2nd Trimester

Crazy pregnancy comments!

Ladies, I know you have ALL heard some crazy comments and questions during your pregnancy so far. For some reason, people use your announcement and growing belly as an invitation to say some pretty messed up things. I hear at least 3 a day. Please share some with me so we can commiserate!

Here are some of my favorites:
"It wasn't planned was it?"
"Are your boobs pregnant with twins?"
"Oh my god, you look SO pregnant today" (said when I wasn't even showing yet...ouch)
"Let me tell you about my heinous birth experience," proceeded by detailing her 48 hour birth where she nearly bleed to death.
"Wow, you don't care about a pregnancy diet at all so you?"

Re: Crazy pregnancy comments!

  • amm0512amm0512 member
    edited June 2015
    All of the following gems came from my amazing mother who has made it blatantly apparent over the last two years that she thinks two kids is too many (i'm the second child, by the way):
    Two days before my BFP: "oh, you're really trying to get pregnant? Why?"
    The day of my BFP: "you should keep that to yourself. A lot can still go wrong over the next few weeks. I wouldn't tell anyone else".
    Multiple times from 4-10 weeks: "it's not too late to decide you only want one child".
    And last week after announcing it's a girl and her name: "is that name set in stone? I thought you and DH were joking about that name".
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  • I can't think of any crazy pregnancy comments, but I'll share this gem from when I got married. From a colleague who was going through a difficult divorce. "She refused to say 'obey' in our wedding vows. I should have known then." 1) I had no plan to say 'obey' in my vows. 2) His marriage has lasted several decades, and several kids. I don't think 'obey' was the problem!
  • So this isn't from pregnancy, it was from trying to conceive since we let friends know we were trying, but it hadn't worked the first time month (it did the second month). 
    Friend: So are you pregnant yet?
    Me: nope, got my period =(
    Friend: Oh wow, so are you going to try for IVF then, it could really help your situation.... 
    Me: Obviously not since we have only been trying for a month, not 2 years or something...
    Same friend later on in the week to my husband
    Friend: Why don't you be a man and get your wife pregnant already!? 

    She seriously thought that was an appropriate comment? I can chalk the first one up to her being a bit dumb, but saying my hubby wasn't a man because he hadn't gotten me pregnant on the first try p*ssed both of us off. 
  • Hello girls, my first time on here! I'm a professional dancer and this one is from a woman I didn't know who I met on our friend's hen do...(it was last week so I was coming up to 4 months pregnant at the time and sat minding my own business at the table when she plonked herself down opposite me, hit her hand on the table and said...)
    Her: "Let me tell you now girl - you will have a caesarean, you won't have a f*!?ing choice. Every single dancer I know has to have one so don't be planning anything else."
    Me: "well... Erm... actually that's not been the case in my peer group-"
    "I'm telling you now you will have one, especially if you're feet are less than a size 6. You'll be out for 8 weeks at least."
    Nice.
  • Guy at work keeps telling me how good i look. He'd never noticed i was alive before lol. 

    Last week he asked me "to talk" and said "Did you know some men find pregnancy really sexy? I mean you might find this surprising but I find it kind of sexy. I find YOU kind of sexy"

    And i was like "Nahhhh.... you don't say..." It's flattering and i appreciate it because nobody feels totally confident when their body is changing rapidly. But it's... wow. 

    The other is my hairdresser insisting that my craving for fruit heralded a boy. I don't buy into that stuff but I'm kind of hoping she's right. 

    The attention is funny. Nobody has upset me yet. 
  • Most of the crazy comments have come from my mother who constantly tells me that my hips have gotten "HUGE!" For the record I am still able to get my pre-pregnancy jeans over my hips because I am all belly. I think she is secretly a little jealous because I do not gain a lot of weight while pregnant. With my first I only gained about 10 pounds due to horrendous morning sickness. So far at 27 weeks I am at 10 pounds again. But at least I have meds that keep the morning sickness at bay.
  • My mom doesn't really think before she says things to me, my sister or cousins... not sure why. At first when I said I could be pregnant she was like oh ok. Then when I confirmed it, she said we'll see or something like that and said that my wedding could still be perfect or some ish. I called to tell her the baby was like poking me last week and it could be felt and I wanted to show her...she was just like oh ok. Then some moments she is super excited. I had a coworker tell me I didn't look pregnant, my belly has started to poke out... -_- . The coworker's comment was innocent I know... my mom just, Idk has issues so I just have begun to either ignore her or I just don't tell her things that I am happy about. I tell the other happy people I am related to. Ohhh and my future mother in law made an ignorant comment about "Spanish" people having too many kids (I am Puerto Rican and Black and other stuff), mind you she has 5 siblings and is Jamaican and the side of my family that is Jamaican, I have an aunt with 8 kids and 2 step kids. My Puerto Rican side no one has more than 3. The comment was totally stupid and silly, my poor fiance was embarassed... but it was just like a "why would you even bring that up?" Moment. I suggest we ALL ignore people. It will keep us all sane...oh and laugh at them. They like nonsense
  • i haven't had any crazy comments that have gotten me upset. They just leave me in a "how do i respond to this" kinda way. Ive been in the hospital on bed rest for the past 2 weeks; and when I first got here a lot of the nurses kept telling me how small my belly was . Im only 22 with my first kid at 23 weeks idk how big im supposed to be at that point . Then one night a nurse came in to put me on the monitor and was like " what were you -0 pounds before you got pregnant, omg you're so small . you're all belly blah blah blah blah blahhhhh" I just gave a slight chuckle and told her i lost weight when i first got pregnant due to morning sickness. I told another nurse about it a couple days ago and she was like she's a hater like who says that . 
  • eish22eish22 member
    I think the worst comment I got so far was from an aunt of mine, whom I expected to be happy about our pregnancy. Instead she said "I'll be praying for you. " I said wow save it for someone who actually needs it but thanks. I actually am religious but that was a snide, rude comment that I want no part of.
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