I'm a cake decorator. We get some pretty weird requests from customers. Something that is actually pretty common though is baby shower cakes with edible images of an US on it. That's all fine and dandy, but a lot of people chose the penis or vag shot where the tech wrote in boy or girl.
Isn't it a bit weird to bite into a cake that has a picture of your baby's genitals plastered on it? I loooove doing baby shower cakes but out of all the adorable things to do why that? If you tell us it's a boy we will believe you, we don't need the visual proof on our dessert!
I'm a cake decorator. We get some pretty weird requests from customers. Something that is actually pretty common though is baby shower cakes with edible images of an US on it. That's all fine and dandy, but a lot of people chose the penis or vag shot where the tech wrote in boy or girl.
Isn't it a bit weird to bite into a cake that has a picture of your baby's genitals plastered on it? I loooove doing baby shower cakes but out of all the adorable things to do why that? If you tell us it's a boy we will believe you, we don't need the visual proof on our dessert!
I think the ones that look like babies or pregnant women are so creepy. I don't want to bite into something that looks real!!! I mean props to the decorator for their amazing talent but it just creeps me out!
I'm a cake decorator. We get some pretty weird requests from customers. Something that is actually pretty common though is baby shower cakes with edible images of an US on it. That's all fine and dandy, but a lot of people chose the penis or vag shot where the tech wrote in boy or girl.
Isn't it a bit weird to bite into a cake that has a picture of your baby's genitals plastered on it? I loooove doing baby shower cakes but out of all the adorable things to do why that? If you tell us it's a boy we will believe you, we don't need the visual proof on our dessert!
I think the ones that look like babies or pregnant women are so creepy. I don't want to bite into something that looks real!!! I mean props to the decorator for their amazing talent but it just creeps me out!
I totally agree! Can you imagine cutting into one of those pregnant belly cakes? I know I'm a squeemish person but yikes! I've also seen some online where the cake depicts the actual childbirth... I mean, come on.
I really hate that people think of blue as a boys only color. They think that just because I'm including light blue in my gender neutral nursery that I'm secretly hoping for a boy. Um no! I'm a girl and I like blue. I see no reason for this stupid stereotype.
When I was younger (before I started school and people told me I was "wrong) I thought blue was a girls color and reds were boy colors because 101 Dalmatians was my favorite movie and Pongo had a red collar and Perdita had a blue collar. So, that is what I thought. Some girl told me I was "dumb" because I didn't know blue was for boys. Stupid Pre-K girl! What does she know. :P I still love blue, too.
I used to pierce ears and I enjoyed doing it on the babies the most. They'd be still while I made even dots. They'd sit still while I held the gun up to their ear. Cry for literally two seconds. Bottle. Repeat.
It's no worse than getting a shot and if you want to be in charge of cleaning the ears and avoiding infection than I would recommend it to anyone. Hands down. Depending on the girl and her age - she might not being taking proper care of them.
Guess this will be my UO
Edit: I'm not a sadist or anything weird. I was nervous before piercing my first baby. The reason why I liked it the most was A. Babies. B. I didn't have to worry about a huge meltdown.
@mrss128 blue is and has been for as long as I can remember my favorite color.
@aphilli8 I agree. Even some of my friends I hear them talk and can't believe it. But I am very close with my MIL. As you said sometimes it is justified but sometimes I just the the poster/my friend sounds like a brat. If you wan to hear a nice MIL story I have one. Yesterday she stopped by on her way to work in the morning, while we were all sleeping, and delivered donuts. She does this every now and then. She got one of each of our favorites, with a few to spare. Isn't she amazing!
I really hate that people think of blue as a boys only color. They think that just because I'm including light blue in my gender neutral nursery that I'm secretly hoping for a boy. Um no! I'm a girl and I like blue. I see no reason for this stupid stereotype.
When I was younger (before I started school and people told me I was "wrong) I thought blue was a girls color and reds were boy colors because 101 Dalmatians was my favorite movie and Pongo had a red collar and Perdita had a blue collar. So, that is what I thought. Some girl told me I was "dumb" because I didn't know blue was for boys. Stupid Pre-K girl! What does she know. :P I still love blue, too.
That actually used to be true. Red was considered a royal color for kings. So you were totally right. ;-)
I kinda see showers as a celebration of the baby to be born. A friend of mine had a big shower for her first girl and for her second, she had a diaper and wipes shower which I think is totally fine. I still got her some new outfits because baby girl clothes are too cute to resist. But I think something like that is fine. Each baby is a blessing. I can also see doing another if you get the opposite gender. But I don't think you should go register for a whole new nursery and toys and all of that. Unless, as someone said, it's been quite a bit of time and you don't have a lot of stuff anymore. (Hmm....didn't think I had that many opinions on baby showers....)
Not sure how unpopular this is but: not everyone is meant to be on social media. If you are at a place in your life where friends good news is upsetting to you, it might be time to back away from FB. Yes, there are things in life you will never have. But there are things in your life that you have and others don't. That is just life. And just because something is a blessing that doesn't mean there aren't really crappy parts to it. I'm thrilled to be pregnant. That does not make puking until I'm so dehydrated I almost have to go to the hospital a good time. And I have every right to complain about the crappy parts. It doesn't mean I'm ungrateful. It means I'm human and honest. End of rant.
I hate the idea of second showers. The shower is not to celebrate the baby but like pp said, to welcome a woman into motherhood. After your first baby, you are already a mother! It is definitely just a money grab whether it is big or small or just for diapers and wipes. And I'm sorry, but it's silly to think that children are going to get upset because you had a shower with one pregnancy and not the others. Also the whole "well this time I'm having a different sex" what about people that are always team green? You deserve a second shower because you found out what you're having and now you need gender specific stuff? Sorry, this really rattles me. The only way I find this acceptable is if it's been a really long time between kids. If you had a shower 8 years ago but a child every couple of years, then no, you don't deserve a 2nd shower. Geez, we wonder why kids are so entitled when as adults, we expect a party for every single pregnancy. Sorry, I don't mean to insult anyone but I guess that's my UO today!
Ha, I knew it was an unpopular opinion when I posted it to the unpopular opinion thread.. I see those headbands all the time so I figured I would be in the minority. I understand that for a lot of moms, the big bows look adorable and also help when you are constantly asked if your baby is a boy/girl. Bu, in my (unpopular) opinion, a baby is a baby and I don't think they really care about "being cute" or looking "like a girl."
I haven't really thought about the ear piercing until now. I was seven when mine were done, and it was something I really wanted. I guess I would just wait until my girl was old enough to ask for them. My cousin didn't have her ears pierced until she was 16, by her choice. Some girls might not want them pierced at all. I guess I just feel uncomfortable with forcing babies to adhere to my definition of cute and girly before they are able to express their own opinions.
Ha, I knew it was an unpopular opinion when I posted it to the unpopular opinion thread.. I see those headbands all the time so I figured I would be in the minority. I understand that for a lot of moms, the big bows look adorable and also help when you are constantly asked if your baby is a boy/girl. Bu, in my (unpopular) opinion, a baby is a baby and I don't think they really care about "being cute" or looking "like a girl."
I haven't really thought about the ear piercing until now. I was seven when mine were done, and it was something I really wanted. I guess I would just wait until my girl was old enough to ask for them. My cousin didn't have her ears pierced until she was 16, by her choice. Some girls might not want them pierced at all. I guess I just feel uncomfortable with forcing babies to adhere to my definition of cute and girly before they are able to express their own opinions.
My parents did the same thing with ear piercing and you hit the nail on the head with why I want to wait on that, nail painting, etc- I don't EVER want my baby to feel like she needs anything to make her pretty. She's gorgeous au naturale!
I agree about the whole more then one shower thing. My mom had a shower for my sister, the first child, and my brother, the baby because they planned on being done and gave everything away. But her friends did it as a surprise. My feeling have never been hurt that there wasn't a shower for me and I don't think my other brother cared that there wasn't a shower for him. I know about it because there were pictures in their baby books.
Ha, I knew it was an unpopular opinion when I posted it to the unpopular opinion thread.. I see those headbands all the time so I figured I would be in the minority. I understand that for a lot of moms, the big bows look adorable and also help when you are constantly asked if your baby is a boy/girl. Bu, in my (unpopular) opinion, a baby is a baby and I don't think they really care about "being cute" or looking "like a girl."
I haven't really thought about the ear piercing until now. I was seven when mine were done, and it was something I really wanted. I guess I would just wait until my girl was old enough to ask for them. My cousin didn't have her ears pierced until she was 16, by her choice. Some girls might not want them pierced at all. I guess I just feel uncomfortable with forcing babies to adhere to my definition of cute and girly before they are able to express their own opinions.
My parents did the same thing with ear piercing and you hit the nail on the head with why I want to wait on that, nail painting, etc- I don't EVER want my baby to feel like she needs anything to make her pretty. She's gorgeous au naturale!
DD doesn't have her ears pierced, doesn't have much hair, and won't leave clips or headbands on. Even when she wears pink people think she's a boy. One time a man mistook her for a boy and then told me we ought to dress her more girly so people can tell. WTF. Sorry, but I have no intention of dressing my kid for other people, EVER.
I'm having a baby shower for my first baby and all the other babys after that. Keeping in mind this will be my only baby out of me and then my SO Will have one out of her but I find it odd that Ppl only have one. Wouldn't it be a mother shower if it was celebrating becoming a mother.... It's a baby shower to celebrate e the coming of that new life. Each baby different life. That's how I see it. Hmmm anywho. I've never thought about piercing my daughters ears when she was a baby, but I will talk to SO Abt it I don't have anything against it. I also love saying we are pregnant cause I can.
Just my own personal opinion on ear piercing... My mom pierced mine when I was 6 weeks old. I don't remember a thing. I never had to deal with making sure I cleaned them so they didn't get infected because my mom did. I can also take my earrings out for years if I want, and not worry about them closing up. I can't do that with the more recent ones I had, and taking care of them is a pain in the butt (I've had 4 more sets of ear piercings since then) and it was just so much more of a hassle as I got older. That being said, I totally understand the thought of not wanting to do it until a child asks... Luckily I *like* my ears being pierced, but I imagine there are little girls or boys out there who hate that their parents pierced their ears, and now they have these permanent holes that won't close up. So idk. I see both sides I guess
Oh I have one.
I hope I have all girls, only because I don't want to have to deal with a daughter-in-law.
I've seen it so often on Internet forums, this one, my last BMB, another forum I used to frequent, etc. That I can't help but think it's the norm rather than the exception. I'm seriously baffled by some things that people find bitch worthy when it comes to MIL's. Are some warranted? Of course. But I think most of the time the "bitchee" is being the drama llama.
I think it's all in how you raise your son to pick someone good. My MIL had 3 boys until she finally adopted with their 4th and got the girl she'd always wanted. She now has 2 adoring DILs. My MIL is amazing and I'm closer to her than I am my (somewhat crazy) mom. Seriously. They come on vacation with us, they come up to visit, we go down there, and we always have such a great time. I share my ups and downs with her and she's always supportive. I just love her to pieces! She was in the room when we found out the sex with DS (her first grandchild) and she was in the room when he was born. A lot of my friends and family dearly love their MILs, too. So you could really GAIN a daughter if you have a son...it'll just take 20-30 years!
My UO: People who talk about their pets or furbabies as if they were human babies and proceed to compare their furbabies to human babies,namely mine. Usually these are people who don't have kids and it's like 'okay I get it you just want to relate and keep the conversation going; but your dog is not a person and my child is not a dog please stop.'
I hope this isn't a UO, but I'm surprised at the lack of Internet safety a lot of people have on this BMB. The Internet is a scary place and it shocks me that people are happily posting personal information (email address, u/s pictures with their full name and hospital on it, first and last names as usernames, half naked "bump" pictures, etc..) you never know who is on the other side of the computer screen
I hope this isn't a UO, but I'm surprised at the lack of Internet safety a lot of people have on this BMB. The Internet is a scary place and it shocks me that people are happily posting personal information (email address, u/s pictures with their full name and hospital on it, first and last names as usernames, half naked "bump" pictures, etc..) you never know who is on the other side of the computer screen
I had an account with the knot but didn't post anything on the boards and when I joined my last BMB, I wanted to post but my username was my first and last name. I ended up adding a new profile with a different email address to try and stay anonymous! I do agree that we all need to be a little safer online! Especially all those ultrasound pics!!
I hope this isn't a UO, but I'm surprised at the lack of Internet safety a lot of people have on this BMB. The Internet is a scary place and it shocks me that people are happily posting personal information (email address, u/s pictures with their full name and hospital on it, first and last names as usernames, half naked "bump" pictures, etc..) you never know who is on the other side of the computer screen
I had an account with the knot but didn't post anything on the boards and when I joined my last BMB, I wanted to post but my username was my first and last name. I ended up adding a new profile with a different email address to try and stay anonymous! I do agree that we all need to be a little safer online! Especially all those ultrasound pics!!
My first account on TB was my first name and some numbers. I didn't think anything of it until I lurked on TTGP and they talked about people using the same username for different things and it all popping up when they googled it. I realized that if you googled my original bump name, it brought up my Facebook, YouTube account, Instagram, Pinterest, etc. it was freaky how easy all of my stuff was accessible, even though I had privacy settings in place. I quickly changed the names on some of those accounts and switched my bump name to something else
I was so careful when I posted my first US shot to cut off my details. Then I posted my announcement pics and was completely blind to the fact that one of them had a very clear shot of my details. Oops! I realized it afterwards and also had a user PM me to kindly let me know. I was so appreciative that she cared enough to look out for me like that. I agree that it's so important to remind people about these things!
I have something to add. I know some ppl love their mils and some hate their mils but I don't even have one. My SOs mom died when she was 5 years old and it makes me so sad for her she is strong and okay with it now of course but I wish I could've met this woman that made the love of life and thank her... That's all
Not baby related but my uo is.... If you felt sick/hurt your finger 3 weeks ago, no you do not need to come to ED! There are GP's for that! Do you really think I want to stop saving the seriously ill people's lives to look at your little finger?? And to think this is just the beginning of pregnancy hormones! Unless your finger is obviously broken/deformed or half cut off, I don't want to know about it!
@cawalp I'll admit it. I want a boy. I always grew up wanting a boy first because I loved having a big brother. That doesn't make me a bad mom. I would choose a healthy child over anything. I'm right there with ya!
@mrss128 I already painting a wall navy blue in the nursery. We're doing an ocean theme so we're all considering navy as a neutral. I love colors and don't see the need to gender assign them at all.
I'm a cake decorator. We get some pretty weird requests from customers. Something that is actually pretty common though is baby shower cakes with edible images of an US on it. That's all fine and dandy, but a lot of people chose the penis or vag shot where the tech wrote in boy or girl.
Isn't it a bit weird to bite into a cake that has a picture of your baby's genitals plastered on it? I loooove doing baby shower cakes but out of all the adorable things to do why that? If you tell us it's a boy we will believe you, we don't need the visual proof on our dessert!
I think the ones that look like babies or pregnant women are so creepy. I don't want to bite into something that looks real!!! I mean props to the decorator for their amazing talent but it just creeps me out!
I totally agree! Can you imagine cutting into one of those pregnant belly cakes? I know I'm a squeemish person but yikes! I've also seen some online where the cake depicts the actual childbirth... I mean, come on.
My u/o is that I WANT one of those weird awkward wrong baby shower cakes AND a baby shower even though this is my third. NO ONE -not my mom, not my best friend, not my coworkers -offered to throw me a shower with my boys and I was told I couldn't throw my own. My best friend offered to throw me one this time and I want the tackiest gaudiest shower I can get.
My UO: People who talk about their pets or furbabies as if they were human babies and proceed to compare their furbabies to human babies,namely mine. Usually these are people who don't have kids and it's like 'okay I get it you just want to relate and keep the conversation going; but your dog is not a person and my child is not a dog please stop.'
Yes they are different.
Maybe, just maybe, have you considered if someone is desperate enough to get a word in during a conversation with you that she compares her dog to your baby, that you are probably being incredibly boring by how much you talk about your baby? There's only so many times I can listen to stories about the consistency of your baby's poop and how "advanced" they are for 6 months. :-$
I've been waiting for this since Tuesday!!
My uo is that pigs are seriously not cute, and no one should want them as a pet. I hate seeing fb posts of baby pig pictures and girls saying, "aww I want one!" I mean yuck! They're dirty and stinky. And yummy. So no, no pet pigs, and if I see you walking one I will laugh at you.
Just to explain, my dd has been watching a lot of peppa pig. I think I have some serious deep seeded hatred of that damn pig to work on.
Oh no I love Peppa Pig Embrace the piggy lol yes! pigs are trainable .. and even more intelligent than dogs!
Regarding "we're pregnant" or "we're 12 weeks"... I totally understand how it's ME that's pregnant but I've started changing how I say things so it includes my fiancé. I can only imagine how weird it is for them to feel included in this pregnancy when literally all they can do is "try" and be awesome and supportive. I feel like chatting with people about the baby brings so much joy to my fiancé that it allows him to feel connected to the pregnancy. So rather than saying "we're pregnant" we have been saying "we are going to be a mommy and daddy" or "our baby is due 1/15"....etc.
My UO is even though I'm PGAL I think what has gotten me emotionally through this pregnancy is trying not to focus on being PGAL. Don't get me wrong, the support groups are fantastic and quite necessary, even for me at points. But, I felt like I was on the verge of driving myself nuts so I just decided to stop thinking about my loss and believing that there was no reason this pregnancy should go wrong.
@Paigeyferd THANK YOU for clarifying what u/o means! I have never been a forum/chat-thingy/internet person prior to being pregnant. (I'm not even sure if I tagged you correctly in order to respond to your post!) There are so many damn abbreviations in these threads! I still haven't figured out DD and DH. I guess that's my U/O!
My unpopular opinion is that it Really irks me when I tell people that I'm team green and they say "so long as it's healthy right?" Of course everyone wants a healthy baby and of course I cross my fingers that my baby will be healthy but if not, our baby won't be any less loved or taken care of!
I really hate that people think of blue as a boys only color. They think that just because I'm including light blue in my gender neutral nursery that I'm secretly hoping for a boy. Um no! I'm a girl and I like blue. I see no reason for this stupid stereotype.
My mom gave me a funny look when I said I wanted to paint the baby room blue. Then I clarified: "for the ocean animals theme! It doesn't matter if it's a boy or girl. The ocean is blue." And then she came around and accepted it.
@l4rk We are painting our walls a muted blue. They have to be painted before the new carpet goes in and I decided blue. I got a bit of a side eye at first, but I plan on blue and coral if a girl or blue and gray if a boy.
I hate newborn photo shoots where the kid is dressed up as a bear and stuck in a bucket...or similar. Full disclosure, I had a newborn photoshoot with my daughter on a blanket, but the ones where they baby is distorted into a position and put into a costume while they sleep...not my thing. More power to you if that's you're thing, but I've never gotten the appeal.
DD born 6/14/13
MC Nov 2014
BFP on Mother's Day EDD 1/6/16
In my country all baby girls get their ears pierced at the Hospital. My genius dad went bananas and prevented me and my sister from being "punctured" when newborns.
In my opinion: worst choice ever. As a girl I wanted earrings so bad but I didnt have the guts to pierce until 10. Again: worst choice ever. Massive pain that could've been avoided by being pierced as a babuly.
And my sister got it 1000 times worst. One ear wouldn't pierce and the nurse kept on pushing. Super trauma. Both her earring wholes closed 2 weeks later but 10 yrs later she still hates earrings and nurses.
My advice based on a painful personal experience: Do it at the Hospital while newborns. If they dont want to wear earrings the wholes close after some time.
I really hate that people think of blue as a boys only color. They think that just because I'm including light blue in my gender neutral nursery that I'm secretly hoping for a boy. Um no! I'm a girl and I like blue. I see no reason for this stupid stereotype.
When I was younger (before I started school and people told me I was "wrong) I thought blue was a girls color and reds were boy colors because 101 Dalmatians was my favorite movie and Pongo had a red collar and Perdita had a blue collar. So, that is what I thought. Some girl told me I was "dumb" because I didn't know blue was for boys. Stupid Pre-K girl! What does she know. :P I still love blue, too.
@lljbean@mrss128 Kindergarten teacher here...I hear this every day in my classroom! "I don't want the blue scissors...that's a boy color." "You can't use the pink crayon...pink is a girl color." I fight this stereotype every day! It drives me nuts! tell them from day one that I don't believe in boy colors or girl colors and you can like/use/dress in any color regardless of whether you're a boy or a girl. I'd like to think I'm making a difference so that future generations aren't telling each other they're dumb for not knowing that blue is a "boy color"! lol
Re: U/O Thursday!
Isn't it a bit weird to bite into a cake that has a picture of your baby's genitals plastered on it? I loooove doing baby shower cakes but out of all the adorable things to do why that? If you tell us it's a boy we will believe you, we don't need the visual proof on our dessert!
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
I also got her ears pierced at 3 months old. I think she looked adorable. And again, I'll repeat this with every daughter I have.
I used to pierce ears and I enjoyed doing it on the babies the most. They'd be still while I made even dots. They'd sit still while I held the gun up to their ear. Cry for literally two seconds. Bottle. Repeat.
It's no worse than getting a shot and if you want to be in charge of cleaning the ears and avoiding infection than I would recommend it to anyone. Hands down. Depending on the girl and her age - she might not being taking proper care of them.
Guess this will be my UO
Edit: I'm not a sadist or anything weird. I was nervous before piercing my first baby. The reason why I liked it the most was A. Babies. B. I didn't have to worry about a huge meltdown.
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
That actually used to be true. Red was considered a royal color for kings. So you were totally right. ;-)
I kinda see showers as a celebration of the baby to be born. A friend of mine had a big shower for her first girl and for her second, she had a diaper and wipes shower which I think is totally fine. I still got her some new outfits because baby girl clothes are too cute to resist. But I think something like that is fine. Each baby is a blessing. I can also see doing another if you get the opposite gender. But I don't think you should go register for a whole new nursery and toys and all of that. Unless, as someone said, it's been quite a bit of time and you don't have a lot of stuff anymore. (Hmm....didn't think I had that many opinions on baby showers....)
Not sure how unpopular this is but: not everyone is meant to be on social media. If you are at a place in your life where friends good news is upsetting to you, it might be time to back away from FB. Yes, there are things in life you will never have. But there are things in your life that you have and others don't. That is just life. And just because something is a blessing that doesn't mean there aren't really crappy parts to it. I'm thrilled to be pregnant. That does not make puking until I'm so dehydrated I almost have to go to the hospital a good time. And I have every right to complain about the crappy parts. It doesn't mean I'm ungrateful. It means I'm human and honest. End of rant.
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
My mom pierced mine when I was 6 weeks old. I don't remember a thing. I never had to deal with making sure I cleaned them so they didn't get infected because my mom did. I can also take my earrings out for years if I want, and not worry about them closing up. I can't do that with the more recent ones I had, and taking care of them is a pain in the butt (I've had 4 more sets of ear piercings since then) and it was just so much more of a hassle as I got older. That being said, I totally understand the thought of not wanting to do it until a child asks... Luckily I *like* my ears being pierced, but I imagine there are little girls or boys out there who hate that their parents pierced their ears, and now they have these permanent holes that won't close up. So idk. I see both sides I guess
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
@mrss128 I already painting a wall navy blue in the nursery. We're doing an ocean theme so we're all considering navy as a neutral. I love colors and don't see the need to gender assign them at all.
Maybe, just maybe, have you considered if someone is desperate enough to get a word in during a conversation with you that she compares her dog to your baby, that you are probably being incredibly boring by how much you talk about your baby? There's only so many times I can listen to stories about the consistency of your baby's poop and how "advanced" they are for 6 months. :-$
It's a color. A pretty color -.-!
In my country all baby girls get their ears pierced at the Hospital. My genius dad went bananas and prevented me and my sister from being "punctured" when newborns.
In my opinion: worst choice ever. As a girl I wanted earrings so bad but I didnt have the guts to pierce until 10. Again: worst choice ever. Massive pain that could've been avoided by being pierced as a babuly.
And my sister got it 1000 times worst. One ear wouldn't pierce and the nurse kept on pushing. Super trauma. Both her earring wholes closed 2 weeks later but 10 yrs later she still hates earrings and nurses.
My advice based on a painful personal experience: Do it at the Hospital while newborns. If they dont want to wear earrings the wholes close after some time.