this beautiful convo.
I like the ones where people are like "OH! You look really good for 6 months! Are you sure your that far along?!"

bcooper81 · July 2015

The worst one I hate hearing is "you're so big, you're little girl is gonna be huge." Like excuse you no, just Bc I'm really showing doesn't mean I'm gonna have a big baby. She is perfectly healthy and we passed the one hour GD test so they can suck it!

ravenbird007 · July 2015

I have had people ask me how I got pregnant, while heavily suggesting that it was done on purpose. I guess that's what 19 year olds are supposed to do nowadays.

Then I'll be asked when we're getting married, why he hasn't even proposed yet, how could I have a child with him when he can't even fully commit. Yada yada yada. (For those who are curious, we don't want to get married solely because we're having a child. Instead of having a shotgun wedding and a couple years down the road getting divorced because, lo and behold, we're not compatible, we're going to wait and do it because we want to be together).

My mom got mad at me a couple weeks ago, and straight up told me I am too irresponsible to raise my own child, and cancelled my car insurance, despite the fact that I pay for it, it's just under her policy (I went to Florida to help my aunt move, and she swears it was for nefarious reasons).

And in general, people have been questioning EVERYTHING I do. "Should you be eating/drinking that?" "Are you sure you should be lifting that?" "I don't think you should snuggle with your cat"

VioletandRose · July 2015

A lady at work to me:
"Hi! You look very preg..... pretty. You look very pretty today!"

Oh come on lady, you can say I look pregnant. It's not a secret!

Beccas387 · July 2015

Oh I have another one sorry lol. At 16 weeks my MIL looks at my stomach and says " oh wow your not showing yet? Are you sure the baby is still ok" WTF who's says that to an expectant mother???

batmom05 · July 2015

I had someone ask me (in the maternity clothes store) if the baby was my husband's.. then she asked if it was planned or if it happened "naturally." I responded with "did you plan to be this nosy when I walked in or did it just happen naturally."

OperaSingerMommy · July 2015

I'm out of town for a work engagement for the month and EVERYONE in this opera with me is constantly babying me. They won't let me lift anything, they adjust my choreography way more than necessary, they freak out when I try to take a yoga class... I CAN STILL DO THINGS, PEOPLE! I appreciate that they are being so kind but I can be my own advocate, sheesh!

hempysan · July 2015

Dirty lurker here...

My mom told me a couple weeks ago that she couldn't believe I was having a baby because I never seemed that maternal to her and that I still don't! The really weird part is I am an elementary school teacher and before I started teaching I worked in a day care. As a kid I was always playing mommy too so I don't get where this is coming from.

beckles112 · July 2015

OperaSingerMommy said:
I'm out of town for a work engagement for the month and EVERYONE in this opera with me is constantly babying me. They won't let me lift anything, they adjust my choreography way more than necessary, they freak out when I try to take a yoga class... I CAN STILL DO THINGS, PEOPLE! I appreciate that they are being so kind but I can be my own advocate, sheesh!

Same here! My husband wants me to sit on the couch and take it easy. That is the last thing I need to do. It's very frustrating because he constantly acts like I'm completely helpless, and I'm not. It's not like I'm even over doing anything, either. I also do a summer theater program in my town and the kids will hardly let me do anything. On one hand it's very sweet of them that they are so concerned for my well being, but it does get a little aggravating because they get upset when I carry a metal folding chair across the room to sit in front of the stage.

Haha, sorry for that little rant!

On topic, I actually haven't really had anyone say anything to me. I imagine I will once I get a little bit bigger. I'm so tall and I don't look as far along as I am.

pkfinnerty · July 2015

I was shoe shopping and the sales lady picked up a pair of heels and said, "These would look good on you. They need a pair of thick legs in them!"
Excuse me, did you just call my legs thick?! They're swollen ma'am!!!
Also I was at work the other day wearing a blue dress and someone told me I looked like the girl who ate the blueberry on Willy Wonka. The thought of it made me LOL, but who says that??!!??

Limie · July 2015

The lady I work with who is the size of a bean pole and always complains she's gained weight told me baby was making me wide and my belly wasn't growing out. I wear scrubs to work and had to buy some too big so they cover my belly that is very much growing out not wide. She saw me in regular clothes one day and said oh now I see a belly.

Reyvia · July 2015

When I first told my dad that I am pregnant he asked "are we happy about it?" Also when before I started showing I had coworkers that would try to baby me and rub my belly even after being told I don't like to be touched by people I'm not that close to. Recently I have been told "oh your just now starting to show!" I am aware
That I'm showing as I can't button my jeans anymore also I have had my belly stick out for the last month and 1/2.

Pumpkin1702 · July 2015

In the hospital elevator on my way to my doctor's appointment this cleaning lady looks at me and says "whoa you are big! You are having twins right", I told her that no just one baby and then she goes on to say "oh! Well it's a boy then because it's pointy". I just ignored her until the doors opened.

Another time at a family gathering a friend of a friend whom I don't know, first time I've met her, takes a look at me and the first words out of her mouth were WOW you are very pregnant!!

For the record I am the exact size I should be for the amount of weeks I have.

Just don't comment on someone's physical appearance especially you don't know them and it's not because a woman is pregnant that it makes it ok!

batmom05 · July 2015

Yesterday at the nail salon the woman asked what we are having. When I said "it's a surprise" she said "is the surprise that it's two?!"

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