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Told my boss....

EmberMoonEmberMoon member
edited July 2015 in January 2016 Moms
I've been on the fence About when to announce my news to my boss. I work in a lab, so I told our safety inspector when I first found out and have felt guilty for not telling my boss at the same time. I am supposed to be getting promoted next month and I did not want to be denied due to pregnancy. I know legally they can't, but they could find a different excuse. I was so worried and nervous about how he would react, even though we have a fantastic working relationship and I can always speak honestly with him. I wanted to try to wait until my promotion came through, but a safety issue came up this week and several co-workers ended up finding out my news. I knew I needed to go to him before someone else did. I walked into his office and just came straight out with the news and waited for the fallout or disappointed look. Instead I was met with happiness and joy. Turns out his wife is also pregnant and he is basking in new dad sunshine! He was very supportive and is even going to push for my promotion to go through sooner. And he will work around whatever I decide my maternity leave needs are. He said he'd rather have me on leave for months and be happy than to lose me as an employee. It went exactly the opposite of the nightmare I conjured up in my head :) I just wanted to share a positive story for those of you worried about how your employer will respond.
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  • MommaB16MommaB16 member
    Thank you for sharing. This is what I'm dreading most, telling the boss. And there's no way I'm going to be surprised with a positive outcome... While we were trying to conceive my boss would make comments like "no babies until I'm out of here" and then laugh. That's not f****** funny. And boss won't be 'outta here' for atleast 5 years.... Makes it hard to enjoy your job when it's not family friendly. Not Dr. Appt friendly. Takes away some of the excitement and replaces it with stress.
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  • RachelM82RachelM82 member
    That's fantastic! I'm in a bad situation. My boss works from a different location and there's a girl in the office who "thinks" she's the boss. I was out with severe nausea for a few days and she told my news to my boss for me! She's a glory hound and since there was a little extra work to do, she wanted the recognition for doing it. I've had several conversations with my boss since then, but I feel like everything I say (even to my boss) gets back to this girl. I've even come out and asked my boss who my direct report is to try and unblurry any lines that might exist. She's unable to conceive and has adopted two boys in the past, so she's never experienced this. I'm being treated differently (ignored) and it stinks! To top it off her and I are the two Sr. Consultants in our office and are supposed to work closely together, but lately that's been impossible with her attitude. So glad I'm on vacation next week, I need a break from the drama...
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  • BrieJollyBrieJolly member
    I'm in a similar situation as original poster. I finished my long term contract with the school board (I'm an educational assistant \teachers aide.) I was told I would find out either at the end of June or at the end of August I would find out if I got the permanent spot at the school I was working at. They didn't say anything in June (I didn't think they would) so I am waiting until the end of August. At our end of year luncheon i went to hug my Special Ed teacher who does our scheduling and is our board liason goodbye and she asked if she could say congratulations now. One of my five coworkers let my secret slip (I had to tell them because we do a lot of lifts and transfers.) I love my special ed teacher so i felt bad that she didnt hear from me, I then explained to her that i had wanted to tell her but I didnt want to shoot myself in the foot for getting the permanent spot at the schook in September. By the time school starts September 8th I will be 23 weeks, hopefully, I will not have to do another probation period and can let the rest of the staff know right away.
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  • EmberMoonEmberMoon member
    I am so sorry that some of you have to deal with terrible bosses :(. My first pregnancy I had issues with my boss at that time and I think that's why I had so much anxiety this time. He made my life so miserable that my doc wrote me a medical excuse for bed rest at 8 months just to get me out of there. I took my paid maternity leave and then never went back. It's crazy how insensitive some bosses are. Hello you wouldn't be a boss if your mother hadn't been pregnant with you! I wish the USA had better policies for pregnant women. It's b.s.!
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  • Natalieb464Natalieb464 member
    I just told my boss and he was so much nicer than I expected however I have got a promotion and am yet to start so still haven't told my soon-to-be-boss.
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  • jferrer1212jferrer1212 member
    My boss is the one I am totally nervous about telling. Other than that, it's a happy time... unfortunately he is someone who flat out has told other moms back on maternity leave, "Well you better pick up the slack, all of us had to bust our ***es while you were out". I'm new (been there one year), so I don't want to rock the boat, but I hope he's not a jerk to me too. Ugh,
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  • jferrer1212jferrer1212 member
    Ugh, mommies need support & positivity. I hope to tell next week. Crossing my fingers.
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  • makeshifwingsmakeshifwings member
    Congrats!!! I'm an aid at a private school for children with disabilities, and I told my boss I was pregnant as soon as I found out for safety reasons. Later that day, she told me I would be getting my own classroom in the fall!! It is so amazing to have a support system like this at work!
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