Mu UO (which I think is shared among a lot of us) is that general opinions and shit people say to pregnant women is SO IRRITATING. One example... Now that we know we're having a boy and we already have a girl, people are starting to say "oh that's perfect! Now you can officially be done!". This is most likely our last because we've always wanted 2, but it would be the same if it were a girl. Why are people so dumb?
Another one which might really be unpopular - I'm over the "weight" posts. You're gonna gain what you need to. If your doctor isn't concerned, internet strangers won't be either.
My UO is that I don't like fireworks. Im all for celebrating America, don't get me wrong there! I just don't see the pleasure in going all over the state to various fireworks shows. I don't care. Everyone always wants to invite us to these. Im not going. Plus now that they're legal here in MI people light them off all night long whenever they want. I'm ready for them to be illegal again.
I liked fireworks before I had a kid. Now, I have to worry about them waking her up, or me wanting to go to sleep while someone shoots them off. Actually, this was when I had my dog (before she couldn't hear anything) and she would get so worked up over them. She would cry and whine and shake and it was awful. I like fireworks and think they're pretty, but I also don't like the way they affect my world right now. I also think that DD would like them, but it wouldn't get dark enough to see them before her bedtime.
I don't believe in the whole 'you deal with your family I'll deal with mine' thing. We're all adults. When we got married they became our family too. If you can't have a conversation with your own inlaws (and vice versa your SO to your parents) I think it's really immature. Especially about big stuff.
I do think it's important that you and your SO are on the same page before having those conversations so you can back each other up though.
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@megstark , totally agree about the things people say to pregnant women. I went to go visit some daycares and when I told the receptionist I was 4 months along she said "oh, that's not very far". Shut. UP.
I have one.
I don't believe in the whole 'you deal with your family I'll deal with mine' thing. We're all adults. When we got married they became our family too. If you can't have a conversation with your own inlaws (and vice versa your SO to your parents) I think it's really immature. Especially about big stuff.
I do think it's important that you and your SO are on the same page before having those conversations so you can back each other up though.
I disagree. It's not about being adults or being immature, it's about knowing your own family very well and knowing what works as far as dealing with arguments or issues. My family is very straight to the chase, no beating around the bush type. They don't sugar coat things at all. DH's family on the other hand, are the opposite. They're passive aggressive and get really sensitive if you approach a subject too strongly. My MIL is super sensitive and likes to be coddled. I don't have time for that. If I were to get in a disagreement with her, she will most likely cry. I'd rather DH deal with it the way she's used to. On the other hand, DH thinks my mom comes off too strong. So he'd rather I deal with her with any issues with her. It's all about knowing what works best, and how to diffuse a situation in the most constructive way.
My UO for today is that I get really annoyed when people at work refer to me as 'mama'. I know they are being supportive of my pregnancy and are excited for me, and it certainly isn't anything for me to get too up in arms about, but I have worked hard to be a professional and have never once used being pregnant as an excuse to take a sick day or that my work didn't get done. I recently got a great promotion and am one of the leaders in my building (before the age of 30, which I was excited about!), and I feel a little like calling me 'mama' makes light of all of that. I never say anything, just grin and bear it, but if I could find a way to tactfully tell them I hate it, I definitely would. Besides, I'm not their mom, so it's weird.
I totally agree with the fireworks thing! I hate them. They are legal in our county/city but only on July 4th and December 31st. You can buy them 4 days in advance though so people obviously set them off early. Last night we were woken up at 11:30 by some bottle rockets in the neighborhood. STOP THE INSANITY.
Also, it's incredibly dry here this year and SO VERY HOT. Our neighbor always does a huge 4th of July fireworks event (suburb neighborhood) and is not always that safe about it. Stuff always ends up in our yard and the yards of those around us. We are super nervous this year about your roof and our lawn and we know that the neighbor won't give two shits so we actually aren't doing ANYTHING for the holiday so we can sit at home with a hose and bucket at the ready in case they are dumb and almost burn our house down. Not my favorite way to spend the holiday, but hey, fireworks. Cool. Not at all.
My UO for today is that I get really annoyed when people at work refer to me as 'mama'. I know they are being supportive of my pregnancy and are excited for me, and it certainly isn't anything for me to get too up in arms about, but I have worked hard to be a professional and have never once used being pregnant as an excuse to take a sick day or that my work didn't get done. I recently got a great promotion and am one of the leaders in my building (before the age of 30, which I was excited about!), and I feel a little like calling me 'mama' makes light of all of that. I never say anything, just grin and bear it, but if I could find a way to tactfully tell them I hate it, I definitely would. Besides, I'm not their mom, so it's weird.
I'm guilty of this. I call my friends "mama", "lady", "hun"... I used to hate it but then I moved to the south at it just happened. To me when I use it, it's an endearing term. Maybe I shouldn't use it as often lol
@313Meg - It wouldn't bother me nearly as much if it were good friends of mine. Then it is endearing. But when 50 and 60 year old men are saying it to me, it either comes off as creepy or condescending. I know they aren't creepy people, so it just sounds weird and condescending. They never had cutesy nicknames for me before I was pregnant, so I don't understand why my first name has been forgotten and now I am just 'mama'.
My UO for today is that I get really annoyed when people at work refer to me as 'mama'. I know they are being supportive of my pregnancy and are excited for me, and it certainly isn't anything for me to get too up in arms about, but I have worked hard to be a professional and have never once used being pregnant as an excuse to take a sick day or that my work didn't get done. I recently got a great promotion and am one of the leaders in my building (before the age of 30, which I was excited about!), and I feel a little like calling me 'mama' makes light of all of that. I never say anything, just grin and bear it, but if I could find a way to tactfully tell them I hate it, I definitely would. Besides, I'm not their mom, so it's weird.
This bugged me my first pregnancy too!! I totally call my friends "mama" (if they are actually a mama) but when people at work would say it to me it definitely weirded me out.
Probably not unpopular at all to this crowd. I shared the news with colleagues this week and one guy who I partner with often (he has college age kids) challenged me about 5 times if I was really coming back because "so many women change their mind and stay home" After he kept pressing I finally said "I plan on paying for my kids education so yes I'll be back".
It drives me absolutely bonkers how it is often assumed that because women choose to have children they must not be fully committed to their hard earned careers. So presumptuous!
Probably not unpopular at all to this crowd. I shared the news with colleagues this week and one guy who I partner with often (he has college age kids) challenged me about 5 times if I was really coming back because "so many women change their mind and stay home" After he kept pressing I finally said "I plan on paying for my kids education so yes I'll be back".
It drives me absolutely bonkers how it is often assumed that because women choose to have children they must not be fully committed to their hard earned careers. So presumptuous!
I got this from my boss as well. It bugged me at first but then I realized that he was just trying to be supportive and let me know that no matter what I decided, he would understand, and not to stress about the decision even if I did change my mind at the end of maternity leave. He brought it up again after our initial meeting about it and I flat out told him that I'm our primary income so he has nothing to worry about and that my family cannot survive without me coming back to work. He hasn't brought it up again.
I would find it totally weird to just have random guys in the office say it though. My boss is one thing, other people? Not so much totally annoys me too! I think your response was perfect.
My OU is that I dislike when someone starts a topic asking for help and they don't like the responses they get. If you don't want other people's opinion then don't ask for it!!
My UO for the day- i'm tired of seeing the posts that are announcing "I'm having a boy" when there's a whole thread on that stickied to the top, or "i have an appointment" that's just specifically about you. Yesterday there was one announcing someone's anatomy scan when i know there are other women on here who had their anatomy scans yesterday too. Using the board as your twitter feed makes it boooooring.
My UO is that not everyone has to like or appreciate their family members! I totally get being sensitive to family members feelings if you normally have a good relationship, but not everyone wants a relationship with someone out of familial duty
My OU is that I dislike when someone starts a topic asking for help and they don't like the responses they get. If you don't want other people's opinion then don't ask for it!!
Or when they post something and then run away from it realizing how silly it was.
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@megstark , totally agree about the things people say to pregnant women. I went to go visit some daycares and when I told the receptionist I was 4 months along she said "oh, that's not very far". Shut. UP.
This!! So much!!! I'm into my second trimester so I stopped "fake drinking" when hubby and I go out. A few people have asked now and I tell them I'm 14 weeks (15 today!!!) and they say "oh that's still early". Excuse you? I'm barely even showing yet did you think I was going to pop out a baby next week. Shush dumb people these are not things to say to a pregnant person ever! Also just because I don't want to find out the sex of the baby does not make me "brave" or "not a planner". I know this has been said here before but I swear I'm just going to start telling people we don't know yet instead of we are not finding out just so I don't have to hear these comments any more. Ok end rant.
My UO is that not everyone has to like or appreciate their family members! I totally get being sensitive to family members feelings if you normally have a good relationship, but not everyone wants a relationship with someone out of familial duty
Yes. When someone posts that their mother (or other family member) is a selfish brat and they don't want her anywhere near them during or after birth, I hate when other people come on and say stuff like, " But she's your mother! You will want your mother there! You'll want the help!"
My sil is pregnant, as well. She is about 6 weeks ahead of me. She has been to the er literally about 15 times. This last time, it was because "fireworks made me start having contractions". The hospital staff gave her fluids and told her she was dehydrated. Her response was that she drank plenty and couldn't be dehydrated. Honey... the huge Mountain Dew and salty boiled peanuts did NOTHING to hydrate you.
Now to my UO: I hate it when women start trying to make up things to gain sympathy during pregnancy. You are pregnant. Aches and pains go along with that. Drink your water, lay on your left side, and stop running to the er to get your free ultrasound every two weeks.
Idk... Maybe I'm overly hormonal, or sensitive because I have been through an extremely traumatic pregnancy previously that she was not there to witness. Then the next pregnancy ended in miscarriage. This one is going PERFECT, so I'm not looking at ways to get "likes" on facebook or gain any kind of pity from anyone.
Sidenote: I do not have this opinion about women who genuinely are having complications.
My UO is that I don't mind traffic. I take the back roads home through the country and the majority of it is pretty smooth sailing but there are two points where it can definitely get jammed up. I never know if it's going to take 5 minutes to get through or 40 ... it's like roulette every day. Super fun. I always make sure I don't drink water before I leave work since there are also no places to stop and use the bathroom ... bumper to bumper traffic with an occasional slow tractor or biker who doesn't know how to share the road are just a part of the fun of it.
@kyleneum13 I was reading your post and thinking "wow! She's so laid back and easy going I wish I could be more like that when it comes to traffic". Guess my sarcastic meter is off today. Haha glad to know your normal.
@Embuzz247 Agree with you on the fireworks. SO made me go to the Canada Day ones last night - they lasted all of five minutes. I actually had to stop myself from hitting him for making me get off my hormonal, pregnant butt for that pathetic show. ~X(
I'm sure I am gonna hear a lot of lip about this, but here goes .... my UO is "It takes a village to raise a child". If my child/teenager gets caught stealing from someone and I'm not around to whoop him/her myself I would HOPE the person my child stole from would give them a whipping. The only time I would step in is if the person was popping my child anywhere else except for the booty.
I'm sure I am gonna hear a lot of lip about this, but here goes .... my UO is "It takes a village to raise a child". If my child/teenager gets caught stealing from someone and I'm not around to whoop him/her myself I would HOPE the person my child stole from would give them a whipping. The only time I would step in is if the person was popping my child anywhere else except for the booty.
My UO is that not everyone has to like or appreciate their family members! I totally get being sensitive to family members feelings if you normally have a good relationship, but not everyone wants a relationship with someone out of familial duty
Yes. When someone posts that their mother (or other family member) is a selfish brat and they don't want her anywhere near them during or after birth, I hate when other people come on and say stuff like, " But she's your mother! You will want your mother there! You'll want the help!"
Uh no.
This! I love my family but there are certain members that I find toxic. I did not get a choice who my family is but I can choose who I keep as distant family, the kind you only see on major holidays and exchange pleasant hello and how are yous with, or less.
@CMDD Yeah, it was literal. I guess it's just my upbringing from the town I grew up in and still currently live in. It's most definitely a UO. I knew I was going to get bashed for that opinion. Lol.
*edit because I wanted to add that I reread what I said and it sounded at the end like I'd just sit and watch. That's not what I meant. If I was there I would spank my child myself. But like I previously stated my UO is "it takes a village to raise a child".
@SidneyElizabeth1012 ah only because I have two undergraduate degrees and a masters in counseling psychology so I've studied what spanking does to children. I promise to give your kid a talking to if I see them acting up!
@CMDD ... oh! Okay. Lol. I misunderstood. That was completely and totally my fault. I wanted to attach a picture of a flower as a peace offering, but it wouldn't let me do it. So let's just pretend I sent it.
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Jamie
I don't believe in the whole 'you deal with your family I'll deal with mine' thing. We're all adults. When we got married they became our family too. If you can't have a conversation with your own inlaws (and vice versa your SO to your parents) I think it's really immature. Especially about big stuff.
I do think it's important that you and your SO are on the same page before having those conversations so you can back each other up though.
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I disagree. It's not about being adults or being immature, it's about knowing your own family very well and knowing what works as far as dealing with arguments or issues. My family is very straight to the chase, no beating around the bush type. They don't sugar coat things at all. DH's family on the other hand, are the opposite. They're passive aggressive and get really sensitive if you approach a subject too strongly. My MIL is super sensitive and likes to be coddled. I don't have time for that. If I were to get in a disagreement with her, she will most likely cry. I'd rather DH deal with it the way she's used to. On the other hand, DH thinks my mom comes off too strong. So he'd rather I deal with her with any issues with her. It's all about knowing what works best, and how to diffuse a situation in the most constructive way.
This bugged me my first pregnancy too!! I totally call my friends "mama" (if they are actually a mama) but when people at work would say it to me it definitely weirded me out.
Edited for wording
It drives me absolutely bonkers how it is often assumed that because women choose to have children they must not be fully committed to their hard earned careers. So presumptuous!
Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
Also just because I don't want to find out the sex of the baby does not make me "brave" or "not a planner". I know this has been said here before but I swear I'm just going to start telling people we don't know yet instead of we are not finding out just so I don't have to hear these comments any more.
Ok end rant.
Uh no.
Jamie
My sil is pregnant, as well. She is about 6 weeks ahead of me. She has been to the er literally about 15 times. This last time, it was because "fireworks made me start having contractions". The hospital staff gave her fluids and told her she was dehydrated. Her response was that she drank plenty and couldn't be dehydrated. Honey... the huge Mountain Dew and salty boiled peanuts did NOTHING to hydrate you.
Now to my UO: I hate it when women start trying to make up things to gain sympathy during pregnancy. You are pregnant. Aches and pains go along with that. Drink your water, lay on your left side, and stop running to the er to get your free ultrasound every two weeks.
Idk... Maybe I'm overly hormonal, or sensitive because I have been through an extremely traumatic pregnancy previously that she was not there to witness. Then the next pregnancy ended in miscarriage. This one is going PERFECT, so I'm not looking at ways to get "likes" on facebook or gain any kind of pity from anyone.
Sidenote: I do not have this opinion about women who genuinely are having complications.
@kyleneum13 I was reading your post and thinking "wow! She's so laid back and easy going I wish I could be more like that when it comes to traffic". Guess my sarcastic meter is off today. Haha glad to know your normal.
*edit because I wanted to add that I reread what I said and it sounded at the end like I'd just sit and watch. That's not what I meant. If I was there I would spank my child myself. But like I previously stated my UO is "it takes a village to raise a child".