Oh the comments! "Are you sure it's not twins?!", "Are you due next week?" (knowing I was only 26 weeks), "You have gained a lot of weight!" (I have kept within a healthy range), "Well, I didn't start wearing maternity clothes until I was 8 months pregnant" (I get this one from the same person often. I started wearing them very early).
The best one so far was last Wednesday upon returning to work after running to my mothers after she suffered a seizure (she is epileptic and was okay, but shaken as was I). I pushed open the bathroom door and a woman that works in my building was almost hit by the door. She looked at me then looked at my belly and said "Watch Out! Wide Load!" I was all dressed up with my hair done and wearing one of my cutest maternity dresses. Apparently I looked like some kind of giant big rig though. She is lucky I had to pee so bad, because it prevented me from breaking into tears.
Im a FTM and recently went to chicago for vacation to visit my moms side of the family and we ended up BBQ at my unlces house (he lives w his wife, 2 kids and MIL) after being outside with the family everyone decided to go inside bc the mosquitos were getting really bad. So when we go inside his MIL says to me "how old are you?" i tell her 17 (yes, im a teen mom) she responded with "ohh my god youre so young! You didnt get to enjoy life at all" i felt like crying so bad. this really ruined my day. I hate when people put me down for being so young and pregnant. But at the end of the day i know I'll be fine and that my baby is a blessing ❤
Ahh, don't let people like that get you down love, I too was a teen mom and never regretted a single second of it. I would have told her to suck eggs personally. I got a lot of comments too with my first, I was 18, I just would look at them and say "yes well, I may be young but that has absolutely nothing to do with anything, I can still enjoy life just as much thank you"
It seems like every outing is an adventure of people saying ridiculous things. I like to avoid eye contact with strangers as much as possible. Haha!!
Today at Kroger the cashier asked me "Are you due today?" (Ummmm no I have 3 weeks to go)
My personal favorite (also at Kroger, maybe I should avoid that place lol) was a fellow shopper saying "That's a big baby" (No lady, I am 5'3" started at 107 and gained 28 pounds so far which is completely normal. I just happen to be small framed)
I honestly think people are the worst part of pregnancy! No filters/manners what so ever. Maybe we should all wear shirts saying "do not talk to me your irritating comments could commence early labor"
It seems like every outing is an adventure of people saying ridiculous things. I like to avoid eye contact with strangers as much as possible. Haha!!
Today at Kroger the cashier asked me "Are you due today?" (Ummmm no I have 3 weeks to go)
My personal favorite (also at Kroger, maybe I should avoid that place lol) was a fellow shopper saying "That's a big baby" (No lady, I am 5'3" started at 107 and gained 28 pounds so far which is completely normal. I just happen to be small framed)
I honestly think people are the worst part of pregnancy! No filters/manners what so ever. Maybe we should all wear shirts saying "do not talk to me your irritating comments could commence early labor"
My secretary was out for 2 weeks on vacation (between when I was 29 and 31 weeks I think) and when she came back, she couldn't stop staring at my belly and saying, "wow, you REALLY look pregnant now." I really do love her, but all I could say was "yep! Gonna keep looking more pregnant every day!" Its like people forget that pregnancy progresses, and that yes, I will look more pregnant every time you see me!!
I had a customer, well actually 2 now ask if this is my first child. (She is my second I have a 7yr old son already) when I told them no they asked if I was having my tubes tied? Uh no? Why would I have my tubes tied 1. I am only 26yrs old and 2. While we are not planning on wanting anymore children things could change and they have this great invention called birth control! Who knew? I thought this was extremely offensive. That's pretty personal information. On a funny note my son did just tell me that my turkey must be done my belly button has fully popped
I work in retirement Community, most of thr residents has dementia. And they asked me the same question every day. Are you sure you are not carrying twin? Wow you still here?
One of my best friends every time I see her says "oh my gosh, your huge, like I can't believe how big you are!!!!" I don't even know what to say to her half the time... I've gained 25 pounds and I'm 35 weeks. So, most of the time I just say yep.. Lol
Tonight we were at dinner with my father in law and he asked me how I've been doing with the heat. So I replied fine, I'm just trying to stay really hydrated if I go outside, but I'm starting to get swollen. So he replies oh, your gonna go early.... I was like not necessarily..... (This is our first baby) that wouldn't even be good to go early because I'm not full term and he still needs to finish fully developing. He replies back with well Nic (his oldest son who is now 32) was born 3 weeks early. I was like yeah but I don't want our baby to be born early. And he says well i think you will go and it'll be fine with all the technology we have now these days. And I reply well it's not really the technology that matters if a baby is born early... Yeah it's nice we do have better technology. But there could be a lot wrong with a baby that's born early. Every baby is different.. While one baby can be completely fine born weeks early and another can be really sick and have to stay in hospital and I don't want him to stay in the hospital. He's like yeah but even if he is in the hospital it'll be okay. I finally gave up and just said okay whatever. Because my gma is a NICU nurse so I know all about it from her and every babies situation is different. It annoys me SOOOOO much when people say "you are gonna go early" and aren't educated in what can happen.
His dad also said we were weird for having maternity pics done. Lol my husband and I were like okay? That's normal for people to get done and he said no not really.
And as another poster said earlier the looks you get from people sometimes are even worse than the comments. My husband and I are both 22 and both look really young. I look about 18 and they just stare in disgust at us like we are too young to be having a baby.
My MIL has said things like "you look just like me when I was pregnant!" She told me she gained 60 pounds with her first. As I posted earlier, I've gained 25 pounds.. Nothing close to 60 lol. I didn't say anything I just thought how rude..lol
The nerve of some people... I really can't believe it. I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore.. I'm so tired of hearing remarks about how I look and people touching my belly and just being rude. I'm not sure why people feel the need to comment on a pregnant women's weight.
One of my coworkers told me I should be worried about my LO having schizophrenia or bipolar disorder because I got the flu when I was about 8-10 weeks. She then showed me articles from peer reviewed journals about cases in California in the 50s or 60s that "proved it."
I look much younger than I am, and I can't wear my wedding ring anymore. The stares I get walking around, the pointed looks at my left hand--mind your own damn business, people!
Oh my goodness, the states that I get because I don't wear my ring are terrible! You can feel the judgment coming off of them!
For me it was my MIL saying that I didn't look good in my clothing. And then my GMILs both agreeing with her. I was comfy and didn't really care how I looked until they said that. Needless to say I went out and bought some new clothing right after.
One of my coworkers told me I should be worried about my LO having schizophrenia or bipolar disorder because I got the flu when I was about 8-10 weeks. She then showed me articles from peer reviewed journals about cases in California in the 50s or 60s that "proved it."
I look much younger than I am, and I can't wear my wedding ring anymore. The stares I get walking around, the pointed looks at my left hand--mind your own damn business, people!
I haven't been wearing my rings either and get a lot of weird looks. I'm 25 but look younger when I don't wear makeup, and with my horrible pregnancy acne I probably look like a teenager lol. I guess people think I'm some poor pregnant teen instead of a 25 year old homeowner and business owner. But even if I was a pregnant teenager, mind your own business, people! Geez...
I must give off a "don't talk to me" vibe because I haven't had any overly rude comments. I'm taller and have a long torso so my bump apparently isn't big enough for some people so the only comments I get are people telling me how I am small for how far along I am and how they were so much bigger than I am when they were pregnant. I never know what to say to that.
I haven't really had any comments from strangers. One lady at a birthday party for a friends daughter asked if it meant something was wrong that I carried so high. And my friend jumped in and said no it just means she has a cute bump!
Everyone asks to touch. And if they ask now that a bump is visible I let them. Before when bump was small and below the belly button...no way!
I had one aunt ask if I'd gained weight, I said no I'd lost a couple (in first trimester) and she said "well its not like you started out skinny...it won't hurt the baby"
So there was that! And even though, I've still only gained 5 pounds, I am super sensitive to weight commentary
People really care about wedding rings? We're not married and I've not noticed a single person scoping out my hand for a ring, or had any feeling people were being judgy... Even when/if we do get married, I already told my SO I don't want a ring because I hate wearing them and I really hate diamonds. My dad never had one, period, and my mom often forgets to wear hers. It just doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me. If someone said something/seemed judgy I'd probably have fun coming up with things to say that would make them uncomfortable/horrified, lol.
People really care about wedding rings? We're not married and I've not noticed a single person scoping out my hand for a ring, or had any feeling people were being judgy... Even when/if we do get married, I already told my SO I don't want a ring because I hate wearing them and I really hate diamonds. My dad never had one, period, and my mom often forgets to wear hers. It just doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me. If someone said something/seemed judgy I'd probably have fun coming up with things to say that would make them uncomfortable/horrified, lol.
Maybe it's a regional thing. I happen to be in the Bible Belt.
My overweight coworker who is anti-kids, anti-husband, has 9 cats and HATES "healthy foods" told me "You definitely look pregnant. Your face is way bigger!"
I don't seem to attract rude comments either. People do comment that I don't look 7 months pregnant or act surprised when I say I'm pregnant (has to be the angle or clothes I'm wearing at the time!) but I don't take that to mean anything... Not really sure what to say to it though. I sure as hell feel it.
An Indian friend told me I looked 'really tired' the other day. I know some cultures can be more direct about these sort of things so I didn't take offence... Apart from the fact it was the first time in ages I had actually felt quite energetic and well-rested! Hate to think what I normally look like....
My favorite comment so far was from an older lady at church: "How long do you have left?" I told her a month and she said, "Are you sure they're not wrong on your due date? You look like you're about to pop any minute!" I replied, "Nope, my doctor's not wrong, I just have a short torso."
People really care about wedding rings? We're not married and I've not noticed a single person scoping out my hand for a ring, or had any feeling people were being judgy... Even when/if we do get married, I already told my SO I don't want a ring because I hate wearing them and I really hate diamonds. My dad never had one, period, and my mom often forgets to wear hers. It just doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me. If someone said something/seemed judgy I'd probably have fun coming up with things to say that would make them uncomfortable/horrified, lol.
Maybe it's a regional thing. I happen to be in the Bible Belt.
Same here. I live in the rural south and even though there are tons of couples around that aren't married and have children, a lot of people (especially older people) have very old fashioned views on things. Which is okay with me, every one is entitled to their opinion but sometimes it rubs me the wrong way.
I've gotten quite a few crude comments about my kids being so close together (DS1 just turned 3, DS2 will be 2 in sept., and then there's the one I'm cooking.) and I really hate it. Yes it was on purpose. Don't ever ask someone if their kid was an accident, it's really offensive jerk stranger. Or there's the lovely comments implying I don't know how to prevent pregnancy. Love that. My personal favourite response to "don't you know what causes that?" - "yeah my husband is SUPER hot!"
I seem to be attracting a lot of rudeness lately because I keep getting to contribute to this board. I do yoga 3-4 times a week. I walk into the gym yesterday and everyone is starring at my bump like 'uh are you sure you should be here'. Then the yoga instructor nervously asks me if I've done yoga before... No lady I have my own yoga mat because today is my first time ever...
Also when facetiming with my best friend the other day she told me I looked like i had already been through labor. When I told her gee thanks she i said I just looked simply exhausted. I told her no sh!t I'm 8 months pregnant. Another local friend of mine tells me 'awe you look exhausted' and shakes her head every time she sees me.
I've gotten quite a few crude comments about my kids being so close together (DS1 just turned 3, DS2 will be 2 in sept., and then there's the one I'm cooking.) and I really hate it. Yes it was on purpose. Don't ever ask someone if their kid was an accident, it's really offensive jerk stranger. Or there's the lovely comments implying I don't know how to prevent pregnancy. Love that. My personal favourite response to "don't you know what causes that?" - "yeah my husband is SUPER hot!"
Me too. DS1 is 4, DS2 just turned 3, DS3 is 16 months, with baby #4 on the way. I get the "don't you know what causes that?".... a lot. I also get a lot of "well, this is the last one right?" I get a lot of disapproving looks when I say "maybe, maybe not." The most satisfying retort I've had was with my BIL. He was going on about this being the last for us and I said no, we were going to try for 8 kids. He almost had a panic attack.
My overweight coworker who is anti-kids, anti-husband, has 9 cats and HATES "healthy foods" told me "You definitely look pregnant. Your face is way bigger!"
Love crazy cat single women! I have one like that in my neighborhood
I'm only 34 weeks and When ever I go to play bingo there is this older man who works there and he always comes up next to me and tells "POP" as loud as he can. He says its a magic trick and one day it will scare the baby out but it's honestly super embarrassing because everyone looks then people will get on ask questions and come rub my belly.
My very air headed (and young) co worker came up and started rubbing my belly the other day. She had just gotten back from vacation and was amazed at how much my belly had grown in just a week. She said "wow, you're getting so big...is your husband actually still attracted to you?" She seemed genuinely curious and I wanted to punch her in the throat.
My very air headed (and young) co worker came up and started rubbing my belly the other day. She had just gotten back from vacation and was amazed at how much my belly had grown in just a week. She said "wow, you're getting so big...is your husband actually still attracted to you?" She seemed genuinely curious and I wanted to punch her in the throat.
I weigh a lot more this time than with my first, but I'm smaller.. Way smaller, to be 35.3. I went to the store last night and had a couple contractions while in line (no biggie, I've been dealing with that for days, doctor isn't concerned yet) I just stood and breathed out and in and dealt with it. A woman behind me proceeded to then tell me not to have my baby in line. The F? Then she asked when I was due "in 5 weeks", then " you are way too little to be due in 5 weeks! And you still have a belly ring in? Hell no! I had my nipples and my vagina pierced! I took them out!"......... I hauled ass as soon as I was done paying for my syrup!! OMG. I would never tell a random stranger that I had my vagina pierced while pregnant.. And especially as big as she was.. Not hating on her size but umm.. I was caught way off guard there.. No. Just no. The mental image is still haunting me
Yesterday I was walking back to my office from lunch, and a homeless guy yelled at me "hey lady! do you have some change for me!" I ignored him, and then he yelled "So what are you having? Twins? Triplets?"
I was like, way to completely eliminate any chance that I might give you money, buddy. Also, my bump has definitely gotten a lot bigger in the past couple of weeks, but I'm still only about 5 pounds above my pre-pregnancy weight, so I definitely don't think I look like there are triplets in there!!
I've gotten quite a few crude comments about my kids being so close together (DS1 just turned 3, DS2 will be 2 in sept., and then there's the one I'm cooking.) and I really hate it. Yes it was on purpose. Don't ever ask someone if their kid was an accident, it's really offensive jerk stranger. Or there's the lovely comments implying I don't know how to prevent pregnancy. Love that. My personal favourite response to "don't you know what causes that?" - "yeah my husband is SUPER hot!"
Me too. DS1 is 4, DS2 just turned 3, DS3 is 16 months, with baby #4 on the way. I get the "don't you know what causes that?".... a lot. I also get a lot of "well, this is the last one right?" I get a lot of disapproving looks when I say "maybe, maybe not." The most satisfying retort I've had was with my BIL. He was going on about this being the last for us and I said no, we were going to try for 8 kids. He almost had a panic attack.
Seriously why do people think you should have only one or two kids? Big families are awesome! I'm fine with two kids myself, but I know A TON of families at church and MOPs where 3-6 kids is common.
My family came to visit me in the hospital (bed rest yaaayyyy...) and my youngest sister (13) was sitting on a cushioned chair. When they got up to leave, she looked down and said, "Oh my God! I left a butt print!!!" And I was like, "so....?" Then she continued, "Wow, is my butt really that small?" I looked at her, pointed to the door, and said, "Ok, get out."
My elderly coworkers husband goes by the name of "big daddy don" was in my personal bubble and proclaimed very loudly "I can tell you and your husband have been fooling around". To which I replied, yes twice! I have a son too Creep.
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Today at Kroger the cashier asked me "Are you due today?" (Ummmm no I have 3 weeks to go)
My personal favorite (also at Kroger, maybe I should avoid that place lol) was a fellow shopper saying "That's a big baby" (No lady, I am 5'3" started at 107 and gained 28 pounds so far which is completely normal. I just happen to be small framed)
I honestly think people are the worst part of pregnancy! No filters/manners what so ever. Maybe we should all wear shirts saying "do not talk to me your irritating comments could commence early labor"
Tonight we were at dinner with my father in law and he asked me how I've been doing with the heat. So I replied fine, I'm just trying to stay really hydrated if I go outside, but I'm starting to get swollen. So he replies oh, your gonna go early.... I was like not necessarily..... (This is our first baby) that wouldn't even be good to go early because I'm not full term and he still needs to finish fully developing. He replies back with well Nic (his oldest son who is now 32) was born 3 weeks early. I was like yeah but I don't want our baby to be born early. And he says well i think you will go and it'll be fine with all the technology we have now these days. And I reply well it's not really the technology that matters if a baby is born early... Yeah it's nice we do have better technology. But there could be a lot wrong with a baby that's born early. Every baby is different.. While one baby can be completely fine born weeks early and another can be really sick and have to stay in hospital and I don't want him to stay in the hospital. He's like yeah but even if he is in the hospital it'll be okay. I finally gave up and just said okay whatever. Because my gma is a NICU nurse so I know all about it from her and every babies situation is different. It annoys me SOOOOO much when people say "you are gonna go early" and aren't educated in what can happen.
His dad also said we were weird for having maternity pics done. Lol my husband and I were like okay? That's normal for people to get done and he said no not really.
And as another poster said earlier the looks you get from people sometimes are even worse than the comments. My husband and I are both 22 and both look really young. I look about 18 and they just stare in disgust at us like we are too young to be having a baby.
My MIL has said things like "you look just like me when I was pregnant!" She told me she gained 60 pounds with her first. As I posted earlier, I've gained 25 pounds.. Nothing close to 60 lol. I didn't say anything I just thought how rude..lol
The nerve of some people... I really can't believe it.
I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore.. I'm so tired of hearing remarks about how I look and people touching my belly and just being rude. I'm not sure why people feel the need to comment on a pregnant women's weight.
Anything about being pregnant and summer.. Those comments really drive me nuts.
One of my coworkers told me I should be worried about my LO having schizophrenia or bipolar disorder because I got the flu when I was about 8-10 weeks. She then showed me articles from peer reviewed journals about cases in California in the 50s or 60s that "proved it."
I look much younger than I am, and I can't wear my wedding ring anymore. The stares I get walking around, the pointed looks at my left hand--mind your own damn business, people!
Me: 25 | DH: 25
DD: Aug. 15
For me it was my MIL saying that I didn't look good in my clothing. And then my GMILs both agreeing with her. I was comfy and didn't really care how I looked until they said that. Needless to say I went out and bought some new clothing right after.
Everyone asks to touch. And if they ask now that a bump is visible I let them. Before when bump was small and below the belly button...no way!
I had one aunt ask if I'd gained weight, I said no I'd lost a couple (in first trimester) and she said "well its not like you started out skinny...it won't hurt the baby"
So there was that! And even though, I've still only gained 5 pounds, I am super sensitive to weight commentary
Me: 25 | DH: 25
DD: Aug. 15
An Indian friend told me I looked 'really tired' the other day. I know some cultures can be more direct about these sort of things so I didn't take offence... Apart from the fact it was the first time in ages I had actually felt quite energetic and well-rested! Hate to think what I normally look like....
"WOW how much longer until maternity leave?"
"That's going to be a BIG baby."
"I can honestly say there's no doubt that you're pregnant." Uhhhhhhhhh, okay?
The most satisfying retort I've had was with my BIL. He was going on about this being the last for us and I said no, we were going to try for 8 kids. He almost had a panic attack.
Anything about being pregnant and summer.. Those comments really drive me nuts.
I can still wear my rings.. But they are getting snug.. Living in the Bible Belt people are judgementall.
I also hate people saying when are you due? Is it twins. I look great I think and am all belly, work out and am proud of my bump!
At chik fila last night for cow dress up, I had a teenager ask where my costume was, I was about to karate chop him! Rude
I probably would have punched her in the throat
Seriously why do people think you should have only one or two kids? Big families are awesome! I'm fine with two kids myself, but I know A TON of families at church and MOPs where 3-6 kids is common.
Creep.