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Hubby is always in a bad mood. {vent}

sparklett22sparklett22 member
in September 2015 Moms
He's always in a bad mood these days. It just makes me not want to be around him. I'm already in a pissy mood all the time. I'm just mad all the time and have no patience for anyone. I don't need him to be in a crappy mood too.
Anyone else feeling moody all the time?
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Re: Hubby is always in a bad mood. {vent}

  • eah325eah325 member
    edited July 2015
    Is there any chance that his mood is reflective of your mood, so you're feeding off each other's energy? I would try to be in good spirits and see if that helped his mood. Good luck!
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    eah325 said:

    Is there any chance that his mood is reflective of your mood, so you're feeding off each other's energy? I would try to be in good spirits and see if that helped his mood. Good luck!

    We most likely are feeding off each other's moods. You're right. Even when I push my crappy mood aside and try to be happy, he's still in a crappy mood. It just makes me sad how indifferent he's becoming.
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  • eah325eah325 member
    That stinks. I'm sorry he's acting that way. It's hard when both people are in a funk. I hope you can have a relaxing weekend. That always helps me with my moods! Good luck! Hope things improve soon.
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  • jessica fayjessica fay member
    I'm in the same boat sis. It is pretty sucky here the past two weeks. We have fought more than ever and I fly off the handle quicker than I ever have. I don't know what my deal is but I'm just so damn crabby and pissy. I know that's gotta be why he's pissy too. It's hard to turn this all around too, I have two dd's and they definetly add to my stress. Especially my 3 year old! I hope this gets better for the both of us, and soon. Hugs!!!
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  • CaboBride2015CaboBride2015 member
    jessica fay said:

    I'm in the same boat sis. It is pretty sucky here the past two weeks. We have fought more than ever and I fly off the handle quicker than I ever have. I don't know what my deal is but I'm just so damn crabby and pissy. I know that's gotta be why he's pissy too. It's hard to turn this all around too, I have two dd's and they definetly add to my stress. Especially my 3 year old! I hope this gets better for the both of us, and soon. Hugs!!!

    My house too! Add in an obnoxious BM and I'm surprised we haven't stabbed eachother by now. I keep saying "this too shall pass". And it helps if we spend a few hours doing our own thing. I hit the casino, he hits the gym... clearly he has better habits than i!!! Lol!!
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  • tpete12tpete12 member
    sparklett22 said:

    eah325 said:

    Is there any chance that his mood is reflective of your mood, so you're feeding off each other's energy? I would try to be in good spirits and see if that helped his mood. Good luck!

    We most likely are feeding off each other's moods. You're right. Even when I push my crappy mood aside and try to be happy, he's still in a crappy mood. It just makes me sad how indifferent he's becoming.
    My hubby is in that funk too. He used to rub my feet alllll the time, but since I have been pregnant he hardly touches me. Lastnight I asked him to rub my sore ankle and his response was you are pregnant, you will just have to get used to it. I wanted to smack him, but I just ignored it and moved on. I don't think they quite grasp the changes, good and bad, that we are going through.
    Hopefully both of our hubbys come around soon!
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  • sparklett22sparklett22 member
    jessica fay said:

    I'm in the same boat sis. It is pretty sucky here the past two weeks. We have fought more than ever and I fly off the handle quicker than I ever have. I don't know what my deal is but I'm just so damn crabby and pissy. I know that's gotta be why he's pissy too. It's hard to turn this all around too, I have two dd's and they definetly add to my stress. Especially my 3 year old! I hope this gets better for the both of us, and soon. Hugs!!!

    Glad I'm not the only one!
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  • sparklett22sparklett22 member
    tpete12 said:

    sparklett22 said:

    eah325 said:

    Is there any chance that his mood is reflective of your mood, so you're feeding off each other's energy? I would try to be in good spirits and see if that helped his mood. Good luck!

    We most likely are feeding off each other's moods. You're right. Even when I push my crappy mood aside and try to be happy, he's still in a crappy mood. It just makes me sad how indifferent he's becoming.
    My hubby is in that funk too. He used to rub my feet alllll the time, but since I have been pregnant he hardly touches me. Lastnight I asked him to rub my sore ankle and his response was you are pregnant, you will just have to get used to it. I wanted to smack him, but I just ignored it and moved on. I don't think they quite grasp the changes, good and bad, that we are going through.
    Hopefully both of our hubbys come around soon!
    I asked him to get us dinner and his response was why can't my 16 year old daughter go. I wanted to smack him, but I calmed down.
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  • ZAFMommaZAFMomma member
    I understand! My fiance and I are always fighting now. It's like he doesn't care to spend anytime with me or our son
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    My husband and I just went through this. I couldn't stand to be around him and he was just such a miserable jerk. I ended up given him an ultimatum to change or I'm leaving because I don't need to be treated this way. Haven't had an issue since and he's been sucking up like crazy. Got flowers twice in one week
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  • lauramichelle58lauramichelle58 member
    I was in the same place. It was so bad that we were going to marriage counseling. I learned there to show a "gusture if love/kindness" each day. It was such a small concept, but I started leaving a note for him every day. We were sleeping in separate rooms (yes...it was that bad). I'd leave a love note on his pillow or in his car for the morning when he went to work (most times I had to force myself bc I was so mad at him). I only wrote a few loving sentences but did consistently for about a week. It's crazy that that's all it took but he's back to being helpful, silly, and the husband that I married. It's amazing what a simple act of kindness can do! Good luck to you :).
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  • LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
    Im beyond sleep deprived. It makes any little thing a BIG deal. I just only have patience for my LO and that's it! My DH acts like a jerk for two seconds and I just call him out on it. Never use to do that. I'm currently on bump in the other room while he holds LO. He was acting like a jerk so I just close to not be around him! Ugh. This day sucks.
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