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greenhillgirl
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Advice on whether to wait or try?
greenhillgirl
member
Hi,
I'm new here but have looked around a lot. I'd like your thoughts on whether we should ttc now or wait a bit. We were married 2 months ago and have been together a couple of years. We were friends first. He's super supportive and always makes me laugh. I am almost 30 but he is 44. When we got serious we discussed children and he got a second chance after thinking he would never have them. I knew his age would move my timeline up and was okay with that, knowing he would be the father
We live in NYC and have the miraculous low rent, good jobs, great benefits, and family friendly area. But no family.
I just had a phone interview for a job down South an hour from my parents and am waiting to hear if I have an in person interview. We had just bought a basil thermometer and I was learning how to chart. He has been ready since I moved in with him and I now feel ready too. I want to try NOW.
But what about this rare job? What if we wait and it's never the perfect time or we can't get pregnant? What if that insurance sucks or he can't find something there for 6 months or our place is too small? If we start now he will be 45 when our first is born. Am I wrong to feel like we're running out of time?
I'm new here but have looked around a lot. I'd like your thoughts on whether we should ttc now or wait a bit. We were married 2 months ago and have been together a couple of years. We were friends first. He's super supportive and always makes me laugh. I am almost 30 but he is 44. When we got serious we discussed children and he got a second chance after thinking he would never have them. I knew his age would move my timeline up and was okay with that, knowing he would be the father
We live in NYC and have the miraculous low rent, good jobs, great benefits, and family friendly area. But no family.
I just had a phone interview for a job down South an hour from my parents and am waiting to hear if I have an in person interview. We had just bought a basil thermometer and I was learning how to chart. He has been ready since I moved in with him and I now feel ready too. I want to try NOW.
But what about this rare job? What if we wait and it's never the perfect time or we can't get pregnant? What if that insurance sucks or he can't find something there for 6 months or our place is too small? If we start now he will be 45 when our first is born. Am I wrong to feel like we're running out of time?
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mkc3888 member
I just started a new job and we are waiting until I have been there for 3 months to start trying, however DH and I are both 27. I don't think anyone can really answer this for you. It's just something you have to weigh the pros and cons and see what you are willing and able to do. I don't believe there is ever a perfect time either. There will always be things that can be better. I guess the question is would you be happy if you would get pregnant very soon and be planning a move and starting a new job? Would you be happy if things stayed the same with your job and living situation? Would you regret not trying sooner if you were not able to conceive within a year? All things to consider.Edited: for spelling - Loading the player...
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HookEmNelson member
If this job is what you and your husband want and you know it will better your family in the future, I say go for it. Definitely make sure you have a grace period before TTC if that's the route you go. It does sound like you have it nice where y'all are though.
Communicate with your husband as much as possible, talk about all scenarios with him and how you feel. We can have all the advice in the world, but this is your ultimate decision as a couple.
Good luck, friend! Keep us updated!
Re: Advice on whether to wait or try?
I think we realized priority #1 for us is having a first child and we are lucky enough to be able to make it work here in New York. I do worry about not having family here, but we have a lot else going for us.
Tonight is my first day not taking the pill in 15 years, as I started on it to control heavy AF, etc. As soon as my period stops I'm going to start charting. I'm taking vitamins and being as healthy as possible. We are so excited!!!