December 2015 Moms

Update: Results/Chromosomal Abnormality. Devasted.

Hello everyone- just wanted to keep you in the loop,

Yesterday we received the initial results from the CVS I took on Thursday. They confirm what was suggested by the ultrasound: the baby (who is a girl) has a chromosomal abnormality. Specifically, she has Turner’s syndrome, in which one of the sex chromosomes is missing. There are two chromosomes that determine sex: females have XX and males have XY. The baby has only one, X.  The remaining results of the test come back in two weeks and will tell us more (full results will likely show that some of her chromosomes may have XX, and some may have a partial X), but none of the new information will change this outcome.

Turner’s syndrome is thought to be one of the main causes of miscarriage in early pregnancy, but it is fairly uncommon that the babies survive after 12 weeks, as in our case. There were also a number of complications that were seen in the ultrasound, fluid around the baby, inside the abdomen and around her lungs as well as a herniated abdominal wall. What this means is that it is extremely unlikely that she would survive much longer, let alone to term.

We are of course devastated. But if there is a bright side, it is that Turner’s is not hereditary or recurring. It is just a random genetic misprint, not anything wrong with myself or my husband.  Nor is it related to age- many chromosomal abnormalities become more likely to occur with age, but Turner’s is not one of them. There is no reason to believe that we will have any problem having a baby in the future.

The other small (very small) mercy is that the agonizing decision to terminate been essentially taken out of our hands. To all the doctors involved, it is not a question of if, it is a question of when and where.  Tomorrow morning (Wed. July 1st) I will be 14 weeks, and will admitted to hospital for a medical induction (basically go thru "normal" vaginal labor).  I will be watched over by midwives (and myself) for the whole process and will be quite safe.  

We are shattered anew with this new information and are doing our best to process, heal and hold on tight to each other.
Thank you all again for your messages and concern, we really appreciate it all.


1st Pregnancy: EDD 12/31/15; Diagnosed Turner's with terminal cystic hygroma 13wks; induced at 14wks, +3 d+c's.
2nd Pregnancy: BFP 10/8/15; EDD 6/21/16

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Re: Update: Results/Chromosomal Abnormality. Devasted.

  • I am so sorry to hear this and will keep you in my prayers. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I'm glad to hear this isn't hereditary and that you will be able to have a healthy baby when the time is right. Xoxo
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  • I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope your induction goes as smoothly as possible, that you and DH are able to heal from this devastating news and get your healthy rainbow baby next try. *hugs*
  • I'm so sorry for you and this loss. There's nothing that will make it better until you can have joy again. I've gone through a miscarriage myself. Love and prayers your way ♡
  • 313Meg313Meg member
    Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry mama!!! Praying for you and your H tomorrow! Good for you trying to stay positive. It's ok to be sad. Big hugs!!!
  • fioripfiorip member
    So sorry :( Praying for you and your husband, may you get peace and healing you deserve. I cannot imagine how devastating this time is. God will soon bless you with another baby.
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  • I'm so sorry to read this. I wish you luck and I know you'll get your rainbow baby.
  • I'm so sorry. I will be thinking about you and praying for you.
  • I am so sorry that you are going through this. You will be in my thoughts. Take care of yourself.
  • I am so sorry that you going through this! Unfortunately, we lost our son to Trisomy 15... There are no words that can make it better, but if you would like to private message me, I will be happy to talk to you about my experience. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers and I'm wishing you an easy go of it tomorrow. There is no doubt, it will be an extraordinarily difficult day. sending you lots of (((hugs))) and praying that you have your rainbow baby in your arms one day soon.
  • I'm so so sorry you are going through this. It is absolutely devastating yet you seem so strong. I'll be thinking of you guys tomorrow. Take all the time to grieve and take care of yourself. This is the time to lean on the ones that are closest to you. We are all thinking of you and hope your next pregnancy is smooth as can be and you get a healthy rainbow baby. Good luck tomorrow. Big hugs to you.
  • I'm so sorry to hear about this. I am praying for you and your husband as you go through this difficult time.
  • I'm so sorry, I was praying you would receive a positive outcome.  Take care of yourself and I hope you receive your rainbow soon.  Sending lots of hugs your way.
  • dp1320dp1320 member
    I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • taysuntaysun member
    I am so very sorry to read this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I am so sorry for your loss!



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  • I am so sorry. Lots of prayers and positive thoughts for you and your family's healing.
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  • Your sweet, precious little one will always be with you in spirit.  Big hug and prayers sent to you all. 
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  • Prayers for you and your family.

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  • I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family.
  • I'm so very sorry to read this news.  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  Lots of hugs to you!!! 
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  • I'm so so sorry you're going through this.
  • I'm so sorry. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I'm so sorry you are going through this. Thoughts and prayers for peace.
  • Oh honey i'm so extremely sorry! I'm glad that this won't translate to future pregnancies, and you can try again. Also love to hear you are in good hands. Sending you love.
  • I am so sorry ... You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers
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    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband during this difficult time. God bless...
  • I'm crying reading this. I'm so very sorry you are going through this. I admire your strength. I'm sending you and your family lots of love and prayers. (((((HUGS)))))

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  • I'm in tears for you, this must be so hard! I'm glad you are still able to be positive about the situation as a whole. Be strong, and know we are here to help you and comfort you. Hugs!
  • That's terrible news. But I'm so glad you are able to take some positives with you - that will carry you through. Hope for the future. Take care of yourself.
  • I'm so very sorry, this is heartbreaking. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
  • @nekedfeet My heart just broke reading this. I am so sorry to hear this and you and your SO are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you and you husband.
  • I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts today. <3
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  • I'm in tears for you. Your update is so hopeful even at such a tough time; take time to process and heal and I will be thinking of you, especially tomorrow.
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  • Thoughts and prayers..
  • rgzrgz member
    Thinking of you and so sorry to hear. Sounds you have a great attitude despite the tremendous sadness. Take care of yourself during your recovery.
  • I am so very sorry. Please take care of yourself. I know this is no consolation, but I'm a special ed teacher and have worked with a few girls with Turner's. All had younger siblings who are healthy. You know this already, but you will have a healthy baby one day.
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  • I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. <333
  • I'm so sorry you are going through this! We lost our first to Turner's and had to deliver her as well. It's not going to be easy but the only positive is that Turner Syndrome is not hereditary most likely will never occur. Give yourself time to heal and grieve. I will be thinking about you as you go through through this extremely difficult moment.
    Due 11.16.17
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    MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome

  • I am so sorry that they didn't have better news. I had a trisomy 18 scare with my first born, but I still can't say I know the pain you're going through. Stay strong and take time to heal. Thoughts and prayers going your way. :-(
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