We got a bunch of 'I knew it' reactions, too, oddly. Nobody knew we were trying. The worst, though, was my little brother (bless him), who asked 'what' we were going to do..(?!?) I was fuming but held it together in the moment with laughter and realized he is just very young in his lifestyle (nowhere close to done with school, not married, etc.) and didn't really get where I am in adulthood at all. He's also very cynical and judgy about suburban life (which ours isn't in any way, so I think he was surprised that we were NTNP). He was very excitedly texting me later that day and since then, though, so that made me feel better. Now he wants to know if my kid will attend private school, will be allowed to use an iPad, etc... Family! Bah!
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My hubby's parents were super excited to hear the news. My mother said "have you ever heard of birth control??"" I said "yes, that's why my youngest is 6!!" My dad was super excited because he has 4 siblings.... This will be baby #4 for us!!
When we found out we were having twins we got "OMG.....what are you going to do?"
Apparently, we'll have to sell one because twins simply cannot be handled.
Hahaha I totally joke that I would give one to my friend BUT I really wouldn't. I know it's doable from seeing my other moms group but I've never actually grown up with twins. I would probably have a heart attack because we ar din a tiny tiny apartment and our lease literally ends feb 1st moving and having twins or renewing our lease could be amusing for a bystander
I'm just annoyed with everyone telling me I need to have a girl, I should have a girl, praying for a girl, etc. Just because I have a boy doesn't mean I need a girl. My family will be just as great if I have another boy. I don't care what I have so why the hell does everyone else? Get out of my uterus!!
I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
Its OK! Im at the age where people don't really know whether to comfort you or congratulate you. Even though I'm married and we have been praying for a baby we have gotten a lot of responses that weren't what we expected!
We still haven't told the parents. But some work friends figured it out. Their response was on the line of: really? Is this such a great time? You already have so much on your plate.
I just smiled. I wanted to say well losing baby #2 last year was horrible. We've been trying for a year. I couldn't be happier. (When is the perfect time anyway?).
People are idiots. I have been feeling a very low tolerance for stupidity lately.
My boss asked me if we were ready for kids- um, well we weren't specifically trying but I'm already pregnant so it's a little late now to be ready or not ready don't you think?! Whoever is actually "ready" anyway?! We feel fortunate that we were able to conceive, versus some people who try and just can't. We consider this a blessing!
Other people have asked me "how did that happen?"
My MIL kept asking if we were playing a joke. Ummmm no, we're a little more mature than playing fake ultrasound jokes with people. I got the "but you're not married yet" line.
My grandfather even said well I'm not really happy for you, I just hope it all works out for you two and we are excited for another great grandchild. Wait, you're not happy but you're excited.... Umm ok ??
Seriously, why does everyone feel the need to interject their stupid comments and opinions and not just say congratulations?!?!
My mother said "wow I hope it's a girl!" And "are you going to get your tubes tied after this?"
Woah, get your nose out of my uterus! I've been married 8yrs this September and I have a 2yo DS... I don't know that we will have another child after this one but it's not like I haven't had plenty of success with contraceptives.
I'm just annoyed with everyone telling me I need to have a girl, I should have a girl, praying for a girl, etc. Just because I have a boy doesn't mean I need a girl. My family will be just as great if I have another boy. I don't care what I have so why the hell does everyone else? Get out of my uterus!!
I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
Haha I have two boys and most people's initial response have been "you better have a girl!" What is wrong with people?!
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I'm just annoyed with everyone telling me I need to have a girl, I should have a girl, praying for a girl, etc. Just because I have a boy doesn't mean I need a girl. My family will be just as great if I have another boy. I don't care what I have so why the hell does everyone else? Get out of my uterus!!
I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
Haha I have two boys and most people's initial response have been "you better have a girl!" What is wrong with people?!
My DH has 2 boys and we have 2 boys together so you can imagine all the "Its a girl, it has to be a girl." We actually would love to have another boy. Can you imagine the looks and comments we may get after telling everyone we are team green? Muahahahaha.
I'm just annoyed with everyone telling me I need to have a girl, I should have a girl, praying for a girl, etc. Just because I have a boy doesn't mean I need a girl. My family will be just as great if I have another boy. I don't care what I have so why the hell does everyone else? Get out of my uterus!!
I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
Haha I have two boys and most people's initial response have been "you better have a girl!" What is wrong with people?!
The first thing my mil said was "what if it's another boy???" (We have twin boys). I was like " then it's another boy! So what?" I'd love to have a girl next but who also love to add another boy to the mix! She also said "what if it's twins again?? Cause we definitely don't want that!!" I said "well actually we wouldn't mind twins again...but ok".
My least fave reaction is when people say "The cat's finally out of the bag!" Or "now I don't have to keep a secret anymore!" Like they're bragging to everyone that they were in the inner circle and knew before everyone else did. So obnoxious.
We did a Facebook announcement yesterday and my SIL shared it saying she didn't have to keep the secret anymore. My first thought was, um you didn't.... Two days after we told our families I went to a BBQ at her house and everyone there, most I have no idea who they were, were coming up to me congratulating us.
We told family & friends yesterday. My partners Mum & Step Dad straight up said 'what couldn't you wait until after the wedding?' Which is in October. But we have been trying for well over 2 years. Then my sister in law said 'yeah Corey rang me, he was so happy. He's never been that happy when iv been pregaz!' Corey is my older brother & i have been extatic for her with every one of her pregnancies and they were all accidents! Just feeling a bit crap today & want to cry even though everyone else was happy for us those 2 reactions have really hurt me.
I'm getting married in September. I told my grandmother, who I am incredibly close with, by showing her the ultrasound and all she could talk about was the dress. It completely shattered me. We stopped protecting 2 years ago because my biggest fear was my children never meeting my grandparents. But omg let's worry about the silly $700 dress fitting...
My DH and I told his mom the name we picked out and she said "really? You're picking a black name for your baby?" The name we chose is Levon (pronounced Lee-Von), which DH I don't feel is a black name, but I just felt so mad that she said it with such disgust. So I came back and said "Well it's not a David or Lauren" which are the names of her kids. The topic changed after that...
With our first everyone was really happy and supportive. With our second, we found out early and shortly after SIL announced her pregnancy. We were at a joint family gathering so both our parents were in the room when we said "DD was going to be a big sister"(she was 9 months old at the time- 16 months apart) his parents were pretty quiet, my brother was excited to be an uncle again, and we had to repeat it for my mom who was over the moon, my dad was happy too.
With this one we want to wait awhile before telling anyone. My best friend knows, she was visiting when we found out. SIL is pregnant again too so we really Don't want to announce quite yet. We live away from our families so I thought it would be easy to hide, except I'm visiting home for awhile and I am sooooooo bloated! I've had to lie to my mom and skirt the issue! Still a little early to share with everyone anyway. 8w1d for me.
I am a FTM, I've been withDH for ten years, we make a good living. When I told my mother and this would be her first grandchild. She kept saying over over this is going to be a big change and you are going to have to limit the things you do on the weekends now, and it's horrible that there is no family to rely on within 3 hours. Ugh only negative things !! I know it's a big change, don't tell me how to raise my child, and good I don't want your negativity around my child, our friends are more supportive than our family!
I've definitely noticed people are not as excited about the second as they are the first. I almost feel embarrassed telling people because they have a tendency to have a reaction that implies that I did something wrong by having a second child. ...and I'm in a healthy marriage with the means to support my children and my first child will be almost 2.5 when the baby comes along. I don't get it. I think every new addition should be celebrated.
So all you 2x+ mommas, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Soooo exciting!!! What a wonderful joy to come to your lives.
I miscarried in April right before the second trimester and very shortly after we had announced. We told our families about our loss, but pretty much just never mentioned anything on Facebook or to the public. We figured they'd work it out or ask us themselves.
I now dread the reactions this time simply because at best everyone will be underwhelmed and at worst I will have to explain our loss to those incapable of reading between the lines and it's still painful
Oh, I bought a hpt today (because I am crazy and wanted the reassurance)and the kid at the cash register said "bummer" as he checked me out. I'm in my early twenties, but I figured the fairly large rock on my ring finger would signal this so not being a, "bummer". Stupid people.
I'm sorry about the crappy responses, but I think it's great! My brother and I are 18 months apart and we had so much fun growing up and were close enough in age to always be able to entertain ourselves. We were only a grade apart in school and we still share the same pool of friends and are really close. I'd love to have the same timing with my family. Consider yourself lucky, even if your family thinks otherwise!
I don't think most people will be "underwhelmed" so much as sorry for you and maybe some people who haven't been through it will be confused and ask, "Wait, didn't you just announce this a few months ago?" I don't think you are crazy for buying more HPT tests--I took another one yesterday even though I am clearly having symptoms.
Announcing after a MC where you had already announced is painful no matter how you cut it. I'm so sorry you have to go through this awkwardness. Just try to remain positive. There is absolutely no reason for you to be ashamed of your loss. It happens to so many parents.
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People can be so distastefully rude. I find it insane that when you get pregnant people just think it's THEIR life and feel the right to judge the choices you make. I'm a grown 28-year old woman with a supportive husband, we are financially stable and both employed...I think I'm capable of choosing to have children when I please. When we first found out, I was afraid to tell my dad. So my mom broke the news to him - his response was..."they do what they want..." Like, yes, of course I do what I want - I pay my own way in life and am in love with a great man whom I wanted to start a family with. How dare I.
We haven't told anyone yet, not even the kids (I'll be 10 weeks tomorrow). We have been married for almost 11 years now and have an 8yr old boy and an almost 5yr old girl. I really want everyone to know, but I am also dreading telling people. It's weird because I almost have a feeling of embarrassment, lol. To make it worse, my mom and dad both recently said we should have another one, and then a week later my mom asked if we ever would have another. I had to lie and play it off, lol, I wasn't ready to tell them at that point. We had been trying for a little over a year and a half before getting pregnant this time (our first two, we got pregnant within the first 1-2 months of trying), and so I kind of feel like I want to keep this our little secret for a while longer...
Anyone else have a weird "embarrassed" feeling about telling people? It's really weird!
Yes Mrs.Aaron! Reactions were a little less than stellar with our second so I have no idea how this one will go over. SIL is pregnant with her 2nd and unmarried, uneducated, pretty much the opposite of her brother (my husband and I) but I think we'll get the same reaction she got... although I don't know what the reaction was for her.
We have 2 daughters that are just under a year and a half apart. This one will be almost 2.5 years younger than our 2nd. I just have a bit of dread when I think about telling our families.
I'm just annoyed with everyone telling me I need to have a girl, I should have a girl, praying for a girl, etc. Just because I have a boy doesn't mean I need a girl. My family will be just as great if I have another boy. I don't care what I have so why the hell does everyone else? Get out of my uterus!!
I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
Everyone is telling me the opposite, I already am mad at my mil for pushing the boy thing and she doesn't even know we're expecting! She's been pushing the boy thing since we told her we were expecting last time
I am seriously annoyed at the "It'd better be a girl!" comments, too. UGHHHH. It'd better be a healthy baby, how about that? We have one son and he's fantastic so we'd love another! My mom literally comments on it every single time I see her (and that's several times a week). Lately it's been, "You haven't been as sick this time, I just KNOW it's a girl." EVERY TIME. I really want to lose my shit on her about it so she'll stop. Yes, I get it, you want a girl, you wish DS had been a girl (she's crazy about him but it's true), noted. I really can't do a damn thing about it. MIL mentions it a lot too, and my grandma did, and several of the friends I've told... STOP people! I'd love a girl eventually (we want more kids), because I'd like to have the experience of parenting each at some point, but I don't care if this one is and it bothers me that everyone else does. I am kind of secretly hoping for a boy just to spite people.
Just lurking here, but I'm sorry for everyone who's had negative responses. Can't believe the nerve on some people. Especially the cashier going 'bummer'. Excuse you!? How is it in any way your place to comment on someone buying a HPT?
Because I'm only 19 when I told people I was pregnant everyone was like but bc could have prevented this! Being a young mother is hard and teenage relationships never last.
I dreaded telling people and wasn't even excited about being pregnant until I told my bff and she screeched with joy
thankfully his dad and my mom are both really excited and my dad and his mom seem okay with it, at least they haven't said anything bad about it.
Also I'm engaged to the baby's father and we were planning the wedding for next May but are now going to wait
We haven't told our families yet but I work in a hospital and can't work with some of the pts when pregnant to have had to tell people pretty early when things like that come up. Right after I got pregnant I had to tell a couple people that I thought I was pregnant so couldn't work with someone and one lady that I had never even seen in my life just looked at me appalled and said 'oh no, I hope you aren't really pregnant!' And then asked if my boyfriend was ok with it and what was I going to do? Well first of all, I have am 27 and have been married for 4 years, have a 2 1/2 year old, and we are super excited about having another one...I think we'll keep it.
Congrats to all you pregnant mothers! It's exciting no matter what number it is and no one has the right to judge you. Enjoy every moment!
I'm pgal, I've lost 2 babies this past year and I'm 10w now. I told my boss and she told me "omg you're getting on birth control after this one, right??"
I'm pgal, I've lost 2 babies this past year and I'm 10w now. I told my boss and she told me "omg you're getting on birth control after this one, right??"
What is wrong with people?? What business is it of hers if you want 5 more? Other than the maternity leave I suppose!
@HBirdie everyone in my H's fam does the same but with wanting a boy. They're almost so sure it's a boy they want to send me things meant for a boy. Every time they say "hoping for a boy" I respond "healthy baby!".
I'm pgal, I've lost 2 babies this past year and I'm 10w now. I told my boss and she told me "omg you're getting on birth control after this one, right??"
What is wrong with people?? What business is it of hers if you want 5 more? Other than the maternity leave I suppose!
I have no idea, i thought it was very rude of her, but she isn't the most professional manager there is.. since I'm in college still i have only been working part time for her, it'll be my 4th year there this year. So i won't get "maternity leave" she will let me take off for sure though, also, her daughter is 2 years younger than me and due in december. I just don't understand some people and their rude comments.
My boss is known for blurting out the first thing that pops into his head, and the first thing he said was, "on purpose???" I said, "Yes, I was intentionally having unprotected sex with my husband." We have a pretty laid back environment, and i'm in a position where i can occasionally put him in his place or call out inappropriateness.... but I feel like anyone asking that question is inviting themselves into my bedroom.
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I will say that the stubborn side of me really hopes it's a boy. :P
I just smiled. I wanted to say well losing baby #2 last year was horrible. We've been trying for a year. I couldn't be happier. (When is the perfect time anyway?).
My boss asked me if we were ready for kids- um, well we weren't specifically trying but I'm already pregnant so it's a little late now to be ready or not ready don't you think?! Whoever is actually "ready" anyway?! We feel fortunate that we were able to conceive, versus some people who try and just can't. We consider this a blessing!
Other people have asked me "how did that happen?"
My MIL kept asking if we were playing a joke. Ummmm no, we're a little more mature than playing fake ultrasound jokes with people. I got the "but you're not married yet" line.
My grandfather even said well I'm not really happy for you, I just hope it all works out for you two and we are excited for another great grandchild. Wait, you're not happy but you're excited.... Umm ok ??
Seriously, why does everyone feel the need to interject their stupid comments and opinions and not just say congratulations?!?!
Woah, get your nose out of my uterus! I've been married 8yrs this September and I have a 2yo DS... I don't know that we will have another child after this one but it's not like I haven't had plenty of success with contraceptives.
Sorry, some people have no filter.
Haha I have two boys and most people's initial response have been "you better have a girl!" What is wrong with people?!
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With this one we want to wait awhile before telling anyone. My best friend knows, she was visiting when we found out. SIL is pregnant again too so we really Don't want to announce quite yet. We live away from our families so I thought it would be easy to hide, except I'm visiting home for awhile and I am sooooooo bloated! I've had to lie to my mom and skirt the issue! Still a little early to share with everyone anyway. 8w1d for me.
...and I'm in a healthy marriage with the means to support my children and my first child will be almost 2.5 when the baby comes along.
I don't get it. I think every new addition should be celebrated.
So all you 2x+ mommas, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Soooo exciting!!! What a wonderful joy to come to your lives.
I now dread the reactions this time simply because at best everyone will be underwhelmed and at worst I will have to explain our loss to those incapable of reading between the lines and it's still painful
Oh, I bought a hpt today (because I am crazy and wanted the reassurance)and the kid at the cash register said "bummer" as he checked me out. I'm in my early twenties, but I figured the fairly large rock on my ring finger would signal this so not being a, "bummer". Stupid people.
We have been married for almost 11 years now and have an 8yr old boy and an almost 5yr old girl.
I really want everyone to know, but I am also dreading telling people. It's weird because I almost have a feeling of embarrassment, lol.
To make it worse, my mom and dad both recently said we should have another one, and then a week later my mom asked if we ever would have another. I had to lie and play it off, lol, I wasn't ready to tell them at that point.
We had been trying for a little over a year and a half before getting pregnant this time (our first two, we got pregnant within the first 1-2 months of trying), and so I kind of feel like I want to keep this our little secret for a while longer...
Anyone else have a weird "embarrassed" feeling about telling people? It's really weird!
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We have 2 daughters that are just under a year and a half apart. This one will be almost 2.5 years younger than our 2nd. I just have a bit of dread when I think about telling our families.
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I dreaded telling people and wasn't even excited about being pregnant until I told my bff and she screeched with joy
thankfully his dad and my mom are both really excited and my dad and his mom seem okay with it, at least they haven't said anything bad about it.
Also I'm engaged to the baby's father and we were planning the wedding for next May but are now going to wait
Congrats to all you pregnant mothers! It's exciting no matter what number it is and no one has the right to judge you. Enjoy every moment!
Every time they say "hoping for a boy" I respond "healthy baby!".
I said, "Yes, I was intentionally having unprotected sex with my husband."
We have a pretty laid back environment, and i'm in a position where i can occasionally put him in his place or call out inappropriateness.... but I feel like anyone asking that question is inviting themselves into my bedroom.