Anyone have a glass a wine?

JoanneD210 · July 2015

Hi everyone. I haven't drank at all since being pregnant even though I know some nurses and docs have said an occasional glass of wine here or there will not hurt, especially in third trimester. We have a wedding tonight and was pondering a small glass but then have made it this far so what's another few months. Has anyone had an occasional glass of wine? Thoughts? Thx

LoveLee85 · July 2015

Hi! Honestly I have not. The thought of alcohol sounds disgusting!! Plus, I just wouldn't feel right. I know they say it doesn't hurt but if you are suppose to 'pump and dump' milk, how is drinking some while the baby is inside you a good idea?! Just my very honest opinion! I chose to be pregnant, and I'm more than capable of withstanding from things for 40 weeks. This is a very personal decision for most, I would think?

momofsweetps · July 2015

Nope. It just isn't worth it to me. I'd rather wait until baby is born.

PregNancyClark · July 2015

You know, I really don't have a problem with the recommendation that a little wine is ok, but each time my husband pours me a taste of his wine, I just don't really want it! I've sipped a bit this pregnancy- (I was too nervous last time to try even a drop!) but it's been so minimal! I just don't have a taste for it. What if you just allow yourself an ounce or two for the experience and see how you feel?

CaboBride2015 · July 2015

I have, but it didn't taste as good as I wanted it to. Also with everything else going on, a glass is not going to cut it for me. Lol!! I'm saving up all my needed cocktails for post arrival.

BeachBabe22 · July 2015

No. I have no problem abstaining from alcohol for ten months.

SydneyBxo · July 2015

I had a glass of red wine at a wedding back in May.. it was no more than 4 oz., so not a full 5 oz. glass. I drank it with my dinner & tasted great. I didn't feel any effects from it. I used to drink a glass or two a night before becoming pregnant, so I've always had a higher tolerance to wine. I haven't had any since, but I do plan to have a small glass tonight to celebrate the 4th. I have a friend whose dad is a doctor & when she was pregnant she had a glass of wine a week & he had no concerns at all. But it's to each their own!

KH7337 · July 2015

Also just a side note when you are nursing you don't need to pump and dump. You just have to wait the aloted time for the alcohol to be out of your blood stream. So if you have 1 glass of wine, or one beer you wait 1-2 hours to make sure that it's out of your system. This usually isn't possible in the first few months of your breastfeeding on demand, but I found it to be a waste to pump and dump if you can just wait the alcohol out.

dmland17 · July 2015

I've had about the equivalent of 2 glasses of wine over the length of my pregnancy. I usually take them as a half glass every few weeks. I occasionally have 2 or 3 sips of my husband's beer. He likes to try different craft ones and so I sample. I think the thing to remember is sparingly and in moderation when you do partake.

Peony1982 · July 2015

Now that I'm in third trimester, I have no problem with a small glass here and there. Especially since the POTENTIAL risk of MODERATE drinking at this point is lowered birth weight. I had a 10 lber the first time.

jmacd22 · July 2015

I haven't had any wine at all. I'm not too big on alcohol so I can wait until after baby. Went to a wedding last weekend and had Shirley temples and sparkling cider.

ForeverEverAfter · July 2015

I was told in 3rd tri that small servings that won't raise your blood alcohol are safe. So far I've had a sip or 2 of hubby's beer. We go on vacation next week though, and my SILs usually make some yummy summer drinks. I won't have a whole serving, but I'll definitely taste them.

Yiggle09 · July 2015

I've had 3 glasses since being pregnant. I make sure to nurse them over at least 2 hours. I think it's the sugar but baby boy dances after wine.

jwebbbber45678 · July 2015

Martinelli's sparking cider is a great substitute. It's tasting much better than alcohol to me, but is close to champagne. I was buying beer for my husband in the grocery store and I heard someone behind me mumbling about me being pregnant. I'm a very peaceful and passive person, but I wanted to turn around and punch her! Just because I'm buying it doesn't mean I'm drinking it! Ugh. I don't see anything wrong with having a glass here and there, personally it just doesn't taste good to me.

jenboston22 · July 2015

jweber4747 said:

Martinelli's sparking cider is a great substitute. It's tasting much better than alcohol to me, but is close to champagne. I was buying beer for my husband in the grocery store and I heard someone behind me mumbling about me being pregnant. I'm a very peaceful and passive person, but I wanted to turn around and punch her! Just because I'm buying it doesn't mean I'm drinking it! Ugh. I don't see anything wrong with having a glass here and there, personally it just doesn't taste good to me.

Grrr, I hate it when people feel like they have the right to judge us just because we're pregnant! It is still our body, and it's our baby.

LoveLee85 · July 2015

Found this website to be helpful regarding 'pumping and dumping'. It looks like it takes a LOT longer than I thought for alcohol to be completely out of the milk. I hear people 'pump and dump' because it's very painful to wait hours for the alcohol to pass. Just thought I would share!

La Leche League's The Breastfeeding Answer Book (pp. 597-598) says:

Alcohol passes freely into mother's milk and has been found to peak about 30 to 60 minutes after consumption, 60 to 90 minutes when taken with food. Alcohol also freely passes out of a mother's milk and her system. It takes a 120 pound woman about two to three hours to eliminate from her body the alcohol in one serving of beer or wine...the more alcohol that is consumed, the longer it takes for it to be eliminated. It takes up to 13 hours for a 120 pound woman to eliminate the alcohol from one high-alcohol drink. The effects of alcohol on the breastfeeding baby are directly related to the amount the mother consumes.

Source: www.llli.org

melliebellie81 · July 2015

I love my wine, but I haven't had a drop. Hubby is very paranoid, as this is our first. No alcohol, no raw dough lol.

We did redo an antique buffet a few weeks ago, and we got a tabletop wine rack to decorate it. My husband was paranoid that me walking around the liquor store would look bad, but it was fine. But I did feel the need to say "this wine is just for decoration right now!".

grannah · July 2015

I've had a glass at a wedding, birthday, a celebration and I had a small pimms today. Never more than one a week and plenty of weeks without. I don't see one as a problem. I've had sips but to be honest it's not tasting like it used to and it really hasn't bothered me at all and I loved a wine most nights!

samyberg81 · July 2015

There was a tasting in the grocery store yesterday and I did. It was the best tasting thing I've ever had. I'm sure that both of these wines were not something I'd drink normally but after 7 months it was wonderful!!! My doc said a glass a week is fine.

bnwillia3 · July 2015

I say go for it! There are many opinions on this subject - most of them quite strong - but from what I have found from my research one glass of wine is totally a-ok. My midwife has supported me in the occasional glass of wine to relax (I've had a grand total of five small glasses over the past 7 months). Don't get excessive, but feel free to treat yourself ESPECIALLY since you haven't had any and are in the 3rd trimester. Cheers!

Peony1982 · July 2015

I had one beer today over the course of two hours. It was awesome.

lsmom56 · July 2015

Setting aside the health issue, ask yourself if having the wine at the wedding is worth the amount of judgment you'll get from the other guests. Even if you don't feel that they are right to judge, you probably don't want to spend your evening defending yourself...

Rachelsbaby · July 2015

I have not had any alcohol I personally would wait we literally have a few months left. But if your dr said it's was okay then by all mean cheers...

Elysia21 · July 2015

What about alcohol free wine? To me it doesn't seem worth the risk... I'd feel way too guilty knowing my son is inside me and don't have the self control to pass up a few oz of wine...

Pointless.

Peony1982 · July 2015

Elysia21 said:

What about alcohol free wine? To me it doesn't seem worth the risk... I'd feel way too guilty knowing my son is inside me and don't have the self control to pass up a few oz of wine... Pointless.

Alcohol free wine is grape juice.

imsoexcited915 · July 2015

Nada. Not worth the risk to me but everyone is different. I would be paranoid worrying about any potential risk to baby. I figure I've made it this far, what's a few more weeks!?!

cait040415 · July 2015

You are gonna face judgement no matter what, unfortunately. I feel like as future moms, we hear so many horror stories about what MAY happen, that it kind of sucks the fun out of being pregnant. I'm kind of damn over it, actually. Drink the wine if you want it, and ignore the looks you get. If you are that concerned, get it in a non-wine glass glass lol. Everything in moderation!!!

Drey329 · July 2015

The evidence-based books I've read (Expecting Better, & a Panic-Free Pregnancy) say up to TWO glasses per NIGHT is safe. I am not personally comfortable with that much regular alcohol but I'm definitely fine with a glass on a rare night or for a particular occasion or sharing a craft beer with my husband. People will judge and mommy-shame all they want, including ladies in this very forum who love making the posters sound like alcoholics who "cant" abstain. You do what you want!

DylansCandyBar · July 2015

Drey329 said:
The evidence-based books I've read (Expecting Better, & a Panic-Free Pregnancy) say up to TWO glasses per NIGHT is safe. I am not personally comfortable with that much regular alcohol but I'm definitely fine with a glass on a rare night or for a particular occasion or sharing a craft beer with my husband. People will judge and mommy-shame all they want, including ladies in this very forum who love making the posters sound like alcoholics who "cant" abstain. You do what you want!

This. There's risk in everything. My doctor is fine with and has recommended wine during late 2nd tri and third tri. I'll have half a glass a few nights a week with dinner and have done so with my previous pregnancies.

baker1jm2 · July 2015

I have had a few very small glasses but never in public. I don't want to deal with other people judging me so I always have had mine at home just me and my hubby. Just a small amount killed the craving for me so I felt like it was worth it. I have friends who had 1 glass a week and had perfectly healthy babies but too each their own

LoveLee85 · July 2015

@Drey329 I don't see anyone shaming or making anyone sound like an 'alcoholic'?! Not sure we're you are getting that. OP asked what others were doing and their thoughts. So, people are leaving their thoughts. lol.

Sematti · July 2015

Personally, I don't have any. However, I don't judge anyone who does. Just like I don't like to be judged when I have my morning coffee. People will make comments on anything we do so no point in trying to please everyone!

michcoy85 · July 2015

I have, I just make sure I pour 4 oz. I have also had an occasional beer. I haven't in public though because I just don't feel like dealing w potential judgement. I have done my research and my husband and I feel comfortable with the decision we have made.

babyplut · July 2015

I have had a bit here and there. I think this is a personal choice and you are neither right nor wrong for doing what you think is ok. It's nobody's right to push their thoughts or opinions so do what you want! I know doctors wouldn't say it's ok once in awhile if it wasn't.

jennsuzanne87 · July 2015

I had a few very small glasses earlier in pregnancy *about 2 oz pours* but found it to be just enough to realize how much I love the taste and I honestly decided, for me, it wasn't worth it. It's kind of like only eating one bite of cake on a diet- I find it personally easier to abstain totally. However, I've heard a lot of people say it's not harmful as long as you aren't consuming more than a glass, and obviously no hard alcohol. I have NA beer occasionally as it helps me with heartburn and indigestion- and it tastes pretty good if you enjoy beer.

Ultimately, if you feel guilt free about it, go for it. However, if you find you're trying too hard to justify it, you might feel guilty afterwards and that makes it not as enjoyable.

Elysia21 · July 2015

Peony1982 said:

Elysia21 said:

What about alcohol free wine? To me it doesn't seem worth the risk... I'd feel way too guilty knowing my son is inside me and don't have the self control to pass up a few oz of wine...

Pointless.

Alcohol free wine is grape juice.

There is alcohol free sparkling wine.... Not just "grape juice". Not sure why one would absolutely need to have a drink while pregnant in the first place. It's only a 9 month sacrifice. Might as well have a cigarette along with it.

But, that's just my view on it.

Drey329 · July 2015

@lovelee85 People on this particular posting have actually been pretty well behaved; I meant in the bump forum as a whole. Though there are still a few posts on here that have some judgmental phrasing.

itsasapphire · July 2015

I had one glass of champagne at my sisters wedding. I milked it for about and hour and then it got knocked over, I saved it and carried around the last sip for quite a while. I wanted it really bad and I wanted that gratification that champagne used to give me. It didn't work. I liked the taste but it seemed like a chore for some reason. And the fact that it got knocked over felt like karma or something telling me I'm not supposed to. I later got sick and just didn't feel good when going to bed. I won't be doing it again, even though I really miss my cocktails! I don't judge at all if someone wants to drink, it's not my body and not my baby.

And just to add, for those that are worried about looks or judgements people, I also get judged when someone offers me something because "it's fine to have one or two" and I decline, I get judged for being snoody. Ya just can't win with people. Make yourself happy and don't worry about what others think.

Peony1982 · July 2015

Elysia21 said:

Peony1982 said:

Elysia21 said:

What about alcohol free wine? To me it doesn't seem worth the risk... I'd feel way too guilty knowing my son is inside me and don't have the self control to pass up a few oz of wine...

Pointless.

Alcohol free wine is grape juice.

There is alcohol free sparkling wine.... Not just "grape juice". Not sure why one would absolutely need to have a drink while pregnant in the first place. It's only a 9 month sacrifice. Might as well have a cigarette along with it.

But, that's just my view on it.

Wine is fermented grape juice. If you don't ferment it, bubbles or not, it's grape juice. Sorry. Still grape juice. Not worth the sugar and calories.

Not one person here has said they "absolutely need a drink". Some people LIKE beer or wine the same way others like a steak, or a cookie. For others it's a long time hobby.

And a glass of wine is not a cigarette. Making claims like that makes any reasonable person discredit you in their mind.

DylansCandyBar · July 2015

Elysia21 said:

Peony1982 said:

Elysia21 said:

What about alcohol free wine? To me it doesn't seem worth the risk... I'd feel way too guilty knowing my son is inside me and don't have the self control to pass up a few oz of wine...

Pointless.

Alcohol free wine is grape juice.

There is alcohol free sparkling wine.... Not just "grape juice". Not sure why one would absolutely need to have a drink while pregnant in the first place. It's only a 9 month sacrifice. Might as well have a cigarette along with it.

But, that's just my view on it.

So much sanctimony. Also wine =/= cigarettes. At all.

Elysia21 · July 2015

Well, we are told the effects of alcohol use in pregnancy, as well as cigarette smoking. Both are known to not be good for baby and can cause serious problems.. However. IF you have one small glass of wine.. It's not enough to, say cause FAS.. And one cigarette isn't enough to cause low birth weight or pregnancy loss either.

So, to me.. They're both poisons you can "technically" have on occasion and hopefully without hurting the baby... But, why do it? If it is clearly fact that it can cause your child harm?

That's what i meant by that comparison. Yes they are equal. Equally toxic. Why justify one and not the other? Seems silly to me.

Again, to each their own.. But science is science and fact is fact. We aren't even supposed to use ibuprofen, or aspirin - or soft cheeses for god sake... So not sure why the extent of justification done on alcohol use.

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