@henrytviii I thought the pump and dump myth was just for if you were responsibly drinking...not binge drinking (which I plan on..LO will be 5 months and staying with grandma overnight)
Very rarely do you pump and dump. Are you going to be pumping for comfort? If not, the alcohol in your milk will be gone by the time you nurse again. It's one hour per drink if you're thinking in terms of sobering up. Say if you go out at 8 pm and quit drinking at 2, you'd be set to nurse around 5 or 6. If you can drive safely or care for your LO, you can nurse. If you pump for comfort you can do a few things with the milk. You can of course mix it with several other oz of pumped milk. You can also look into making bm soap, which is great for the skin and especially if your LO has excema or acne. You could also freeze in small batches for medical uses. Mark the bags so you don't use it to ingest. BM is a great multipurpose cleanser. Good for boo boos, pink eye, clogged ducts, etc. it really is liquid gold!!
@SammeMotley thanks for all the info -- she should definitely not be ingesting the milk that I will be pumping on those occasions. I will save it though!
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Don't judge me as some lush (ok judge me that was my prepregnancy life) but I know the rules on if I AM feeding her and drinking, but if I am going to be drinking heavily (a wedding in October) or I just feel like imbibing a little more than usual and feeding her pre-pumped milk, what do I do wth the milk I will be pumping to keep my supply up while I am boozing? Just toss it? The alcohol won't...go away over time? Yes I have a science background and just asked if the alcohol in my pumped milk will disappear over time (I just want that fairy tale to be true so I don't have to dump my milk).
My hubs just got his phd in pharmacology (i'm so proud!) and is currently a medical student. He says if you leave the top off or at least leave some room for escape, any alcohol will evaporate out of the milk.
And you are so not a lush for wanting a little fun after ten months of pregnancy!
so.. what do you do with a newborn when its not sleeping/ being changed/ trying to rip my nipples off?
Haha I had this same issue! Bouncy chair, books, talk to him, make faces, play mat... Check out the "awake time" thread that was up a week or two ago. Awake time got way more fun for me in like week 3 or 4.
so.. what do you do with a newborn when its not sleeping/ being changed/ trying to rip my nipples off?
I played (and still do play) the copy faces game. He makes a face, I make it back. I also read to him. My guy still spends a fair amount of time either sleeping or crying to be changed / eat, or eating tho. His 'awake, not angry' periods are getting a little longer, but it doesn't make up a lot of our time
We have about 20 minutes of happiness after each feed before she gets cranky and goes for a nap so we just spend it talking (and her cooing) or walking around looking at things.
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Does anyone know if your period changes when it come back postpartum? I usually have heavy periods but this is really heavy and bright red. I'm almost 6 weeks postpartum and stopped bleeding 3 weeks ago, so I'm pretty sure it's my period. It's just very uncharacteristic of how it was before I was pregnant.
@aliciac2008 Mine was relatively light comparatively. Mine's always been pretty light but this was exceptionally light. Almost like spotting. I'd be okay if they stay this way!
@aliciac2008 Mine was relatively light comparatively. Mine's always been pretty light but this was exceptionally light. Almost like spotting. I'd be okay if they stay this way!
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Does anyone know if your period changes when it come back postpartum? I usually have heavy periods but this is really heavy and bright red. I'm almost 6 weeks postpartum and stopped bleeding 3 weeks ago, so I'm pretty sure it's my period. It's just very uncharacteristic of how it was before I was pregnant.
My experience and what I've read is that it comes back heavier than previous. I had really heavy bleeding after DS and I felt like a kid getting my period for the first time - I definitely ruined more than 1 pair of underwear. It took several months to go back to normal.
I think my stitches are finally gone in my Virginia... but now my perineum hurts way more than it used to (on the "outside" of where my stitches were). would that be from scar tissue? I have my 6 week appt Monday and will ask my OBGYN then, just curious if anyone is dealing with scar tissue or increased discomfort.
Sorry to bump this up but suddenly I'm super duper paranoid about sleeping with LO! Am I just never going to be able to get him to sleep in his crib if I sleep with him now? He's only 2 weeks and I know you can't spoil a newborn but I would like to be able to put him down for the night eventually...
Sorry to bump this up but suddenly I'm super duper paranoid about sleeping with LO! Am I just never going to be able to get him to sleep in his crib if I sleep with him now? He's only 2 weeks and I know you can't spoil a newborn but I would like to be able to put him down for the night eventually...
My LO is 3 weeks old and I am just now having some success with him sleeping in his pack n play and not in the bed with us. Granted, we approached it the wrong way at first so obviously was not successful, then kinda slacked off for a while, and only recently started to try again on having him not be in the bed. I literally just started getting serious about this about 4 days ago, and its been easier each night, but it seems like no matter what the last feeding in the very early am (around 4-6am) he still doesn't want to go back into the pack n play. At that point I either have to get up for the day or if I want a little more snooze time, he has to snuggle otherwise it won't work. It's a process. Hang in there
@lwyz My 6 week old is starting to go into his bassinet much more easily, but those first four weeks, co-sleeping was much much better for both of us, so that's basically all we did.
Not sure if you're into Dr. Sears, but he supports co-sleeping. Same with La Leche League. The theory is that if your kid learns to trust he will always be comforted and have his needs provided, he will grow to be a more confident, independent person - who will sleep on his own, amid other positives.
Also, if you look at the thread about what women here are doing that they never thought they'd do, co-sleeping seems to be the number one response. (And thus makes me wish the societal conversation would shift towards making it safe rather than taboo, but that's another topic for another time.)
When you and LO are ready to transition, it will happen. Even if it takes a few days, it's not so terrible and is not worth stressing about right now, IMHO.
I have a question for you, @virginiaunicorn11. During your heat wave when it was 97 degrees over there - did you swaddle LO at night still? We made it thru today with him in his diaper and a T-shirt, and we both did nap a bit, but now that its for real bedtime I'm not sure if I should swaddle or not. Its still pretty warm (76°) outside and similar inside (maybe even a bit warmer - upstairs was cooking all day). I do have muslin blankets for him which did OK last night without him overheating, but bleh! The heat sucks
@mellymar I am more often than not unsuccessful at swaddling LO. He wakes up more frequently when he goes unswaddled but I've just learned to live with it (though in your situation, sleep is more important when you're on your own, I know). I think we put him in a short onesie to sleep during those days, and didn't swaddle... but that was decided by crying vs temperature. 76 is pretty decent. Do you ever swaddle him in just a diaper?
Sorry I can't be more help. I'm not confident I have temperatures figured out for LO. He sweats a lot during the day and sometimes his feet seem too cold. I just adjust as I go along, and try not to worry unless he seems uncomfortable. I've read babies are way better at regulating their temperatures than we give them credit for. I totally understand your "too hot at night" fear, though.
I have a question for you, @virginiaunicorn11. During your heat wave when it was 97 degrees over there - did you swaddle LO at night still? We made it thru today with him in his diaper and a T-shirt, and we both did nap a bit, but now that its for real bedtime I'm not sure if I should swaddle or not. Its still pretty warm (76°) outside and similar inside (maybe even a bit warmer - upstairs was cooking all day). I do have muslin blankets for him which did OK last night without him overheating, but bleh! The heat sucks
Similar weather to you yesterday and today in northern IL. We have the air on (at 76 degrees) but our upstairs where the bedroom is always is several degrees warmer than that. We've been in onesies and swaddling arms out. Last night, my girl spit up in the middle of the night, and when I changed her, I did a new swaddle with no onesie. So she was just in her diaper and the swaddle.
Both babies have seemed fine with that, but I'm a FTM, so I hope I'm doing it right. .
ETA: I like using the swaddles as a nighttime cue. We don't use them for naps.
Thanks for the replies @virginiaunicorn11@423ang! (Btw, 423ang, we're state neighbors! I'm in WI, we're having the same weather) I've also been trying to use the swaddle as a nighttime / bedtime cue, but I may forgo it tonight. He has already passed out on the boppy and if I can move him to a safer place to sleep - I may even forgo my sleep in pack n play training tonight - without him waking I may just leave him dressed as is. He just does better in the pack n play when swaddled, and I'm brewing a headache so I'd like the freedom of being able to sleep without worrying I'll smoosh him if he's in the bed. We'll see how it goes. Have a feeling this will be a long night
Whew. Thanks @mellymar and @virginiaunicorn11! That's what I was thinking but just suddenly worried that I was forming a habit that would require a 2+ year commitment. feeling better about it now. Definitely noticed co sleeping is common in the 'things I thought I'd never do thread'.
@virginiaunicorn11 honestly, and very tmi, it smelled different. It didn't smell like that old blood pp bleeding smell. It smelled like a pre-preg period, and it also lasted exactly a week and followed the same flow pattern as pre-preg periods. I stopped pumping and breastfeeding at 3 weeks, so I expected it sooner than later anyway. I'm obviously not totally sure, but it seems right, and OB didn't argue and told me he trusted my instinct and knowledge of my own body.
Does anyones lo lick everything? I am wondering if this is normal. She was inching her way toward her blanket that we keep on the couch and just licking away. She also likes to lick everyone hand. She will squirm her way over to do it if she sees peoples hands, and its not just hubby and me its anyone's she can get a hold of.
Does anyones lo lick everything? I am wondering if this is normal. She was inching her way toward her blanket that we keep on the couch and just licking away. She also likes to lick everyone hand. She will squirm her way over to do it if she sees peoples hands, and its not just hubby and me its anyone's she can get a hold of.
I've noticed my little guy licking my hand and sometimes his burp cloth. This morning as I sat down to feed him he tried to lick my pajama sleeve.
Does anyones lo lick everything? I am wondering if this is normal. She was inching her way toward her blanket that we keep on the couch and just licking away. She also likes to lick everyone hand. She will squirm her way over to do it if she sees peoples hands, and its not just hubby and me its anyone's she can get a hold of.
My twins lick each other (heads, hands) if they are laying next to one another.
My DD licked everything up until a year. It was like she had to feel things with her tounge. Blankets, towels, toys, people...everything! It was hilarious until she caught the flu after licking the playground equipment. Ugh.
So we are going to the beach for a family thing on Sunday. How the heck does one bring a 8 week old infant to the beach? What do I need to do/prepare and NOT do? Can and should I bring her onto the beach or should I stay in the house? What does LO wear? Help!
so. we are using huggies newborn, and ive noticed that LO's diaper keeps leaking around his legs. am i just not putting the diaper on correctly? or is it the wrong size for him?
I don't like most Huggies diapers for this reason. Always leak!!!
For those who are BF, when did your nipples stop feeling mutilated? We're at 3 weeks now and I keep waiting for it to get better...
mine were better by then but I did a heavy 10 days of lanolin plus gel pads, to heal a bleeding crack, and also had to use a shield during that time. can you try those hot/cold packs others have suggested and check in with a LLL meeting? have you found a position that works for you? I'm a broken record but swear by The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding book.
Ugh, I'm so sorry you're in that pain. It's the WORST!!
So, I wear my kid in the Moby every day, to go out (1-4 hours/day) and often around the house for an hour or so.
What distinguishes wearing your baby in a carrier from Baby Wearing, the Thing, the Philosophy? I've googled and I just don't get it. is using a carrier the same as Baby Wearing, or does that involve longer periods of time, other people wearing the kid, etc? I feel like I'm missing something here...
For those who are BF, when did your nipples stop feeling mutilated? We're at 3 weeks now and I keep waiting for it to get better...
mine were better by then but I did a heavy 10 days of lanolin plus gel pads, to heal a bleeding crack, and also had to use a shield during that time. can you try those hot/cold packs others have suggested and check in with a LLL meeting? have you found a position that works for you? I'm a broken record but swear by The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding book.
Ugh, I'm so sorry you're in that pain. It's the WORST!!
Thanks @virginiaunicorn11 I use lanolin and heat/cold, but gel and LLL are great ideas!
@virginiaunicorn11 I think you are living the life. Although ditching the stroller totally would give you a higher rank
Lol, I can't wait for the stroller life! Just talked to my parents and they're bringing TWO for us when we get off this plane and get back to our Murican life! I am just fascinated/ interested/ annoyed by all these Theories and Things they come up with for babies. Baby Wearing is one of those capital letter Things, but unless I'm missing something (and I don't think I am) it seems overly fancy talk for just using a carrier.
@virginiaunicorn11 I am trying to go to a meeting near me of baby wearing international but I am SO intimidated. Especially since all I own are the ktan and ergo which are probably too pedestrian because they're not a fancy woven wrap. I'm nervous. To be honest I would ditch my stroller in a heartbeat though...if it wasn't so damn hot I'd wear this baby 24/7.
TTC: 1/2014
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EDD: 6/8/2015
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@virginiaunicorn11 I am trying to go to a meeting near me of baby wearing international but I am SO intimidated. Especially since all I own are the ktan and ergo which are probably too pedestrian because they're not a fancy woven wrap. I'm nervous. To be honest I would ditch my stroller in a heartbeat though...if it wasn't so damn hot I'd wear this baby 24/7.
See, this is what I mean! You have TWO wearing devices and "that's all" and you're intimidated. WTF! Labels, man. I'm labeling us June Mama Method. Oh, you don't know/don't use the June Mama Method? Pfffft. Send me an email and maybe you can come to one of our meetings. We wear pink on Wednesdays! ;-)
JK, I mock it because I'm not cool enough to go. (Seriously.) Report back, please! Don't tell them I want a stroller, though... they'll never forgive me, and then I'll never be allowed to say I Baby Wear, just that I use a b.aby c.arrier ;-)
@dancegurl1118 I went to a bwi meeting and I don't own any carriers. It was a very informative meeting. They helped me try on quite a few carriers with LO to see what felt most comfortable. I joined and got my first loaner as well. A catbirdbaby pikkolo. LO loves it. Totally laid back environment.
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Have a large enough supply in the fridge to do so.
And you are so not a lush for wanting a little fun after ten months of pregnancy!
I have my 6 week appt Monday and will ask my OBGYN then, just curious if anyone is dealing with scar tissue or increased discomfort.
It's a process. Hang in there
Not sure if you're into Dr. Sears, but he supports co-sleeping. Same with La Leche League. The theory is that if your kid learns to trust he will always be comforted and have his needs provided, he will grow to be a more confident, independent person - who will sleep on his own, amid other positives.
Also, if you look at the thread about what women here are doing that they never thought they'd do, co-sleeping seems to be the number one response. (And thus makes me wish the societal conversation would shift towards making it safe rather than taboo, but that's another topic for another time.)
When you and LO are ready to transition, it will happen. Even if it takes a few days, it's not so terrible and is not worth stressing about right now, IMHO.
Sorry I can't be more help. I'm not confident I have temperatures figured out for LO. He sweats a lot during the day and sometimes his feet seem too cold. I just adjust as I go along, and try not to worry unless he seems uncomfortable. I've read babies are way better at regulating their temperatures than we give them credit for. I totally understand your "too hot at night" fear, though.
Both babies have seemed fine with that, but I'm a FTM, so I hope I'm doing it right.
ETA: I like using the swaddles as a nighttime cue. We don't use them for naps.
I've also been trying to use the swaddle as a nighttime / bedtime cue, but I may forgo it tonight. He has already passed out on the boppy and if I can move him to a safer place to sleep - I may even forgo my sleep in pack n play training tonight - without him waking I may just leave him dressed as is. He just does better in the pack n play when swaddled, and I'm brewing a headache so I'd like the freedom of being able to sleep without worrying I'll smoosh him if he's in the bed. We'll see how it goes. Have a feeling this will be a long night
My twins lick each other (heads, hands) if they are laying next to one another.
Ugh, I'm so sorry you're in that pain. It's the WORST!!
What distinguishes wearing your baby in a carrier from Baby Wearing, the Thing, the Philosophy? I've googled and I just don't get it. is using a carrier the same as Baby Wearing, or does that involve longer periods of time, other people wearing the kid, etc? I feel like I'm missing something here...
I am just fascinated/ interested/ annoyed by all these Theories and Things they come up with for babies. Baby Wearing is one of those capital letter Things, but unless I'm missing something (and I don't think I am) it seems overly fancy talk for just using a carrier.
I'm labeling us June Mama Method. Oh, you don't know/don't use the June Mama Method? Pfffft. Send me an email and maybe you can come to one of our meetings. We wear pink on Wednesdays! ;-)
JK, I mock it because I'm not cool enough to go. (Seriously.) Report back, please! Don't tell them I want a stroller, though... they'll never forgive me, and then I'll never be allowed to say I Baby Wear, just that I use a b.aby c.arrier ;-)